All this about being TOOTY FROOTY IN THE BOOTY WOOTY SMH..I ‘d rather hear Fetishes, or a crush on Chilli or Sade…..my goodness……

Monty has either gotten another woman pregnant or he caught an STD~

Keep ya legs closed ladies until you KNOW that it is only you and him~ If he aint said it than it ain’t there~

BTW I loved “Borderline” Late ’80′s early ’90′s Madonna was on point~

dear im just confused,lol

get your heart out ur p***y and ull b alright

Hmmm… Let me get this right… A women shares her most intimate part with a man, and the guy gets “points for upping his pimp game”??? Why don’t you just recommend we all attend bath houses, so we can really be as dysfunctional as you would like to see??? And you “advice to the other “woman” includes calling her “disillusioned and twisted”??? I suppose we’ll have to deal with the fake questions and made up answers as BP joins the homo agenda, by questioning any and all heterosexual relationships. Every woman is blind or being used, every man potentially fruity or on the prowl. What’s next, Terrance, “I’ve got a great idea, instead of dealing with those sneaky, no-good, fruity azz men, why not try kissing a girl? You might like it”… If you knew how transparent you were you’d be ashamed of this pretense at being a journalist. I’m still waiting for you to post your relationship “guru” qualifications. Based on what I’ve read about your book and seen in your interviews, you’re not much more than an immoral, back-stabbing, homo opportunist. Feel free to stop me when I start lying.

“It’s just sex”??? Why don’t you make a quick trip to the CDC website to see how that philosophy is working out… As a matter of fact, I’ll save you the trouble. Here is something “copy and paste” DIRECTLY from the site….

The term men who have sex with men (MSM) refers to all men who have sex with other men, regardless of how they identify themselves (gay, bisexual, or heterosexual). In the United States, HIV and AIDS have had a tremendous impact on MSM. Consider these facts:

AIDS has been diagnosed for more than half a million MSM. Over 300,000 MSM with AIDS have died since the beginning of the epidemic.

MSM made up more than two thirds (68%) of all men living with HIV in 2005, even though only about 5% to 7% of men in the United States reported having sex with other men.
In a 2005 study of 5 large US cities, 46% of African American MSM were HIV-positive.

I don’t know about you, but that kind of sickness isn’t in MY DNA!!!

Honestly this article is BS! Only because the author who is writing this do not have relevance in this sort of situation. He’s not heterosexual for one(not prejudice speaking either). However for this man to give women advice about “heterosexual” issues is a no deal. Now if the writer was a Heterosexual man then that’s one thing to hear out his opinions. But for a man who has no interest in the opposite sex comes on the scene to give advice and opinion that’s silly. Tell me how could women except his advice if he is only involved with the same sex? I don’t buy into this author because he have no relevance for the issue he discuss.(My opinion)

For DIMO, What’s this WE should be celibate? It sounds like your friend wants you to be celibate while he goes off tagging some new botty. If he insists on the zero sex diet, agree on it for him but not for yourself. IJC, GBF is on point; Madonna’s Borderline is your man’s ring tone.

I love reading your columns. Keep up the good work. Even if I cannot relate, I am taking notes so I never will need to relate. Knowledge is power people. Don’t be anybody’s doormat!!

LMAO at the ” i’m just confused” column!

Girl, Terrance was on point with that response. If you read it aloud before even sending it to him you would’ve solved your own problems. I mean c’mon, how can you fall in love with somebody who blatantly talks about women to you? Good advice about letting him go, but if she can’t, she should definitely start dating other people. Talk to that jerk about them and let him see how it feels. Life is too short to be his “Just In Case” chic, I thought we all knew that by now.

BTW, you don’t have to be heterosexual to deliver an educated answer on this stuff. Get real, some of this is better advice you wouldn’t even get from your closest girlfriend. Everyone has relationship problems with the same characteristics. Now if Terrance were blind and says you look hot, but really look like a hot mess, then I would need him to be quiet and sit down!

chuckyluv
3-5-2010 6:16 pm, Chucky you have done it again, keep it comin…

Jazzylicious2006, Now I know we usually dont agree on anything…But THIS ONE YOU ARE ON POINT!! My sentiments EXACTLY! What in hell are WE hetero women doing listening to a gay male about straight men?? How about we dont ask for advice from a homo and just shoot straight from the hip with the men we happen to deal with…Confusion is the direct result of lack of communication…step ya ‘talk’ game up and you wouldnt have these issues…Kudos @ Jazzy…

