There’s good men and bad men in every race. I’m tired of this being forced on Black people that dating or marrying a White person equals success in this country. It’s more divide and conquer tatics by the media. Blacks aren’t the gatekeepers of what we see or hear in the media. So we as Black people keep seing images that White is right and Black is wrong. At the end of the day, interracial marriage numbers stay constant in the low single percentages. So I’m not worried at all. I just wanted unbiased and non propaganda images from the media that’s all.

@WESTSIDE
you will NEVER get that from the media!
HELLOUGLY is now just the ” bp version” of mediatakeout. pathetic!

I don’t understand why dating someone who looks different than you is such a big deal. I’ve never cared for social construction.

i would not be surprised! and watch whiny black men scream like a stuck pig if she does! i find it funny how dark skinned black men trip over their shoe laces to get at a so called hi yeller or a light skinned black woman. but when a dark skinned black woman with a smoking body and a beautiful face they would settle for a woman of lighter shade with an ass that looks like a pillow case filled with door knobs! n****rs crack me up with their inconsistencies

I’ve dated white men before and never really had any issues with society other than the typical idiots that would try to cause a problem no matter what.

I personally dont like seeing it but to each their own….

I really dont care…..thats THEIR choice!

based off what i’m seeing these days… there could be a possibility Mr. Right will be white. I think Halle and her man are beautiful. She IS half white.. sooo

lets celebrate the house niggah in all of us while we’re at,david bowie was known to be bisexual so im trying to figure out what iman was getting at(she could ask mick jagger)he knows about david.for the rest of them(except deniro)hes got a thing for sistas.they seem to like cream in their coffee,but if being a homo is a sin in the eyes of you brain dead christain niggahs so should dating and marrying a cracker.black folks are the only people on earth who dont believe in furthering their race,i’ll give it 150 to 200 more yrs and we wont exist.cause you niggahs want to be like ur masters.

I’m so happy to see Mr. Big is with a sista!! While I personally hope and would prefer to marry a black man, I know that good, educated, straight, attractive, physically fit, never been to jail, ready to marry, black men are difficult to find. And I commend anyone who falls in love and marries, regardless of racial makeup. The concern for myself is marrying a non-black man whose parents or extended family doesn’t accept me or the children we may have. That is my major problem with me dating someone outside of my race and culture.

I know so many black women who won’t date outside of their race, but are choosing the wrong black men. Why not change that to being open to dating someone who treats you right, regardless of race ? The same thing goes for black men who only deal with black women who don’t treat them right.

absolutely. mr. right could be white. opening your options to different races gives you a beter chance of finding a man who loves and actually respects you.

“kennyd4
9-15-2009 8:42 pm
they seem to like cream in their coffee,but if being a homo is a sin in the eyes of you brain dead christain niggahs so should dating and marrying a cracker.black folks are the only people on earth who dont believe in furthering their race,i’ll give it 150 to 200 more yrs and we wont exist.cause you niggahs want to be like ur masters.”
I’ll have to agree with kennyd4 on this! Hope my daughters never “cross the stream” Being friends is one thing…dating & marrying them is another & THAT IS A PROBLEM WAITING TO HAPPEN! Only other thing is that a lot of “sistahs” want these “thugs” or whatever the case may be then get mistreated & “cross the stream” these “token” thinkin the “otha man” is gonna be better for them than their own race….There are still SOME good black men out there…but there are too many gold diggers that feel “a black man” doesn’t have the money to keep them happy….BEST TO STICK WITH YOUR OWN!!!

“kennyd4
9-15-2009 8:42 pm
they seem to like cream in their coffee,but if being a homo is a sin in the eyes of you brain dead christain niggahs so should dating and marrying a cracker.black folks are the only people on earth who dont believe in furthering their race,i’ll give it 150 to 200 more yrs and we wont exist.cause you niggahs want to be like ur masters.”
I’ll have to agree with kennyd4 on this! Hope my daughters never “cross the stream” Being friends is one thing…dating & marrying them is another & THAT IS A PROBLEM WAITING TO HAPPEN! Only other thing is that a lot of “sistahs” want these “thugs” or whatever the case may be then get mistreated & “cross the stream” these “token” thinkin the “otha man” is gonna be better for them than their own race….There are still SOME good black men out there…but there are too many gold diggers that feel “a black man” doesn’t have the money to keep them happy….BEST TO STICK WITH YOUR OWN(or close to it(black to hispanic)!!!

