yeah you are a s**t, no offense. what women need to realize is that men dont care about being called a male wh0re or a male slu+. YOU have to ask yourself do ‘I’ want to be in this category. if you are fine with it then hey, go ahead and live your life. ‘I’ myself, i will have sex(protected) with a girl on the first date but you better believe im not making her my girl! maybe we can be sex partners(protected and consented)

“If it walks like a duck,swims like a duck, quacks like a duck then its probably a duck!”

i dont agree with the joker above, i have made mean wait years to months. ive even lost boyfriends in the process. but men do care about being called a w***e or s**t, its like callin a woman a b***h to them soo ur just one male not speaking for all. a w***e is a w***e no matter the sex so dont come out at her because she is a female. i feel if u to are mature enough to handle that sex on the first night thing go for it, but always place all ur cards on the table , analyze the situation before making any major decisions that may affect your life.

Ayanna, you are wrong. Men dont care what women call them. We just want the goods!

lmao@ a woman telling a man what men care about. lmaooooooooooooo
thast too funny. well since the woman in this article isnt feeling too “well” about the incident then that must mean that she WASNT mature enough to have sex on the first date. did you even read the damn article???!
@ AYANNA (the man specialist)

I kind of agree with Ayanna. If you are mature enough to handle it, then go for it. Me and my sons father met one day while he was on spring break. We did the long distance thing for a month or so but I did sleep with him the first night he got back in town. That was 7 years ago and we’ll be married in a month. So each guy is different. You just have to realize that a guy might loose all respect for you by givin it up too fast. Oh, and I havent met a guy who got affended by being called a s**t.

i read the article , hangin around guys on a regular, not a specialist just going by what know. men have a tendency to play that i dont care roll but they do. some may be strong but alot of u do care about what people think just being realistic

It really depends,If I was talking to a women, and things ended in making love I would love it, and with Breakfest the next day would be icing on the cake, I know there are some players out there, but with me since I would feel i was giving a part of myself to that person, I would be calling her more..to blossom the relationship, You should be able to tell if a person is a player or not in talking for 3 weeks -scents4youteam.com

Okay….in my opnion….and it’s just MINE…it all depends on what kind of vibe is in the air….it doesn’t ALWAYS come down to the type of guy (but very few times it does), because EVERY GUY has red flags that go up if something throws us off, or happens before we want them to…

There are people out there who have gotten MARRIED and are still together after like 30 years after startng from a one-night stand. It’s all about the vibe. But in her case, it was about the guy…but the thing i can’t understand is if boning too signaled a red flag for the dude, why was it so “amazing”?

I respect that, I respect that a lot on some G Sh*t. I am going on 26, I can remember in my younger days 18 to about 21 if a female gave it up to me on the first night let alone the first 30 minutes that we are around each other alone I would never call her ass again LOL. And were I live in Hartford,CT that happens quite a few times. But as I got older, I really learned how to slow down. Now these days I am looking for the Woman I will spend the rest of my life with, not just a quick nut. I guess that’s all apart of Maturing and getting older.

well the topic asks are you a s**t for having sex on the first day? not saying on the first date… i dont think your s**t. many people have had sex on the actual first day of meeting. at least you both waited for awhile and had some type of chemistry, also vibe. it could of been more respectful to hold it for the second or third date, but i wouldn’t think that you will have to worrie, or fell neglection and have a guilty caution about yourself. thats just how some guys are and vise versa. you shouldn’t take it to inconcideration of being a s**t. unless if you have been consistenly doing this for some time now. You just throw yourself to ever man and sleep with them the first night of meeting or even just the second night. if i were you i will stop calling and learn from your mistakes. just have to clink clink your legs you might get a Mercedes next time.

honestly u can wait for date 1 or 5 like i did, i met a guy and waited 3 months (date 5) and the vibe changed. we stopped talking as much (everyday) and havent did much dating, though we still talk and see each other its jus not the same as it was before we had sex and we been knowing each other for 7 months now. so what i take from that is that was all in the game plan in the beginning. sex was the objective. so some guys are all for getting to kno you, some are all for fun with you, and sorry to say some just plan to have sex with you. doesnt matter when, jus their hidden agenda. and no sweetie you are not a s**t. girl that have sex with every guy on the first day are s**ts!!!

