It’s the best advice you can give those overly exposed to in my generation. I was exposed to sex in the worse way through abuse but prior to that my mom used proper names for everything and told me what sex was when I was younger than most but it gave me a better understanding of why you should wait and love yourself while in high school at least.

If the parents don’t teach their son/daughter someone else will….both my parents gave me the talk when I was 13…I dont have any children…but if my daughter was curious about sex…I would purchase a vibrator for her…instead of having sex with someone else at a young age!

I wish people would stop being so prude in this country. You do these things yourself. You go home and finger yourself, you go home and play with dildo’s.

Its better that a child hears it from you than to go and hear it from her friends that will give her misconstruded facts and advice.

When my daughter gets up in age and the hormones kick in. I rather for her to have a dildo than a d.i.c.k.

To be honest… I’m sure parents much rather their daughters masturbate than engage in sex that they may not be ready for with a guy what might not know what he’s doing… having healthy sexual habits starts with the conversation you have with your children. I kow for myself… when i talked to my mom she told me she’d rather me wait til I was married but if i couldnt wait for marriage at least wait til I was in love and positive that I could handle the consequences of that sexual relationship…. and because right now i’m not in love and I’m not going to have se with random people to satisfy my body I just masturbate. its safe every time.. no STD’s or babies come from dildos

In Europe, babies learn about sex from just the television advertisements alone. When they advertised a name brand condom, they actually showed two nude adults in the process of engaging into sexual intercourse. The male had an eretion while they showed the female placing it on his p***s. I was amazed to see how open they were about sex, but appreciated it very much.

Children are not taught to suppress sex in europe, they are taught prevention of pregnancy, and sexually transmitted diseases. That’s whey their teen pregnancy rate is so low, to include a low statistic in STDs.

America is in the closet when it comes to sex, and needs to lighten up.

I’m not sure if I am ok with the dildo. Exposure to sexual things in one thing, but teaching you no self control is another. I refuse to have my daughter be taught that at a young age to use a dildo. We are starting to compromise our very existance as parents to create a sexual utopia for children. We set the boundaries and lay the foundation. We compromise a p***s for a dildo, so what’s next? Compromise condoms with just birth control. We are raising women, not sex w***es. Self control is apart of becoming a woman, because once the dildo doesn’t work, that teen is going to want a man. The foundation starts in the beginning.

tru. feeling for sex is a very natural feeling. do not shelter ur kids, it will bite u right in ur back at the end

I think it absolutely ignorant to encourage any sexual activity that is out of bounds of righteousness and sanity. It’s called self control. Masturbation isn’t a cure for teen pregnancy. It is one step away from sex. Masturbation only teaches your body to lust an orgasm. What is to stop someone from having sex if they are with their boyfriend and girlfriend, alone, and away from their sex toys. Obviously it wouldn’t be the sex toy it would be what? SELF CONTROL. You don’t go around carying a sex toys in your purse or pocket. IF you don’t know what it feels like to have an orgasm or to have one than you won’t think about it as much as opposed to someone who does. You can’t desire something you’ve never tasted. For some people sexual toys just doesn’t cut it, and actually leads to curiousity to what the real thing feels like, and other sexual activities. Sex is like a drug, you don’t crave it until you try it. This generation practices overindulgence. That is why we have high rates of obesesity, std’s, and teen pregnancies.

SELF CONTROL PEOPLE. Learn it.

i wont say i will agree with giving ur child a vibrator or anything like that but letting them know that its out there isint wrong either. i will say the 1st time i heard people talk about having sex was when i was in the 6th grade…. that was way b4 i turned 14. to obviously children are doing mature things at very early ages so trying to act like its not happening isisnt gonna help the situation either

well..me personally…i dont have a problem with it…now i am a new parent and i do plan to talk with my daughter about in depth about sexual relations and such…However..dr. laura is not saying go out buy and ur daughter dildo or vibrator..she is not even sayin tell them about how great and orgasm feels or anything of that nature..what she is simlply saying is “TALK TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT SEX…LET’S NOT KEEP A TABOO SUBJECT” it’s nothing wrong with telling teens about options..around the age 16 you are responsible enough to make ur own decisons on whether or not to have sex..It’s not like they dont know already about sex toys..hell if anything teens are gonna look at mom funny..Its not just about handing ur 15 or 17 year old a condom or dildo and saying go buck wild…its an open line of communication..its about making our children feeling comfortable in telling mom and dad one day…”yes, i had sex…or mom, dad im pregant and scared like hell”…and i am speaking from experience… i mean, kids arent going to be our little boys and little girls forever…we all grow up..and adult decisons..we just have to trust them and let fall sometimes without picking them up…we can not protect them forever!and generally parents who dont..or feel uncomforatble talking to their children about sex…its due to protection and in some instances its over protection…

you dont have to give them dildo or vibrator or condoms..if u feell like thats condoning them have sex..but talking to ur children about sex is definitely key..and again i am just speaking from experience..as sure there are others speaking from experience..so yeah i agree with dr. Laura

I have had the real talk with both my son and daughter about sex but I draw the line on suggesting the use of vibrators with my daughter. I am curious if the show spoke on how the constant use can take away from sensitivity and pleasure when they are ready to have a real relationship with a man. Using a vibrator at such a young age will give them the wrong impression. Just imagine their disappointment when that man cannot make his p***s vibrate like that toy did. Much too soon for teenagers. Let them learn about their usage when they hit their late 20′s like the rest of us did.

I AM A VERY OPEN MINDED PARENT. PLEASE KEEP IN MIND TAHT I DO NOT DAUGHTERS, AS A MATTER OF FACT, I HAVE 2 SONS. SO FOR THEM TO PLEASURE THEMSELVES WILL DIFFERENT FROM GIVING A DAUGHTER OF MINES A VIBRATOR. YES, AS PARENTS WE HAVE SPECIAL BONDING MOMENTS. BUT BUYING MY CHILD A VIBRATOR WILL NOT BE ONE OF THEM!

