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The topic of “hate” is quite prevalent within the black community. Often times, however, hate-fueled aggression is misguided, ignorant and uselessly cynical. Being part of the Black Planet universe, HelloBeautiful is very much in touch with the issue of hate in our community. We have gathered some of the most blatantly offensive show of hate from our wonderful readers’ pool of comments, and compiled a list of three tips to help you avoid spewing such disparaging ideas into the universe. Check them out below:

1) Have a sense of humor.

This is the cardinal rule of the anti-hate bible. Be able to realize when someone is joking! Sarcasm, jokes and humor should not threaten you. Stars put themselves out in the public eye in order for us to formulate opinions about them. If we choose to make a joke at someone’s expense, its okay! Have a good laugh and move on.

2) “The only time you should look down on another woman is when you’re helping her up.”

Stop putting each other down ladies! Instead of harsh critique, opt for constructive criticism. When you write or say something mean in a comment, it doesn’t come across as brilliant. It comes across as mean. Any sentence beginning with “you stupid h*e” is inappropriate. As the saying goes, if you have nothing good to say, then say nothing.” That’s a surefire way to avoid hating.

3) Not every woman is out to get you.

You don’t need to always be defensive. If no one is attacking you directly, then there is no need to attack back. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. If you do not agree with a particular opinion, there is no need to go on a cussing tirade about how stupid a blogger is because he/she thinks Beyonce is boring. It’s not that serious. The same is true in broader life. Not every woman is trying to take you down. Save your misguided aggression for a more worthy cause.

Now give us your opinion. Why is hate running rampant in our community?

Check out two of our most hated-on articles below:

Top 10 Stars That Should Just Retire Already

9 Reasons Why Beyonce Shouldn’t Have Kids

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ney_ney004/ ney_ney004

    *applause* and *applause* it’s really NOT that serious. I honestly think some people come on here JUST to be heard, and to be acknowledged. Whether its negative or positive, they just want attention and they’re willing to say what it takes to get it. I read the articles just to see who’s saying what about who. I don’t necessarily believe everything I read, it’s all entertainment for me, you can’t take entertainment at face value.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/butterfly_145/ butterfly_145

    lol put them on blast!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/n0w_and_layder/ n0w_and_layder

    Wow!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/perciouslee-lee/ perciouslee-lee

    yes yes yes

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/0VancouverHurts/ 0VancouverHurts

    LMAO THIS IS THE BEST ARTICLE. IT WOULD HAVE BEEN BETTER IF U PUT ONE OF MY COMMENTS IN THE HATER HALL OF FAME BUT IVE NEVER DISSED THE STAFF OF HB EVER EXCEPT FOR DANIELLE CHEESEMAN BCUZ SHE WAS HATING ON BEY FOR GYRATING HER HIPS. BUT OTHER THAN THAT, THANKS FOR PUTTING BP MEMBERS ON SPOTLIGHT, ITS NICE TO SEE US ON A ARTICLE OTHER THAN CELEBS. BROWNTING’S COMMENT TAKES THE CAKE!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DeeVee8/ DeeVee8

    Firstly, i think i deserve to be much higher on the list than number 6. come on now, i put a lot of thought into that list! I am so heart broken! (Ha!) secondly, you are going to say that it was humor, the articles you write provoke some of these responses. The comments struck a nerve with whomever put this article together. Read what you have for tip #3. Don’t you see that you were attacking someone? Regardless of their status, they are people as well, and your so-called joke was not funny. And tip # 2, weren’t you putting someone down? And for tip #1, stars are in the public eye to entertain us. Outside of that, their lives are private. Once they are off the stage, or out of that recording booth, that is their PRIVATE life. Much like the person who wrote this article. if you didn’t want the backlash, you would not allow for comments. you are bound to get some negative and positive comments. This is a clear case of dishing it out and not able to take it. But thank you so much for pointing out how harsh MY comments were, and how much I was in violation of YOUR advice that you can give, but not adhere to! And trust, i am not hating, I just can’t stand ignorance!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DeeVee8/ DeeVee8