My opinion is with all the sicknesses today that this is not the best idea.But that’s my opinion. Many will find however that once sex is in the situation things do change depending on what the man is after so waiting is a good thing. Try to get to know the person then decide. Spend some time feeling eachother out and decide if you want him in your future before you let him reach in the cookie jar.

its just better to be in a relationship with someone b4 u give the goods

the question should be: is he a dog? im sick of reading articles degrading women. no ur not a s**t! if that makes u a s**t, everybodys a s**t! and that makes him a dog! my question is, if a guy doesnt want a “s**t” or a girl that sleeps with him on the first night, why did HE do it? why didnt HE refuse? why couldnt HE call it a night and go home? did she take his **** and shoved it up her? umm no. HE did it. what should we call men who give it up on the first night? a man? s**t dont make sense. as far as im concerned there are more man s**ts than women ‘s**ts’. fellas yall need to make ur damn minds up! if you are looking for a woman, dont try to get her in ur bed on the first night! ugh

From a mans point of view, no ur not a s**t. Just because he chooses not 2 converse with u as much does not change who or what u are. I have had sex on the first night of meeting a girl, and the relationship turned out 2 be better then the sex ( which was off the f***ing chain) Not saying that you should open ur legs everytime u meet a man and get 2 thinking he’s the 1, but just consider the fact that eventhough it’s alot easier for a woman 2 fight the urge than it is for a man, that still doesn’t dispell the fact that alotta times when wanted just as much or as bad as a man does. Alotta men live with the saying “U can’t turn a w***e into a house wife” but how can he be considered a man when he’s been a dog all his life. considering what a person thinks of u has it’s good and bad sides but dont pull ur hair out trying 2 figure out if and/or what that person is thinking when u can ask or not even care.

Mmmmm…..Since I’m a musician for yr. and an Exboncer. Sex on the first date. Yes, you are a s**t. Don’t worry, it goes both ways. lol

No…you were just Horny!

No I don’t think that you are a s**t,cause that is the only way guys seeing the purpose of a woman to be on this Earth that is to cook,clean,take care of children, and have sex when they get ready and not when you feel the urge too.

I agree..i wouldnt worry about it too much. that’s why its always important to make sure that you’re satisfied each and every time that you have sex. can you imagine if you slept with him and he was the only one who got off AND he didn’t call..now that’s something to be upset over.

it seems like you were looking for something a little deeper that he isnt wiling to give…so when he calls back (because they always do) just tell him to kick rocks…

rae
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I don’t think you or anyone else is a s**t who choose to have sex on the first date. we live in a time where casual sex is the norm, but remember one thing…from every action..there is a reaction, don’t beat yourself up on this–experience is still the best teacher! learn from this and move on.

This is too much fun. Listen, most men spend all of their lives trying to prove that they are “the best” you’ve ever had and worried that they are not unconsciously. Women know that you will never have anyone better than they are, (based on what their girlfriends have told them)! Men, no matter how much they “think” they know, couldn’t telll the difference if women has been with 10 men and 3 women that same day! Just as long as she tells him, “…baby you’re the best!” Why should it matter? You had a nice time! If he wants you he’ll be there if not, move on.

Honey, you took your draws off to fast. I went on a date..the man begged me to come how with him. I did not. Later he told me if I had, he would not respect me today. Don’t listen to people who say it’s the time we live in. They need an exuse to be a hoe. Men don’t take those women to meet thier mother. Stay a lady…don’t be easy..remember your body is precious. Not everyone deserves it. This time you made a mistake…..next time your a hoe.

