what! they got one right? wow….

Well HOTDAMN! This is phenomenal! HB put out an article that makes absolute sense!

Yes women are SUPPOSED to be the submissive in the relationship…

Hmm, an article with a little substance, Hmm.

Being submissive is a great thing that I have learned during the course of my relationship. I submit to him when the time and situation dictates and vice versa. It makes things easier to deal with. I don’t always have to handle everything and he doesn’t either. We have found a comfortable balance where we can both feel in charge but with total respect of each others views. This compromise didn’t come over night, it has been work and lots of it at times (when we were both being stubborn) but all worth it. Submission is a wonderful thing if done right.

I wish more women would get back to it. I mean no one wants a damn slave, but this constant striving for power and domination has no place in a relationship, but many women can simply not turn that off, and won’t practice just a little bit of humility. It drives a dude like me away, because I don’t do hyper-tension, that’s for the other black men, not this one! lol Compromise, although preached, many don’t practice, and if we can get many to just get over their daddy-issues/mistrust of men, we could get a peaceful understanding that it’s ok to submit to the proper man. If to you, all men are the same, and are the devil, well… we just avoid you since there will never be a conflict-free day.

i bet i know the direction that these comments will go….

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[...] Is it ever okay to submit to your partner? [...]

[...] Is it ever okay to submit to your partner? [...]

sylkiiifeather, Wait for it…Wait for iiittttt! lol

Submitting is good, and men should do the same for their ladies, but I draw the line on blindfolds, being tied up and handcuffs; end up losing you watch, wallet and getting gagged with a ball in your mouth….
never happened to me, but don’t want it to happen at all……

It’s never okay to submit to violence or other forms of abuse, so when we are talking about submission, we are talking about it in a normal, healthy relationship.

When I am with a man, I love to submit myself to him, as long as he is the type of man worth submitting to. That means that he has to be wise, dependable, smart and has our relationship’s interest at heart. The same can be said for men; just because a man submits to his wife doesn’t make him less of a man. If she has a better way of doing something or a better idea, why not implement it?

I also believe that a couple should show a united front, especially around their kids; I don’t believe that a spouse should argue against a decision that the other has made or any disciplinary action–especially in front of the child. If I don’t agree, I would pull him to the side later on and talk to him about it, hoping that he would change his mind or at least use my advice in the future. That’s what real respect is.

jazzwatch…blindfolds and handcuffs can be fun!

Azrael, not to me…..I rather go for the massage, the lap dance and walking like Fred Sanford and then…….draw your own conclusions……

And Azrael. HOTTIE, no whips and chains..too abusive…..that usuall follows after the blindfols and handcuff…..SMH….

Jazzwatch, Whats wrong with whips and chains….HA! IM JUST KIDDING!!! lol

A wife should submit to her husband and a husband should love the wife like Christ loved the Church. Which means that there are reciprocal roles that occur. If a man cannot handle his family, financial affairs, etc. it will be difficult to submit because there will be a lack of trust and security. But just submitting to a boyfriend, I would say wait til you get a ring. In the meantime, just treat him with respect and defer to his judgment when dealing with issues that he has more knowledge and education in. However, he should be doing the same and that is what allows for mutual respect and understanding. Treat others the way you want to be treated and pick a man who you respect and who has respect for you and it should never be a challenge in submitting-you would be eager to submit. But only if he knows what he is doing and how to treat you.

Uh oh. lol!!! HB wanna put out an article with some depth.

when people say submission, the first thing our mind goes to is being passive, not standing up for ones self, and being dominated by someone else. As the author stated, its just putting your trust in another person. Honestly, it all about respect. We have become so individualistic as a society that when someone else tries to make a decision for us, of course we rebel against that, because WE want to decide whats right for us. Not that it is wrong to do that, but when it comes right down to it, we have to trust others. But also with that comes the fact that being with the RIGHT person for you makes that a whole lot easier. Of course we are going to fuss, argue, and fight with a man who is not handling business. The Bible states that your husband should love you like Christ loved the church. So on the other hand, your spouse needs to hold up his end of that as well. Everyone loves to state that women should sumbit, but tend to forget that the husband should have unconditional love towards his wife. the type of love that Solomon talks about. The typeof love described in I Corinthians.
I feel like once I find the man that God wants me to be with and marry, it wouldn’t be such a big deal to let him “wear the pants” every once in a while. I in no way believe that anything degrading is equivalent to submission. If your man is beating you and saying that you should be submissive, you need to RUN and get the hell outta there.That’s not submission. That’s stupidity. Submission is a mutual respect between spouses. I think that some decisions should be made together, as one, as a team. BUT you should have enough trust in that person that they know you well enough to make a decision for you if you weren’t able to make that decision yourself

