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Hey Kareem,

I been dating this guy for the last 5 months. We have a great relationship. He’s met my family and friends and vice-versa. Everything is all good… except he won’t go down on me. We talked about it a few times, and he says it’s not his thing. He says he has tried it before but prefers not to do it. But then he expects me to go down on him. I don’t mind doing it, but damn – return the favor! Its starting to bother me. All my other partners have loved doing it to me, except him. What do I do?

Kareem Says:

TELL HIM TO EAT THE BOX OR KICK ROCKS!!! I can’t believe that there are still grown men out here that still inhibit themselves like that. Listen, if he is not satisfying you 100% you may have to call it quits. Every person has an absolute requirement list. If he is not meeting your needs or is willing to try to meet your needs, get out while you are still ahead.

Also, don’t get in the habit of comparing him to former lovers. That will lead to some other B.S.

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ilianarw/ ilianarw

    Society has told men and women ourselves that our v****ae are smelly and gross! That’s where most of the “I don’t want to go down on her” attitude comes from. It’s a shame. I say if he’s not willing to do the things that please you then it’s time to find a new partner. It’s quite selfish, actually.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/levit69/ levit69

    my pappy always said…if there is ANY type of odor…that it aint no good…its some type of an itis’ i reckon…maybe she should wash more often…or…maybe she should shave down there…i wonder if its a jungle down there???…lord knows no one likes having to take the machete out to cut through the jungle…but it would be good exercise…i reckon

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/CANTHElPBUtWAiT89/ CANTHElPBUtWAiT89

    i dont think she said anything about smelling. I have dated men in the past, that it just wasnt thier thing. Some guys arn’t into those things, just like some women arn’t into anal. Sex doesnt make a relationship, and im sure in time he will open up to new romance in the bedroom. weigh your pros and your cons out before you make any “breakup” decisions. because if eating you out is the only thing this guy doesnt do for you, then you are selfish and he deserves someone better. ya diggg?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Sheri90210/ Sheri90210

    And for any man that thinks every woman wants to go down on them, they are sadly mistaken. Men will talk about how a woman’s v****a has an odor, but brothers lets not forget, we don’t want to be putting our faces down into a musty pit of sweaty balls either! Yes men do have musty sweaty balls and could use some trimming of their jungle down there as well! Hair hold odor, HELLLLLOOOOO!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Setch5574Ra/ Setch5574Ra

    It’s time for us to grow up and get over all the phobias about eating puss or sucking dick. If a man loves a woman and vise versa they shoul be able to do any and everything in the bedroom, parks, bushes, etc. Love is (w)holistic. The whole being is sensitive to some type of touch –hands, tongue etc. if there’s odor why not take baths and shower together before. Sometimes a little odor ain’t that bad. Codfish and Salted-meat r cured in brine for months on end, have a rambountious ador and most men and women yearn and grovel for it. Oral sex is part of the equation leave it out and there wpould be problems. There doesn’t always have to be break ups. Communication is the key. ;)). Not eating the puss or or slobbing on the dick is like eating the main course without the trimmings.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/srb644/ srb644

    All I know is ladies, is if you want the little
    homie to kiss your little kitty, your little kitty can’t smell like the little fishes.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/btilford80/ btilford80

    You can never compare what one partner did or enjoyed to another. That will cause someone to feel like they are competing with an ex. It took 5 months for my ex to feel comfortable enough for me to eat her out and I only get down like that with my “girl”. All you can do is talk bluntly about making each other comfortable enough to do all the things each other likes.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/BornGApeachy/ BornGApeachy

    I bet he’s a Virgo.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Swyt_By_Nature/ Swyt_By_Nature

    Now…BornGAPreachy….why he gottaa be a virgo?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/audiqua/ audiqua

    Personally,to some of us licking the clit is not for all of us.I think it is a preference.Some me just funny about the p***y being all up in the face. It took me a while,but alittle imagination and some good deserts,Hell I thought it was my birthday. Again till this day I will give you the dick,but im not going to give head to just anybody. This is my preference by choice. How ever if my lady is good at giving head, or not that good and she is my lady for a period of time, then I diffinetly have to respect her by letting her enjoy the same if this is what she likes. Some woman just have a scent that makes it hard for men to get by, which doesnt mean she is not clean. Another thing to keep in mind is that sometimes it takes a special female to bring out the real men that alot of us are. There is nothing most women cant get from a man if she put her mind to it,just got to do your home work. good luck

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/KYCARNAGE/ KYCARNAGE

    This has been the downfall of many men. I even had a friend drop his girl cause he came home and found her with another woman…I wish I would catch my girl with another…Christmas all over again….just wanna see how long I could sit and watch hehe.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/burgstyle82/ burgstyle82