WELL SIMPLE GRASP YOU GOT ONE THING TWISTED MASTURBATION IS A NATURAL THING TODDLERS DO IT SO TO SAW THAT IT TEACHES YOUR BODY TO LUST IS KINDA WRONG TO SAY AS HUMANS WE ARE BORN INTO SIN AND NO ONE IS BEYOND IT NOT EVEN LUST WE ALL LUST FOR SOMETHING DOSE’NT HAVE TO BE SEX EITHER. NOW ON WOMEN BUYING THEIR DAUGHTERS VIBRATORS HELL NAW I WISH MY WIFE WOULD COME IN HERE HANDING MY 17 YR OLD DAUGHTER A VIBRATOR. NOW THAT IS TEACHING ONE TO LUST AND MASTURBATION THAT IS SOME PRIVATE S**T THAT IS YOUR CHILDS BIZZ AS IT IS YOURS. ITS IS A NATURAL ACT NOW MY DAUGHTER IS A VIRGIN ( YES I KNOW SHE IS HER DOCTOR TOLD ME) SHE HAS NO INTEREST IN BOYS ( NONE CALL MY HOUSE) ALL SHE CARES ABOUT IS BEING A WRITER BUT SHE CAN SPEND A LONG OF TIME IN THE BATHROOM EVERY BLUE MOON AND MY WIFE AND I ARE NOT STUPID WE KNOW WHAT SHE’S DOING BUT I DONT TELL HER THAT IT IS WRONG. FOR ONE SHE DONT KNOW THAT WE KNOW SO WE DONT BOTHER HER. MY MAIN THING THAT KEEPS MY DAUGHTER A VIRGIN IS TALKIN TO HER ABOUT THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF RAISNG A CHILD .PLUS I TELL HER THAT BOYS ONLY WANT ONE THING FROM HER. AND SHE’S LEARNED THIS FROM WATCHIN TV HER AUNT AND HER 5 CHAPS AND CARING FOR HER BABY SIS SO SHE IS NOT TRYING TO HEAR KIDS OR BOYS AND IM THE THE ONLY ONE WHO KEEPS IT REAL WITH HER AND TALK TO HER ABOUT THESE THINGS WHEN SHE HAS QUESTIONS SO BEING A GOOD PARENT IS PART OF CURTAILING PROMISCUITY IN TEENS AND A LIL OLD SKOOL THREATINING DONT HURT EITHER YA’LL KNOW WHAT IM TALKIN ABOUT

Personally a good conversation about the pitfalls of having sex before they are ready works for me.You cant stop teenagers from having sex with hormones raging as they do at that age i would not blame anyone, but giving a child all the information about the pros and cons of sex helps him or her in making informed decisions all their life.Tell them about vibrators if its going to keep disease and unwanted pregnancies away!

wow a 17yr girl that doesnt talk to boys or shows no interest i would think she might like girls watch that….. now oprah the sex topic is good parents need to wake up we have stars like jamie lynn spears having babies at 16 out of wed lock so if u dont teach it witha lil fear the tv will teach it with a lil coolness to… i took my girls to the clinic showed them pics of dicks with syphillis gonorreha herpes and so forth told them all the STI’s u can get even with a condom on showed them how to put a condom on and brought some for them so if dude says i dont have one BAM!!! my girl is covered but at last my 19yr old has lost her virginity hope it was to someone worth while and my 16yo she thinks she’s better than sliced bread but not active… my cuz stop talking to me when i put my 19yo at the age of 16 on depo saying i was saying it was okay to have sex but she is now a grandmother of 3 and my daughter is in school for nursing WOW!!!! if u inform them get them to protect themselves and not think the boy should or would it makes for a safer and happier young adult life and they can and will have sex with u knowing or not knowing just hate for some to find out when she says mom dad im pregnant or worse yet mom dad i have HIV!!! people educate ur DAMN kids and stop letting the tv and there friends do it………… PLEASE

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Just to be real, I’ve had girlfriends who have told me that they did masturbate when they where young before they had sex. So this is nothing new to the public. It’s sort of an invasion of your child’s privacy if you ask me. Boys do it automaticly, so I’m sure it’s safe to say girl’s have the the same clue to their bodies as well. Horny is horny, a sex toy alone will not stop anything. Information of all the pro and cons when you do have sex, is the best thing a parent can do for their child.

WOW!!!

Hey thats yall girls Shero

Well I can say not because of my parents telling me to do it or anything *haha!@that* but I started masturbating very very VERY early… if anything I think that makes one want sex even more… it sure made me want it!

This is disturbing. Sexual sin is self worship. I am praying for Oprah, she is off the chain but we applaud her because she is “successful” and “wealthy.” She is misinformed.

I agree parents need to talk to their children about sex but I wouldn’t advise a parent to buy they’re child sex toys. That only will open them up to the spirit of laciviousness.

This is disturbing, I am glad she didn’t have any children. I will keep her lifted up because her platform is too big for her to advocate things that are contrary to the word of God. Have mercy, Jesus.

oprah gone insane , u need to tlk to ure childeren and grow em as leaders and not follower , so they can make desition on their own whts right and whts wrong 4m them , i dissagree with Oprah and ery dissapointed if i have kids i would never even think bout doing that . I think this is stupidest thing i ever heard

WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH OPRAH? I CAN’T BELIEVE SHE WOULD SAY THAT…MAYBE CAUSE THAT IS WHAT SHE HAS TO DO…..14 OR 15 IS NOT A GOOD AGE TO USE A VIBRATOR..I AGREE WITH CMOORE_78′S COMMENT…IT OPENS YOU UP TO WANT OTHER SEXUAL EXPERIENCES AND DOES NOTHING BUT TEASE YOU….THINK SHE HAS BEEN TOO MUCH MONEY AND NOT THINKING ABOUT WHAT SHE IS SAYING…..LORD…LET’S PRAY FOR HER….NOTHING TAKES THE PLACE OF A MAN…AND 14-15 YEAR OLD GIRLS SHOULD NOT BE FOCUSING ON THESE THINGS…BUT SHOULD KNOW THE BASICS OF HOW TO THEIR BODIES WORK, AND MAINTAINING HYGIENCE AND RESPECTFULNESS OF THEMSELVES AND WAITING AS LONG AS THEY POSSIBLY CAN….TO HAVE SEX

Well maybe if more girls had vibrators they wouldn’t have babies! Think on that. I work in a clinic and 13 or 14 is common to be pregnant. My child is 12 and I don’t want to be a grandmama.