What some of you females fail to see is that gay men hang with YOUR men (and some of them even have sex with them) so they KNOW them. I lived that lifestyle for MANY years and you’ll be surprised at how men truly speak about their girlfriends and wives- especially to dudes who they know won’t ever repeat it.
Gay men have more intimate knowledge of what a man will do, has done and can do because for one we ARE men. Next, we listen to what heterosexual men have said and we SEE what they do.
Instead of having a personal bias you need to pay attention. Although I don’t live that life anymore believe me I know just as much as Terrance does and I let all my female friends know.
If it had not been for me one of my church members would have married a gay man!!!

IIChronides7_14Life sorry my point stands, and it’s not about being closed minded it’s about reality! Tell me now, that you are a heterosexual man. Would you take advice from a lesbian(not a bi one at that)? Seriously this woman has no interest in men and only deal with women. How could she tell you about women when her and her mate are not going to act the same or treat each other the same as if they were with the opposite sex. And also in a same sex relationship they know the do’s and the don’t ‘s and the like’s and the dislikes.Point blank men are not going to treat men like they would women(relationship wise). And the same go’s for women and women relationship! So tell me how would same sex have a legit source or info on the opposite sex?

@ IIChronicles7_14Life… While I certainly respect that change that you’ve made in your life, I truly don’t know what in the world you’re talking about saying that “gay men hang with YOUR man (and some of them even have sex with them)”. If they’re having sex with these men, then they are homos on the DL. Why would a woman even want advice about that? She should simply dump his azz and move on. What other “advice” is there to give?

Secondly, straight men do NOT just hang with homosexuals or go out of their way to make friends with them. That’s ridiculous to even intimate that nonsense. Now, I can say that I have friends who I’ve know for years and found out that they were homosexual. I don’t necessarily cut off the friendship as long as they are respectul and don’t come at me wrong. Aside from knowing their choice, their sexual life is none of my business, and we keep it at that. That statement makes it seems like the average guys has homo buddies that he kicks it with just because, and that simply not the case.

Does a straight man have a better perspective on what a lesbian would think in a given circ**stance? Obviously not. Just by virtue of the fact that many homosexuals CLAIM they were born that way, by definition, it means that they don’t think or feel the way straight men do, so why would you even imply that.

@ CaliFemme23… Thanks, Sis. I really don’t understand the kind of fool that Terrance takes people for to just put this BS out there in the manner that he does. “It’s just sex”??? Oh really??? That’s the best advice he can give to women who are catching feelings??? If that be the case, why not just go down the the local bathhouse and back yourself up to the glory hole, get off and go on about your business. People forget the fact that the ORIGINAL name for AIDS was the GRIDS (Gay Related Immuno Deficiency Syndrome), and one of the reasons it spread so readily was because people like Terrance had the “it’s just sex” attitude. Anybody who takes this clown seriously needs just as much help as he does.

“Just by virtue of the fact that many homosexuals CLAIM they were born that way, by definition, it means that they don’t think or feel the way straight men do, so why would you even imply that?”

GOOOD POOINNTT!!! @chuckyluv. I had NEVER thought about that!

You and Jazzy are making great points..I agree with both of you here…

@ CaliFemme23… Some of the advice and even some of the replies speak to the confused state of people in this “lifestyle”. I’m glad that the vast majority of sistas can see through the craziness.

Hell, at this rate I’m thinking about doing my own advice column for lesbians. Hey ladies, If you’ve got a dyke lover, she’s only PRETENDING to be what I already am. If you need advice, I can give you insight into what’s thinking or what she’s trying to do. Makes sense, right???

chuckyluv, You are so right. There are still a few that find this advice helpful (my friend is also on BP and she and I have it out about this gay guy all the time!). She thinks he has insight on what our men are doing behind our backs but my arguement with her is..How do we even trust THIS guy terrance dean when he has clearly shot his ‘cred’ just by indulging in the affairs with the men on the ‘dl’…I could see if he was some kind of therapist on the subject or had done UNBIASED research to offer women advice, but he’s the home intruder trying to come back over and kick it while convincing us to buy his home security device. And really, how many times have people made money or furthered their career on the vulnerability of others? This guy is very aware of the times and the ‘fear’ that women have of their men being on the ‘dl’..we’ll call him the gay pied piper…

