The title suggests that black men are not good enough. Ask the sisters who get mad when they a black athlete or celebrity with a white woman.

Lol, I think i like this article…..and I think whomever she’s speaking about should say buck society and follow her heart/instincts, she’s probably onto something she might NEVER find in a black man. Go for it. [now lets see the responses.]

I can only speak for myself, but I say that you cant claim to want a SOUL-mate when your major requirement is a PHYSICAL trait like ethnicity. I’m open to all women, regardless of ethnicity, but given my personal beliefs regarding abstract thinking, religion, and my love of knowledge, I find women of other ethnicities more open to accepting me for who I am–WITHOUT the judgements–than sisters are. Different strokes, different folks (and please, none of that “You just can’t stand a ‘strong black woman’” BS. What I “can’t stand’ is constant attitude, excessive mouth, closed-mindedness, and senseless judgmentality).

well all i can say is dat if u happy with who u happy with nomatter if they are black or white just let it rock ………personally i dunno if i would settle for a black men cuz most black men are no good these days and they are superficial going after other women who they claim are more exotic then black women but its whatever if i end up white guy maybe im better off

all i can say is watch this video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11eoukTCetU
The Adventures of Tamika the Arrogant African American Professional Who can’t keep a man.

Black man is the greatest among all men on the face of this Earth (Powerful in every aspect), Black woman are our queen and are the most powerful and luminous soul to ever walk. Although that being said, sisters don’t understand that they ain’t hurting nobody when they date outside of their race, furthermore would the majority of Jews (white folks) date out their race, No! but their are a selected few who would step out of line as with any other race. But Black women have been pulling this lame as excuse to date out of their race, that brother’s are inferior, how so? Because Black men obtain less education than sister, or we feel inferior because the sister is in a better position. The list of excuses could go on and on, but those things shouldn’t be a deterrent to prevent you from dating your fellow man or woman. As a whole the Black race have endured many tribulations and invasion of out internal turmoil this is just another issue that needs to not be paid attention to because I firmly believe this stories/articles/media coverage are just a bunch of divisive tactics use to bamboozle out people. Our mere existence in the US as an extension hub of the motherland is in chaos, when we rapidly mix our greatness with others…………..

From my experience in this is that most black women like a curtain type of black man its just a fact. They all ways say the black man the want to date has to be a curtain height, a curtain shade of color(he has to be dark or light skinned). S**t i have even heard women say he not street thug enough and i am like what the f**k is that. I love black women but they seen just not to be interested in me because they say i am to nice(just because i show respect when i talk to them).I am nice but i am mean but anyway i really dont date black women because of these but then when they see me with another one outside my race they get jealous and mad s**ts funny. I want to date a black women but i am not going to try to date a race of women you who not feeling me.

I believe love is love. What I mean by that is you can not choose who you are going to fall in love with unless you only date one type of person. If you are an equal opportunity dater and date all races then I think that’s great. What bothers me in when people from one culture (black men) only date people from another culture (white women). Why are you excluding your own race, did your mother do you dirty?

I love Black women, I would love to marry one and have children ,but I had many of them treat me like the bottom of my shoe (fake numbers, stood up, other bulls**t). I don’t drink, smoke, do drugs, or had children. I got a college degree in Graphics(still pursuing my career in cartoons), but still not eligible to be with a sister becaus I don’t fit their mold (big money, looks, etc.) At least I still got a job (which I hate, but still strive to do better), and I’m no bad looking at all. I’m 44, but I cannot wait forever because I would like to be in love with a WOMAN. I would love it to be a sista,but if not other races I will consider.. I seen many Black woman date white men and that’s O.K with me, but they don’t get the finger pointed at them as much as the Black men. As long as the two people are in love, love should not discriminate, although they’ll ALWAYS be biased against Black men whether he’s a celebrity or not.

This woman obviously has some issues.Because no matter how she feel’s about Black men on a dating capacity.At the end of the day her Father,Brother(s),Uncle’s,Male Cousin’s…are alway’s gonna be black.So in a sense she’s saying she don’t respect them as black men.Surely her father is a good enough Black man,after all he’s the one that helped create her.Interracial relationships are fine with me as long as you’re happy.We have to live life for us and not everyone else!!!…Black men do need to stand up and start taking more responsibility.Pull your pant’s up and get a job.

Willie Lynch (look him up if you don’t know the name) would be quite proud of the confused state of mind that many,many Afr. Americans find themselves in today. What was the basic premise of white society thru out slavery up to this day? That white is right, white is superior, white equals priviledge, and black is inferior!
Those of you who boast that you only date white, that a sista or a brotha is not good enough for you, only help to validate the racist beliefs of Willie Lynch and of many whites today! You say that, “you can’t help who you love”, but in fact you have been influenced by the media and the beliefs passed down from generations that you and those of your own ethicity are not “good enough”! For me to say that only a white woman is good enough for me would be a slap in the face of my beautiful mother, my grandmothers and all Afr. American women who came before them! Those words will never pass my lips! “Women of color” will always be the most beautiful women in the world……………………….

