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A couple of days ago, I posted Jeremih’s “Birthday Sex” video for my PLAY OR SLAY? column. But instead of telling me whether or not the video sucks, the majority of the comments focused on the ethnicity of the main girl in the video.

What the hell?

For one thing, the column was about the video, not the girl. But I’m always open to hearing a good debate, so I’m willing to hear out all complaints. However, what’s with all these folks talking about her being white? She’s clearly not white, so pick another argument. Is it that she’s lightskinned, or “ethnically ambiguous”? Are we going to go into that again? Fine. But here’s my beef: why do you care so much? You didn’t produce the video. You’re not in the video. You don’t have to watch the video.

I DO think it sucks that there are video directors and artists who take preference over browner girls, and that’s really wack. But maybe I’m just an equal-opportunity employer, having two black parents of completely opposite skin tones and having crushed on or dated men of literally all ethnicities, and that could very well be why I think this debate is kind of bullshit. She’s just a pretty girl who beat out a bunch of other pretty girls to get the spot in this video. Maybe there were shadier things afoot in the making of the vid, but who knows? We weren’t there. I’m just kind of pissed at the fact that her racial ambiguity automatically makes her “white,” and therefore makes her “wrong.” That’s ignorance at its best. Or maybe I’m just sore because she reminds me of my little sister, who has green eyes and light skin and hair down to her butt, which has, on more than a few occasions, automatically made her “white” and thus “wrong.”

All I’m saying is, if you’ve got a good basis for bitching, by all means, do it. Go on – be mad that yet another light-skinned girl gets some shine over the millions of beautiful dark-skinned women out there. Be mad that the video just isn’t that good altogether and, to add insult to injury, they’re using a woman of “preferred”  skin tone as its main focus.  But if you’re going to rant, get your facts in order before you run around spouting hate. Cause at the end of the day, all this chick did was get paid.

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Ladonn21/ Ladonn21

    HIT IT RIGHT ON THE MONEY!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Strong_Mind34/ Strong_Mind34

    who da hell cares??? It’s another video witha light skinned chick…so what? There are bigger issues in this world to discuss. Do you think that people who lost their jobs, homes and families care about this? Put a topic up that actually matters…Damn!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MrLot29/ MrLot29

    Cosign

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Cincinchick4/ Cincinchick4

    All I gotta say is TOO OLD to be using profanity in the article ..nobody cares why post the article anyways just a waste of time!!~**

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Bigbodychic3/ Bigbodychic3

    How about so we can all shut up about it Ima say “Play it” lol

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/banana___baby/ banana___baby

    I was thinking the same thing about the cussing in the article, really unprofessional and totally takes away the credibility of the author. I’m mixed and I still take a double take when I see a bi racial couple. It’s part of the culture deal with it those comments are to be expected.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/loverGirl-89/ loverGirl-89

    OK I’m sorry i gotta disagree. yes she might actually be black, i don’t know her family back ground. but lets face it people are going to call her what ever they think 1st. and I’m sorry when i see her i don’t think black. and quite honestly I’m tired of seeing black artist with woman that look like other ethnic groups in they video. i know it may sound closed minded but lets face it the media is where a lot of people form their judgment of beauty. and if all the black artist are having white, Spanish, Asian, and what ever other ethnicity as their main love interest in their videos what is this telling the viewer. to me its saying that darker skinned woman, black woman are not beautiful, their not good enough for various reasons, cuz her hair don’t naturally grow to sway down her back, cuz she may not have light eyes, or what ever other reason. you may say I’m thinking into it to much but at the same tome how many white artist u see with black woman as the main love interest in they video. only one i know of is robin thick. and how many Spanish artist have black woman in their videos as well. s**t i haven’t seen none. most of the woman in the video at 1st look seem to be the same race of the artist. u don’t have to guess or question hmm could she possibly be white , can she possibly be Spanish. NO at 1st look u see ow its a white woman. but for sum reason our artist always wanna feature woman of other races in their video. but then when they have a booty shaking video. wit the girls walking round wit they ass all out they can have black woman all over that. so when i have my kids they gonna be sitting there thinking that all a black woman is good enough to do is shake her ass on something. sorry i do not agree and i never will. an if u wanna say I’m close minded for that then go head. but i refuse to believe that a black woman insist good enough to be the main love interest that has respect for her self and her body and deserves to be loved. and if you feel that this is right for them to portray us like that then that’s Ur way of thinking but i must disagree. have a problem o well get over it…..ow an yes i just went hard an wrote an essay lol

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/qadavis/ qadavis

    This is coming from a dark skinned woman, who has heard it all. I’ve been cute to be dark, i’ve had men say they usually don’t do dark but for me they would make and exception, and all types of other mess. I say who cares. it’s not that damn deep. if they wanna use a light skinned woman, fine. it’s not that deep. and like the writer says, video isn’t even good.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MzThick_n_Juicy663/ MzThick_n_Juicy663

    I guess I’m brown skin, have no idea, but I couldn’t care and never cared anyway…I haven’t seen the video and I don’t care if the girl was white or not. In this picture she looks white and I still don’t care. I mean, all this really goes back centuries ago when the lighter you were, the better you were, the more prettier you were, you could pass for white…even now, it’s still like that. I know that I’m still beautiful no matter what my skin color is and now i’m to the point where when i see an interracial couple walking down the street, I don’t care…they both found love and i’m happy for them. Who says that the person i fall in love with has to be of the same race as me. We all just need to stop all this and get along, lets just move on….now after all of the that, was the video even good?…lol

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/dulyntruly_prepared/ dulyntruly_prepared

    She does look white when you first look at her, but then she kinda look Egyptian too and if she is, then she cant be white. I dont see why anyone would care what she is. They arent paying her or has anything to do with the video, the artist, or this woman. Now for my preference…..I prefere dark skinned women over any other shade of skin. I just think dark skinned women are more beautiful. Thats my preference and I am sure someone has something to say about that. But when doesnt anyone have something to say about something they read.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/VA_QT88/ VA_QT88

    It looks like she could be some form of hispanic, idk. I do know that she is very pretty. I was a lil confused because he did use a racially ambiguous girl instead of a black girl only because his targeted audience is black. That is just good marketing skills to appeal to the people who are most likely going to be buying your cd’s, but like stated in this article “She’s just a pretty girl who beat out a bunch of other pretty girls to get the spot in this video”. I do wanna say that I think they could have done a lot more with the video. It was a lot of walking around and not very sexy…id give it a pg-7 rating lol. It could have at least made pg 13. Like the Usher video for trading places….now that was HOT. I feel like the video could have been sexed up a lil, at least a lil more close interation between them two. Ex. both of them could have appeard to be topless and pressed up against eachother while all we see is their backs, with technology today they could have pulled that one off easily. Here is my final opinion….Awesome song, average video, the video doesn’t do the song justice and Jeremih should get a different director for the next video and he’ll probably need a really good song as well if he wants to at the very least go gold. OF COURSE….these are my opinions, im not in the music biz. Im just a fan of music in general.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Kountry_Mayne/ Kountry_Mayne

    blahhh…. i love my black women

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/specialkindalady/ specialkindalady

    You know, it’s really ironically funny because guess what?!? Had she been a high yella sistah, folx woulda STILL been mad because then they would have said well, why she had to be LIGHT skinneded and not dark? Had she had long hair and colored eyes, tall and not short, that would have been a whole ‘notha argument! We are the ONLY group of bastardized folx in the world without an official identity who always find fault no matter WHAT or who it is! Like Jill Scott sang…Hate own haters!!!! Cause at the end of the day…just like the post creator said…”She still got paid!” Hollllluhhhhh!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/mlkyway/ mlkyway

    i am dark do yall see this face im killn a lot of light complexion girls i love being dark…the videos the stereotypes are making it hard for our kids why u ask because they will think less of themselves…they have to also realize as artists who have kids… you like light women your dark you have kids and your kid takes your complexion how will you feel when she is told she’s not good enough???