    Oh, by the way, if you keep positing stupid articles, be prepared for far more “hate” as you put it.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Femi_Adora/ Femi_Adora

    Opinions are opinions if someone has to call you out of your name because they didn’t like what you said they are unstable and insecure…just go read something else..its just a blog..i know that and I’m only 18…30 year olds on here crying because someone hurt their feelings get over it its not that crucial.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Mr_Patches/ Mr_Patches

    LMAO!!! You got feminine31lb at number two on the list!! That nigga stay hatin. I remember I had to cuss his ass out over a dumbass Whitney Houston article. This nigga called himself trying to come at me sideways over a comment I wrote, that had nothing to do with him. So I bashed on him. Then he went on to stalk this women on other websites, that he was hatin on in this website. I was like damn bro it’s not that serious. If you don’t like her why are you stalkin her? But real talk he should’ve been number one on this list.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Mr_Patches/ Mr_Patches

    Oh and he just love to say “Wowerz” every time he think he making a point. Who the f**k still says that? Dude is like 40 years old saying s**t like “wowerz” LOL! If you don’t get yo corny ass up outta here with that.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/U_InquireMi/ U_InquireMi

    That’s true, people are ready to put you down if you don’t follow the crowd. I don’t know when having a voice or feeling became hating. As long as you can speak cleary about your differences then there isn’t a problem. Most people start down talking you and calling you ignorant, and for what? I’m trying to figure out when did this amount of disrespect for each other became cool. It’s a terrible thing if you cant speak to your own people without getting into a verbal altercation.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Da_J_Rok/ Da_J_Rok

    Dang Nawtee… they puttin u on blast….lol… u must have really struck a nerve…..lmao

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Deletha_J/ Deletha_J

    LMAO… i agree there is a lot of hating in our (now blogging)community towards one another. people so offensive, disrespectful and negative these days about other people’s opinions. theres some more hating bloggers on here. i hope you give them their shine too because when you read what they post its like… is it really worth getting that mad about? lol angry bloggers, dont take it personal. come in peace, leave in peace

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/SEARCH09/ SEARCH09

    wow to this very article,post or whatever it is!I am speechless…why am I not on the list?doesnt even matter.HOW JUU DO’N HB?didnt know you’ll acknowledged and put so much emphasis on those who had absolutely NOTHING important to say @ all and bypassed all the knowledgeable individuals with some actual common sense,which simply proves how negativity is commended more within the african american community…and YA wondeeeeeeeeeeeer

    but on a much more serious note…there are far more people in celebrity world than the same 4-5 people youll post about day after day.dont ya think?oh and congratulations to you’ll fools who were acknowledged…FOR A JOB WELL DONE!!! :D

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/YOURNAWTEEGIRL/ YOURNAWTEEGIRL

    AWW LOOKS LIKE SOMEONE GOT THEIR FEELINGS HURT..WELL AT LEAST I’M NUMBER ONE! LOL
    FIRST OF ALL THAT WASN’T EVEN MY WHOLE COMMENT POST THE WHOLE THING B***HES…SECOND OF ALL THE POST I PUT THAT ON WAS ONE ENTITLED “5 TIPS FOR DATING A MARRIED MAN”….AM I WRONG IN CALLING THAT PERSON AN IMMORAL W***E????? B***H PLEASE
    DAMN STR8 I’M GONNA HATE ON ANYONE WHO THINKS IT’S OKAY TO F**K SOMEONE ELSES HUSBAND…CALL ME A HATER OF HOMEWRECKERS I DON’T GIVE A DAMN
    SO F**K YALL F**K THIS STUPID AZZ WEBSITE…HOW DARE YOU POST SOME BULL SHYT LIKE THAT AND THEN GET MAD WHEN SOMEONE HAS A F**KIN’ OPINION…THAT’S THE WHOLE POINT OF THIS WEBSITE ISN’T IT?????..YALL WANT PEOPLE TO COME HERE YALL WANT PEOPLE TO COMMENT…I DID THAT AND THEN YOU TURN AROUND AND CALL ME OUT?? LIKE I WAS WRONG FOR BEING UPSET AT SOMEONE TELLING PEOPLE HOW TO BE WITH A MARRIED MAN??
    HOW DARE YALL…FUKK HELLO BEAUTIFUL
    I’M SORRY BUT THIS IS STR8 IGNORANCE I DID NOT DESERVE THAT
    I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHY I BOTHER COMING HERE….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Da_J_Rok/ Da_J_Rok