OPRAH IS A MESS, I WAS GETTIN READY TO HAVE SURGERY WHEN THIS CAME ON !POOR GAYLE WAS LOOKIN’ SICK AS HELL WHEN THEY SAID THIS!VIBRATORS ARE THE FIRST STEP TO THE REAL THING ONCE THEY GET THAT, IT’S OVER OPRAH STOP LEADING OUR DAUGHTERS ON I HAVE A 16 YR OLD AND I WISH SHE WOULD ASK ABOUT A VIBRATOR,, SHE DEN’ LOST HER DAMN MIND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OPRAH HAS LOST PPOINTS WITH ME 4REAL

Well finally i hope u ladies,children,& young mothers see that Oprah is so outta touch with the youth that she doesn’t know what to say.She doesn’t hav kids and now she wants to F up your kids.Just last week i walked by the TV and she had some horney hussy on there talking about getting oral sex is her thing and she never gives it and nobody has had sex with her(watta lie)! Dnt get me wrong but, to each his on .I just want to know about the millions of parents who watch her religously and thatz the subject they decide to talk about @ 4pm in the afternoon with all those kids making it home from schoool.It wouldn’t be so bad if her wack opinions came on after the kids where in bed.I should hope the ladies wake up and stop praising this woman like she really has your best interest in mind.And they push Tavis Smiley to PBS. . . we need him now more than ever.Keeping it real is what our brothers and sistas(young couples)need in there household not a bunch of unstable advice.

thats a really good point kriz-603

I Agree with Kriz-603 comment +++plus she needs to take good care of the school(ISSUE) she has in Africa instead of catering to WHITE AMERICA. She is not losing, she has been lost it (her mind).

feel what ur saying kriz.Ok tell em ms.blk she has lost all points ..I think it wouldn’t be a good ideal personaly we don’t need our youth trippen out like that if she had any children she wouldn’t think that’s not cute it is nasty!!

I don’t think that telling your child to get a vibrator is the best advice…but the fact that parents do need to talk to their children about sex is a definite must. And not just…. “Don’t have sex”.. cause guess what they are. And if you look around it’s boys/girls younger and younger are becoming “parents”. The line of communication definitely needs to be a lot more open and at an earlier age.

Everyone on here talking “Oprah stop leading our children” down this path and that path..umm… HELLO?! Why aren’t you leading your own child down a certain path… You should be instilling your child with YOUR morals and beliefs that he/she wouldn’t have to turn to Oprah.

TO BE HONEST…..I FEEL OPRAH HAS A POINT. FEMALES GET THESE FEELINGS AND DON’T REALLY KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THEM. AND THE FACT THAT SOCIETY IS AND HAS BEEN TEACHING THEM IS RIDUCULOUS!!!!! LEARNING STARTS AT HOME FIRST. MY DAUGHTER IS 17 YEARS OLD AND WE HAVE BEEN TALKING ABOUT SEX FOR 7 YEARS NOW. I AM IN THE MEDICAL FIELD AND I SHOW HER THE DIFFERENT DISEASES OUT THERE. WE TALK AND WE TALK AND WE TALK. SHE IS COMFORTABLE WITH HER BODY. AND YES SHE IS STILL A VIRGIN! TALKING TO HER ABOUT SELF PLEASURE IS NOT A BAD THING. HELL IT’S THE SAFEST SEX U WILL EVER HAVE. I BELIEVE IN IT AND ALSO PRACTICE IT MYSELF. IT DOESN’T MAKE ME WANT TO GO OUT AND HAVE SEX IN THE END. I AM VERY SATISFIED WHEN I’M DONE. SO OPRAH…..U GO GIRL. I GOT YOUR BACK!

I AGREE WIT WATERFALLSS-2122 SELF PLEASURE WILL SAVE UR LIFE AND A BIG ASS HEADACHE, IF U DONT WANT TO GET URSELF INTO SOME BULLL SHHH, U BETTA PRACTICE SOME MASTURBATION PRACTICES, HONESTLY ITS DA BEST THING FOR ANYBODY BC U DONT HAVE TO WORRY BOUT ANY THING EXCEPT DA RELIEF OF IT LOL, SO EVEN FOR FEMALES AND MALES THEIR IZ NONTHINWRONG WIT SELF PLEASURE!!! BELIEVE DAT!!!!

WOW…I CANT BELIEVE SHE WENT THERE…IM 2O AND HAVNT BOUGHT MY OWN SELF A VIBRATOR YET….AND I WISH I WOULD EVER BUY MY LIL GURL ONE….NO WAY IN HELL…WHEN DAT DA COME DAT I WILL HAVE TO TALK TO HER ABOUT SEX I WILL BUT THE SOLUTION WOULD NOT GO OUT AND BUY HER DAT….SHE WENT TO FAR TO ME

Ok, there are a lot of comments about self control. Easier said then done. Masturbation, I agree can be frustrating for teens, but also teens fall in love just like adults and want to explore all the ramifications of what they are feeling. A dildo could help with self control in these matters, but what it does not control is the natural desire to touch the one you love. I believe it’s best to educate children on abstinence, but also prepare them if this does not work. Teens will not tell their parents they are having sex, and parents need to prepare themselves for this, and start to teach them about prevention of pregnancy , love and STDs. Sex is not like a drug, most times it’s used to express yourself. I know plenty of teens who are choosy about who they want to make love to based upon whether the feelings are mutually respected. If something happens, then they may chose not to have sex with others until they are really sure that’s what they want to do. And you better believe they are protecting themselves. They may even use self pleasure too. So what.

