I actually agree with this one, although I think u can call each other baby it dont hurt, but “those 3 lil words” is what u cant say but overall excellent post, last Friday almost got u boycotted

Don’t do it to feel good? But I thought that is exactly the reason you do it. Anyway, in these cases I think it is okay to use terms of endearment, in these situations. That keeps you from accidentally calling “Tony” “Ed”, if everybody is just “baby”. That’s an old one HB. And THE number one thing is to HAVE AN UNDERSTANDING. And maintain respect for this other adult you have decided to have a mutual sexual relationship with. Don’t start falling for this person to the point where you get all clingy and nerve wracking. That leads into getting ‘fatal’. You start questioning, stalking and snatching folk by the arm and carrying on.

might not be judged on FRIDAYS….damn sure bein judged by GREATER!! runnin business like this huh lol…well none of my business

You gotta find anoth way to go about this whole “no judgment Fridays”

Cause you are really just…well fuhgeddah bout it~I ‘m not judging~

lol figures this was written by a female….but the real power is w/ the dude. Any dude can poke. But not all can poke good that have a chick comin back hungry for the stroke.

OMG!!!…let this kind of crazy azzz information written by an individual without a proper education be one of the vital reasons our relationships are no longer that…a relationship. A partnership. A love affair with communication and commit to something.
This is one of the most ridiculous articles I have my time wasted reading.
…And GET THAT DON’TS off of this page! It looks crazy as hell for a title about a subject that society views as serious! THERE IS NO SUCH WORD! Stop making our people look bad!

This is great information for the sexy ladies. I dont think there is anything wrong with having a bootycall on the weekends. Ladies, instead of staying home find a bootycall.

How about this? STOP HAVING BOOTY CALLS! Nonsense. Get out of that ridiculous mindframe and have an actual relationship. Sheesh. Teens read this stuff for goodness sakes!

N.S. Ugezene

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LMAO yall people are crazy as hell lol…

Right. But, if a guy wants a girl for nothing but sex, he’s a dog. Maybe I missed a step in my logic here. Since when did women become the all-powerful, all-knowing and men became just tools? I mean, if this is you, wonderful: do your thing. But, leave me outta this nonsense. I’d rather not be just some free hooker…

This is real talk, why buy when you can lease. This is what I am talking about. If she wants to take it farther with me, then we can do that!

Women only have the power because we LET them. Unfortunately, for every real man runnning the show, there are at least 10 lames and puzzy-hounds allowing themselves to be played and fuccing up the game.

It’s funny how these articles teach women how to be (skanks), yet I’m wrong if I call them (skanks). If you act like portable azz, you’ll get treated as such. You can’t turn it on and off like a light switch and karma is a bytch. You “ladies” will meet a man who you really want to be with, but he’ll play you as a walking blow-up doll.

Happy Skankiest Day and don’t forget to douche, hoooo-ahs!

I dont take women very seriously. And Im a zero bullsh!t tolerance kind of guy. I can put together pieces of a puzzle faster than most would even assume that i know what they are up to which normally ends it before it starts unless I allow it to go further or sexual. Women do not have the power because of that body part because without the other your just like a man. How can a woman not catch feelings in a sexual relationship ? especially when she keeps blowin up yo phone and comin back? If the sex is beyond on point shes not going to end it. Its going to have to be up to the man. Why? lets face it im not trying to brag or bash but women are more emotional then men and sometimes we seem to come off cold hearted. Then again it also depends on what type of man your dealing with… the kind thats gonna sit there and let you play tricks with him and his mind or a guy like me thats going to lay down some ground rules before hand and if you dont like it you can get lost. cause i aint gonna lie i have done the sex relationship thing before… not too many people havent. As long as its with one person you should be safe……….hopefully.. but im wondering why yall posting blogs to teach women these wicked things in life? Yall havent gotten enough of the single parent crap thats going on from the ages of 13-20 yr old girls and women. And then i just seen the other blog about 5 tips to follow while dating a married man??????????????? (sarcasm) ya know ya going str8 to hell wit panties fulla s**t on some burning skates.

