Dear Kareem,
I have really fallen in love with my best friend. We have been friends for almost six years now, and I really don’t know how to let him know how I feel about him. We do everything together, and I want to see where we can go. We have been sexually active for the last three years and had a baby together, but never really committed to each other. He tells me that he loves me and doesn’t want to lose me, but there are times when I feel that he is just lying to me. We have had our share of fights because I’m younger than him, and other females tell him that he doesn’t need me and that he needs to get someone his own age. He is very jealous, and at the same time he tells me that I need to find someone that will satisfy my sexual needs. I really don’t know how to tell him that I want him and not everybody else that tries to talk to me. What should i do? I really need some advice.
Kareem says:
Sweetie, I am confused. Let me see if I can break this down. You two have been best friends for six years, been screwing for three, and have a kid together? That does not sound like a friendship. That sounds like your sugardaddy/steady booty call knocked you up unexpectedly. He clearly does not want to be with you outside of a recreational Friday night “squeeze off.” As a grown man, he knows what he wants – and it doesn’t seem to be a significant relationship with you. If he is encouraging you to find someone your own age that satisfies your “needs”, you need to. Learn to love yourself.
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