    You want your man to eat that puss? DEEP THROAT! So many women go on and on about getting ate out but then when its time to kiss the tower they act like they sucking snake venom out of a bite on someone’s ass. If you want your man to be excited about eating you out you need to get excited about sucking pole.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/dabofsugah/ dabofsugah

    wait now i had a virgo lover that was the ‘best box eaten’ eva! omg! then i had another virgo that wouldnt go near it.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Lounge21/ Lounge21

    To the ladie whose man won’t go down her if your that upset maybe you should call it quits. Because you can not force someone to what they do not want to do. Are find an outlet go to the sex store and maybe try some new things that you can do in place of that.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/pajul/ pajul

    he is stupid and aint no sense in both of U being stupid so keep it moving luv…as for how I feel abt the act….lets just say i have been here at work thinking abt tasting my co-worker all morning and she like 50 something…the sex is so much better when a woman can get the tremors multiple times in different ways…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/pajul/ pajul

    he is stupid and aint no sense in both of U being stupid so keep it moving luv…as for how I feel abt the act….lets just say i have been here at work thinking abt tasting my co-worker all morning and she like 50 something…the sex is so much better when a woman can get the tremors multiple times in different ways…cant be smelling like the hudson River now!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/mcar428/ mcar428

    most men wont mind returning the favor. the problem might be that some women (dont personalize) dont douche enough. Douching once a month just dont cut it when you menstrate, have sex, discharge, etc. If you want an honest opinion if your coochie is up to the smell and taste test, come check me out. I wont be ashamed to let you know. (mcar428@aol.com)

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MR_TWELVE_PLAY_XXX/ MR_TWELVE_PLAY_XXX

    my name says it all , all men should go down on their woman,me myself I do it for me,it’s my plesure and if she enjoy it thats a bonus,for all of you guys that dont another man will,so she may not wiat on you , mr_twelve_plaxxx says eat and enjoy.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/dangerhero7/ dangerhero7

    This is a new year and i can’t believe that guys haven’t figured this out yet. Every woman loves to get it done as well getting her man done. Every dude should start getting it done for his woman cause if they don’t somebody else will. You make her happy first, it’s a guarantee you will be happy, too. Peace.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Mouchie17/ Mouchie17

    That was some bad advice for the dude to just go down on her or get left… I mean hey I know i aint just eating anybody I don’t care how long we been together YOU HAVE TO BE CAREFUL…. When it come’s to eating you doing it in the dark 9 out of 10… 2 many germs but i am not going to say i dont do it but I will say if it is going down or when a lady is ready soak that THANG please both of you LOL….Peace

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/murder23/ murder23

    if u dont do that then u just dont

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jaylove11/ jaylove11

    That is an intersting topic since its usually woman who have the issue with slobbing the knob. But if a mean is a a real man then he knows that in order to keep his women he must put her first. That means making sure she get hers before you get yours and preferably multiple times. (i.e. going down, playing little sex games, etc…) As long as you have her crawling the walls every time she just think about your last encounter, then you dont have to worry about Jodie coming in and steeling your girl right from up under you.

    Just my two cents.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/4richee/ 4richee

    WELL IT,S ABOUT WE AND NOT ME IF YOURE MEETING MY NEEDS AS WELL AS MY WANT,S I AM OBLIGATED TO MEET YOURS, AS LONG ASS SHE OR HE IS NOT DOING DALLAS AND IT,S A THING SHE IS NOT ADDICTED TO DO TO EVERY GUY SHE MEETS, ONE ON ONE WE MUST PLAY OUR GAMES TONIGHT

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/G-Poppa/ G-Poppa

    It’s simple, “He’s not that into you!!!”

    G-

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/shindogg/ shindogg

    naw f**k dat s**t! a man aint gotta eat p***y ta make a b***h happy. a real woman will suck dick til her face go numb witout expectin a man ta wanna go down on her. da inside of da p***y gets very dirty an even when she washes itz still dirty on da inside. mo often than not, a chic want a man ta put his tongue in there. dis iz da same place both piss an monthly cycle blood come out. no f**kin way in hell im exposin myself ta god-knows-wut datta make me sick da next day. an datz witout takin inta consideration possible stds dat cud b lurkin there. dont forget derez no condom-like thang fo coverin da p***y when eatin it. an worse doin it n da dark…cant c wut da hell ya doin so ya tongue dont end up between “taint” an a*****e which has even mo germs . whereas, a b***h can suck da dick wit a rubber over it if she worried about germs and/or stds. summa deez women iz jus 2 damn selfish. y dey gotta orgasm/c** multiple times ta b happy? a man dont need ta do dat. once iz enuff an it shud b da same way wit chics. wut, dey need special treatment cuz dey females? f**k no! dey needa take wut dey get an b fine wit it. deez b***hes dont want a man ta cheat on dem but summa dem will cheat on a man. cant expect othaz ta b faithful if ya gonna unfaithful yaself. reel talk man

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