    oh wait theres more…lol

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MR_NANASTROKER/ MR_NANASTROKER

    #5????
    WTF!!!!
    I’m on some Kanye shlt
    how da hell YOURNAWTEEGIRL get the top spot??? just joking
    Oh my fault, she was hating on you Jezebels. I applaud you lady for telling these low-lifeded ass people about the stories THEY CHOOSE 2 write an article on.
    not one article of the Social Ills that complicate us as a people and the Recession we are born in2 but you wanna write 9 reasons why A Satanist should/not have children??? and thanx 4 the nomination but I submit a declaration of independance from your hating on me being Honest of the Nigg3rdom you choose 2 have articles on and the nigg3rs that love them.
    I DO WANT 2 APOLOGIZE FOR HAVING A LOW TOLERANCE 4 THE INGORANT BS YOU GUYS AND GIRLS CHOOSE 2 WRITE ABOUT…there’s my apology

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/sylkiifeather/ sylkiifeather

    LMAO!!! HB has the d*mn nerve. writing the dumbest articles and having the nerve to put some people on blast for puttin HB on blast lol. dont get me wrong…the sh*t was funny, but still…..

    @ Mr Patches…LMAO…i clearly remember that same episode with masculine 31 over whitney houston and him stalking me and calling me names on another website, just because of his lil obsession of whitney…and the wowerz thing is the funniest sh*t ever lol.

    @ NAWTEEGIRL…i felt the same way about that article, so i dont blame you for your comment…

    i was shocked i didnt get put on this list considering the many times ive been called a hater by other member lol…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/TMAC_35000/ TMAC_35000

    Damn! I take a few days off from BP only to come back and find that I didn’t make the cut. *sigh*

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Dopegurlmagic17/ Dopegurlmagic17

    y they mad cuz they cant write worth a damn??? sheez yea some stuff is meant to be funny… cuz i sho nuff laughed my way throughout dis one! but if its that serious step yo damn game… and what qualified yal to write?? i hope they dont have any degrees writing like this… smh

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Da_J_Rok/ Da_J_Rok

    I tell u… this has been a duzy…lol

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MR_NANASTROKER/ MR_NANASTROKER

    ATTENTION Jeanene James,

    I just wanna ask you 2 answer a few questions for me.

    Why does HB choose 2 aid and assist in pushing the Satanist Agenda by posting immoral and blasphemous articles???
    I was watching tel-lie-vision yesterday and ran across A verizon commercial where the young girl was talking so much her lips are attached 2 the phone……now what struck me was the content of the converstation……she stated that “I don’t care if he is married, I wanna see why they call him big larry”
    The demise of moral values and the Babylonian ways of Sodom and Gommorah are being rebirthed through outlets such as Radio…they use the Radio 2 push the agenda because you will be repititiously induced with these negative vibes 2 reduce 2 like some BS and before you know it your children are POp Lock & Droppin it 2 this Devilish form of genocide promoted through artist that choose to do the Latter than save face and make music that affects or will have positive effect
    MEDIA….RAP MUSIC….HIP HOP MUSIC…..FASHION……MOVIES Why??? what is the motive???
    HB you dedicated an article 2 “haters”
    Dedicate an article 2 answer these questions I have put forth and see how long you keep your Job!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/sylkiifeather/ sylkiifeather

    LOL…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/toodelicious4u/ toodelicious4u