LOL this is nuts, thats all I have to say about this one…

OKAY I JUST WANT TO ADD MY BIT OF ADVICE. I KNOW PARENTS NEED TO TALK TO THERE KIDS ABOUT SEX BUT PREFERABLY AROUND THE AGES OF 13-15…THAT AGE 10 CRAP NEEDS TO GO…IF ANYTHING AT THAT AGE TELL YOUR CHILD TO NOT FOLLOW EVERYONE ELSE WHICH ALOTTA PEOPLE DOES THESE DAYS. NOW MASTERBATION IS NOTHIN WRONG WITH THAT. ALOT OF PEOPLE LOOK AT IT AS AN ACT IN DESPERATION, THAT THEYRE TO PROUD TO DO THAT AND OR “IT JUST DOESNT PLEASURE THEM” WELL TO ALL OF THE DUMB ASSES THAT STILL THINK THAT… I SAY GOOD LUCK WITH STD’s…. ITS NOTHING WRONG WITH MASTERBATION WHEN YOU CANT HAVE SEX AT THAT POINT AND TIME. PARENTS TELL YOUR KIDS TO MASTERBATE AS A FIRST RESORT. YOU WILL FEEL WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT TO GIVE THEM AN IN DEPTH SYNOPSIS BOUT SEX. PLUS WHY THE F**K WOULD ANY PARENT GIVE THEIR DAUGHTER A DILDO AT A PRE-TEEN AGE?!!!! THATS FRICKEN RETARDED!!! THAT WOULD BE TOO BIG FOR A PRE-TEEN OR AT LEAST A GIRL THATS NOT USE TO HAVIN SEX ON THE ANNUAL.

LORD HAVE MERCY!!!!! Imagine how the conversation would go: “Hey girl, you look funny, whats wrong?” “Mom I lost my virginity today, but don’t worry it was an 8 in dildo!! Should it hurt like this??” The little girl done wore her stuff out before a man can even touch her. This is ridiculous, Oprah need to get a whipping, but crazy white people will do it, because Oprah said so. Just ignorant!! Talk to your kids about remaining abstienent. Giving them a dildo is like telling them once you get use to how it feels go get you a real one!! I agree that self gratifacation will keep you from STD’s and pregnancy but DON’T BUY YOUR CHILD A DILDO!! THAT’S GOING TOO FAR!!!

Well, I know it sounds outrageous, but you have to look at it this way…would you rather your daughter get broken in by dildo or by the real thing, which can either give her an STD, get her pregnant, or both? Because whether we like it or not, they are going to experiment with sex at some point during their teen years. We all know this as adults because we tried it in our teens…why do you think your children will be any different? So I think everyone needs to grow up, stop being so naive, and realize that “sex sells.” They see all over the media, hear it in songs, etc. So you cannot keep it from them. It’s better they hear about it and their options from their parents, rather than their friends or some creep who just wants a piece.

I THINK MASTURBATION MAY ACTUALLY LEAD TO THEM WANTING TO ACTUALLY HAVE SEX MORE AND DO OTHER THINGS SEXUALLY THEY’RE LIKE HEY IF A DILDO FEELS THIS GOOD..WHAT DOES A REAL DICK FEEL LIKE????
WHY DO THEY NEED ACCURATE INFORMATION ON HOW TO MASTURBATE?
WE ALL FIGURED OUT HOW TO PLEASURE OURSELVES ON OUR OWN
IT’S A PRIVATE THING
NOW ACCURATE INFORMATION ABOUT SAFE SEX AND ALL THAT IS A DIFFERENT STORY YOU DEFINATELY SHOULD TALK TO THEM ABOUT THAT
BUT MASTURBATION..I’D BE MORTIFIED IF MY PARENTS TALKED TO ME ABOUT THAT

I think Oprah needs a serious touch from God. Just because it has batteries doesn’t mean it isn’t fornication. Oprah is leading alot of people astray, because she is a influintial woman. It’s sad to say that someone so smart as Oprah is so lost when it comes to some things. This is truly dumb. Alot of dumb things has been surfacing around her lately though.

What’s the rush in introducing sophisticated sex toys at an early age? It’s still encouraging sex. Like a gateway toy to the rest of it. That’s messed up. Who says white people are going to follow THAT advice?

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Oprah has lost her mind!!

obviously all of the people “outraged” at Oprah did not watch the show…Oprah wasn’t the person who suggested buying vibrators…

I think that there is a double standard, the idea the boys masturbate in adolescence is not far fetched but it is for a girl. I would rather for my child to know that he/she has options and that they don’t have to use another person in order to feel good. It’s also about self love but ensuring that they know that nothing replaces an intimate monogamous,sexual relationship with another person. I don’t think that Oprah was saying promote vibrators for teens, I understand the concept of options which can also prevent STD’s and unwanted pregnancies. They need to know that it’s not what you do but how you do it! OPEN YOUR MIND

oprah, ur outta ya f**kin mind! i wanna slap u 4 sayin that s**t! u do not encourage teen girls 2 masturbate an ya certainly dont introduce them 2 vibrators. wtf is wrong with u?! its clear ur doin this s**t 4 ratins, not 2 help ppl. hell i dont think any of ur episodes hav been intended 2 help any1, its been 2 get hi ratins so ur show doesnt get canceled. u f**kin suck b***h! the idea is 2 get teenagers 2 b LESS sexually active, not MORE!!! u c the unexcusable high ass pregnancy rate among teen girls and the high level of aids and stds among young ppl dont u? or r u that damn blind that u dont notice or even worse dont care?! this will not make it better. if anything it will likely make it worse. this is like the worst s**t since oprah dissed rap music! god i hate her. she doesnt deserve 2 be rich. shes a selfish greedy conceited ho-bag whos probably a dyke. sleepin with GAYle king. i dont believe that whole stedman tabloid s**t for a second.

hey people look at the concept and not just the vibrator come on think outside of the box. Teen girls are having sex as young as 12 and getting preganant and AIDS in the African American community is running rampet. The vibrator keeps the girls from getting sexual stimulation from boys or giving oral sex. This way intercourse can be put off as well as unwanted pregnancy and STD’s. I admit the concept is controverstial but we are not living in mom and pop days so with that we need to come up with different solutions to save our girls but its not wrong for a boy to masterbate. UMMM sounds like a double standard to me!