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/TanyaInSacramento/ TanyaInSacramento

    AMEN at this article and boo @ those still comparing their complexion to those that dont share the same shade..who cares who you look better then and what shade of skin they have..cant you ‘LOVE YOUR DARK SKIN” without putting down the shade of someone else’s complexion? Makes you look insecure under all that boasting.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/strawberrymama08/ strawberrymama08

    everyone get worked up over what !!! nothing get over it

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Real_Love_Never_Dies/ Real_Love_Never_Dies

    Ms. Manice,
    What people choose to comment on in is their business, and if you ask people to comment you need to allow for them to comment on what ever part of the “video” they choose. Most people had a problem with the girl in the video, that’s their business why do you care. We as American’s are allowed freedom of speech, so allow people to say what they want to say. Just because her eyes are green and she has olive skin does not mean she is not white.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/shindogg/ shindogg

    yeah da b***h n da vid iz white. aint no part of her dat iz black. da bottom line iz 2 many videos now got white b***h or asian or latino hoes. no real black gurlz. how u kno she got paid? did ya check her pocketbook?! no ya dint. an dat birtday sex video sucks ass, jus like da song duz. when ppl gonna cast dark sistas, 100 yrs from now?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/lotus-moon/ lotus-moon

    wow! there is a lot going on here. why are we still holding on to these color and skin tone issues? is there any way we can rectify it? like actually writing these record lables that we will no longer support them if they dont show more of the various shades of beauty. or could we possibly write into or boycott the radio stations who play the crappy songs? i have been called light skin darkskin and everything in between but when i was a white girl it was always because of my features or how articulate i am. rarely did my skin tone have anything to do with it and then it was either my light skin friends claiming me or my dark skin friends claming me in summer then once the tan was gone writing me off. are we ever going to move on from this willie lynch indouced generational curse or what?!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/YoSeXiPuErToRiCaN/ YoSeXiPuErToRiCaN

    First off it jus a video, its basically jus a job, why shud it matter what color or race the gurl is in the video, its jus a matter of who made it and who didnt, Its not like jus cuz there is a white gurl or a latina or an asian they tryna take over and s**t, Its tha money that matters at the end. But honestly technically speakin there is more beautiful african american woman in music videos then there is any otha race!! people gotta stop being ignorant and quite playing that damn race card!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/WestsideCartelAtl85/ WestsideCartelAtl85

    SMFH. I never ever heard of this song at all. It’s probably more garbage being forced upon us. Also that female is another cookie cutter video h/oe.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/dulyntruly_prepared/ dulyntruly_prepared

    I just seen the video and no she is not white and no she is not black either…. But WHAT THE F**K IS THE BIG DEAL?????? Who cares what race she is??? Let’s be real people….Get a life and grow the F**K up. Music is suppose to diverse and colorful, there is no black and white in music.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/diannamarie1/ diannamarie1

    OMG!!! That was a trash video. I was thinking the song was trash when I first heard it. Now that my eyes have been burned by that god awful video…. I don’t know what to say. What ever race that pretty young lady may be she should be more embarrassed at the fact she agreed to be a part of that garbage that whatever his name and whatever the producer and directors name is that came up with it. Wow!!! I’m walking away now. My blind aunt could have came up with something better then that. Poor girl.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/keishas_world25/ keishas_world25

    Wow , So many f**king people talking s**t about the female in the video when she’s a nice looking female WHO IS DOING A JOB RATHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT SHE GOT PAID! Two the video was great it went with the song and it’s more so him (Jeremil) is just sing a damn song about pleasing his women for her birthday . Its only music , I bet the comments would be different if he was bending her over and calling her a hoe then it would be okay. Dumb ass people (females) complain about men disrespecting them but when a young man comes out with a song , singing to a woman they wanna trash him . GROW THE F**K UP!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/prettyynikki/ prettyynikki

    I’m with Keisha, Why did you even read the article if you never heard of it, wha caught your attention? But it doesn’t matter of race, she’s human, she breathes oxygen, drink water, and eat food, she’s just like you. Get over it.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/riese2208/ riese2208

    OMG LIKE SERIOUSLY? WHO THE F**K CARES WHAT RACE SHE IS. SHE CAN BE THE F**KIN RAINBOW. SHE’S PRETTY AND GOT PAID. WHAT THEY NEED TO DO IS STOP HATING AND, GIVE US SOME MORE INTERESTING TO TALK ABOUT!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DAREALRECKLESS/ DAREALRECKLESS

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

    God bless america ; D

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Jahz_Lynx/ Jahz_Lynx

    OK, I watched a little of it and decided Fk’it. I’m getting into the music industry.
    The kids down the way came up with this song called “Greasy Fried Doughnuts” that had more substance then all that…iiiiii! We get it! You sttttuter! Personally I’m sick of watchin folks have sex. It’s just depressing if you ain’t getting any. Since I could not engage w/the image of the stuter or her strappy sandels, I never got to the skin color thing. I have to put the brakes on somewhere. The color of their genetialia gets zero storage in my brain.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/LACEDBBW/ LACEDBBW

    Didn’t care to read the story but I have an answer to the headline: people may care if she’s “white” because these videos are a window display of ‘beauty’. If white women are the ‘pretty girls’ in rock and pop videos once they become the ‘pretty girls’ in hip hop and r&b videos where do litte dark skinned girl get their display of beauty? As stupid and silly as it may sound it is true, wethere we wanna believe it or not, WE ALL wanna be those pretty girls in the videos. That’s why we get weaves, arcylic nails and fake eye lashes… what is the darker skinned woman to think of herself when there seems to me to agreement to her beauty…

    I for 1 am so disappointed in the comments above me… sadly MY generation just isn’t the one for caring about the next… smh… CARE BECAUSE YOUR LITTLE SISTER, COUSIN AND DAUGHTER WON’T SEE HER SELF AND FEEL UNWANTED IN THE WORLD. Slowly but surely its a form of GENOCIDE, you SHOULD car plenty.

    That is all.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Jahz_Lynx/ Jahz_Lynx

    LacedBBW, I think the light skin is more about market share. Blk African is extreme to Scandinavian. Both has it’s beauties and uglies. This woman was more midtone which has is the widest audience share. It includes indians,asians, latino, drk whites & lite blks. She had good looks but i didn’t think she had overt beauty…I hated them sandal boots. It’s more economics than politics…black is beautiful, honey i ain’t worrying about them folks. I like mine green. Gimmie a jolly giant. hohoho

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/vexedbella76/ vexedbella76

    personally, cant say i give a damn about what hefa is the new or next vid vixen vid girl or what have you..i’m just concerned about all the damn sex! whether it’s stuttered about, bleeped, and/or their lips are blurred everybody can fill in the damn blank! s**t! and people fa real we honestly can not keep talkn about how a chic (light skinned female of the day or chocolatey male of the yr, let’s keep it real, now..aint nobody complaining about a lightskinned brotha not being use,lol)..ok no seriously, we cant keep complaining about a pretty dark skinned woman not be used in a damn video…all that matters to me is that when my son and nephews grow up they know not to beat their woman and not to leave their kids…that color s**t is for the birds…beauty is and should be defined by the person who is looking in the mirror…trends come and go..weaves, nails, lashes, girtles all that s**t comes off…and if you, whether you’re dark, light, milk green, can’t live with what’s underneath all that fake s**t that YOU put on yourself then that’s s**ts your fault, not the producers of the videos that YOU choose to watch and CHOOSE to allow your kids, your little black princesses to watch….
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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DONT_EAT_PUCCY_CREW_/ DONT_EAT_PUCCY_CREW_

    I THINK ITS SAD HOW ONLY THING PEOPLE SEE WHEN THEY WATCH A VIDEO IS ” SHE WHITE OR SHE KIGHT SKIN” FOR 4REAL WHO GIVES A FLYIN FUUCK…..HERE WE GOT A BLACK PRESIDENT AND YAL STILL CANT SEE BEYOUND COLOR I THINK THEY SHIIT SAD 4REAL

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/The-Chocolate-Man/ The-Chocolate-Man

    Have you-all seennnnn the new Rihanna Shakee” music video about Rihanna/Chris Brown on youtube/myspace? The question being asked in the video! Is Rihanna bi-sexual or bi-curious?
    http://www.youtube.com/bsharpp2
    http://www.myspace.com/bsharpp2musically

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Mr_Spann/ Mr_Spann

    Is this question actually coming from the same people that brought us.