    Everyone is entitle to their opinion. If they weren’t than blogging wouldn’t be so fun.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MR_NANASTROKER/ MR_NANASTROKER

    Today is No Judgement Fridays, so here goes the 7 habits of highly effective gold digging:

    LMAO

    AND THEY RANK ME #5
    YES THIS IS AN SRTICLE ON HB (hell bent)

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MzBadAzzitGets/ MzBadAzzitGets

    HAHAHAH LMAO DEAD DEAD AT THE FACT THEY DO READ OUR BLOGS NOW ITS TIME FOR YALL TO WRITE ABOUT SOME REAL S**T THEN PLEASE LOL FINALLY YALL HEAR OUR CRYS LOL AT PUTTIN PPL COMMENTS UP THERE…YALL THERE IS WORSE ONES I KNOW I GOT A COUPLE BUT LOL LOL LOL HAHAHHAAH I CAN’T STOP LAUGHING…THEY FEELINGS GOT HURT…ALL IM SAYING IS GET NEW WRITERS ASAP AND YALL WON’T HAVE THIS PROBLEM DEAD! DUECES****

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/momono3/ momono3

    it does seem like the only ones mentioned on this blog are Rhianna and Beyonce. And as far as hating goes, it is true. You will get attacked on a directly personal level for voicing your opinion about an entertainment personality that neither of you know personally.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/LaDawnThEGreaT1/ LaDawnThEGreaT1

    damn they didnt catch me.. i know i have said some bad things about HB CUZ U BYTCHES SUCK.. LMAO… SMH… BUT WHO HAD TIME TO DO THIS? REALLY.. U DIDNT FIND ANYTHING ON RIHANNA TODAY SO U PICKED ON SOME BLOGGERS? SMH GET THE FUCC OUTTA HERE..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MR_NANASTROKER/ MR_NANASTROKER

    Today is No Judgement Fridays, so here goes the 7 habits of highly effective gold digging:
    LMAO
    AND THEY RANK ME #5
    YES THIS IS AN SRTICLE ON HB (hell bent)

    ATTENTION Jeanene James,
    I just wanna ask you 2 answer a few questions for me.
    Why does HB choose 2 aid and assist in pushing the Satanist Agenda by posting immoral and blasphemous articles???
    I was watching tel-lie-vision yesterday and ran across A verizon commercial where the young girl was talking so much her lips are attached 2 the phone……now what struck me was the content of the converstation……she stated that “I don’t care if he is married, I wanna see why they call him big larry”
    The demise of moral values and the Babylonian ways of Sodom and Gommorah are being rebirthed through outlets such as Radio…they use the Radio 2 push the agenda because you will be repititiously induced with these negative vibes 2 reduce 2 like some BS and before you know it your children are POp Lock & Droppin it 2 this Devilish form of genocide promoted through artist that choose to do the Latter than save face and make music that affects or will have positive effect
    MEDIA….RAP MUSIC….HIP HOP MUSIC…..FASHION……MOVIES Why??? what is the motive???
    HB you dedicated an article 2 “haters”
    Dedicate an article 2 answer these questions I have put forth and see how long you keep your Job!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MR_NANASTROKER/ MR_NANASTROKER

    Today is No Judgement Fridays, so here goes the 7 habits of highly effective gold digging:

    AND THEY RANK ME #5
    YES THIS IS AN ARTICLE ON HB (hell bent)

    ATTENTION Jeanene James,
    I just wanna ask you 2 answer a few questions for me.
    Why does HB choose 2 aid and assist in pushing the Satanist Agenda by posting immoral and blasphemous articles???
    I was watching tel-lie-vision yesterday and ran across A verizon commercial where the young girl was talking so much her lips are attached 2 the phone……now what struck me was the content of the converstation……she stated that “I don’t care if he is married, I wanna see why they call him big larry”
    The demise of moral values and the Babylonian ways of Sodom and Gommorah are being rebirthed through outlets such as Radio…they use the Radio 2 push the agenda because you will be repititiously induced with these negative vibes 2 reduce 2 like some BS and before you know it your children are POp Lock & Droppin it 2 this Devilish form of genocide promoted through artist that choose to do the Latter than save face and make music that affects or will have positive effect
    MEDIA….RAP MUSIC….HIP HOP MUSIC…..FASHION……MOVIES Why??? what is the motive???
    HB you dedicated an article 2 “haters”
    Dedicate an article 2 answer these questions I have put forth and see how long you keep your Job!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/iPhukUrMowf/ iPhukUrMowf