“kennyd4
9-15-2009 8:42 pm
they seem to like cream in their coffee,but if being a homo is a sin in the eyes of you brain dead christain niggahs so should dating and marrying a cracker.black folks are the only people on earth who dont believe in furthering their race,i’ll give it 150 to 200 more yrs and we wont exist.cause you niggahs want to be like ur masters.”
I’ll have to agree with kennyd4 on this! Hope my daughters never “cross the stream” Being friends is one thing…dating & marrying them is another & THAT IS A PROBLEM WAITING TO HAPPEN! Only other thing is that a lot of “sistahs” want these “thugs” or whatever the case may be then get mistreated & “cross the stream” these “token” thinkin the “otha man” is gonna be better for them than their own race….There are still SOME good black men out there…but there are too many gold diggers that feel “a black man” doesn’t have the money to keep them happy….BEST TO STICK WITH YOUR OWN(or close to it(black to hispanic)!!!

On some real if you ask me it’s way more f**ked up white dudes then black. It’s just more of us in prison because they get let off when they do their bulls**t. I’m a young black male that has never been to prison, doesn’t call black women b***hes and hoes, and treat black women with respect that treat THEMSELVES with respect. This topic really rubs me the wrong way because I’m tired of this niggas ain’t s**t mentality black women have nowdays, when in actuality it’s just as many of them if not more that ain’t s**t nowdays. So if we gotta talk about the wrong doings by black males let’s flip it for a second. I’ve ran into so many black females that “want a real man” but when they get on they don’t know how to accept and embrace him. The bottom line is I’m not your ex that always cheated on you, beat you, or lowered your self esteem. So basically what I’m trying to say is maybe yall are looking for a good black man in the wrong places or maybe yall are too damn picky and won’t compromise none. Here’s a start though, try finding a good black man at a college, instead of in the club or the hood.

I absolutely love interracial couples!!! I don’t give a damn what the mix may be. If that person treats you right, and happens to be white, then go for it. Love is color blind. Why would you subject your happiness for someone who has a shallow point of view? The way I see it is that when single, no one says anything but when you’re dating someone (within your race or out your race) everyone has something to say. Never stop doing what makes you happy regardless of what anyone has to say.

Why is this such a big deal? People are people, if the guy, be he white, black, puerto rican, asian or whatever, as long as he treats the woman well, who gives a sh!t what is color is? There are aholes in any group, so if a woman makes a decision to open her mind and date or marry someone non-black, more power to her.

I know several black women happily married to white men. Sure, there are indeed some white guys who have a chocolate fantasy fetish but those are easy to weed out. If the guy is genuinely interested in your life and treats you with respect it should not matter what other people think. You live your own life. It cracks me up when I see a beautiful black woman with a white man and some looks they get from black men are ridiculous. If she was a donation, they would just laugh and keep on keepin on. Sistahs are waking up to the fact that love comes in all shades and I say it is indeed a good thing.

Here we go again,you all must have been watching that “Something New” movie.I’m not gonna say if you find someone who makes you happy…and they’re of another race not to go for it. I’d be totally wrong for saying it.Heck I’ve slept with white girl’s before.Life is to short to worry about pleasing everybody else all the time.Then again their are good Black men out there.Don’t give up just because you’ve had one or two bad experiences with a Black man.Their was a comment made by Brandip77,it’s hard to find a Black man whose physically fit and who hasn’t been to jail.You’ve got to realize this also…we live in a society where the Black man is basically,a total OUTCAST.What I mean by that is that other than the fact we are Black.We’ve got so many thing’s against us.As far as going to jail,don’t forget all the wonderful CROOKED A$$,cop’s running rampant in our society!Their’s a lot of Black men in jail that shouldn’t even be in there or have ever gone(FRAMED).So Brandip77,it isn’t even alway’s our fault.As a Black man I’m not gonna sit here and say it doesn’t bother me a little.To see a fine A$$ Dark Chocolate,honey with a White dude.It should do the same to all Black men.That’s part of the problem also…If we took more time to look at our women,and RESPECT them instead of the opposite.Just imagine where Black love could be!!!…On the same note a lot of Black women put Black men down just as bad as society does.Knowing full and well how thing’s are for us.

After just reading the headline, it slightly bothered me a little because I was already aware of the situation and where it was going. So I just had to a little thing to say about the matter. Honestly and truly it doesn’t matter of the color, I am dark-skinned male and I’ve been with somebody as dark as me or somebody way far out my race and it doesn’t matter about there color, but the person. I love my black females, but at the same time they hold onto things from what they been through or listen to there friends, before the insure a fair chance your way. I have a couple of white friends and they are hella crazy, but just because they are supposedly white, they get a waiver and there actions are seemed to be overlooked. I am a man that has a career, highly intelligent, never been to jail, and treat females with the most respect, but most black females don’t want that because they run scared waiting for something to screw up, it shouldn’t matter what I am, as long as the person makes you happy, that’s is who you shall be with.