To be honest i agree with it 100% it males can do it why not females. Of course the parent will have to explain the importance or another partner as well. But Introducing your child to a vibrator does not sound as bad as it sounds. I mean if your are open to your child to the point where you are having conversations like that. Then you have nothing to worry about. Due to the fact that your child will feel confortable to come to you and ask your questions and the fact that they will know it is safe to do so. I agree with it ..Sorry to the people who don’t. If you don;t have an open mind Then our society of teenage pregnancy , STD’s and emotional Hurtles will never subsize if this issues is not dealt with a open mind. Welcome to the 21st century everyone.

I cannot believe you women want to take advice from a woman who: A. isnt a mother and B. who is so rich that she is so far removed from the average woman that she is deluded.
Also…. masturbation leads to sexual desensitization. Boys are usually so emotionally attachment from sex that they have sex with anyone or thing… with no regard.

ok that freakin gay i aint fin to by me little sister that .her mind aint on sex at all so you making little girls become freaks befor there time ,i don’t like it what so ever.thats just me

So to make an anology for this would be the same as this: LADIES: TO MAKE SURE YOUR MAN WON’T CHEAT TURN HIM ON TO LOOKING, FLIRTING WITH AND POSSIBLY SLEEPING WITH OTHER WOMEN SO HE’S EDUCATED ENOUGH TO KNOW WHAT’S OUT THERE AND THAT HE SHOULDN’T BE DOING IT?? what the hell? What’s next? Asking the kids to start sleeping with each other so they know by the time they become adults what’s the best karma sutra for them? Lord help us.

Also: You don’t have to put your hand in fire to know that it’s hot!

i’m not sure about buying teen girls vibrators, but talking about them wouldn’t hurt. like other people said, at least they know that they have options. out of all the other countries in the world, we’re one of the prudes when it comes to sex. yet we wonder why the pregnancy and std rates are so high in my generation and younger. we have to start talking about it more.

Ok, although every teenager may or may not be thinking about sex, MOST of them are. Back in my day, girls were experimenting at the simple age of 8! Its just going to get younger and younger each year. Idk about the vibrator thing–I have no younger siblings, nor am I a parent, but being that I am a younger sibling myself, sexual desires did happen early for me and for other girls that I know. Most of the women I’m friends with now have all experimented with sex at least once, and this is before we even hit the big 1-8. I’m talking about girls doing things to the point where they had to go to planned parenthood for that morning after pill (yes, I do know someone that this happened to). I think its important to talk with children about sex because what they said is the truth: they will learn it somewhere else. I mean, when I was in middle school, there were girls stealing they’re momma’s Zane books and bringing them to school so ALL the girls could read about sex. Is THAT how you want children to learn? From a freaking book about a woman who writes about some pretty raunchy stuff? The fact is that now, we have entered a digital age where forms of communication such as the internet, television, the phone, etc. are being used and saturated with sexual undertones. Hell, half the commercials have phallic meanings to them. I appreciated my family talking to me about sex, because I learned that this body is a temple and nobody deserves it right now. It IS possible to turn young women away from sex without making them freaks–I’m proof of that one myself. But again, this is just my opinion. Idk about the vibrator thing, but chances are that they’ll buy it on their own if you don’t.

It’s not such a bad idea honestly. I think that if my mother talked to me about sex and even toys earlier in life.. I wouldn’t have done over half the crap that I did. Open coversation about sex is a good thing and if your child is sexually active already or thinking about it…introducing toys might not be such a bad idea.

lol uhm no the whole idea is to keep a girl from going out and having sex with 12 people before she turns 18 if she has a vibrator and she is interested in sex, sheèll be less likely to go get random sex and just please herself.

ewww yall nasty!!!!! lol

Talk to your teen about a vibrator??? Why would one think that a vibrator would quell the notion to go out and have actual sex? I think a vibrator stimulates…and would only drive a girl to WANT to go further…i mean come now ladies..if you have ever used a vibrator…how long did that last before you wanted a real live, strapping, muscular man to take it’s place??

I don’t mind if my teen daughter want a vibrator, it’s better than having random sex with a boy who is just after sex , selfstimulating can take stress of someones mind so I agree with Oprah and the doctor.

Sexual stimulation to oneself does not keep people from wanting to have sex with others. A vibrator in a teens hand would make them more curious. And my mother taught me abstinence…is that such a far off idea

One should ask Oprah if she was taught to use Vibrators as a teen.I dont think such issues should be discussed on tvs,let it be home issue.Oprah has just issued sex licences to you girls

Fornication! Not the will of God! That’s all I have to say!

America is too close-minded is the issue. If you notice children gravitate towards the forbidden. Having a discussion about sex without dummying down the content is healthy. Look at the statistics of us vs other countries. It speaks Mounds. Get over it, it’s natural.

First of all, for Oprah to even suggest something so morally wrong, she should be ashamed of herself promoting masturbating sex acts like, “buy your teen a vibrator”! How disgusting is that? Oprah is a grown woman and supposedly a “Christian”, why would she insist on something that is a “Sin”? Genesis (KJV) I am shocked an upset at Oprah for her ingnorant thinking an actions towards anything like this. She should be promoting abstinence. Just like her African girls. Hmmm wonder why they got raped? Did Oprah have something to do with that? Who will ever know. Oprah Needs her a” whooped for this.