    “Omarion Only Dates Light Skinned Girls”?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/TiredMan/ TiredMan

    Do black women feel so threatened by white women that they react so to any woman who’s on the lighter shade of coal? Damn, you all need to stop tripping. And even if she WERE white, why do you feel so threatened (now you all know how we men feel when you complain about US being “homophobic.”)? LMBAO

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/rockwilder1911/ rockwilder1911

    LMAO!! The more I read the more I see why blacks are still at the back of the line for everything!! People are still stuck on skin tone I dont see anyone saying obama is too light oh yeah its just the ugly women spreading hate!! SAD! I read these blogs to get a feel for black america but the feeling isnt good! we are very bitter and unhappy people seems to me! Whats wrong with someone making a song be glad that brother has been given chance!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/youngunna162004/ youngunna162004

    she bad as s**t. I know some Persians who look that good!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/rockwilder1911/ rockwilder1911

    Songs of a sexual nature have been made before any of were born! Go back to every decade then listen its the same concept! clarence carter “im strokin” for example is forty or fifty year old song and he not talking bout golf strokes learn your history before spreading this craziness!! have a good one!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Slim_Goodiez21/ Slim_Goodiez21

    lol okaii im feelin Mr_Spann on that theyy dnt knww what theyy wanna talkk bout on bp theyy confused

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/lsmith1981/ lsmith1981

    Shes Argentinean…Its more of a Psychological thing in the Industry than a Looks Thing…but Still In order for us Black folk too get what we really want in Life we have too do what the man tells us…..that Determines our Success…..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Chi-Chi-15/ Chi-Chi-15

    Well, I am personally tired of watching videos plastered with the aforementioned “ethnically ambiguous” women. I mean when did it become wrong to have a black male artist fawning over a beautiful black woman in his video that actually looked like his mother or his “sister”. Let’s face facts this guys fan base more than likely is made up of a majority of dark or brown skinned women. So why doesn’t he want to accomodate them? I guess the artists need to be more vocal when it comes to these things. The video was alright inspite of the casting preferences. She is a beautiful girl. Question though… why was she walking so bad in those heels. I guess her audition didn’t require her to walk… go figure. LOL

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/STICKTOPLEASE/ STICKTOPLEASE

    who gives a damn if she is white, black, etc…… if the woman is sexy and beautiful then roll with it. Most black woman upset cause they not in the video or something of that nature. I look at a woman as a woman not the color.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/tx_danni/ tx_danni

    i’m tired of it too… that’s all i can say..race is touchy still b/c racism still is prevalent. i don’t ant 2 b a video girl.. but if ur not light bright or damn near white your chances of getting a main role are 0-none…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/luckybug/ luckybug

    The music industry has always been about image. I believe we miss out on some of the best artist because they don’t fit into a ideal look of what the “industry” thinks will sale. So this video is the same. Its an image I think the reason its offensive to some is we have so much variety as a people but you don’t see it in the media. Unfortunately I don’t see it changing any time soon. and once again we just miss out.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Splash_Waters253/ Splash_Waters253

    Ummm…you are wrong because she is not pretty. That’s just white America’s view of what pretty is. Try Lauren London, Jada Pinkett, or Buffie the Body, now they are pretty!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/sexybrownrican1/ sexybrownrican1

    now yall act like u dont never ever see a dark skinned girl in anything anymore u still do and i mean u can tell she got something in her and face it more people are datin out of there own race so u goin to see girls and boys loookin like that especially now its nothing wrong with mixed people or white people because lately i been seein white people in rap videos lol but seriously WHO CARES WHAT COLOR U ARE!!!!!! AND DONT PLAY THE DAMN RACE CARD!!!!!! ITS A DAMN VIDEO LOL!!!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DJ_YT/ DJ_YT

    Thank you for your response.

    Dudes like womyn of all shapes, size, shades and features. With that in mind, many of us also like variety and are more worried about what’s inside then what’s outside. Check his other videos, if he uses the same “girl” all the time, maybe she’s the one for him, if he uses the same “look” maybe that’s his “type” and if he uses a variety…well maybe he’s just lettin’ you know he’s a playa or he’d like to be. Ease up people.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DJ_YT/ DJ_YT

    Next time I’m shootin’ a video – call goes out for all the dark skin ladies. I want ‘em all big and small; short and tall. You’re all welcome to be in my video. (apologies I don’t expect to be shootin’ any videos, but I do want to let you know you are appreciated).

    Now would y’all put me in your videos ladies? Or you gonna pull that race card again?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ms_priss1127/ ms_priss1127

    she’s not white!!! that is obvious in the video; she just has light colored eyes which may or may not mean she has mixed heritage. Either way the media is the media and their definition of pretty (long hair (real or fake), bright skin, thin, and tall will most of the time win out over dark complexion, short(5’5), size 12 and 170 lbs like me.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Mamma011/ Mamma011

    I like the video, But all I’m tryin to say is when a person like her with that skin tone people like that gets all the credit of how beautiful and sexy they are.When a Black African American Female gets the chance to be in a person video the artist have to either talk bad about the female or look at her the wrong way thinking that she either a HOE, JUMP-OFF, S**T, GOLDDIGGER, OR LOOKIN FOR A MEN TO TAKE CARE OF HER. To me I don’t care what color people are. I love all type of race. I just don’t like how people treat the woman in these videos. It seens like for a Black African American Woman to be notice in a video she have to show alot of skin or she must have the BIGGEST BOOTY, BIG BREAST, WITH A SMALL WAIST LINE, OR THE LONGEST HAIR.and thats not far because if U have notice in Jeremih’s ( Birthday Sex) video the young lady did’nt have to show no skin at all to be in his video. If anybody have really notice about these videos it seens like if they are looking for all BIG BOOTY WOMAN to be in a video than all U will see is BLACK AFRICAN AMERICAN FEMALES and U never see any WHITE WOMEN in the videos. But if they are just lookin for a pretty face with long hair than U just see alot of WHITE WOMAN OR MIX FEMALES. For the people who make these videos needs to change the image in these videos. I mean this is a new year and it’s getting kind of old now. They need to treat all women equal and not just look at what they have. (AND THATS REAL TALK!!!!)