@thebanks06-You said you are intelligent but you spelled “ensure” as “insure” and used “there” instead of “their”. Not all black women can be categorized in the way you put it. Females of all races carry baggage and so do men! I never understood where people get this thing about listening to your friends. If your friends say something about your relationship you should probabably listen (though no one ever does) because they are looking out for you and are going to be objective. If you have the kind of friends that would tell you lies about your relationship just because they are hateful people, then they were not friends to begin with. I don’t know too many people like that though. Sounds like you’re the one who is holding onto the past and carrying over bad experiences into new relationships sir…

i dont think it matters…love is love, comes in all colors. there are bad and good in every race. and people should stop stereotyping because its ridiculous.

I know a lot of Black women put me down just like the White guys did, but if they’re in Love. it’s O.K. with me. White men had been doing it since the beginning of time and had a lot of mixed babies during slavery especially(a Black man get caught messing around with a White woman gets lynched), yet not getting the finger pointed as much as a Black man-White woman..can you say BIASED?????? I know you could….

[...] Could Mr. Right be white? [...]

Black women got themselves to blame.
Typical example…we get talking in a club

‘What you do? ‘
‘I’m a baby mama – i’m a biaatch! You? ‘
I try not so say this cos I know her reaction…but I have to
‘I am an engineer’
‘What!’
‘Yeah, got a PhD’
Immediately she turns off…scuttles to her other friends and they point fingers at me like I’m from mars…hehehehe…
Most times, they good for laying. I tell them I’m a music producer and they believe me…easiest way to get laid
I tell a white girl I’m an engineer and I got a PhD…she sees a good future with a responsible black male who will respect her. Our sistahs don’t see that.
i think they got their priorities warped. Their models are the guys with huge tatoos, rocking the mike, partying and doing drugs….

gabriel aubry could be green and i would take him….

I must admit… I used to really really get uptight about seeing a mixed couple BUT, I am ok with it now…. I woke up. These white woman ARE doing me a favor. They take that man off of my hands and OMG!..Thank you!….That man was not for me and a lot of the time…he really ISN’T for him either but she is just too desperate to know it….

OMG! This is addressing “TAIPANXX” post below..THAT”S STRAIGHT BULLSHI**!!!!! A black woman who respects herself FIRST…knows a RESPECTFUL man (black)..when she comes in contact with him…as well she knows what RESPECT is… and what it looks like. A good black woman also knows just THAT well when men like you are lurking about and trying to SMELL on her, and TRUST me, she is not upset at all when another (white) woman takes you off of her hands. Ha! You ARE funny though…Some men ARE really TRULY stuck on themselves and real realllll FULL too.
Now I think I will go ahead and read the article and the post. Good grief!

Ok now ..after reading this article.. No! I still want a black man. All a white man can do for me is look at me.

People should be with who they want to be with. I perfer “Chocolate Treats.” I still am reminded of price we as Black women have paid and are paying in society, by our people and others. I have tried, but I can’t even think about being with a white man. It just ain’t in me.

I love it! All races of men are beautiful and I wish I could have one in every color…it could be like Baskin Robbins 31 flavors in my house. I love Black men…my Daddy is (was) Black (rest in peace Daddy, Love you) but he didn’t care about the race of man I will eventually marry, as long as that man treats me right…so I don’t care! Yes, Black is beautiful, but when we get to that judgement day when God starts calling folks up to be accounted for what they did in this life, He will not care what race of man or woman you married or what race you are…it’s how you treat people and what good you do on this earth that counts!

Justin chambers aint that bad! Get it Keisha! Great looking couple, shes pretty too and hes cute too so their 5 babies must be heavenly.

@BUTTERFLY: I know how you feel trust me, I feel the same way. It just isn’t in me. They call it ‘limiting my options’ I call it, “Only a black man for me” syndrome. LOL I love all men though, but i want to lay next to a black man for the rest of my life in HOly Matrimony. And the darker he is, the happier I will be. Then again, I guess I have to live under what God’s will is and it just might be a white man. I guess change is good. YIKES

i wuz talkin 2 a fairly attractive sister, just a date and we were discussing mix relationships. she admitted she found white men attractive but could not take the fact that i think white women are beautiful, just like sisters, latins, asians.. SHE WUZ PISSED.. i found that EXTREMELY unattractive.. we were talkin about music black awareness, humanity awareness and she went there… im pass that.. im all 4 it sisters.. heaven iz 4 ALL.. be with whomever makes u happy.