Well I personally do think that you guys had sex wayyyy too soon but I don’t think you’re a s**t. In reality only what YOU think is what matters… But perhaps the guy’s concern wasn’t so much about how soon you had sex with him but maybe he was worried that you were becoming emotionally attached way too soon. I mean, if tears were welling up in your eyes, he could have possibly thought that you may have some unresolved emotional issues…

Although I respect Kareem’s insight from a male’s perspective but why does situations like this always fall on the female? I am not sure if people on this site agree but the male should also be accountable as well for his actions just as much as the female. Yes they both had sex but why does the woman have to be the one classified as a hoe? Can’t the same thing be said about the guy as well? If a guy was to, “Get in all 3 holes” on the first night, what does that say about him and how he values his body as well? Women are always the ones who seem to be at fault for situations like this. Thus it creates a notion that this behavior by males is acceptable when its not either.

No, this isnt a s**t scenario…
This sounds more like a live and learn experience… all i know is if someone is REALLY interested in you (male or female) there is nothing that would keep them from wanting to hear the voice or touch of that person. whether he is in town, or out of country, the feeling wouldnt fade… unless they are preoccupied with something/someone else… Oh well, live and learn i guess…. I myself wouldnt worry too much about it.

Kereem’s advice was really on point. Every guys gague of a “s**t” is different but the rule of thumb is to never sleep with a guy on the first date. If you like him, it’s too much of a gamble to put yourself out there like that. No, you are not a s**t but you are a little naive. Always remember that a man is willing to work for sex, but he is also willing to take it for free. If he works for it, however, he values you more.

Sad to say, but her comments are on point. I am trying to hold with my new man! Is 2 months long enough? LOL!

I DON’T THINK SHE’S A S**T EITHER…I MEAN THEY WERE CONNECTING BEFORE THEY MET THEY HAD GREAT CHEMISTRY THAT’S PROBABLY WHY SHE DIDN’T THINK IT WAS A BAD THING TO SLEEP WITH HIM RIGHT AWAY…BUT ME PERSONALLY IF I REALLY LIKED HIM I’D WANT TO WAIT…BECAUSE REGARDLESS OF HOW GOOD THE PHONE CONVERSATION WAS THIS WAS STILL THE FIRST DATE…I DON’T UNDERSTAND WHY HE WOULD STAY AND TALK AND EAT BREAKFAST AFTERWARDS IF HE WAS THAT TURNED OFF BY HER
WHO KNOWS..MAYBE THE SEX WAS JUST BAD? LOL BUT IF HE REALLY LIKED HER IT SHOULDN’T HAVE BEEN A DECIDING FACTOR
I THINK SHE JUST NEEDS TO STR8 UP ASK HIM WHAT THE PROBLEM IS SO SHE KNOWS
HE’S AN ASS FOR LEAVING HER HANGING

I just wanted to express my opinion because I feel that I am an honest guy and I try to be as straight forward as possible with women. I do not lead women on and they most definitely know what they are getting into when they get involved with me. So, to the point. I can be a little selfish, and when I read stories like this one, well, it upsets me. Guys like this ruin everything for a guy like me. Why in the world would any guy make a girl feel like a s**t? It makes no sense what so ever. I want to have sex with women and I want them to want to have sex with me. So, if they find me sexually appealing why in the world would I call them a s**t if we had sex. That would make me a hypocrite. All the work males have to do sometimes just to get a simple date, no need to make it harder. What most men do not understand is that honesty is the best policy. Now, I like to think of myself as an attractive man. I let it be known that, yes, I want to have sex with them. Now, if I am going to have multiple conversations and continuous text messages for more than a week, technically, you should like the girl. Flowers too, that was a little to much for a first date anyway. You win some, you lose some, men need to learn to take a loss and keep it movin’. Let these females know what you want. You just may get it..

