i must agree it’s time to cut a few people short.

Actually if you ELIMINATE the #2 friend you are basically ALONE or constantly around other fake people.

#2 friend is actually the friend everyone needs in their life. that friend will always keep you on your toes. Withouth the #2 friend whats really the purpose of having friends really? I mean who wants someone thats going to say to them “Yo its gone be alright, its all good.blah blah blah” basically telling you what you wanna hear and LYING TO YOu all the time….

Seriously who the F**K WROTE this article…A WOMAN? Probably a woman, because the list of friends ESPECIALLY #2 is a contridiction to the TYPE OF FRIEND women claim they dont want…

I agree with the others except #2….everyone should seek out and LOOK FOR the #2 friend and HOLD ONTO THAT FRIEND!!!!

Boy does this article hit home. I know too well about toxic friendships. I have a girl that i have known for 20 years and i tried to hold on to the friendship off and on knowing that it was “extremely” toxic. We were cool as long as ALL my time went to her, but as soon as she felt like a man ‘CAME BETWEEN US” She would straight snap and start telling me how i was not there for her and chose a man over her.yet as i recall she did the exact thing she accused me of over and over again. The only difference is i never expected or asked her to choose between me and one of her many men. We have not been close now for about 5 years but because we have been”friends” since 89 i set out again just last night actually to try once again at this so called friendship. she message me back thru myspace and i could feel the icey distance thru her words, so i prayed this morning and when i got on bp this article is what i found. i GUESS MY PRAYERS WERE ANSWERED!!!

ONE DEEP FOR LIFE

LoL i love the #2 friend. SOmetimes he truth can hurt. Just make sure with that friend that they can handle it when its dished back. Get rid of the rest Keep #2. Thats gonna be the one to let know know things when no one else will.

This article totally hit home. I had a friend that I had known since high school so it has been 12 years total. She always had an issue, in a sense it was like I was not allowed to shine when I was around her, because she always wanted the attention, and when she didn’t get it, she would act like an ass. She had a boyfriend throughout our friendship that I couldn’t stand because he was a jerk, but whenever he called she went running to him. He did everything from cheating on her and getting that girl pregnant on her bday, to kicking her out his house during a storm so another girl could come to his house, who does she end up calling me. I have been there for her through everything, and she makes it seems that it is not enough. Mind you she always the one that puts her man b4 me, and then he treats her wrong and she wants to come running back to our friendship. I have to work long hours on my job 12-16 hour days, so I can’t just hang out every nite and party, she doesn’t have to work, but she thinks that i am supposed to jump and drop everything for her. It is clearly a toxic relationship. It is so draining, because if it is not one thing than something else always comes up. It’s annoying and frustrating. I have a man also and she gets upset if i spend time with him or go to work. It is just I think time to end it, because she is just taking to much from me, and complaining that I am not giving her enough time. I’m tired and just want to breathe and have peace.

YEAH UNFORTUNATELY I’M USED TO THE NUMBER ONE

Me & my boy have been best of friends for 27 years.

not alot I haven’t been thru w/ a freind… but loyalty and truth surpasses it all!

Friendship is good when you keep it real and straight forward. Friends come and go, but a true friend will be there with and for you through thick and then.
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only females have relationships with friends like this me and my boy been cool since we was 4, he is my daughters godfather, i was the best man in his wedding. thats just my man. i will admit we have argued before even came to blows before but our relationship was never affected. but thats just us

im a #2 friend to everyone i always make sarcastic but truthful jokes to people its just the sagittarius in me we’re blunt

Well, i am none of them, but i have stop talking to my godsister that i have been friends with all my life. i have gotten tried of the same drama and issues all the time. Its time for a new change in my life and get new friends…….

I HAD a friend like #4. That chick tells everything. We have parted after 20 plus years of friendship. They should have put on the list jealous friend. A friend who doesn’t want to work to get it but doesn’t want you to have it either, even though you work hard for yours.

O they forgot to mention, the “friend” who never calls to just check up on you.

Unfortunately, I have experienced all four types of toxic friends – from childhood friends to work buddies who had ulterior motives for dealing with me. It’s difficult to make friends and maintain friendships as an adult. Even people I thought were buddies on BP resulted in backstabbing and fakeness.

Eventually I had to practically end all of my friendships. It was hard to cut off my best friend from middle school, but ever since I do what is best for me with no regrets; other than, I wonder why are people so trifling? And, why do people continue to mistake kindness for weakness? I guess “good girls” do finish last smh

~ WELL…i really don’t know why ..females are jealous..i use to be friends with a dumb little w-h-o-r-e for many years for nothing..she used me from the start..but her life is no-where..lost in being a snnake and jealously..so sad..the evil will never knock me down or out..oh well ..it’s all about how your parents raised you ..and who you are inside..i guess all don;t have the strength and ability to be real and care for others…it’s easier to be miserable with no eduacation..manners..morals and respect…i have no time for ppl like that…i’,m living my life..and it took me awhile..alot of energy ..love and power to get here..ha..haters get a life and stay away from me..and yes it’s hard to have a friend now-these-days.~

It’s hard letting them go but it’s even harder not to, not into keeping around bad friends otherwise why even embarrass yourself calling them a friend in the first place!

You know that it is time to end a friendship when that friend starts to let others influence her decisions. I had a friend that decided tolisten to other people pertaining to me. One day, I posted on a social networking site that I am my #1 best friend and that I only trust GOD and myself. There was alot of back and forth going on. Soeone kept calling me asking if she and I kissed and made up yet. Kissed and made up on what, I did not know she had an issue with my post, she never said anything to me. I spoke with her and she stated that she did not have any issues. Explain to me why we don’t communicate anymore if I haen’t done anything.

Hey WindChimes,
Good girls don’t finish last. But you gotta have that fight in you. And the predators always mistake kindness for stupidity also. You learn to weed out the predators.

I had to let someone go that had all of the qualities, thank god it feels so good not to have to work to be friends with her anymore.

Well I think we all have in our lifetime come across people who start out as friends then it sours. And its sad when two people that were one go there ways because one might think oh so and so is to timid so let me run the friendship which turns into a train wreck and one or the two gets hurt. For me a 20 year friendship went down the drain I guess because I just didnt stand up and speak on somethings which just pulled us apart and shatterd any futhor of two friends getting together agin. And that was a friend I would die for just like my sister and now its gone. Only GOD can bridge us back and right the wrongs. Anywho this is a subject that can make you either laugh or cry………….Can I get a 5Th of Gray Goose please!!!!!!

Well I had three so-called friends that I just stopped dealing with because it was all about them and what or who they wanted to be about. Friendship is two sided and until some women get it through their dumb azz head they will not be my friend for much longer. But I always make room for more to take their place.