I read everyone’s comments and some of you had provided valid points. I understand what everyone is saying but you can only speak for your own circ**stance and not judge another person’s view of morality when it comes to dating preference. Like my fellow brother, ‘jazzwatch’, I would like to aim for the same thing. I am childless, pursuing my goals (got my Associates last year in AS and I am now enrolled for a Bachelor’s in CS), want to get married to a African American woman, and all of that good stuff, but from my personal experience, the African American women I have encountered just seemed to be turned off by some quality I possess somehow.

I don’t smoke, or drink, or get myself into harm’s way, and I generally like to stay low-key and relax. However, for some reason, when I meet a vast majority of African American women (online or in public) that I would be interested in getting to know, they would either want to play the silly game of ‘cat-n’-mouse’, give me a lot of unnecessary attitudes, have unpleasant and unapproachable facial expressions in public, compare my financial and living arrangement with theirs, and so on.

It is really weird because on the other side, I would get approached by a lot of Caucasian and Hispanic women, who wouldn’t mind getting to know me and take things further. Now with that being said, rhetorically speaking, ‘Should I settle for dating outside my race, and get fingers pointed at me for being one of those black men who date outside their race once they reach success?’, or ‘Should I spend a lot of energy and effort, hoping that an African American woman would take notice of me and notice my value?’ This is not a pity party, and I just want to let everyone know once again, that everyone’s circ**stance is different from one another. Mine just happen to be this weird predicament and I don’t want to lose hope on my Queens who I admire and still adore.

@THE_DON_IS_PIMPIN

Hey Don, I just watched it a few minutes ago, and it had me in tears of laughter. It’s sad but it sheds some truth of the matter because I have had the displeasure of experiencing that myself as I have stated in a previous post of mine. Anyway, that was a very funny video and I recommend many others to watch it.

THIS IS FUNNY. OK. EVERYBODY SHOULD JUST DO WHATEVA MAKES THEM HAPPY. I LOVE BLACK MEN…I HAVE JUST RECENTLY DECIDED TO OPEN MYSELF UP ALIL MORE TO OTHER RACES. WHICH IS KINDA HARD TO DO SINCE I LOVE CHOCOLATE SO MUCH LOL. BUT I SEE SO MANY BLACK MEN WITH OTHER RACES THAT I GET TURNED OFF WITH BLACK MEN. BLACK MEN ALWAYS WANNA TALK ABOUT BLACK WOMEN AND OUR ATTITUDES OR WHATEVA. BUT IM A DARK SKINNED SISTA AND I HAVE HEARD BLACK MEN TELL ME THEY DONT DATE DARK WOMEN. SO IF MOST BLACK MEN DATE LIGHTER WOMEN, WHAT DOES THAT LEAVE? OTHER RACES. I MEAN, I GET LOVE FROM ALL DIFFERENT SHADES. BUT SOMETIMES I WONDER TOO IF IM JUST SETTLING FOR BLACK MEN. CUZ BY DOING SO I GET TREATED TERRIBLY. NOW A MAN IS A MAN, REGARDLESS OF HIS RACE. SO JUST BECAUSE A MAN IS WHITE DOESNT MAKE HIM A GOOD MAN. SO ITS ALL ABOUT WHO THE PERSON IS ON THE INSIDE, NOT THE OUTSIDE.

If you’re Black man is like this dude f**k em
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OirNo_o4E2k

shes bougie? shes a wax candle? huh?! u lost me after ‘cosby way of life’. i mean hello! datz a tv show. start actin like real life & by dat i dont mean reality tv. doze aint reality nowayz. dumb dey call em dat. nuttin wrong wit interracial altho i do get annoyed when a c a strange lookin kid dat look like it came from mars or sum shyit. ya no, when ya c slanted eyes black kids an albino muthafuhckaz who think dey blacka van rill white ppl. but i honest ta god think all dis mixcha of white bich wit bruthaz creatin a whole new race datz neitha black nor white. an of course how foreigners only date/marry dey own like dey hate americans but wanna live n our country an falsely call deyselvez americans but wont practice american traditions like reel americans do.

If you feelin him that much, then go for it. Why are you worried about the views of other people? It’s your relationship, and your happiness not theirs. What you gonna let a good opportunity pass by just because what’s on the outside? When it comes down to it, what’s on the inside is all that counts. You know how hard it is to even find happiness out here. You might not ever get an opportunity like that again. Just take advantage. No relationship will ever be perfect. In that movie you took that picture from, the couple knew what they were up against. Society won’t always accept everything. That’s why they decided to just stand up to the challenge. You can’t let the views and negativity of society intimidate you. All the interracial couples go through this. It’s just a hump you gotta get over. If you really wanted to be happy, you wouldn’t let something so petty get in your way. Just because someone dates out the race doesn’t mean they’re unhappy, they’re just open to different things. You can’t judge them for that. The world has bigger issues to deal with, why are people still making fuss about interracial romance? Nobody ever could, and nobody will stop people from dating outside the race. To be honest the number of interracial relationships is only gonna increase over time. Why? Simply because the demand for “Black men” is so high. A black woman told me this herself. She said woman from all races want black men. It’s so true, I get hit on by woman from other races everyday and everywhere I go. Esp white woman. It’s not my fault, they just do. This happens to every brotha, and yes it will only be a matter of time before “most of us” give in. The black celebs and athlete’s are victim to this everyday. How do you think most of them end up with other races? It’s not that we stop liking the sistas, it’s just that temptation is hard to resist. Nobody actually wakes up one morning and says “I want to date other races”. The s**t just happens.