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jayriiw/ jayriiw

    Ugly muck monsters will always hate on pretty chicks.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jayriiw/ jayriiw

    And another thing, why are people who are complaining never able to write coherently?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/terrelllmorris/ terrelllmorris

    Lightskinned women are sexier. Period dot. So dark women shut up! We still want light meat even when you argue and rave, we don’t hear you. Shhh! …Move over–thanks. Just looked at the adds below this posting . Ha ha :) See told ya so! Shhhh! -thanks..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/APRILKG428/ APRILKG428

    Its funny how whenever there is a beautiful looking dark skin girl in a video I always say so, I don’t automatically think of them as a hoe, or goldigger or hood rat, or whatever else yall were talkin. It seems like most of the judgement comes from their own, and thats the saddest part of it all. And why is it that whenever there is a hip hop or r&b video made by a black artist, and they choose to put a light skin girl as the leading lady there is always ridicule about it, why are they required to have a dark skin girl, is it not okay for them to show their attraction and appreciation for a light skin girl, and there have been plenty of videos that have had dark skin girls as the leading lady and that is a great thing, i just think the hate, bitterness, and ridicule needs to stop…period

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/APRILKG428/ APRILKG428

    Now, back to the actual song itself……its one of the wackest songs I have heard in a long time, when I first heard it on the radio it took me awhile to figure out whether it was actually a joke or not, you know like one of those parody songs that the radio hosts make up to be funny….yea totally thought it was one of those, so the real issue here is not the leading lady, but the fact that they allow trash like this on the airwaves and on your television sets….CORNY!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Disappearing_Acts/ Disappearing_Acts

    IT JUSt goes to show how racial and prejudice African-American’s are as well, although we try to hide the fact. Now if this was a reverse story where white people were complaining that a woman in a video was black…black people would be enraged, Al Sharpton would be involved and we’d be trying to stage a 1950′s style civil rights sit in. It’s a damn shame, I hope we can get over it though. Cuz quite frankly, I don’t care what her color is. Just because its an “r&b” track, the women in the videos have to be BLACK as the street? What is that and who made those rules? Whatev

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/AngelHeart1703/ AngelHeart1703

    Its funny.. I was once told that I could be a “garden nigga”.. meaning I was too light for the fields.. but too dark for the house. All I could do is laugh… Does it really matter what color the fems are in videos? As long we ALL know that everybody comes from Africa.. they hey.. quit b***hin!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/y0unggunner/ y0unggunner

    The song is hot! the girl is HOT! I like lighter women, but i cant knock anyone for liking darker women. For that matter a woman of any race or skin tone. A great looking womean is like a hit record. Doesn’t matter who wrote or sang it. A hit is a hit!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Females_Only_Please/ Females_Only_Please

    I don’t really care, but the woman in the video is white…She may not be American White, but she’s not black or African American, or whatever you wanna call it by any means. If she’s who they preferred for the video, then whatever! Why the hell does it matter if she white, black, purple, or blue??? It doesn’t, she doesn’t make the song or the video any better! The song and the video are both garbage and I just see the song as another song to make teenage girls go crazy and do things they shouldn’t!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/loverGirl-89/ loverGirl-89

    ok im reading wat all yall are saying an quite honestly i dont care if u wanna say im playing the race card or not. i still think the media is only showing one shade of beauty. its 2 risky to show a darker toned woman in a video now it wont sell. you know y. its because we still hole on to the same picture of beauty as in the slavery days. the light skin girl thats closest to white is the prettiest. i have no problem with people of lighter complexions i think all shades of black is beautiful. but thats just it we only see one shade of black. we never see a full spectrum. and alot of yall are saying it shouldn’t matter. but guess what it does matter. yeah its a big f**king deal. cuz when our kids grow up in these societies where all their seeing as there picture of beauty is one shade of skin what are they to think of them selves. tell me that what the f**k is my kids gonna think. im not the lightst or the darkest. but guess what in videos im not seen. i dont see my self when i see any of these videos. an im quite shore my kids arent gonna be any lighter than my skin tone. i know i am beautiful regardless of my skin tone. but you telling me that when the whole world is saying light is better its not gonna be hard for a person to say thats darker in skin tone to say im beautiful no matter what. you saying people shouldnt feel a way. but if ur in the shades that acceptable for the media of course your not gonna care cuz your not the one thats being left out. but for me who is always left out in them media it pisses me off. im not playing the race card im saying what is. people act like the race card dosent apply in everyday life. if you really think about it the race card is never pulled from the game of life. the ligher woman with the closest to white features is always the prettier girl. you all are saying how pretty she is. but what happend to the girl to the left of you that is jus as pretty or prettier that didnt get that job. you all are saying well regardless she got paid. ok but how much black girls is getting paid by artist of other races in the indestry, not many. hardly any. an its sad cuz alot of people is saying y do we care so much. why dont you care. you can act like it dont affect you if you want be if your wearing a weave, puttin on fake nail and eye lashes guess what it already affected you stupid. you jus havent noticed that subconsciously your trying to do what ever it is to look more socially acceptable. and if your dating a girl that is doing that they ur just as guilty as she is in all of this as well. cuz no one wants to be the ugly one. so keep not caring cuz thats what they want you to do. they want you to keep ignoring it an just accept what they feeding you. keep taking the crumbs of the oppressor. you’ll never get to eat the full feast. keep accepting the scraps that the media gives you. thats the problem of black america we never wanna accept that where being s**tted on. we wanna act like oppression is over wit. but where still mentally oppressed an we dont even know it. say what you may about me. i dont give a f**k im jus happy to not be blind to the fact that media isint telling me how to live my life. so next time you looking at a music video a movie or a tv show how bout you ask your self why is this girl prettier than than one. or this guy. cuz maybe then maybe your brain will finally have a though of its own an not the thoughts of some one else

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/nj_juicyfruit/ nj_juicyfruit

    Yea she not white she brazilian but she still look like a ugly wrinkled cracka all around the mouth they could have alteast got a pretty brazilian model im so tired of these rappers not atleast putting women with some color in their videos requesting light or white wat a joke I bet they be in the bed wit the women of color though a shame

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Yasmine086/ Yasmine086

    Ok the girls not white, but she’s not black. Im not hatin…do what u gotta do to make money. They always pick the lighter girl over the darker one. Thats a bone that we have to pick with the industry, not the models! Now as for the video…IT SUCKS! Just Jeremih and this chick runnin’ around the house makin love eyes at each other. . . boring!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/pure_playaz44_2/ pure_playaz44_2

    haha people r soooo lame…u know 1 of the reasons why racism still exist? cause there are discussions like this…people who think that a MAN r WOMAN should ONLY ROCK with the RACE THEY ARE…f**k that..do what makes u happy…who cares if she is white…brazillian…japanese puerto rican…black or latin….f**k he paid for the video..im sure he didnt even pick the women and if he did so f**kin what its what he likes….i f**ks with women of all shades….to me beauty is beauty…yea some perfer light over dark…and some perfer dark over light….AND? why do people like certain colognes or perfumes more than others? why do u rather certain color clothes over others…or certain brand clothes more than others? its called PERSONAL PREFERCE!!! and its EVERY HUMANS RIGHT to have one…get off tha dumb s**t….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/SWANKness/ SWANKness

    it’s not hating, when R&B cats make sweet love songs the main girl isnt african-american, she’s of another race..but when its shake yo ass, ho this b***h that, it’s black girls runnin rampid around the video..clearly she’s not white, she looks like a latina and the video wasnt that hot.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/mzamaretto/ mzamaretto

    So are you just mad that no one replied to your original comment? This is a blog and people are going to comment the way they want to. Lightskin, darkskin, GREEN whatever the hell she was, is, aint I dont give 2 flying f**ks. I still wont buy the cd so whatever,….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/KHINES32/ KHINES32

    well, it’s all good! I’d actually rather see a “white” girl in the video, than a black girl shakin dat azz to the B-day sex song. All he was talkin bout was sexin her up anyway. It is what it is! Maybe she looked how they wanted the video girl to look..sexy!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/southernthicknessnaz/ southernthicknessnaz

