REDIRECT YOUR NEGATIVE ENERGY

Trade male bashing for some sweating — we mean glistening, for us ladies. Dr. John Trent, head coach of StrongFamilies.com, says exercise is therapeutic on many levels and even simple things like walking or running are a positive way to deal with emotion. Even though you may not feel like getting up off the couch after a breakup, you will feel better once you do. And you’ll look more hot and fit than ever before!

TAKE TIME FOR EXTREME SELF CARE

People tend to beat themselves up after a breakup, says Heidi Frei, life coach of Heidi Frei Coaching & Consulting. Rid yourself of “I should haves” – you know those phrases that circumvent your thoughts, like “I should have left him earlier” – and instead surround yourself with people who love you. Don’t worry about what other people think. Make the best decision for yourself.

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LISTEN TO YOURSELF

Frei notes one of the biggest problems women have after a breakup is not putting themselves first. To resolve this unsettled feeling, she recommends beginning a journal. Writing down the thoughts your former partner didn’t listen to and allowing yourself to focus on them now, can be restorative. Learn to say “yes” when things are good for you and “no” when things are bad.

REAT YOURSELF LIKE A KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR WOULD

If you can’t treat yourself with love, how will someone else? Frei says it’s important to “treat yourself like you want your ideal partner to treat you.” Buy yourself flowers for a special occasion, pamper yourself at the spa or plan a fun weekend getaway.

MIND OVER MATTER ISN’T SO

Dr. Trent says rekindling positivity after a breakup is simple, although not easy: “Understand that you cannot out-logic emotions.” That is thinking something shouldn’t bother you despite your emotional reactions, like negative feelings when seeing couples in public, even though you “should” be over it. Fill your mind with constructive thoughts, and don’t fret when logic seems anything but rational.

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It seems that black women have lost their way when it comes to breastfeeding.  According to a new study, over the last 30 years, African-American women have had the lowest breastfeeding rates, and though the numbers have greatly increased in recent years, black moms still have the lowest rates of all ethnicities. And when it comes to the gold standard of infant nutrition — six months of exclusive breastfeeding — among African-Americans, the rate is only 20% compared to 40% among whites, so says Kimberly Seals Allers.

Why are we not giving our infants a healthier start in life?

momlogic and MochaManual.com take a deeper look at why more black mothers aren’t breastfeeding, and urge moms to give their infants the healthiest start.

Deep cover: The breastfeeding debate.

To get to the bottom of this breastfeeding business, it’s important to go back. Waaay back. A long time ago, black women were notorious for nursing. In fact, slave owners used and purchased black women as wet nurses for their own children, often forcing these mothers to stop nursing their own infants to care for others. “On the one hand, wet nursing claimed the benefits of breastfeeding for the offspring of white masters while denying or limiting those health advantages to slave infants.

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Breastfeeding can help save your life.

BP member sadgyrlhush6 open the discussion in the forum titled Workers in the S-ex Industry Deserves the Same Rights… with the statement “Can you imagine?” Weigh in with your opinion here.

Most publications (even HelloBeautiful!) feature story after story of all the little things women should do to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Today, someone’s finally done massive research (like, over-a-million-women massive) to come up with a master list of the top 16 health rules every woman should stick to. Want to know what they are? See the first 5 below, then read the rest at Daily Mail.

1. DON’T BE TOO CLEAN

Around 30 per cent of British women don’t wash their hands enough for good hygiene, according to studies by the London School of Tropical Medicine and Hygiene.

However, soap and water are sufficient – and using too many high-tech anti-bacterial products can be counter-productive.

Not only will they not stop colds and flu (which are transmitted by viruses, not bacteria), but they could affect the delicate balance of bacteria in our bodies, allowing stronger bugs to become dominant, says leading American microbiologist Dr Mary Ruebush, author of Why Dirt Is Good.

Most micro-organisms cause no problem, and many, like the ones that normally live in the digestive tract and produce life-sustaining nutrients, are essential to good health – these are the ones, she says, that are usually wiped out by anti-bacterial agents.

2. GO ON THE PILL

It will dramatically cut your risk of ovarian cancer, the silent killer, as the Million Women Study found. Furthermore, you will continue to be protected for at least 30 years after you stop. The study has shown that for every five years a woman has been on the Pill, her relative risk of ovarian cancer is cut by 20 per cent.

Those who take it for 15 years cut their risk by half.

3. DRINK TEA

Gum disease is emerging as a major factor in heart disease. The germs in the mouth create thousands of tiny blood clots, which can cause a narrowing of the arteries, a common cause of heart attacks.

With cardiovascular disease killing more women a year than breast cancer, it’s essential to keep gum disease at bay. One of the best ways to fight cavities and reduce plaque – a precursor to gum disease – is drinking black tea. American researchers have found compounds in it not only kill cavity-causing bacteria in dental plaque, but affect an enzyme – glucosyltranferase – which helps convert sugars into the sticky material plaque uses to stick to teeth.

On exposure to black tea, bacteria also lose their ability to form clumps with other bacteria in plaque, thereby reducing the total mass of the dental plaque.

4. TAKE FOLIC ACID

It’s a supplement most women associate with preventing birth defects – you should take 400 mcgs for at least the first 12 weeks of pregnancy. But it also reduces the risk of age-related macular degeneration (AMD) in women. AMD is a progressive eye disorder which is often untreatable, and leads to blindness.

Now the world-renowned Harvard Medical School has shown folic acid taken with vitamins B6 and B12 reduced the risk of this debilitating condition by a staggering 41 per cent. ‘The beneficial effect of treatment began to emerge at approximately two years of follow-up and persisted throughout the sevenyear trial,’ said the researchers.

In the trial, participants (who were aged over 40) took a daily 2.5 milligrams of folic acid, 50 mgs of vitamin B6 and 1 mg of vitamin B12.

5. AVOID COLA DRINKS

Diet colas often contain phosphate in the form of phosphoric acid, used to improve the flavour (it’s labelled as E338 on the ingredients list). But phosphoric acid has been shown to interfere with calcium absorption.

According to the highly regarded Framingham Osteoporosis Study, there is a particular link between colas and low bone mineral density in older women. The research found bone density in women who consumed just five carbonated drinks (including four colas) a week was 4 per cent lower.

‘This is quite significant when you are talking about the skeleton,’ said Katherine Tucker, at the Human Nutrition Research Centre on Ageing at Tufts University. The National Osteoporosis Society recommends women cut their intake of fizzy drinks.

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