WOW!! This article sickens me!! “Are you settling for a black man”!?? What kind of sh*tty title is that!? As if we as black men aren’t sh*t!! I’m a very positive black man, and it saddens me that black women would even entertain this thought! It’s truly obvious that most of us black people have truly been brainwashed by white america,,that preaches that everything black is bad! You’d think that we would unite as a people after countless years of having the world hate & look down on us as a people easily conquered & weak! I’m not against interracial dating.., but damn, don’t bash your own race because you think you’re too good to date black! Keep your mouth shut & go about your business!! White people will read this, laugh, and say..”Mission accomplished”!

Right, why negate black men in such a way? I guess your friend just hasn’t found the right man, black or white. No woman should settle for any man.

I cant and would not settle. Im a single woman and has been for 5 years and that is b/c I havent found the RIGHT ONE! but, i must admit…I do love BLACK MEN and the darker the shade the better! There are some very good black brothers out here and Im waiting until he comes my way……I have nothing against other races..and consider some of them OUT RIGHT FINE! but……..Its something about my black men that makes me tingle….Yeh, black is ALRIIIIIIIIGHT!

There are plenty of sorry men so if u want another race go 4 it, we all 4 it, it mite b 4 da best anywaz, wateva makes u happy

There are plenty of sorry blk men so if u want another race go 4 it, we all 4 it, its prob 4 da best anywaz, wateva makes u happy d u

Quote: Manofsteel35———
“WOW!! This article sickens me!! “Are you settling for a black man”!?? What kind of sh*tty title is that!? As if we as black men aren’t sh*t!! I’m a very positive black man, and it saddens me that black women would even entertain this thought! It’s truly obvious that most of us black people have truly been brainwashed by white America,,that preaches that everything black is bad! You’d think that we would unite as a people after countless years of having the world hate & look down on us as a people easily conquered & weak! I’m not against interracial dating.., but damn, don’t bash your own race because you think you’re too good to date black! Keep your mouth shut & go about your business!! White people will read this, laugh, and say..”Mission accomplished”!”

I really appreciate his comments and post because he just hit why BLACK WOMAN feel the way they do as we consistently listen to the put downs when they decide to date out of their race. Wow! (Finally)..the shoe is on the other foot. Thanks Single Girl. you are appreciated.
“Mission Accomplished”..Strings43

Moorishprince, thanks for bringing up Willie Lynch! Everyone should read his letters on how to control the Black man. I agree, he would be very delighted to see Black people being pimped by these False Prophets, OUR OWN PEOPLE and the general condition and relationships of blacks. it’s a crying shame the way Blacks demote, demean and use each other.

BLACK women. its ok to date outside ur race. even if its white. hell Men do it all day everyday. Yall get mad. Y, hell if i know. We not gonna get mad if yall wit someone outside the race lol. DO U! get wit the person that makes u happy. Most guys ain s**t today anyways…these white guys would be glad to have a black sista.

if your friend was raised to get high on the pleasures of capitalism and democracy then she would be settling to be with a black man. if she is all that you claim then to come to a point of similarity that is not the tangent she requires due to her desires and choices would personally feel like loosing to have if having was a “black man”.

this is what went through my mind originally

but i hope she keeps her “sky is the limit” attitude as the way you speak of her it sounds like her attitudes are doing “well” for her.

I don’t believe black men and women can find quality in each other. Black men can’t stand the negative attitudes, promiscuis, superficial moneyworshipping, black women they find in todays generations and black women want the prestigious life that white men have a better chance of giving them. we’re at a stalemate.

Paneiro bro man, you have just depressed me.

alot of black men are abnormal. only a masochistic person would continue to persue relationships with such wretched beings. let’s review a few problems in their long list

many black men are pyschologically peculiar. black women who want normal lives should probably try to avoid pursuing such men. yes, a lot of the troubles of black men can be and should be attributed to racism but what black woman should put her life on hold for a group of men that has done so much to denigrate and humiliate what she represents? like all women, black women
deserve to be affiliated with and married to men who behave as men should behave.

1. hate blackness
2. hate women
3. blame their problems on black women
4. rude
5. fixated with vulgarity
6. promiscuous
7. attracted to physical attributes which are antithetical to those which they possess (men who cant even grow full beards, chest hair or pubic hair proclaiming to desire someone with “long hair” )
8. refuse to act in a way which is conducive to their gender role (how unmasculine for a man to abandon children and call women “b***hes” regularly, etc)

the list goes on