    I look at the video and think that maybe they are trying to cater to all races when selling his CD. I am not crazy about the song or the video…but I do feel that EVEYRONE is can have an opinion and if they don’t like that the video chick is not brown then they are allowed to feel that way….I don’t care either way cause it being someone birthday does not make the sex any better……. and the video was kind of boring

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/southernthicknessnaz/ southernthicknessnaz

    I meant EVERYONE can have an opinion..(lol…should have used spell check)…..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/SnapshotNTime/ SnapshotNTime

    I don’t think it matters what color or ethnicity the young lady in the video is. I liked the video. And maybe its just me, but I was looking at how bad those shoes were she had on, and how I liked Jeremiah’s mohawk. Her skin tone never registered in my mind. This goes to show how race conscious people are. People want to see diversity in commercials, but shun at seeing diversity in videos with Black artists or other things associated with the Black community.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Miss_Sunshine_2023/ Miss_Sunshine_2023

    WHO CARES? IT’S A F**KING VIDEO SO WATCH IT OR DONT WATCH IT.WHO CARES WHAT THE F**K COLOR THE GIRL IN THE VIDEO WAS OR WHAT COLOR HER SHIRT OR SHOES ARE IN THE VIDEO.LMAO

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Y0UNGmama/ Y0UNGmama

    What’s wrong with being white, smh, not all of us are bad.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ny2128/ ny2128

    who cares what color it is…most of these blogs have racist comments and they come from the african american community, its funny people say cracka this and that but we are the racists???? nj_juicyfruit callin the girl a cracka would u like to be called a n****r by a white person, i think not. Ignorance comes in all shades so sad

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/XoxDoLL_FaceXoX/ XoxDoLL_FaceXoX

    i saw the video…and 1. his name is JEREMIH…not Jeremiah! he hates that..i saw him on 106&park and he seemed pretty hostile about his name. 2. I personally like the song…the video was kinda pointless…i was expecting so much more for all the HYPE it was getting…but the song itself i like. 3. The girl is Brazilian…so im happy they are “diversifying” the music industry a little bit more and allowing us latinas to be involved too.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/APRILKG428/ APRILKG428

    I’m sorry that whole light skinned being used more in soft r&b videos over dark skinned girls is crap, its just crap, go on youtube and watch some past videos, i see plenty of dark skinned women as leading ladies in videos who are not shakin their azz and all that, its not that light skinned women are used more, its just that when you see a light skinned woman it triggers something and makes people all of a sudden pull out the race card, and while your busy complaining about the one lightskinned chick in the video, there are all these other videos passin you by with dark skinned women in them.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/READY36/ READY36

    well she might have some black n her somewhere down the line, but thiswoman(girl) is white lol….stop and think if u put us in to categorys black and white now where would u put here duh…………………ass!!!!and no im not a racist hell i dated and f**ked all kinds. so dont go there now lol…..just voiceing my opinion.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/vershawn_29556/ vershawn_29556

    color color color………….bottom line do u. what to happen to lookin at someone for what they and not the color their skin. people someone had a dream that one day it could be like this. so its bigger than the video. shame that we forget where we been, and the many people that die to fight for the right. wake the f**k up!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/_StillDaBaddest_/ _StillDaBaddest_

    How bout shes just gorgeous and who ever had beef with it was insecure about they own s**t! DO YOU quit worrying about other people!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/surfer73/ surfer73

    What the hell is cracka who use that in 09

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Lanina29/ Lanina29

    I think the girl in Jeremih video birthday sex is gorgeous. Like everybody she can’t help how she looks!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/LadiiX/ LadiiX

    Too many race conscious people on this blog. The video was boring as all heck… I like the song, but its been overplayed. The model chicks shoes were sick, jeans were cute too, & she looks decent. For all the people who keep saying her race is Brazilian… Her ethnicity is “Brazilian.” Her race is pretty much unknown. She may be white over here in the U.S. but hey she could be Afro-Brazilian. For example, Adriana Lima is considered to be a black Brazilian and looks white. it’s really not that serious…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Strong_Mind34/ Strong_Mind34

    LOL…This article is still goin’ on? Lawd hav’ mercy!! NEXT!!!!!!!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Superbytch85/ Superbytch85

    Who care what race she is.. She’s in the video, she’s pretty and it’s a done deal. Black people we really need to stop this light skinned vs dark skinned battle BECAUSE IT’S FOOLISHNESS!!! At the end of the day we are all HUMAN. In this world we live in at times it seems as if dark skinned women are at the bottom of the barrel but I really don’t care what anyone says BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL and it always will be and dark skinned sista’s no one should tell you differently. Beauty comes in different shades,shapes and sizes no lighter complexion or race is more superior than that of a DARK SKIN BLACK WOMAN!! I think somewhere down the line black men have lost there core value of what the real meaning is of black beauty just remember you came from A BLACK WOMAN!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/wincie/ wincie

    the only people who care about her race are ignorant folks. To be real with you she’s a pretty girl. I give credit when credit is due regardless of your race. Also most of time the artist pick the models they want in their video. Thats what e wanted and thats what he like.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Pkasso/ Pkasso

    wow, who hires these people, the video was weak and the people made reference to what they thought was wack about the video. Hell I asked where was her ass at

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/sexxiicereal21/ sexxiicereal21

    I have never had the need to post a comment until I seen this stupid article by a woman who is OBVIOUSLY

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/sexxiicereal21/ sexxiicereal21

    My stupid computer post the comment b4 I got to finish what I had to say…but anyway…I have never felt the need to ever post a comment until I seen this article written by a woman who is OBVISOUSLY light skinned and doesn’t know the struggle of brown skin or dark skin women…to be completely honest my mother seen the video, which is a lighter skinned black woman, and hated that the girl was so light that u can’t tell what the f**k she was…I do think her skin is a factor because a lot of darker skin women have problems with themselves due to music videos…I’m not gonna sugar coat s**t and say “the color of a person skin doesn’t matter” cuz it does! I bet if the shoe was on the other foot and all of a sudden dark skin women were everywhere and all rappers and singers wanted dark skin women MOST not ALL light skin woman would have a fit…LOOK at the big picture it’s not just a video it affects us black men and black women…black men chase after light skin long haired girls cuz that’s what shown on tv that’s what is shown on videos…think about it…ppl say all the time “oh she’s pretty for a dark skin girl” u never hear “oh she’s pretty for a light skin girl” what do u hear “I saw this bad light skin girl at the club” LOL! BLACK ppl especially black girls lets be real!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Jada7997/ Jada7997

    Haters! Haters! Haters! can we all say HATERS! it dont matter what color the young lady is as well as her race shes making her money and can care less what all you HATERS think. Thats whats wrong with black ppl today stop with all this light skin dark skin white woman and sista bulls**t it’s so played out now L I G already (LET IT GO) We as black ppl need to focus on taking care of our families and making our money and supporting one another thats somthing to blog about.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/bigNsexy080/ bigNsexy080

    dis is bulls**t.. ‘dark skinned girls have problems with themselves due to music videos’.. pure bulls**t.. fine thick dark skinned, pretty light skinned, sexy latinas and exotic asian girls dominate da music videos.. now how many videos can yall name dominated by white vixens?? probably not even 4.. so wuts dat bulls**t wit dis ‘white’ girl about??.. its IGNORANCE.. i dont c da big girls complainin like ‘y dis gurl not fat?!’ ..

    errybody needa stop b***hn when we cant mirror our selves in sumthn..

    pretty is pretty n c**s in all diffrent shapes n shades..

    so stop da IGNORANCE

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/forevereternal1/ forevereternal1

    you know what f**k all yall who are hating on lightskinned women, because you women are just as prejudice when it comes to us men. all i hear is how chocolate men are better looking than lightskinned brothers and you all say it loud and proud darkskinned, baldheaded brothers are so fine.. but when it comes back to you women, it’s a sin for us to do it.. GET A LIFE,IF YOU LOOK, I THINK YOU CAN BORROW ONE ON THE NEXT PAGE..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/VANITY666BONET/ VANITY666BONET

    and she clearly is not blk either and either she is pretty so next

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/AJyAnt1/ AJyAnt1

    CAN EVERYONE SAY…..