*applauding HB*

lol @ y’all talkin’ about BDSM. jazzwatch, don’t knock it till you try it ;-)

Califemme23, THEY HURRRRRT!!!!! I just want the thonged booty on my Smith and Wesson…..
Kris 87, HOTTIE, see my comment above(I’vre got SOFT skin,especially on my Boo Boo), and it you got some OITMENT (Edith Bunker said “Urtment), I’ll stick to the massages and you-I mean the booty on my Vlassic Pickle……

I didn’y know Califemme23 was a F-R-E-A-K….
Not into that, but I must say like Flav; WOWWWWWWWWW……

Azrael23 is quiet….are you blushing, HOTTIE???????

Good Day People! It depends on the people involved. Understand there will be good and bad as with any situation. I can’t say what I won’t do, but I might. The universe is so complex, but yet so simple.

JazzWatch…sorry, I’ve been busy (posting my thoughts on other boards). Anywho….Light BDSM can be fun…Personally, I love it when my guy is behind me gently biting my back. But anywho….

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[...] Is it ever okay to submit to your partner? [...]

Jazzwatch, i’m with Azrael.

LIGHT BDSM is the key. you don’t have to get your azz whipped if you don’t want to…lol. Azrael, i’m not too fond of biting, but i LOVE getting spankings and being choked!

I don’t like hurting ANY ladies…..but
Azrael3 I’ll bite your booty lightly or spank it , bad girl ;)….
kris_87, your F-E-A-K-Y H-O-T-T-I-E ;),I will NEVER choke a hottie like you (or any other ladies Rianna might snitch on me), but as far as your or Azrael3′s booties, I’ll flip it. spank it, and rub it down and use the Smith & Wesson, then I’ll be SASSIFIED…you too ;).
Anytime, Kris. just bring your thong and let’s get it on1 :)
Azreal3, you too, H-O-T-T-I-E……

To Kris_87 and Azrael3,. I kinda dreamed of a woman going down the Smith and Wesson,(couldn’t find a lady who can do it GREAT for a long time) then I ‘ll reall be SASSIFIED- WOWWWWWWWW……..

Jazz, going down for 20 minutes and doing it really well is all I will do…frankly, fellatio is great…I love getting at the sack, underneath the sack and sucking on the inner thighs as well as paying attention to the rod, but if I’m doing the rod for more than 20 minutes, I get lock-jaw. ;)

I’m down with that; I’m standing in attention now, you H-O-T-T-I-E F-R-E-A-K ;) ( we should hook up). after 20 minuates, I want to deep penetrate that phat back door (yours is probably Deelishis) and you Won’t get lock jaw ;)
Like that song said; give it to me baby-UHUHUHUHHHH…….

Kris_87, anytime, you want it, and I WILL stand still ;)

Kris_87 is kinda quiet……

Azreal, we should hook up……

Azrael3. I’ll bring the hot dog and you bring the buns ;)…….

Azreal3 and Kris_87 is quiet…what’s up HOTTIES???????? Are you blushing??????? If so, poor babies…

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Im not submitting to no one man or women forget all that in this world no one doesn’t really give a dam about you like that.

See now, I saw submit and my mind went somewhere completely different. More to the side of handcuffs, whips, chain,ball gag, wartenberg wheel, and so much more. A crotchless leather suit my whip in hand, once across the back and say lick this pu$$y b***h, hell yeah. Of course he is naked and I’m holding the leash attatched to a pick collar around his neck. lmao. I don’t think this was what they had in mind when they wrote this article. Dirty mind

@jazzwatch-Thong on a Vlasic Pickle. LOLOLOL!! I just wonder what you would do with stand-up comedy.

Well. momono3, Knew you liked that ; you got GOOD TASTE ;)…..I could follow Dave Chapelle, if they gave me HIS $50 million deal ;)…….

Just keeping it REAL, momono3…I want a thonged booty (like Serena or Free from 106); who want a flat booty or a PHONEY butt like Kim K-not meeeeeeee!

Guess Kris_87 and Azrael 3 are not intersted; I thought they were REAL; I must had made them blush…..