@ CaliFemme23…. That’s a good analogy. Like you said, if he were someone who had the best interests of the “advice seekers” in mind, it would be a totally different story. But he’s obviously a snake who takes pride in the trysts that he so readily admits to engaging in. This is just the next level of the con, and a means of him taking advantage of the inherent distrust. But it’s people like him who are the causes of the distrust. Personally, I believe all of these “letters” are fake as a $3 bill. Women should be offended that he chooses to highlight these ditzy “I’m So Confused” type personas, which allows him to scold and demean you, under the guise of giving advice. And the bottomline of his word always seems to be “remain skeptical” or “leave him”. I don’t trust it for a minute.

tony is just a hoe himself and you let him so why should he stop, you dont care, but you love him, oh well, another 1 that believes that B.S., and the monty situation, well you just dont do it for him anymore, you dont give head or whatever freak level he’s on, you’re not on it, if both of you ladies were smart you would run into the arms of a man that wants and needs you but if you like being second, third or whatever you are now, continue on, and i dont normally comment on anything but this is too easy and there’s a lot more I could say but ladies…….RUN!

I always loved a man doing my hair at the beauty parlor when I was growing up.
Back then, it was said that a man knew more about what other men wanted to see on a woman. (which IS true).

I love to read what Terrance has to say in these articles because it shows how slow our mental state of minds really and just how badly some of us need therapy and simply either have not money to go out and receive it …

…as well, it shows how behind the times we really are and how some of us really do not have desire to grow up, extend our views and to reach out of ourselves and make the necessary changes in our lives.

A lot of the advice here is based upon experience from a man to a man or a woman. And while all of our experiences are not going to be the same, we could choose to learn by simply listening sometimes and supporting others who are really going through and have not reached their full potential in their relationships or stigma’s.

I also love this article because Terrance is actually telling the truth and has absolutely no reason to lie about a dog having his bones, not sharing them, not ever desiring to grow up, thinking that he is better than he really is, putting down a gift when he should and could be appreciating it, and giving precious cautions to the wind, air and fire elements that will be throwing their stale crap back at them (hopefully) sooner than later.

And if you got all of that, check yourself…it was meant just for you.
Strings43
(I really wonder how many will get what I just said)…
and then own it?????

@ Missstrings43…

I’m reading your words about “a dog having his bones, not sharing them, not ever desiring to grow up, thinking that he is better than he really is, putting down a gift when he should and could be appreciating it, and giving precious cautions to the wind, air and fire elements that will be throwing their stale crap back at them (hopefully) sooner than later”…

What I’d like you to do is watch this interview:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s-3jymA9x5s

Now you tell me whether Terrance sounds introspective, remorseful or concerned about the deception he perpetratred, as he’s “reminiscing” and “blushing” about his tryst with an industry male. He’s describes this DL actor/model partaking in a “sexy rendez-vous” with 3 other men, while the ditzy Black chick interviewing him says “niiiice”, “I am enjoying you, Terrance”. (Mind you, this is AFTER he claims the book is to raise awareness of AIDS/HIV among women and teens). Is that not the very “caution to the wind” that you mentioned?

He goes on to talk about an RB singer who he admits was “involved with several women” and “had a fiance”. He goes on to say “we made love all throughout the house”.

Now, I don’t know if this sounds to you like someone who is part of the problem or someone you should be going to for the solution. But statistically speaking, if you look at the Center for Disease Control numbers, at least 1 of those 4 men in the spontaneous “rendez-vous” was at least HIV positive. So there is at least the possibility that the actor/model left the interlude with something he can’t get rid of. And he then takes that “something” and endangers the lives of the woman/women that he’s involved with. All this, and “Super Weave” is sitting there saying “niiiice”???

Maybe you can rationalize that in your mind, but I’m just not sure how.

Gay Best Friend, i love how you keep it real with the queens…Peace & Blessings to you!!

The only man we should be perhaps listening to is the STRAIGHT black man who is grown, mature and has insight to relationships BETWEEN A MAN AND WOMAN. Some sneaky, nasty, triflin azz GAY man can’t tell me a damn thing about MY STRAIGHT MAN, while he’s gigglin, chucklin and smilin’ as opposed to seeming remorseful and ashamed of his acts. I would definately keep this kat close though…I mean that’s what you do with enemies right? Keep them closer….