LMAO @ LastManStandingTall…

I don’t believe in booty calls, hands down. Too many people in the black community have no idea of how to carry out a monogamous relationship. When I say people, I mean men, and I mean women. Hos are uni-sex. Everybody is worried about c**ming.
HIV rates are f’n RIDICULOUS in our community. Because people are worried about c**ming.
You can tell people to wrap it up. You SHOULD tell people to wrap it up. But condoms don’t save you everytime. What if it just falls off? What if it’s defective because it has been sitting in your hot car for weeks?
But what you should be telling people is how important it is to cultivate healthy relationships with the opposite sex. You should be telling people why it is important to be monogamous.

And you know what, I didn’t even comment on last week’s Dating A Married Man because it made me so mad.
But I will say this: Steve Harvey was talking about relationships one day, he was discussing why men stray.
Sure, sometimes they creep because they are not getting what they need at home. She is always too tired, she wears granny panties to bed now, bla bla.
But when you have other women waiting outside of your front door throwing themselves at men who SHOULD be unavailable, offering just sex, sex, sex…that adds incentitive to just step outside of the home and do what’s easy, instead of sitting your significant down and telling them to TIGHTEN UP.
I used my example towards men, but it goes for women too because ladies creep as well.
No Judgement Fridays, I mean MAYBE this idea had good intentions, but then again MAYBE you could use your good intentions to address other issues instead of teaching this retarded behavior to our community.
Shoot, address smoking weed, not homewrecking.

BOTTOM LINE, NO TWO PEOPLE ARE THE SAME!!!! You can make up all the rules in the world, compose all the guides and handbooks that can be written but at the end of the day you gotta play the hand that you are dealt. I am not into “mind games” or bulls#!t so I choose to deal with MATURE men who “compliment” that and we go from there. I assess every situation I get into and establish my expectations from the door so there are no misunderstandings later. My motto is: “Roll with me or get rolled over” (lol)!!! Although I do think this is a good read for those who are positioning themselves to be the next booty call (smh). It is what it is!

Sounds like Europe, yep that’s the way is was when I lived there (early 80′s) euros and South Americans play it like that…..may not fly well here and Canada. Not every one is fit ( sound mind and morale stature) for marriage. The college girl(s) seem to be down for that ( looking for Kat daddy!) and money!!! Good training tool!!!!

heh heheh!

Whoever wrote this has some serious emotional issues.

its just like Dave Chapelle said, “If p@ssy was in the stock market, it would be plummetting right now…” because ladies, WE FLOODED THE MARKET WITH IT! Am I lying? I need to say that again, WE FLOODED THE MARKET WITH IT! and yet, we can’t seem to understand why we don’t get the respect we deserve from men. Having said that, if y’all ladies are cool with that, then y’all gotta be cool with the consequences too. Don’t start acting a fool if he treats you like shyt. You get a booty call 2 or 3 am in the morning (shm), do the deed, and have a lil pillow talk after and then wonder why the nigga ain’t call you for weeks or months or treats you like the piece of shyt you step over on the street. “C’MON SON! lol… You accepted the “fun” part of the game now you gotta accept the “not so fun” part of it. And this piece of shyt article does not help or serve a positive purpose for women but I guess this article is saying if you’re gonna be a booty call, be the best booty call you can be. WTF is that shyt?!!!

Maybe some of you haven’t seen it, but some men will have the perfect woman and treat her like he found her on the street. Some men do find a woman on the street and treat her like a queen. It may sound right to say :he played because she wore granny panties, or because she gained weight or whatever: but bottom line is no matter what you do, if a man has a mind to stray, he will do it. Don’t blame the other women for ‘throwing it at him’ because believe you me, unless he is there willing to ‘catch it’ he won’t. A man will only do what he is willing to do. You cannot make him do otherwise.