    WILLIE LYNCH??????? His plan works well.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/different_mentality/ different_mentality

    everyone knows black people are still caught up on that light sin dark skinthing in the 80s and 90s darksin men couldnt catch a break now light skin dudes are no tin anymore….but if u look at statstics and videos ..its very rare u see a darks kin chikc in a video unless she is the baddest dark skin chick u ever seen versus if she light skin or whote or rican it realy doesnt matter..i am light skin and i no my dark skin sisters get mistreated..for some reason ya average black men LIKE LIGHT SKIN CHICKS WIT LONG HAIR….ITS NO SECRET THAT BLACK MEN WANT U AS CLOSES TO BEING WHITE LOOKINGBUT STILL BLACK

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Pocahontas_/ Pocahontas_

    Everyone should be able to like whom ever they find attractive. Dissing black men for dating white women is not going to change. Nor is dissing black women who date white men. That’s not going to change either.

    I find dark-skinned men more attractive than any other group and that’s my preference and could care less who doesn’t approve.

    Men love who you want to love because they make you happy, just don’t insult black women as a result because in the end anyone can stil hurt you!

    God Bless

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/bigNsexy080/ bigNsexy080

    its a sad thing how we r ‘racist against ourselves’.. when i was yunga like 10-14yrs i had a hard time wit my color (i’m white..).. otha dan alotta ‘white chix’ i ain woke up one day n ‘went black’ cuz it was ‘in’.. i have always felt mo attracted to black guys.. i have neva bn wit a white guy..n i did n still recieve alotta negativity fo dat..specially from my bro..who feels i’m discriminatin white men.. which i feel isnt da case.. i’m jus attracted to black guys.. but y shud i blame myself fo dat?? isnt it ok to have ‘diffrent’ taste? ..sum guys is into big asses..sum prefer boobs..sum blong hair.. sum black hair.. sum skinny.. sum bbw.. sum short..tall.. white..asian..blk..latin..irish..arab.. we like our men bold..sum prefer dat ‘gud hair’..braids..fro..wit tats..no tats.. light skinned.. dark n handsum.. buff.. toned..athletic..othas like dem big guys..
    n daz all gud..
    we jus needa stop descriminatin ourselves.. rep who u r..rep ur shape n shade.. witout gettn angry on othas.. pretty is pretty.. n at da end of da day ur personality matters n how u carry urself..
    i learned to accept myself.. cuz i’m tired when ppl ask me wuts ur race.. n i say i’m white.. to b asked wut u mixed wit ( cuz my hair n skin a lil darker..its 2009 races c** in all shades!).. n i feel like i have to xcuse myself when i answer ‘no i’m just white..’ ..daz me daz my color.. n i’m not ashamed of it.. i rep ME..n daz my personality..not my race or color.. we needa break out n stop seein our color as a stigma.. b proud of it despite wut anybody tryna tell u.. n stop bein racist on URSELF!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/0VancouverHurts/ 0VancouverHurts

    haha VANITY666BONET said it! the chick aint blk or pretty so who cares and stop giving attention to a plain nobody-special video w***e?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ATown36205/ ATown36205

    I am a dark chick and I am totally ok with myself. I do believe that it is unforunate that we as a race and outside of our race have color complex issue but that is the issue of whomever allows that to be their problem and it has nothing to do with me. I am secure in who I am and I wish to be nothing other than myself. I have dated men in all shades and color and I have rated one against the other. So I really believe people need to look in the mirror and get a grip. We are all beautiful in the sight of God.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/touch-me83/ touch-me83

    I have never posted before on here but it’s a first for anything. I personally think that it should not matter who plays a part of a video. If the people are attractive, that is what sells. So what if the woman is black, white, yellow or what ever color is out there. She is a pretty woman and she works well with the singer Jeremih. So she beat out others. That is the look that the producers were looking for, sex appeal. Personally, I enjoy the song. It has been quite awhile for one that is so appealing that can reach many ages.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Peninsulachick/ Peninsulachick

    I think the issue is being oversimplified here..It appears, on the surface, that people’s beef is “just” the race of the female in the video. Ideally, that shouldn’t be a factor, but non-light-skinned black women didn’t create the issue. We have mainstream media to thank for that. As a society, we have been conditioned to accept a more Euro-centric appearance as the standard of beauty, and therefore, more aesthetically pleasing. Further, as a people, we are victim of the Stockholm Syndrome, which is what causes us not to question the continued psychological abuse we experience & are exposed to daily through various media. Further, it’s almost certain that there were non-light-skinned women who auditioned for the part, PERFORMED better, and were passed over due to their non-appealing complexion(read: dark skin). There’s a good chance that her only claim to that opportunity(I use the term loosely) WAS her complexion. Let’s be honest. It’s not as though that’s a secret; that’s a well-known, established FACT. BTW, when was the last time you saw a “woman of color” in a Savage Garden, Cold Play or Smashing Pumpkins video? Can someone do the research on that? Short answer? Never! Let’s call a spade a spade, people. The finger pointing is in the wrong direction; the people with the problem are the ones with a color preference toward the light skin people they parade before our impressionable male children, conditioning them to reject or deny what is their essence or heritage. G’night!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/bigj97216/ bigj97216

    I agree with the article. Light skin, dark skin, is a game the white men used during the era of slavery. It was used to divide us. It’s a shame some of us are stuck in the slave mentality. As to the Author cursing; it was stated in the story that the authors sister who is light skinned faced the same ignorance, so I can understand the strong feelings. Divide and conquer.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DEVROCOOKE/ DEVROCOOKE

    MY SISTER’S AND BROTHER’S!! FOR WE ARE ALL LIKE A BEAUTIFUL FLOWER BED!!! WE COME IN ALL SHADES AND HUES!!! WHO IS TO SAY WHEN THAT DAY COMES THAT THERE WILL BE NO CERTAIN SIDES OR PLACES WE SHALL HAVE TO STAND IN!!! WHEN THAT TIMES COMES .. SO LET’S BE HAPPY AND LOVE ONE ANOTHER!! BECAUSE WE ARE ALL GOD’S CHILDREN….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Miss_Pha29/ Miss_Pha29

    Why are ppl still trippin over skin color and race wat will it solve to complain about it it’s not like he gon re-shoot the video wit a DARKER girl i’m gettin sick of this ppl move on get a life

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Kelis_TheMagnificent/ Kelis_TheMagnificent

    The truth is dark skinned women are not featured in videos as much as lighter skinned women. You say you are “an equal opportunity employer.” If this is true you would recogize that this video, along with the majority of the other rap/r&b or Hip hop music videos, is yet another that adds to the discrimination of darker skinned women. Adversity and opposition to this video, and the others just like it, was inevitable. Rock/punk/country music videos dont feature dark skinned or black women as the main women in their videos most of the time, so why do Hip hop/R&B and Rap Video’s feature light skinned or white women as the main women in their videos most of the time? Simple answer: They know how ridiculous it is.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/yasNtas/ yasNtas

