Where is the line between “keepin it real” and being hurtful? When does a person stop being honest and start being hurtful? I think most of us can agree that fakeness isn’t exactly uncommon in today’s world. It is for this reason that being honest, even if not everyone will react positively, is a virtue. But most of us are also familiar with a phenomenon I’ll call “keepin it too real”. If you or someone you know can relate to most of the following list, it may be a case of keepin it too real:
1. Do your family and/or friends frequently ask you, “Why would you say that?” Obviously, there are people who are unable to take any kind of criticism. But if your opinions constantly cause others to react in surprise and anger, you might want to consider what you are being so honest about.
2. Do you ever ask yourself why you’re telling someone information? I think most of us can agree that informing a friend that her man is being unfaithful or that a dress she’s trying on does nothing for her are examples of (usually) constructive honesty. But what about telling someone that her man kind of reminds you of Steve Urkle? Is that just being “real”?
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3. Do you have a “That’s just how I am, deal with it” attitude regarding your personality? If so, one question you might ask yourself is if you believe every part of a person’s personality is perfect. What about the idea that part of life is about learning about yourself and improving who you are? If you realize that your brutal honesty is alienating you from others, maybe that could be an area of yourself to evaluate.
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What do you think, hello beautiful?? When does keepin it real go wrong?