Who is this so-called expert that wrote this??? Booty calls….. it is what it is. If you are in to them or if you aren’t, to each his own. There is no right way or wrong way to handle your business.

I CAN HONESTLY SAY WHOEVER WROTE THIS IS DUMB AS HELL. SOME MEN CAN F**K WITHOUT CATCHIN FEELINGS, SOME WOMEN CAN F**K WITHOUT CATCHING FEELINGS. AS FOR THE WHOLE “RULES OF BOOTY CALL” U CANT TELL SOMEONE WHAT TO DO, THEY MAKE UP THEIR OWN RULES. MAJORITY OF MEN AND WOMEN CALL UP PPL JUST TO GET A QUICK NUT. WHAT THEY DO IS THEIR BUSINESS. DAMN WHY THE HELL IS THIS EVEN APOST? WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT HIV AND AIDS AND HOW MF’S IS JUST SPREADIN THE S**T NOT GIVIN A DAMN. TALK ABOUT THAT. IM SURE EVERYONE ALREADY KNOWS HOW TO GET THEMSELVES SOME DICK OR P***Y.

Who wrote this article because I for one have my own rules to follow when it comes to a booty call. Everyone has there own ways of handling their business. No two people are alike so when you start to give someone rules or tell them ways to behave in a certain situation then you create problems. I say do whatever works for your situation and your situation alone. Again it is your business and one thing I do know do not share your business between you and that individual with anyone else. That is when it becomes complicated and you have people trying to tell you how you do your business.

rule one-5 test that person hiv is real and it is spreading

not everybody is cut out for a full time relationship and a few dont have the time or energy or dedication or finances for a completely consuming relationship!
this used to be a male dominant occupation and now it is very omnisex.
everybody get horny or lonely and sometimes (mostly) you cant fight nature!
sometimes a person only need a stress reliever for a few hours, or minutes, and then they can get back to the millstone of life. marriage has been over rated ever since the divorce lawyers got into the act.
everybody needs SEX, but waht else do you need that isnt going to add to todays regular headaches and stresses!!!

Booty Calls have been disconnected get it together author people want real articles written about real black people dealing with real issues.

If some people are still doing booty calls in this std, hiv century then their a darn idiot.

Check that coochie and coochie wacker out folks because if your having sex without protection
than you a walking virus

I dont do booty calls what a waste of my c– lol…

Booty call been happening since time immemorial, and most people ( men and women ) have been a booty call one point in their life, regardless of your relationship status now. Dont be trying to be all high and mighty because you in a stable relationship now but back in the days you was just a booty call, or you was a potential booty call that got a nigga whipped, or got puzzy whipped into marriage.

The Top Five Don’ts Of The Booty Call is-
1)JUST SAY NO-ITS LIKE A DRUG.
2)THINK ABOUT THE CHANCES OF YOU GET’ING STD(HIV-AIDS).
3ITS NOT WORTH IT-IN THE LONG RUN.
4)WHO WANTS TO BE ON THE SIDE-LINE WAITING FOR A NUT?
5)C’MON SON GET THE FU*K OUT OF HERE WITH THIS BULLSH*T…
WHO STILL DO BOOTY CALLS-ITS 2009. LMAOS

Just Say No…A.I.D.S., STD’s and H.I.V. are sittin out there, all it takes is one time. Oral folks – take heed to da warning.

Well, since becoming older and bit more wiser, hopefully, I have learned that being in an intimate and enduring relationship is better than a booty call, and this is from experience. Also, studies have shown that sex is more satisfying with a committed partner than with a stranger or someone you rarely see. The thing is, sex just gets better between two people the more they do it. They know each other’s like and dislikes, their fetishes, kinks, etc. It’s only logical: why have sex with someone who isn’t bothered with being in tune with your needs and what ultimately pleases you? Just a thought…