You people are ridiculous. God did not say don’t masturbate. I dont care what was written by MAN in the bible. The bible promotes slavery, subjugation of a woman to a man, War, and killing. None of which are godly. Sex is a natural thing. Masturbation is natural. Denying your own personal needs is not natural. If you cover your childs eyes when a sex scene comes on and uncover when its back to violence, you need to re-think things.

well lets think about things from a spirtual point and then ideally from todays generation. The bible interpretation of masterbation is something that I have tried to figure out for a while and I still dont know whether it is morally wrong or not. But no sin is better, bigger, or greater than the other! With children of all ages, the word NO! brings on curiosity….so alternatives is best! Im not encouraging sex but this is 2009 and sex is EVERYWHERE!! Either children get the information from parents or their brainwashing friends and tv.

These comments posted are pure reflections on how society is so different. Everyone is built cosmetically different, but we are all the same internally. We all have a heart, a mind, and a soul. The three most important things that kids today lack the responsibility to take into consideration when faced with sex. It is our moral responsibility to TRY and get young adults to wait on sex, but in reality how many virgins are left?? How many people are waiting on marriage to have sex?? So no matter what your views are, please take a minute to prepar our young generation for the pros and cons of having sex.

I’m a little shocked to hear that oprah said this ,but hey she is not perfect. Still I’m shocked.

holy s**t lmao

I’m with the whole idea of it. My child is not of that age yet but I would rather her do herself than to go out here and get emotionally involved with some boy who only wants her for sex, come up with a disease or a baby as a teen. That’s becoming all to common with the teens. I wasn’t one. Masturbation makes you more in tune with your own personal sexual needs and when becoming a woman can express how you like to be stimulated. Most women don’t know how to tell a man how they like it cause they don’t know.

I’m with the whole idea of it. My child is not of that age yet but I would rather her do herself than to go out here and get emotionally involved with some boy who only wants her for sex, come up with a disease or a baby as a teen. That’s becoming all to common with the teens. I wasn’t one. Masturbation makes you more in tune with your own personal sexual needs and when becoming a woman can express how you like to be stimulated. Most women don’t know how to tell a man how they like it cause they don’t know. Who better to teach them than their own Mom and not their misguided friends.

Im not shocked by what she said, I’m shock that it came from her, anyway, I think she is right. If you dont talk to your kids… and tell them the truth about sex, they learn from somewhere else.

In less than two years, Oprahs school for girls has been embroiled in scandal, the latest surrounding lesbian sexual abuse. Anyone who listens, let alone heeds the advice she gives is a F.O.O.L of the highest degree.

wtf not on Oprah!!!! I’m going to talk to my child about sex when it’s time for her to know, but I am not buying her a vibrator!! When She turns 18(in 15 years by the way!!!!), she can buy her own!

Yea…. ALL BOYS JACK OFF TIL UR READY TO HAVE SEX AND GIRLS USE UR VIBRATORS …… ID LOVE TO SEE HOW THAT WOULD TURN OUT

I dont see the harm in it, girls that are actually 11 are having sex my best friend daughter is 12 and is now preggie… I would rather my daugther to have a vibrator than getting HSV or HIV…. and those are gifts that keep on giving….

OPRAH HAS LOST HER MIND (AGAIN!!) LOOK I AM A SINGLE PARENT, MY BABY IS 17 NOW. WE HAD THAT TALK WHEN SHE HAD HER 1ST PERIOD 11YRS. BUT WHAT OPRAHS SO CALLED expert, Dr. Laura Berman DID NOT TELL YOU IS THAT KIDS START MASTURBATING AS YOUNG AS 1YEAR OLD. DID THIS LADY READ (Sexual Behavior in the Human Male (1948) and Sexual Behavior in the Human Female (1953), by Dr. Alfred Kinsey, Waddell Pomeroy. LOOK WE AS PARENTS NEED TO STOP LOOKING AT TV AND START READING BOOKS. TAKE A CLASS IN CHILD BEHAVIOR AND EMPOWER ONES SELF. LEARN SO WE CAN TEACH. FOLLOW PRESIDENT OBAMA SAYING (“I LIKE TO KNOW WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT BEFORE I SPEAK”). FOLLOW OPRAH IF YOU WON’T TO BUT FOR ME I READ AND LEARN FOR MY SELF AND MY CHILD.

What teenager would look forward to using the vibrator mommy (or daddy) bought for her!?! That is sick and is darn near close to child molestation.

Joyce Elders, the former Surgeon General was fired by Bill Clinton for suggesting that young boys should master bait more. What is new? Young girls should not be conjuring the thought of having sex until they are ready. These young boys today are sick slobs. A young lady shouldn’t be listening to that hipety hopety. Keep your baby girls away from boys. The vibrator idea is not a bad idea. It is much better than pregnancy or, God forbid, an STD. Turn that hipety hopety off, too.

Oprah didn’t say use the vibrators! She was referring to parents talking to their kids about vibrators when she made that comment. She wasn’t comfortable about it either! She said specifically that she did not say it! Dr. German reiterated that she said it NOT Oprah! We should be glad that somebody is talking about this! So many babies are having babies and getting diseases. Thanks Oprah.

lets be honest with ourselves, we know we were probablly in elementary school when you start to touch ourselves. you also know when you started sharing intimacy with the opposite sex. and if you went to school you got the sex talk in class starting in the 3 or 4 grade health classes that continue on through high school. even if parents aren’t talking to their kids they hear it in school. it’s required to graduate high school. kids just aren’t listening. get your head out of the sand and put your child on the pill, just in case. give your kids access to condoms. they shouldn’t have sex until they are married, but that doesn’t happen often. better to be on the pill early than to have that one time make a baby.

Read God’s word Oprah! Masturbation is against the word of God! Come on now!

actually… masturbation is not in the bible or against the word of god. its amazing how many people try to put god in situations. Vibrators have been around since 350BC. Longer than some religions. i agree with oprah getting this message out to parents. i feel that more people should use them than not. especially teens. vibrators teach you about your body and how its works in some aspects. plus it cuts down on pregnancy and sexual transmitted diseases. african americans numbers more than double other ethnic backgrounds in contracting diseases.

another thing… i feel that god doesn’t make mistakes and certainly the clitoris which is apart of the female body has only one purpose, that is for pleasure. wake up people and stop being so prude. especially when your reasons for being that way have no justification….