NO ONE CAN LOVE ME LIKE A BEAUTIFUL BLACK MAN, I COULD SAY WHAT I WANT AND HE UNDERSTANDS ME, WHEN I CRY HE UNDERSTANDS MY TEARS, I DONT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT BEING NO ONE ELSE AROUND HIS FRIENDS AND BEING STARED AT AND FOR DAMN SURE IF WE GET JUMPED IN A DARK ALLEY AT NIGHT OOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHH HELL YEAH I KNOW WHO GOT MY BACK. CHEERS TO THE REAL AT HEART, GOD PUT A WHOLE LOT OF SUGAR AND SPICE AND EVERYTHING NICE WHEN HE MADE BROTHERS MUUAAHHH..NEXT

THA FUNNY PART ABOUT THIS TOPIC IS THAT ITS STUPID LOL IF SHE WANTS TO LAY UP WITH A WHITE DUDE FINE, IF HE WANTS TO LAY UP WIT A WHITE GURL FINE!!! AINT NO PROBLEMS WIT IT BUT THA ONES PEOPLE MAKE WHEN THEY DONT LIKE IT. THERE WAS A FEW THINGS MZSUPA THICK SAID THAT MADE ME WONDER LIKE SAYIN THAT A BLACK DUDE CAN FEEL HER UNDASTAND HER AN PROTECT HER AN A WHITE DUDE CANT? IF U NEVER BEEN THERE HOW DO U KNOW? LOL BUT ON THA OTHER HAND U GOTTA KNOW WHO U DEALIN WIT TOO, U MITE CATCH THAT ONE DUDE THAT BENDS ONE ON YA AN LEAVES YA IN THAT DARK ALLEY LOL BUT TO CLOSE THIS OUT ITS ALL ON WHO U GET WIT THAT BEST MATCHES U DAMN EVERYBODY ELSE…. THANK U AN GOOD NITE LOL

I think it all depends on the man and the woman involved. I have dated both black and white men and there are some things that I liked more in one man than I did in the other. In a nutshell, I think that people shouldn’t be so close-minded, you could miss your blessing just because he’s a different color.

Seriously though its almost IMPOSSIBLE to find a black man over the age of 25 that:

1. Doesn’t drink or smoke.
2.Doesn’t have children.
3.Doesn’t have a record.
4.Isn’t secretly gay.
5.A decent earner.

And seriously is that too much to ask? Those are like the bare minimums! Not factoring in appearance ,intelligence and compatibility. I’d gladly GLADLY just deal with any other things that weren’t ideal about him if those 5 were in place. But, where are they? Its too tiring…it really is.

http://www.theblacklabelsociety.com

I say to each their own-im not dating no man if he is not black and thats my choice. Its a choice of who you want to be inlove with not a reason. Its still good black men out there in this world-just like its still good black women. Who will love a black man for just being that a black man.(JUST MY OPINION)

black women should stick with black men that is what God intended.

I agree with Trisha. I love all my men. But I need my black men. It just drives me wild.

have dated white men in the past but i prefer a brotha and i married one but once u go white u end up going back to black that just my taste chocolate all Day lol!!!!

I DON’T KNOW ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE BUT I THINK I WOULD BE SCARED IF I HAD TO WAKE UP NEXT TO A WHITE GUY IN THE MORNING.

Yes, Mr. Right-for-me will be Caucasian. If not, maybe Asian or Latino. We like what we like and it is what it is. Sue me :)

To all my good looking black and Latino chocolate men, I am a very well educated woman. However, I can honestly say with confidences, I am not attracted to ‘white men’. In my personal opinion, society overdose on the whole ‘white’, ‘white’, and ‘white’. O.k. ‘white’. Well guess what white is not right for me! No offense to any ‘white person’, but it seems like everything a ‘white persons’ touches they destroy. For example the United States, black culture, Africa, Native Americans, even the Middle Eastern. There is nothing interesting about a white person (period)! Possibly I am being biased, because I was born and raised around ‘white people’, but I never in my mind thought they were ‘better then black people’. First off, they bore me! Secondly, they have that attitude that just gets on your nervous. Thirdly, a black man is strong and has a lot to be proud of, because he comes from a legacy of victory. Overall, I am just down down for the boogie brown. No offense to ‘white people’, but your race is played-out and boring! I rather stay with my variety chocolate!

Based on news updates I guess you can take Halle, Garcelle, and Grace Hightower off the list.