GUILTY AS CHARGED ON ALL FIVE COUNTS! I MIGHT ADD THOUGH WHATEVER YOU DO DON’T DO IT THE FIRST TIME YOU SEE THE PERSON WAIT UNTIL YOU HAVE CALMED DOWN ABIT. YOU KNOW HOW, YOU’VE BEEN WORKING DOUBLE OVERTIME OR TWO JOBS AND HE JUST GOT OUT OF JAIL, YOU MEET UP AND BAMMMMMMM! YOU ARE TIED TOGETHER FOR LIFE WITH A BABY WHO LOOKS AND ACTS JUST LIKE HIM AND YOU DEARLY LOVE THIS CHILD SO YOU HAVE TO GET PAST THE DAILY REMINDER OF THAT BOOTY CALL GONE WRONG. THAT’S WHY I HAVE NEVER DONE THAT AGAIN.

Yeah the phrase “Booty Call” may be dead and gone but, the act is still alive and present. There are some things that will never die in life. I.E. racism, taxes, BOOTY CALLS, infidelity, liars, haters, etc. Why not just live your life the way you want and not judge the next individual. Lots of people have skeletons of their own but call others out about theirs.

WHAT THE HELL,,,THE #1 DONT OF A BOOTYCALL SHOULD BE NEVER FORGET THE CONDOM,,,I DONT CARE IF UR THE MAN OR WOMAN,,,FEMALES NEED TO KEEP THEIR OWN STASH CUZ U CANT DEPEND ON ANYONE ELSE FOR UR SAFETY,,,and theres nothing wrong with letting the man call,,,LOL,,,sometimes ur bored and when the call comes in,,,it might be ur motivation,,,LOL,,,”ahh f it,,,what else am i doing” LMAO,,,,DO NOT LIE TO HIM?? y not? i thought bootycalls are for the ones that dont matter in ur life but they can put it down? I guess i wouldnt know,,,my opinion is if ur gonna have a bootycall u gotta be cold about it,,,so no feelings get mixed up,,,get urs and go,,,kissing only during the “session” LOL,,,but when u leave,,,just wave goodbye and split,,,LMAO,,,,
I STILL THINK SEX,,,F*KIN,,,LOVE MAKING,,ANY KIND OF WAY U WANNA DO IT OR CALL IT,,,IS BEST WHEN UR FEELING THE PERSON AND THE FEELINGS MUTUAL,,,BUT FOR THOSE WHO PREFER TO BE SINGLE,,,WELL GOTTA DO WHAT U DO,,,JUST DONT FORGET THE MF’ING
CONDOMS!!!!!!!! *****just a reminder cuz i care,,lol******

i had to say one more thing,,,it doesnt matter if a bootycall isnt my thing,,,i aint gonna knoc anyone who’s thing it is,,,but no matter how u get it,,,u still open to catching anything,,,im just saying to anyone who thinks its only from having multiple partners,,,yeah ur chances increase,,,but most trust someone their dating or IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH,,,and yet some come up with something from that person,,,i guess use ur own judgement,,,but this ish has me thinkin what has been heavy on my mind lately,,,**African Amercians**,,,**Latinos**,,,
*************USE CONDOMS!!!!*************** LOL,,, I LAUGH BUT IM SERIOUS

WHAT I DON’T UNDERSTAND IS IN TODAY’S AGE, PPL FIND IT CUTE OR SEXY TO BE SEXUALLY UNINHIBITED,..PPL WILL HAVE SEX WITH ANYTHING MEN, WOMEN 2 MEN 1 WOMAN, 2 WOMEN ONE MAN…PPL WATCHING…LOL…GROUP…GANG BANG…
THIS IS SO SAD…YOU ARE GOING TO DO THIS BUT SO MANY TIMES B4 YOU GET WHAT YOU LOOKING FOR…AND I’LL BE SITTING IN THE HOUSE FEELING LIKE A VIRGIN…READING ABOUT IT ON THE NEWS…COME ON PPL THERE IS MORE TO LIFE THAN SEX…IT IS SO TEMPORARY…GET TO KNOW A PERSON…HAVE A SPIRITUAL STIMULATION…IT IS MUCH MORE SATISFYING!! I.E MIND-FUK