Diva_4_christ, IF you truly are a woman for ‘christ’…you should be the LAST person paying attention to a GAY MAN….this shyt is funny!

@ CaliFemme23… All I can do is shake my head at Ms Diva_4_Christ’s comment. “Keep it real with the queens???” Oh well… My word for the day??? How about “confused”… If any sane woman can watch that interview and still look to this dude for advice, I would say she suffers from the worst type of low self-esteem.

“Tony”……….. LOL

“Monty” might have an STD perhaps? or the brother has some serious discipline and is recharging his kundalani? but 90% of men aint just gonna stop gettin p*ssy for no reason…..especially when 90% of men chasing p*ssy like starving hyeenas, but who knows

*** question to the womben……do yall ever talk to yall FATHERS or BROTHERS about men???

Maybe DIVA meant keeping it real for the RU PAUL Queen contestants! hehe……

I must say that after viewing that youtube from the link Chucky posted, I am starting to feel like this Terrance Dean dude is just foul. How you gonna make a decision to even sleep in a bed with a person who claims to be engaged to someone else…… MAN OR WOMAN. Then get it in with that person all day the next day just cause he thought the guy was hot??? Or maybe he wanted something to blackmail ole MR R&B dude with to get his own place in the industry….. Either way, that is scandalous behaviour and this TD dude shames himself. SMH

@ AztecGoddess… I’m glad to see that a lot of sistas can see through this transparent fraud. You simply can’t talk out of both sides of your neck in a situation like this. On one hand, Terrance is gloating about his notches; eagerly intimating clues as to the identity of the sick men he was messing with, and in essence taunting the women and fiance of the guys that he spoke of. He couldn’t have been any more crass if he just came out and said “B***h, I had your man”. Now, he wants to turn around and make a buck off of it. You’re right, extortion is the only think worse that he could have done, but that might have served the guys right. He’s already put the women’s lives at risk with his disgusting behavior, and now he wants to counsel them. I don’t see it at all. And those are HIS words. it’s not a matter of anybody else saying, “I heard that dude Terrance did this or did that…”

@SoularFlarez: would you want your daughter or sister coming to you talkin’ about how she fuccs shady azz niggas…and what should she do about it?

lmao…i’ll keep any talk of my sex life far, far away from my father or brothers and save them that pain.

Kris….. fair enough!

well damn she could at least holla @ some of her STRAIGHT male homies then…. but w/e

lol! sometimes straight men will bullshyt if they want the puzzy for themselves. a gay man has no bias…his opinion is purely objective.

@ Kris_87… Watch the video of Terrance’s interview posted on the other page of this link, and tell me if you really believe that a homosexual man really cares about woman’s feelings and being objective? I truly don’t understand why women have this belief in the “homosexual men are our friends” myth, then get all hurt when they find out their “friend” was sucked their man’s dyck, and bragging about it.

where is it? i don’t see it…

It’s on Page 1 of this comment. A Youtube link.

Here it is again….

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s-3jymA9×5s

SoularFlarez,
Answer is yes. I have talked to my father about men, relationships, mannerisms, thoughts, sex etc…My father was the ONLY man that I can say knew me better than anyone else…So why not talk to him about men? Where friends might sugarcoat, tip-toe and try not to hurt my feelings…Dad shot straight from the hip. Kept it real with me at all times when I was right in the situation and damn sure told me when I was dead wrong in my actions. The BEST person to talk to about men is a real man…I think black women make their biggest mistakes thinking their female friends or that ‘gay’ friend is giving good advice. How can you trust the word of someone who isnt a man at all (that female friend) or the one who doesnt think like a straight man (the gay guy) to give sound advice…

@chuckyluv: whoa…i’m with you on the vid. *respect lost*

it would be nice to get a straight man’s advice on these types of issues, but you really have to weed through most of ‘em to get to the ones who are more interested in helping you out than helping your puzzy out…

@ Kris_87 It makes a real difference when you are able to read a person’s heart and intent through their own words. Terrance can never say anybody got him twisted because they words are straight from his own mouth.

You’re right, there are a lot of brothers out there who will say whatever, simply because they’re trying to get with you. They think it’s about “game” and some young brothers don’t understand that if they present themselves in a respectable manner, a lot of the good sisters will want to know them better. Especially if they’re comparing it with some knucklehead dude.

they always make the girl the victom when most of the time men are the victoms like my self. im startin to hate ghetto black biitches now.