I AM GOING TO DISMISS THE BIBLE IDIOTS;WHO ARE TRAPPED BY A LACK OF RIGHT KNOWLEDGE. I AM AGAINST VIBRATORS FOR WOMEN; VIBRATORS TRAIN THE FEMALE BODY TO BE PLEASURED BY UNNANTURAL SEXUALIZED STIMULATION THAT CAN NOT BE REPLICATED BY ANY MALE. THIS WILL LEAD TO UNSATISFACTORY SEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS WITH MEN. OBVIOUSLY THIS IS THE CHOICE OF MANY LONELY WOMEN. THE BETTER CHOICE WOULD BE A FINGER OR A DILDO. WHICH REPLICATES A MORE NATURAL EXPERIENCE. MASTURBATION IS A HEALTHY CHOICE OF ABSTINENCE FOR YOUNG HEALTHY SEXUAL FEMALES; IT WILL NOT HOWEVER REPLACE INTAMCY. WHICH IS WHAT THEY CRAVE. PEOPLE, FIND OUT WHERE THE BIBLE CAME FROM AND HOW IT RELATES TO EGYPT;YOU SOUND REAL STUPID. OPRAH INTRODUCED AN INTELLIGENT TOPIC AND TOO MANY PEOPLE HAVE RESPONDED WITH STUPIDITY.

Vibrator or not, teenagers are not really having sex for the satisfaction most of the time. They engage as a sort of curiousity and sometimes, to feel ‘among’.
So the only true solution to the problem is to keep talking to these kids and not stop. Let them know what they stand to lose by engaging in such acts and what they stand to gain by keeping themselves intact. I am afraid this is another way to disintegrate the family system in America.

It is funny that she had this talk because i have always said i would take my daughters to buy one when the were 16. Not to show them self pleasure as much as to give them a safe way to explore their bodies without the risk of having a kid or getting sick.I agree that they are no replacement for a real relationship but as teen i would rather they be doing themselves then doing someone else.

First and for most, the main and solace reason why teens and let me say this distinctly children are being put in this early stage of premarital sex is that society has made everything exceptable, from gay marrigages to now buying your teen a vibrator. Oprah, you are and the people you have invited on your show to talk about this is ridiculous. Let me school a lot of people on something, I’m a 25year old woman who would never in a million years buy my 10 year old something of that nature even if se was 18. I agree with one in particular person who says vibrators are not natural. I do believe in masturbation of the hands. And I’m a young single mother who guess what, my child doesn’t follow behind others. Not to say she doesn’t do what other kids normally do but come on, I was raised in a old fashion environment neither to say I did a lot of rebelous things but over my dead body will I allow these bad influences take over or corrupt my princess. Have people forgot about sweet 16. Have people forgot that the women need to protect there bodies more than ever. Nevertheless, just because society is jumping off the roof, doing drugs, being gay, and allowing this on the tv, please parents, what would our ancestors think of what we are allowing our girls to. I don’t think Ms. Obama would even think of buying her teens or even consider the notion. Just my belief and opinion.

Well now, futher evidence that she does not have children and she needs to shut the hell up!

This is stupidity and just for the record I just had a 5 minute comment that didn’t go through for whatever reason I don’t know but let me tell you something, Oprah and for all the ignorant parents and people. Over my dead body will I allow my child to be gay, over my dead body will I allow my child to engage I risky sexual sex and over my dead body will I ever allow for my child to think that having a boyfriend is cute. Let me put something in the pot of green tea, I’m 25 years old my daughter is 10 and do you think for a second I’m that old not to know what a boy wants, what there intentions are and why they would want to do what they do. Peerpresure, hello. The way times are now, I would advise all the parents who have young daughters you better wake up and smell the coffee because society and a lot of these parents and non-parents are going to make matters worse watch what I tell you!

Buy our daughters VIBRATORS? Oh, sure, that will help matters. Just like taking prayer out of school has vastly improved student success. Why is it that the remedy for every bullet wound in society is a band-aid? Why not encourage children to practice a thing called self-control? We emphasize as a society far too much gratification and not enough determination. What happened to teaching self-respect, and waiting until you have entered the correct stage of maturity to engage in sexual acts? Further, to advise our young ladies about setting standards and not trying so hard to “fit in”, but stand out. Offer opportunities to work, entreprenuerships; our kids are FULL of great ideas with no outlets, because they aren’t allowed to hold a job, aren’t exposed to the proper influences to develop thier talents, and are essentially forced to explore these ideas about sex far too soon. Let’s not put the cart before the horse, Oprah. We need solutions, not quick-fixes that cause more problems than they will EVER solve!

Valid points on either side. I dont think I would ever buy my daughter a vibrator, or even suggest one to her, but the idea of just keeping the door open for a dialogue in the scarily near future between myself and my daughter(currently 4 years old) is a powerful thing. I’m not naieve enough to think that she won’t be learning about that and other sexual topics among her peers and selfish, irresponsibie, nasty older guys so I think that talking about such issues with her, in a NON-JUDGEMENTAL way would be beneficial to both of us since it would let her know that she is normal for having those kinds of “emotions”, and that it would allow me to pick her brain.

Well i have never heard this topic out in the open b4 and I’m glad it’s been put out there. I had a vibrator at the age of 15 (not one you stick in)and guess what I did not have sex with a man until I was 21 years of age and six years later he is still the only person I have had sex with. So I don’t know why ppl are sayig this is going to make matters worse and I’m not saying it’s going to fix the problem of teens having sex either. There is nothing wrong with making your body feel good just because it happens to be in a taboo area. Would it be wrong to let your teen daughter get a massage at a spa? Also why are people associating this issue with gay marriage? Neither has anything to do with the other and yes I think gay marriage should be legal. I looked at one womans post who was very much against the vibrator issue and talking about how society is corrupting children and that she was raised old fashioned yet she is 25 years old with a ten year old daughter. A lot of good your old fashion upbringing did you.