BOOTY CALL: Well, I’m cool with it being I believe 97% of the men outside of sex is in search of somebody to, “$pay for their over-all existence, their cigarettes, car, gas, multiple cases of child-support, lawyers, traffic tickets/fines, cell phone, restitution of whatever category expense/magnitude, basically let them bleed you dry and/or make sure out of every nickel (5 cent) you have and/or you can get from some other entity he is entitled to at least 3 cent of that! He’ll hang around unless he meet’s a bigger sucker/fool he can suck more out of (of course as long as he can get away with it, he’ll flip as many at one time as he can fit in). Trust & Believe I’m Careful & that’s the brother’s fight with me! HOW dare I be successful in any & every capacity & I refuse to be responsible for his f**k up’s in life & he can’t jump on for the ride! Who the F**k Do I THINK I AM???? Ruthless s**t for real & you got those all over the singles lines, internet, hanging out in most establishments looking ALWAYS LOOKING FOR MORE VICTIMS! So outside of SEX? What do I need them for?

1divine_soul I totally agree…Sex itself, just what it is can get boring because ultimately there will be nothing there afterwards after so many times…I had a regular ‘man piece’ for FIVE YEARS! never strings attached…but the sh*it got MADD boring. the sex was great…he’s still among the TOP 2 in my book…but I was only doing it to ‘run’ from something real, better. I got to where I wanted my mind/intellect ‘hit’ as well as my body…;-)

this is how motherf**kers end up at the clinic for STD’s and/or episode of Maury wondering who’s baby it is…..

but f**k it, to each they own…..just remember that…..

freedom= responsibility

I think you meant ACCEPT it for what it is… nonetheless points well taken.

to each its own, i refuse to be a ass call, just a bootY to FFF!!!aint that much ass in the world!!just tunnel your way in, and bye helllll no!!!hooker bull sss!.worth more!!then that!

Been there, done that and can write a book about it. Bored with it and thinking, “what else is out there?” Sex is becoming ever so redundant and just…repulsive. Especially when it comes to the extent of what ppl will go through to get it, how desperate they act in getting it and how senseless and irresponsible they’ve become while doing it. I don’t need it in my life like that…Like someone else said, screw my mind instead of my body. Intrigue and interest my intellect.

I love bootycalls because one woman cant satisfy me. There is just too much good p***y out here for me to settle down. Im just keepin it real and there are alotta chicks on bp that like bootycalls too.

Some folks just dont wanna get married or be in a relationship. Just wanna hookup and f**k. Bend over and bust a nut. No life stories , no head games.

Pathetic.I wouldn’t do it simply because there are too many diseases out there and I am in a relationship.May not be the greatest we argue alot but we been together a long time and really when I sit and think about women who can’t find a man or get a man to commit then I am thankful I have a man at home who works everyday and pays all the bills.I couln’t deal with the booty call s**t I barely want to f**k my man anymore!

Aren’t black folks contracting AIDS at and alarming rate? And then we have this dumbass how-to article. One step forward 2 steps back, nice. I don’t think anyone need instructions on how to be a s**t.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had sex before in my life. HOWEVER, I’ve NEVER in my life thought it was boring lol. I’ve never been bored with sex. Hooray for people who love booty calls. Hooray for people who don’t. It’s not Friday anymore but I’m still not judging lol.

10-19-09 Denise 379 its your choice if you want to be a booty callbut in the end what will u have. Besides if you got the rt man u will only want to be his booty call. There’s to many dieases out there to play with your life like that. Obviously your not happy with yourself or you wouldn’t put yourself out there like that

I’ve been with a many of woman in my day. Casual sex can be interesting if done correctly. This list was so far out of touch with reality though. Its gonna set a LOT of women up for failure who tries that.

The MAJOR and ONLY thing to keep in mind when being a jump-off is to “NEVER let you feelings get out of control.” That’s usually the downfall of the women I’ve been with. We agree to just a physical relationship in the beginning and after a while, they desire to be more when I’m comfortable with the previous arrangement. Its creates a riff.