Me thinks if a man walks upto a woman and tells her she is beautiful it rather translates to…I want to have sex with you…but having to go by the book, the art of lovemaking involves as usual the man courting the lady via all kinds of gadgets such as phone, net, cards and finally when they get to meet and this guy pulls a fast one on her, she is left with wet eyes which won’t be kind to ladies. The script isnt just that, it extends to shedding the ‘snake’s skin’ after a splendid night showered with flowers, gifts; honestly any lady would want to give love back to her man and that would probably be sex but many at times after such an encounter does the man start failing in returning calls to their ladies and just then it dawns to ladies that they were being used…The lesson we learn is not to let your guard down…

A lot of how a man feels is about timing. Timing of what is going on in that mans life. He may be in one of those modes where he could careless about a woman and all he wants is sex. A woman is not a s**t for sleeping with one man on the first night now if this is a frequent event then there is a problem. Also he may be in a relationship already an is just looking for a good time! Jus know if your gonna do it protect yourself and what happens after that may not be in your control. Ps. (JUST BECAUSE SEX IS AMAZING FOR ONE PERSON DOESNT MAKE IT AMAZING FOR ANOTHERE)

well the way i see it is- i dont think shes a s**t. evidently she must of had some real feelings towards the guy! but the sad truth is that men would do and say watever to get in the panties. and then once they get in them they move on to the next person who aint givin them none lol its true

and the sad ruth for women is ONCE WE GIVE UP OUR HEARTS WE’RE GONNA GIVE UP OUR PARTS LOL!! SO handle ya own b.i. and keep that man waiting lnext time!

If she’s a s**t, then so is he. And then he’s also an Asshole for not calling her back.

If your goal is a serious relationship…state this early on…The problem seems to be not enough honest communication. If all you want ladies is some sexual healing then do so and move on….what another person thinks of you because you seek the same sexual satisfaction without the emotional baggage should not enter into the equation. If commitment in any form is what you are seeking….wait before giving yourself to anyone.

I’d like to think we were past all that thinking about a woman being a s**t just cuz she gives it up the first nite……my opinion, and MINE only, I appreciate a woman who knows what she wants out of life, and a man. Doesn’t make think any less of her. I appreciate a woman who can be a bit coy on some things, but get real, everyone wants some sex when the urge hits them. Long as it’s safe, we good. Long as it’s good, we good. But I’m laughin’ my ass off on #2 tho, it is a valid point.

why all the texting did you actually pick up the phone and calll him

well a woman is not a hoe if she gives up the goods on the first day. cause if a woman is a hoe than also a man is too. but i can say a man loves a challenge its not only a challenge dont give it up if u know the man likes u. make him wait for at least 2 months. then he will respect you more. and more than likely wanna be with you like real love type thing foreal. but nowadays i cant call it cause lots of women dont want a real man, just a drug dealin wanna be dumb ass nigga thats gonna get them pregnant an go to jail than a man that respects them. I blame it on BET rap videos and the women love it. Women front for the love of money! sorry but i speak the truth.

I think so too….Some guys jus don’t know how to treat women….Some jus try to get in to get what they want and leave…But no baby I don’t think you are a hoe…Jus remember to be wiser next time and learn from the situation!!! Good luck!!!

I would say that the man is shallow, He should be a real man, And tell that women what u thinks..one way or aonther, We are adults..if we want to give as good as we get…Then why not…But be able to walk away with no regrets…Keep loving you..It will work out,,,,I have done it and Im doing great.