@chuckyluv: you’re right. i’ve seen so many young men my age who had the potential to be cool peeps and possible friends, but they were too caught up in appearances and sexual conquest to really LISTEN to a woman and view her as another human being.

@ Kris_87… It’s become a vicious cycle. Guys play games. The women get sick of the games the guys are playing. Pretty soon, they women get frustrated and figure “Eff it!!! Im’ma play my own games before this ni99a even gets a chance to play me”. Then you add all these homo, bi, DL, STD factors into it, and you’ve got completely dysfunctional relationships between Black men and women. It’s crazy. I can’t say I have to solution of where the healing will begin. I just know it’s a sad state of affairs right now.

it is, whether blacks want to admit it or not. the “black relationships” issue is VERY real. but so many people are in denial. idk how it will get fixed either, but i know it begins with admitting we have a problem. LOL

mayhem187, As you should hate ‘ghetto black bytches’…Just make it a point to deal with BLACK WOMEN instead.. ;-)

And women don’t play games with men? I must have waken up on a different planet or something. Some women just need to stop playing VICTIM all the damn time and realize there some sad sisters along with the sad brothers.

Good advice Chucyluv. I watched the video and understand what you are saying about Terrence. You are also right about the dysfunctional relationships between men and women and it being a sad state of affairs. Three years ago I made friends with a straight black man from BP. Although we live 2000 miles apart and never met, over the phone he gives good advice and insights to what’s going on in the world, just like you do.

@ Continent1… I appreciate that, Sis. But trust me, it doesn’t take any special genius to see through people like Terrance. Most people on the fringes of the entertainment industry, if they have no real talent, they become opportunists looking to capitalize on people in the industry. That’s why all the “tell all books” are not from the artists, but the artist stylist, hair-dresser, bodyguard, publicist, etc… Generally when people talk about groupies, they think of women chasing men. But with all the DL brothers in the industry now (and Terrance didn’t lie, there are a LOT of them), the homosexuals in and around the industry are lined up just so they can do exactly what Terrance did. He’s just taking his to the next level, by writing a book about it, then turning around and claiming he wants to help sistas from falling into the trap. My thing is, why not decline being a part of setting the trap. Trust me, EVERY homosexual knows how dangerous their lifestyle is, but they just don’t care about the next person, especially the women that the DL men are involved with. That’s what really burns me up about the charade.

poor dumb women. im serious. my heart goes out to them.

men are going to answer to god one day for how they treat these women. they know better. constantly making a game and making a fool of gullible, naive, slow women. it’s just wrong in so many ways the way they are used and taken advantage of. god bless their little hearts

I I personally did not have to look at his video to figure out he is a fraud. Just reading how he is making a mockery of the naive women is gross. Yes he is playing on their intelligence’s with the “ I’m your gay best friend” role and he’s doing it all too well. With trying to console and comfort women. And then in his nasty little head he’s like: “that good for you b***hes, thinking it’s all about y’all, d@mn right I can turn your men’s out“. Now not all of them think like that well I’m wrong most of them do. I however have gay friends(2 to be exact) and they always “jokily” make comments like “I will turn him out” and “I will take him from her“. Honestly a gay man can be a woman’s worst enemy. All I’m saying is that I personally wouldn’t take their advice about my “straight man”. Now socially I have a awesome time with them but sharing my personal business w/them, I draw the line! Honestly It’s like having a woman that you know have a thing for :your” man and you go to her for advice about him. It’s bs basically to get advice from a gay man about a straight man.

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Monty has a disease he doesn’t want to give you or he’s getting it from somewhere else. Which answer do you prefer?

My best friend is gay, by the way. I love him to death and he understands both sides, listens to me more than anyone, cares about my well-being, and has good advice at all times.

On the first situation listen he just using u for a backup when he can’t get what he want at that point in time.But if u enjoy the sex strap up and show him what he’s going to be messing when u giving to another man.And do as he do start taliking about how good another man made u feel regardless if even if it was in the past.And then see what level he on then trust u will get your answer the.And on monty oh my friend u just his cover girl because u have things that he and none of his homeboys girls got.So he use u to flaws because either u have a good job ,nice house,or ride and look better the n his home boys girls .Then u might keep his pockets right.So if that the case the that why he havn’t left u yet because he really do need u but in a trifling why peep game if u have brother that’s players or cousin then asked them and they will put u on point.

man bro booosie u give up all tha lines