    yall do post some bullshyt articles a lot though. realize when you in the wrong. and most of those comments were in response to hatin asss articles.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/SIZE14EEE/ SIZE14EEE

    LESSON #1: HATER- Ghetto DEF: A person that simply cannot be happy for another person’s success. Real world equivalence of the word ENVIOUS:a feeling of discontent and ill will because of another’s advantages, possessions, etc

    The problem today is the word, as all words in the Nigga vernacular, has been so over used that when some one is truly and honestly Pointing out something that is really wrong, people call them a hater.

    IT AINT HATING IF IT IS TRUE! EXAMPLE:
    You are now married and saved! But every woman or man you see is now just oh so going to hell because they arent, and you sit up and talk about them like a dog, wont associate with them like its a contagious disease or something, ALL the while forgetting that when you were out there f**king outta both pants legs, people treated you the same way. But if some one calls you stuck up…They are a hater?

    THE WORD HATER HAS NOW BECOME A CRUTCH FOR THE UNREFINED DUFUS’ THAT CAN’T DEAL WITH THEIR INADEQUACIES, FAULTS AND FAILURES. IT’S SO MUCH EASIER TO SAY ‘they hating’ RATHER THAN TO ACTUALLY EXAMINE ONES SELF.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/TOTALBODYIMAGE/ TOTALBODYIMAGE

    OMG! SOME PEOPLE NEED TO JUST KILL THEMSELVES—LMMFAO—–NOT FOREAL!——BUT FOREAL DOE!!! LMAO! ESPECIALLY THE ONE’S CRYING CAUSE THEY DID’NT MAKE THE LIST. GEEZ!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ChiefSlappaH0/ ChiefSlappaH0

    LOL, this site is so stupid.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/0VancouverHurts/ 0VancouverHurts

    LOL @ CHIEFSLAPPAH0 THIS SITE IS SO GHETTO! IVE NEVER READ ARTICLES WITH SO MUCH MISKTAKES IN IT IN MY LIFE! ITS OKAY THO HB KEEP REPPIN YO GHETTO AZZ SELVES.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/TMAC_35000/ TMAC_35000

    TOTALBODYIMAGE, it’s called sarcasm, get a grip or go kill yourself…for real.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/AzureBeauty/ AzureBeauty

    It is a shame that someone felt the need to post this topic. SMH

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/_UnStoPable_/ _UnStoPable_

    LMAO.seems like some1 done touched a nerve.looka here…now youll know damn well there were more so-called haters than that.btw how is this news?and i agree with previous comments,there are far too many errors on these post.there was one or two articles where youll couldnt even get the name of the main person who is of topic “spelled correct.”how youll gonna write out an article full of errors and ask us to not hate?hate’n isnt even the name for us,if anything we helping youll out.also smh

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/CaliFemme23/ CaliFemme23

    What in the world is up with this word ‘HATER’ all of a sudden??? Can no one disagree or have a different opinion without immediately becoming a ‘hater’? Oh, lil wayne has 20 different baby mommas, we as females disagree with that..’yall females is hatin!!” I mean really how dumb is that? But I digress..I suppose the word ‘hater’ will die down and out like the words ‘Fa Sho!” I really cant stand ‘fa sho’…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/sprinkle22/ sprinkle22

    lol! bp writers, it is your right to have an opinion about a star, but it is our right to have an opinion about what you write. If you choose to be a writer, then you need to accept the criticism. And, you all have the nerve to call someone a hater. Please!

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