EddieCobra_III, not all women want drug dealing men who are going off to jail after getting a woman pregnant. So because you see some women choose that kind of man to be with, don’t put it on all women. If there’s one thing i can’t stand that a man does is to blame all women for past relationships. How dare you have the nerve to say that women aren’t intelligent enough to make their own decisions about the opposite sex and depend on bet to decide for them. What about some men who decide on what type of woman they want based on these video vixiens that’s on t.v or other celebrities!
No honey, its not the truth that you’re speaking!
To the young lady that this story is about, chalk it up as a lesson learned. Unfortunetaly, we live in a world where some men will judge you based on the time length it takes for a woman to have sex with them even if the vibe is the same on both ends. He’s an idiot and he’s missing out on a great person, so screw him!

i think sleeping with someone the first night is crazy,no matter what the situation is.a man will always respect a lady if she carries herself as such.just know you are worth waiting for.you don’t know enough about a person,spend some time together go out on a couple of dates and see if there is chemestry and take things slow.

SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE IS NOT CRAZY IF ITS THERE ITS THERE. GIRL DON’T DOWN YOUR SELF ABOUT THAT YOU KNOW WHAT U WAS ATTENDING ON TO HAPPEN. HE’S JUST RUNNING FROM LOVE SOME MENS DON’T KNOW WHEN TO GRAB THERE GOOD THING UP AND SETTLE DOWN. THATS ALL THAT IS. GIRL HE WILL CALL AS SOON AS HE GET BY HIS SELF HES GOING TO THINK ABOUT THAT NIGHT AND EVERY THING THAT HAPPENED . BUT SEE WHAT U HAVE TO DO SISTER GIRL IS STAY STROUNG AND SAY HELLO ! BOY WHAT DO U WANT PLAY IT OFF . AND F**K HIS MIND UP .

Ma you’re being too hard on yourself. A mature, confident man loves a woman who know what they want. If she wants to give up the goodies on the first date then so be it!! It takes two to tango and you can ask the same question about him being a “s**t” f you wanted to!!! If he’s not man enough to holla back at ya because you guys got down on your first date then he’s trash anyway….I hate it when guys will call women ho’s because they gave up the goods…thats just a sign of immaturity. You’re good ma, don’t ever second guess yourself for something you’ve done…you did it, it may or may not work out…oh well charge it to the game and move-on!!!

I agree. I think she should be able to make decisions and stick to them. As a man, sometime it’s not about whether you’re a s**t or a w***e. Sometime it can be chemistry in the bedroom. But you said it was good, so i’m not sure if he took it that way. I wouldve come back for more if it was that good. The other thing you have to ask yourself, is whether he has a lady on the side? I think so. All the signs are there. You just got caught up. Continue to do you, and be careful with your decisions in the future.

LMAO

Sweetie you’re not a s**t, you just gotta get your game up to date. You need to know what you want and what he’s trying to give you. Take it as a good nut and move on. Consider it a one night stand or a friend with benefits type deal. When and if he starts coming around again, play him off like he did you, unless you can handle a sex with no strings relationship. Cause now you know what he’s about.

maaaaan….that’s tough….sex is a verrrry tricky thing my dear. And it is very confusing at times. sometimes a man may be very much into a woman. really feeling her vibe. then, you finally go out on a nice date and end up doin the “grown up.” sometimes, it can scare a man even though HE did all the right things, touched you in all the right ways – to get the panties down…this was his main objective all along…after that, he’s like “damn. I’m feelin shorty but….who else “beatin it?” you might not even be that type of woman but now he’s reluctant to put 2 feet in and be serious about you because in the back of his mind, he doesn’t wanna be played. And men are way more sensitive and guarded when it comes to our feelings. so, dating, relationships and sex is a process…I’m on some other s**t nowadays. There is one woman that I really would give it all up for. never beat it…I don’t even wanna do it with her until we’ve been out 25 to 50 times. Like the movie. And I dont mean spending money on dates every single time. it can be walks, workout together…BIBLE STUDY (which I need), what else????….whatever you think of…there needs to be time spent getting to know one another. the longer you can withstand the temptation and get to know eachother, the stronger the relationship will become and the more respect you will have for one another. if it’s meant to be,it will last

Your not a s**t at all…..this person may have had alterior motives from the get go. Take it as this gentlemen said “A lesson learned”. I hate to say it but men like this help to create damaged women. I aint goin Lifetime or Tyler Perry on here but the boyish f*ckery has got to stop…