    If your not a dark skin sister then you will never know how it feels to be pushed aside so that the lighter skin sister gets the spot light. I hate it when people say get over something and never been through that situation and not every one get over things as easy as another person. I’m not hating on light skin sistas but the one’s that think their better because they’re light, those are the one’s that get on my nerves. S**ttt, that’s pretty much any one, I don’t like conceited people.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/yasNtas/ yasNtas

    Oh, and that’s the lighting that’s making me look lighter than what I am in that pic. Yes I am on the darker side and I’m in my 30′s and I experianced some light vs dark situations. So I speak of experience and observances

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/cicily28/ cicily28

    FIRST OFF BLACK IS BEAUTY…AND I DONT CARE WHAT NO ONE SAYS!!!!!!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/LaDawnThEGreaT1/ LaDawnThEGreaT1

    yeah, the light dark thing. people feel so strongly about that right? well me personally i take em any color. i likes em all. i just love men. people like what they like. its been this way for years. no need to trip now. people should just be comfortable with who they are and what they see. oh yeah, back n the day there used to be a lot of dark skinned women in videos. look em up. i dont care im dark and i love my color, i got light brown eyes, curly hair and a curvy body. and i gets play… i dont care bout the skin issue. but readin yalls comments is keep me busy, thanks!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/sekoo63/ sekoo63

    people that don’t love themselves cannot accept others so may strive to find someone “different” from them.

    i am distressed when i see dark brown women pushing around strollers with pale babies that look nothing like them and the rest of their family. it’s the worst kind of self hate. rappers and producers are just as gulity of that type of self hate. money cant buy you self esteem.

    love yourself and don’t worry about what someone else has. GOD don’t make mistakes. HE put the first people that walked on this planet in Afrika. many would like to forget that.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Sexiireddoo9/ Sexiireddoo9

    WHY ARE WE SEPERATING OURSELVES IN OUR OWN RACE BECAUSE OF WHAT SOME BUS**T ASS RAPPERS THINK OR FANTISIZE????? YEA THINK ABOUT THAT

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/bbblkwoman44dd/ bbblkwoman44dd

    Man forget that nonsense why they all gotta be skinny? Let a big girl shine from time to time. ya dig

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/missstrings43/ missstrings43

    I do care! I hate the dam video. It should have been a sexy chocolate woman in that damnnnn video. I don’t give a hoot if she is not ALLL white..she is still a blue eyed devil….Not cute!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/missstrings43/ missstrings43

    I had to post again to better express and explain my views about your crappy article…
    Although definitely loving the song and all (or at least MOST of it’s contents in the video)… I was very disappointed as my daughter was as well that a black woman was not the essence of the birthday sex… Why was that? I received an invite from the singer here on BP and accepted. I even put it the song on my page for a few days because I loved the groove,…however.. I had not seen the video yet. OMG!..At first, I thought it was a light skinned sista’ with straight hair..(you know…well processed).. and thought nothing of it but….oh crap..my daughter saw it on tv for the first time and went off. The first thing she did was get really close to the tv screen and then ..(***that did it!!!***)…Quote: “Why she got to be WHITE!” I gasped and looked again. Her hair was straight but the eyes gave it alll away….My stomach dropped because ..see..we live in Phoenix, Az (and alll we see here are all of our black men walking comfortably in the arms of WHITE woman here). Hell!..the Mexican’s don’t even stand a chance in Arizona…so.. with that…to see another NEW artist who happens to be a BLACK male is like another slap in the face. Every time the video comes on now, my daughter changes the channel because it is a blue (green) eyed devil on the screen. She is very very annoyed about it. When I look at her point of view of it now, I am sorta feeling her. Just my opinion however of which I AM entitled. The song is a hit. I just wished there was a sexy birthday chocolate woman in it with a sexy chocolate man.

    And to add to insult, this Alyson Mance says that it’s ignorance..WOW! I wonder if she is sista’ who is actually experiences this hell! Hmmmm….

    Another DUHHHH..moment….

    (and then you post it on BlackPlanet and give a shot out to allll of the beautiful BLACK women???????)???????

    Hugh!?!?

    lolove

    Strings43

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ShawtiiSexxxiiThick/ ShawtiiSexxxiiThick

    I gotta go with whoever wrote the article. Who the fukk CARES what color the girl is? She’s a Brazilian anyways, she’s not white!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Imizcool/ Imizcool

    missstrings is a racist

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Upper_Class_Negro/ Upper_Class_Negro

    it is important to discuss these issues because, although i’m not necessarily “dark-skinned” (i’m brown) im not blind.

    i see the perpetual message being shoved down everyone’s throats, and that is, light = better and it’s sickening.

    videos are the main form of entertainment young people devour, and these days more than ever there seems to be a recurring theme in most of them: get money, get a light if not white wife and several light if not white mistresses on the side and you’re a “real” man.

    how can these visual messages be anything but destructive?

    and btw…i see some people saying she’s Brazilian so she’s not white.

    actually, Brazil was conquered by Portuguese, who are European hence white, and many, many Brazilians are pure Portuguese in ancestry, hence white just as many are straight black descended from Africans. peace.

    cherryl252washere
    http://www.heavymentalist.com

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/darkchocolate1974/ darkchocolate1974

    I agree with “Upper _Class, it is very important to discuss these issues. I am a dark skinned sister in my mid 30’s and I experienced it all. One side of my family is light skinned; the other side is mostly dark skinned. So for me it started out when I was a child and continued from there. Where I come from most black men do not love themselves or have love for black woman. It’s funny to hear them (black men) say they love their mamas but hate black woman and will never be with a black women… To me that means he hates the woman who brought him into this world and every other black woman who was in his life (granda’s, sisters and so on). I think somewhere along the lines there was a miss-communication, miss-understanding of how strong and important a black woman is and has been in our history. We as black women have been VERY IMPORTANT in the lives of black children as well as white children.
    As for videos, Ladies remember dark skinned or light skinned love yourself. Look @ some of the examples of some of our black men n who they have fallen to (OJ, Tiger) need I say more….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/sweet_n_smart/ sweet_n_smart

    Personally, I would like to see more positive images of Black women on television, especially BET. As a Black woman, I feel there are too many negative images posted, glamorized and depicted, in regards to Black women in videos and the media at large. I can honestly understand the frustration of many Black women who feel that other races plague the TV screen, while we are disproportionately represented on television. As a race and community, we must first embrace our own heritage and others will follow suit. It must begin with BET.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/EURYDICE11/ EURYDICE11

    B***H PULEEZEEE! YOU KNOW PERFECTLY WELL WHY HER IMAGE IS IRRITATING AND A SLAP IN THE FACE TO BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL, WHO GIVES A FVK IF SHE IS NOT WHITE…HER SKIN, EYES, AND HAIR ARE CLEARLY NOT A REFLECTION OF WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A BLACK WOMAN IN AMERICA. THIS WAS NOTHING MORE THAN A RANT TO TALK ABOUT YOUR LIGHT SISTER AND BRAG COS YOU WERE IN THE KNOW OF HER EXACT RACIAL IDENTITY…GUESS WHAT FVK YOUR UNCLE TOM COON ASS ARTICLE, BLACK WOMEN ARE IGNORED BY BLACK MEN IN VIDEOS-POINT BLANK..YES THAT B***H GOT PAID AT THE END OF THE DAY JUST LIKE ALL THE OTHER NON-BLACK LOOKIN B***HES. FUVK U AND FVK THE INDUSTRY AND FVK THESE SO CALLED BLACK MEN THAT ARE NOTHING MORE THAN SELL OUT COONS.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/WMsHURRICANEW/ WMsHURRICANEW

    @”people that don’t love themselves cannot accept others so may strive to find someone “different” from them”
    IT’S PPL WITH INFERIORITY COMPLEX, WHO DON’T LOVE THEMSELVES, AS A MATTER OF FACT, HAVE PROBLEMS WITH OTHERS, LOOKING DIFFERENT FROM THEM, THUS BEAR TONNS OF FEARS&HATRED WHICH IS A PURE SELF-DISTRUCTION PERIOD

    FOCK UGLY RACISM, BEATIFUL INDIVIDUALS RULE!