Americans and especially so-called conservative black folks are so hypocritical and disengenuous when it comes to sex in America.We watch T.V. whereby “Sex” is always the center theme. We let our teenagers listen to Rap music which alway’s have a plot of making money,drinking alcohol,and finding a bi### or a H## to have sex with.But when strong, intelligent black women like Ophrah and Joycelyn Elders (Former Surgeon General) bravely come forward to remind us that teenage girls and boys need a way to prevent unwanted pregnancies and catching HPV,Aids,Herpes, and other diseases, we all scream Bloody Murder!! And I alway’s love the hypocritical question:”What about Self Control?” Studies and research have shown that the human attempt of self control and self deprivation eventually gets weaker as time goes on. (Ask anybody on a diet who loves chocalate or doughnuts or a smoker trying to quit cold turkey). Teenagers want sex because it’s a flaunted taboo that’s flashed around visually everyday but stressed by conservatives that it’s something you should wait for..which leads to curiosity.Give a young lady a vibrator and let her explore herself and realize that she can give herself pleasure will ultimately giver her the realization that “Waiting until the right time” can be a reality and not rushed on the basis of curiosity. Also as Black women complain all the time that there are no good black men, giving a young lady a vibrator would actually make these young brothers realize that if they are going to step to a young sister, then they need to treat her like a lady, show respect, and prove that they have what it takes to be a decent brother because “Hunting young sisters down for sex to feed their curiosity would be. “No More” because the vibrator would take the place of casual sex.You would see brothers come correct to any sister they meet on the street.Like Ophrah said in the clip,”these young girls already have the information and many are already having oral sex..we just need parents who are willing to be informed,intelligent and open about today’s realities as it pertains to our young teenagers who are catching AIDS and STD’s and unwanted pregnancies for the sake of curiousity.”Wake Up, brothers and sista’s!!!

To all the parents who are in denail, kids in primary, middle and high school are having sex daily. If you think they do not know about vibrators already you need to wake-up. You may be surprise how many young girls are getting abortions and their parents never know about it. Once a young girl is pregnant she is considered amancipated as far as the medical field is concern. The parents lose all rights to what she can do with her preganancy. Just think had she use something else other than the p***s she would not be in that situation. So parents before you start saying what your daughters will not do, you should educate yourself to what is actually going on in the schools and home. Oral sex is the number one form of sex for over 75% of young girls and anal sex as well. Their thinking is at least I will not get pregnant…………….

just another tool to use when they can’t get the real thing…what about teaching young people to repect their bodies and their minds…that’s like making weed legal..

respect….

truth is we needa deal wit da fact dat sex is goin to b a subject fo teens in a much yunger age den it was fo most of us or our parents.. if we make dis a taboo n close our eyes ears n mouth about it den we leave our children alone wit da subject.. knowledge is power.. educate ur children about sex.. dont make it a taboo.. help em to make da rite decisions.. if necessary supply dem wit condoms, the pill or a vibrator/blow up doll.. take em to da doctor to get checcd on stds as u wud take em to da dentist to get der teeth checcd.. its gon help em to feel mo secure about derselves n der intimacy.. n it will help dem to make smarter n mo grown up decisions n protect dem from eventually gettin abused, gettin STDs or an unwanted pregnancy.. cuz one thing is fo sure jus cuz we hush about it or close our eyes or even forbit it.. dey gon do it anyway.. we educate our kids in errythn.. but not in one of da most important things in human nature.. sex..

What ever happened to raising a God fearing child?!! My parents raised me up in church and they never had to explain sex in graphic details to me. My father sat me and my sisters down and explained the males perspective and how a female can ruin her reputation by sleeping around. He also explained the consequences (pregnancy). Parents are childrens greatest role models. Yes when they hit their teens, they tend to listen to their friends but they analyze it against what they parents taught them also. By you exposing young teen girls to explore their sexuality will only make the situation worse. Teach the importance of abstinence and self control!!! I pray for the generation to follow me…

Honesty it doesnt even matter with teens these days there gonna find out about sex and vibrators whether or not you talk to them about it or not. young teens are exploring their sexuality at age 11 and 12, also there are girls getting pregnant around that age. But honestly i think its the parents who are not properly taking a look at their childrens motives and should teach them to make the right decions.

It’s Oprah the wicked witch,leading the way to sexing up the children!

I am 18 years old. Sex is constantly in my face. My mother has taught me well. She has taught me about STD’s, STI’s, Pregnancy, the option of abstinence, the importance of condoms (both male and female), birth control pills and other helpful tid bits on the subject. I feel blessed. Many of my friends that I graduated high school with in 2008 weren’t as lucky to have a parent that thoroughly discussed sex with them. I’ve had friends who didn’t know about all the consequences of not using a condom. I have friends who have STDs because they were not properly informed. Parents are always so protective of their children, yet when it comes to one of the most important forms of protection they are nowhere to be found. If a vibrator would prevent your daughter from getting hurt would you still not buy one for her? That’s my question.

oh hell no. My teenager is 13 years old. What is she talking about. Hell, I will buy one for me. LOL. Oprah is telling us why she is gaining weight again. Good sex makes you eat. LMAO.

I feel as a mom of three girls. I would never buy my kids one.Now I will talk to they about sex But them toys at the age of 14 or 15 I feel thats too young. I know there are some kids that age have sex but for those thats not that would put the thought in there head.

I really feel like teenage girls are not having sex because of pleasure…they’re having it to get male attention, so there is no need to go out and buy your child a vibrator..that’s just ridiculous. I still love Oprah!!!

i wonder if gale bought oprahs fat ass one or maybe two.and used it on her,i wish they would post that s**t,id love to see it.

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