RSAF!

hun u’re not a s**t. im the only girl and i have 3 brothers, and they are all different. one will wait 6 months before gettin some and still dump the chick.. amazing isnt it. i have watched him do it. i got another bro who would date a girl unless he gettin any, at least by the 2nd date.. and he’s married now.. been married for a while.. and she gave it up on the first night. and i have another who cant keep a woman, he chooses not to. all men are different. one thing i always do is ask questions. how does he feel about sex too soon. does he think waiting is important, is he looking for casual sex. to me knowing exactly what a person is looking for prepares you on how u should make ur next move. and one thing that has never failed me is, if a man cant tell u exactly what he looking for he doesn’t know what he wants and he’s not the type of man i’m looking for. stray away from the unknown, always ask questions. that rule is out, what u dont know can hurt you..

I JUST THINK U SHOULD HAVE WAITED JUST A LI BIT LONGER BUT NO UR NOT A S**T!CAUSE IF U WERE U WOULD HAVE SEXED HIM FROM THE FIRST DAY OF MEETING.

Sister I will not say you are a s**t but moved too quickly in giving up the cookies. What are you looking for ? a Husband , casual relationship or friend? Something that you should take time to look at prior to jumping into bed … if he calls back slow your row….. if you desire more!!!!
Good Luck

Your not a s**t for that and if you were, HE IS TOO!

naw ur not

Personally, What he or any one else thinks is irrelevant! Regardless if ya’ll had sex on date 1, date 10, or date 100 how you feel about yourself should be the only thing that matters. Who knows, he may not be Mr. Right for you. But if it’s stressing you that much then call and find out what his deal is. For what it’s worth, I don’t think that you are a s**t, there are women who put themselves out there for a lot less.

I think that often time some men are hypocritical. They don’t consider themselves a h*e for sleeping with a woman on the first or second date,but are quick to try and throw a label on a woman. Wasn’t he in the bed with her? If he felt that way about sex on the first date then perhaps he should have ,made that clear and dropped her off at her home, and took his a*s home to his own bed alone!Where are the adult men who can make their intentions known , instead of expecting women to read their mind!He talked to this woman on the phone, every thing was all good and then they have sex and no call? I say he’s a punk a*s! Move on with your life girl and forget him. He’s obviously immature.

sweety please…. you know good and dam well u aint know s**t. just like the said take it as a lesson learned. your friend is probably a s**t and she need a friend to be one with her. you gone be alright……….

did u discuss what each was looking for? maybe he’s married. having sex on the 1st date shouldnt be a problem if you can handle what comes after. Seems like you want more and he doesnt. I think this is why some people say u should get to know the person better before you get busy. at least now you know what he’s about. move on and find yourself better.

girl men have done it for years!!! Like someone great once said” you gotta think like a man but act like a woman. Sweetie keep it moving:)

If you gotta ask somebody if you’re a s**t…then probably you are. But why would you sleep with a guy you’ve only went out with ONE time? That’s stupid to me.

unfortunate diss dont sit well wit me. i cant say you a s**t because i dont judge people off of one escapade. some times s**t happenes. but what i will say is that next time you should waite alittle longer. u cant give up the whole cooki jar on the 1st night. its just not right. but its ok its a lesson learned

nah it all depends . i had sex with this gurl i met at the party , but i been told that she’s about church and doest go down like that for her .
but guess what ? she did it with me .
it depends , but the next time dont give ur KUTCHY to no men on the first date , wait at least 5 days . see ya and keep moving .

unfortunately i think he just played you with the texts and the sweet talk and flowers cuz i he knew that would get him what he wanted. Boys are a**holes like that (and i said boys because real men dont act like that). the chase is over now because he captured his prize so he has lost interest. that doesnt make you a s**t you just have to chalk it up as a learning experience.