    ONE

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/LadyOrion333/ LadyOrion333

    LadiiX, being “Brazilian” is NOT an ethnicity, it’s a NATIONALITY. The “root word” of the country is in there, making it a NATIONALITY. I’m American, b/c I’m FROM AMERICA; that’s NOT my ethnicity. Go back to school, or start it, at least.

    The girl is BEAUTIFUL, and for anyone w/negative things to say: you’re just a HATER, so put down the Haterade and sober up.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/tia_de_la_bahia/ tia_de_la_bahia

    I don’t know her race or ethnicity, and don’t care. She looks white/caucasian. Having a tan doesn’t make her a different race. It’s stupid that there aren’t more black women, and dark skinned ones at that In videos. But you know what, why complain? Those women are degraded and do so to themselves also.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/LadyOrion333/ LadyOrion333

    “Looking white” DOES NOT mean you ARE white, and it’s not about “having a tan” b/c that DOES NOT determine your ethnicity, so that’s really neither here nor there. Also, wanting more (dark-skinned) black women in videos while, at the same time, saying women degrade themselves is a contradictory argument anyway. All in all, this woman is BEAUTIFUL, and if there were TOO MANY black women “degrading themselves” in these videos, then we’d STILL have something to b*tch about.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Lady_Renee_16/ Lady_Renee_16

    why does it matter what female is in the video? to me a female is a female

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/CarmelDelyte4u/ CarmelDelyte4u

    Oh wow…people are mad that yet another videoho isn’t a Black Woman? Some of us do actually hold corporate positions ya know. Who cares who the freak of the week is in the next video…this is not even worth debate.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/rosa_10/ rosa_10

    im so sick of the haters because they dont look that. she cant help she look that way…. shes pretty so dark skin girls need to stop hating on the light skinned girls hate the game not the player.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Jehrsie_85/ Jehrsie_85

    sickening.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/NiNi_LV/ NiNi_LV

    ugh…i love my brown skin and could care less about the tone of the next chick. people have their preferences…my current boyfriend is white but when it comes to black men i prefer dark. go figure…lol. but does that make me wrong for having a prefernece??

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/missbetty/ missbetty

    Color remains an issue. I had a cousin that lived in Puerto Rico and visited him He was friendly with this one particular family that owned some type of business. They were congenial to me but my cousin told me how they treated the dark skinned Puerto Ricans. I bought a book about the island while there, the book said all puerto Ricans learned to speak English but refused to speak it when they came to the US especially if they were dark skinned because they didn’t want people to think they were Black.Fisk university woudn’t allow blaks to enroll there if you were darker than a paper bag,this a predominately Black university.I’ve experienced this color thing. My neighbor is VERY light.She doesn’t but a lot of her relatives pass and have limited use for the relatives that do.Try two people applying for the same job,one light the other dark.If either gets it more than likely it will be the light one. Ask P diddy and Ochocinco about their prefference and a lot of our WELL paid professionals ,a WHOLE lot of them marry WHITE Goes back to slavery.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/tishreni/ tishreni

    Back in the day when Rap music/Rand B videos first started up (if you can recall) most of the girls were neighborhood girls.At one point just being a regular looking sista from the neighborhoods was considered cute.Those days are long gone.

    Now a days you need to be either mixed or Hispanic to get the starring role in Black music videos…If you take a look at Reggeton videos the Black latino artist dont even have Black Latinas as their main chick in the starring role.

    Everything at the end of the day im sure is left up to the artist.Being Black anymore isnt considered “Cream Of The Crop” anymore to our own men.Thats what hurts the most.Thats why we always have these types of discusions.

    We can forget about getting mad about it though,It’s not going to end anytime soon.I was just throwing in my two cents on the matter.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/basefunk/ basefunk

    anyway, that chick is fine!!!! i’d hit it if i had a chance.its sad that color still remains an issue, how i wish that we could all move on from this color issue

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Truth-Is-Told2u/ Truth-Is-Told2u

    THOSE WHITE WOMEN,FOREIGN WOMEN AND THOSE MIXED WOMEN CARRY MANY DIFFERENT KIND OF INFECTIOUS VIRUSES AND DISEASES WITHIN THEIR BLOOD CELLS THAT THOSE BLACK WOMEN DO NOT HAVE (in other words those other race of women are infectious).

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/pantherschic/ pantherschic

    “THOSE WHITE WOMEN,FOREIGN WOMEN AND THOSE MIXED WOMEN CARRY MANY DIFFERENT KIND OF INFECTIOUS VIRUSES AND DISEASES WITHIN THEIR BLOOD CELLS THAT THOSE BLACK WOMEN DO NOT HAVE (in other words those other race of women are infectious).”

    Wow, that is the most ignorant thing I have ever seen.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/LadyOrion333/ LadyOrion333

    Truth-Is-Told, you MUST have been raised by wolves…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Melolvr69/ Melolvr69

    Isn’t nice to see that ignorance,jealousy, stupidity and bigotry is not exclusive to one race,gender, or nation?

    Being pro black does not mean you have to be Pro Stupid or pro self hate.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/loveparkphilly/ loveparkphilly

    @Truth-Is-Told2u
    your ignorant self should take a look in the mirror a true african black woman is not light skinned like you unless she is mixed with as you say in your words “foregin disease carrying women” so your dissing yourslef at the same time as looking ignorant you must be uneducated did you make it past 4th grade? mabye you should go back to school and finish

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MissLibra1008/ MissLibra1008

    You seem so upset. That young lady looks white thus making her “wrong”, bottom line. I love my people to death but when we respond as you did it just reminds us that some of us ligther skinned folks think they are better than some of us darker skinned folks thus keeping us separated instead of keeping us together thus being WRONG. I’m light skinned and I’m beyond tried and disgusted by all the damn near white girls in all of the music videos. Next time try to put something online that has much more of a purpose in life, like trying to assist your people and discuss things like how to make a change in world. Maybe start a college fund for a underprivileged black child in your area:) Have a blessed day my beautiful people:) with love and peace kisses & hugs

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Hokage-Sama69/ Hokage-Sama69

    who cares what she is….smfh. why are you kneegrows hating so much? its not YOU in the video. stfu.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/kenya2porsha/ kenya2porsha

    Wow, I am proud to be black and alive!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/DntPlayMe/ DntPlayMe

    Stupid ass video… SLAY IT.. and I got paid at work ;)

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MDHOTCOFFEE/ MDHOTCOFFEE

    YAWNS AT THESE TYPE OF RACE-BAITING TOPICS THAT ARE ALWAYS ON SO CALLED “URBAN WEBSITES” IT’S SO DAMN BORING PLAESE COME UP WITH SOMETHING NEW.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/chocolaterita/ chocolaterita

    Hypocrites. You just posted an article regarding Halle’s race concerning who and what she claims. Stop it, Hellobeautiful!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/pliondone/ pliondone

    I dont think its that serious, I think this author wrote this article to get something published! Clearly the Media prefers lighter damn near white over us browner, darker skinned, authentic Black women; Maybe the author doesnt watch TV or the News.

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