But there’s nothing wrong with having casual sex. EVERYONE gets in the mood. I see it as simply “quieting the urge”. For me, its kinda like being hungry. When you’re hungry, you eat. You don’t necessarily wait and starve yourself waiting for your favorite dish. So why be completely miserable rubbing pillows between your legs because you don’t want to feel “cheap?” If you’re an adult, you’re responsible, and have urges, why not release with someone? I’m not saying just anyone. Someone you’re comfortable with.

Most people fail at being a cut buddy because their feelings get mixed up into it. Not because of these silly ass rules listed here.

stupid shyit! men make bootycalls wit women. if women do it, dey jus bein $luts

for the ones who have read this say they like booty calls, that might be true at the time of getting of recieving the service.but they aint telling u they reaiil very lonely and have problems finding love.lmao!!!!!!!!grow up and do something diffrent,we dieng out here and not just by being sick but being mentally stupid

why do you women have to be consider s**ts? men are the s**ts

Yea um sexy white girl dudes don’t give a f**k if you call them a s**t lol seriously girls the only ones that care about it

It i get get a booty call I either have a comdom at present or I don’t get any……too many STDs and HIVs….I’d settle for just a lap dance instead…..

It i get get a booty call I either have a condom at present or I don’t get any……too many STDs and HIVs….I’d settle for just a lap dance instead…..

Seriously, “So save the Baby, Sweetie or Boo for a real proscept–Not the jump off.” Uhhh, chances are this ‘prospect’ is also going to know youre a jump-off. Please, this is terrible advise.
The difference here is a guy CAN be a hoe and it doesnt matter, but when he decides he wants to be in a real relationship, there are STILL women(good women) who want to be in that relationship with him.
But, a chick who was a jump-off for some dude(s), will not have that same opportunity bc niccaz know when they have real women, compared to some trick who was just given up the cooch for peanuts…Dumb advise here. The author MUST be a Jump-ski too !!!

I think most men don’t know they have a ‘real woman’ until she is gone. That’s why there are so many single mothers out here trying to make it while the man goes off lying to someone else and has her all on his side, thinking his children’s mother was a b!tch. This, unfortunately, is the cycle that makes women want nothing more than a booty call that shows up when the kids go to sleep and leaves before they wake up. That way she will only be taking care of her own kids, and not a grown man who eventually starts acting like one. She already been there. But a ‘real man’ will take her out of that situation.

for the ppl who said its 2009 who does booty calls anymore maybe i’m out of touch but what is a “friend with benefits” and the term “swinger” or “no strings attached” mean? isn’t it something like a bootycall, correct me if i’m wrong like i said i’m out of touch.

@ momono3 – actually, their r alot of single moms bcuz women dont no who 2 giv tha p***y 2. They keep buyin these dreams dudes keep sellin them when they need to get their own lives str8 1st. No man put on this earth can save u, only u can…and if u don’t put in work, nuthin will happen (and vise-versa…4 da men who can’t take care of themselves). And if u got ur life 2gether, then u shouldn’t b considering sum1 who is ‘beneath u’. They’re only there 2 inherit what u have. Ladies, u hold all the cards…and u always have. The lies niggaz tell haven’t changed since da game started…wise-up!…u’ve heard them b4. Stop tryina play “Da Game” and become The Game!

Well i kinda disagree with: Don’t do it because your lonely. That’s the only time I would call my sexual partner. If I was in a relationship I wouldn’t be lonely and therefore wouldn’t have a reason to make that call. But i think that if you’re single it’s always good to keep a friend with benefits around you. Just make sure he is beyond GOOD in bed and not a waste of your time.

I don’t like friends with benefits, or no stings attached, I rsther be with one girl, but if one likes to be a friend and give me a booty call, I make sure I have a comdon or no booty. I’d would settle for a lap dance instead……

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