Kareem you are so right! Y’all are wrong for adding that picture of Ms Stella …. ha!

MANWICH…..AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

In Riley voice, “nigga you is gay.” lol!!!!!

If your a REAL friend you should tell her. Especially with info like that. Thats horrible she like this dude who acts just like a woman….C’mon wtf?

If you were a good friend you would have tell her no matter how she reacts you got to do it for her, im so sick of b***hes knowing s**t and sitting on it some damn the game tasha and kelly bulls**t! tell your friend ho thats why you’re a frien to let her know when s**t is going down!

hell yea exposed him!…to be honest i think homosexuality. bisexual, or bicurious wat eva you wanna call its still the same is plague from god that should be ppl makes it seem kool to be gay and s**t i’m for eradicating it from society all together boom bye bye in a battyboy head

maybe is just really feminate…..lol..u never no..in this dayin age where everyone is comingout to be gay man a woman why lie about it..it would be different if he wasone of them dl thug niggas who u would never guess but if he that flamboyant and still claims to be straight he might actually be straight…i just no alot of gay men and ones that are flamboyant are usually out of the closet and donte vent ry to pretend they are straight..

Your friend boyfriend is bi, not gay man will have sex with a woman. Also, your friend know something is wrong deep down inside. Black women is so despate to have a man, that they will jumpe on any man that comes along. She needs to know now before she invest additional time with this man.

You may lose a friend by telling her. I say mind ur own business and let her find out for herself. She will eventually open her eyes hopefully its before she takes that big step. Usually when it comes to a friend’s relationship telling them about your speculations, they will bypass what is being said; whether its true or not. Just be ready for the drama to unfold and be the best possible support system that she will need!!!

He sounds like he goes both ways – maybe your friend knows this and is lookin’ forward to gettin’ some DP action on the regular. Seems obvious and it sounds like you’ve already had the “gay” conversation – you’ve done your job, now it’s on her.

Fiyah Burn all gays and supporters!!!!

HAil the fiyah squad and Genesis Group on Blackplanet BuRN all di 16!!!

Yeah, it’s fitting that you have Terry Mcmillian’s dumb azz posted on this subject. I’m sorry, but I have no sympathy for this broad. How do you NOT know your man’s gay?! Women are supposed to have gaydars! Y’all know, much sooner than us men, whether someone in our family or someone we’ve known since grade school is gay or not! I don’t know this “girlfriend”, but if she doesn’t want to wind up like Terry, walking into a rude awakening, she’d better run. I wouldn’t even tell the girlfriend. If she’s too stupid to know a gay man from a straight one, she deserves the same fate as Terry AND Star Jones. If she marries this fruit basket, she’d better lawyer up, or visit her local Barnes and Noble and invest in a Lawpak!

once gone gay its no return gay files

If the signs are there and she refuses to acknowledge them then just give her your opinion (like girlfriends always do) and let her choose how she lives her life. But if he is gay, and if years later he comes out of the closet and you are still friends with her, just don’t say I told you so.

He might be a metro-sexual. Not gay but a
(***).

Better safe than sorry. But this is a touchy subject, I mean, this lady stands a chance of losing a friend if she comes at her with this. But then if her friend contracts something from this man she could lose her friend that way as well.
Home girl’s “GAY-DAR” shoule be on point- I know I have to tune it up for real.

What makes s**t f**ked up for women is nowadays you have these homo thugs and down low fags who exzhibit more masculine traits than the ones that are listed in this article. Nonetheless, they are still gay or bisexual even if they are in denial. If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck then guess what? If homeboy in this article is gay atleast his effeminate ways give some subtle clues even if he isn’t *officially* out the closet and the woman can make a choice to stay or move on and not find out her man was suspect after she’s taken an STD/AIDS test and the results being positive. From a males’s point of view, if a woman who I’m dealing with comes off too tom boyish and more masculine than feminine then ultimately she’d be no more than a friend.

I know your girlfriend has some sort of idea that he’s gay but you know how women are sometimes. as Mary J Blige would say we only see what we want to see Just be there for her when the bottom falls out (LOL)

If it was my friend, I would tell her because AIDS is no joke and if I thought for a minute that my friend’s man was putting her life in danger by possibly having and giving her the disease, I would tell her. I don’t understand the advice that was given, to mind her own business. My best friend and I are each others business, and we can be quite frank with one another. Real friends should possess the ability to be honest with each other about everything on all levels.

SHOOOOT..if I got a inkling the size of a mustard seed..I’m not doing nothing with that guy…period. Aint no double dipping going on around me.

Wouldn’t you want your friend to tell you. I just don’t understand why your girl doesn’t see it in him if you say he has TOO MUCH SUGAR IN HIS TANK. It is too many down low brother’s out here and now days you can’t tell who is and who is not. But she has to know deep down and doesn’t want admit it. Talk to your girl.

i’ve read most of the comments on here, what i wanna know is why people are trying to connect STD’s and HIV with being gay, when statistics show that more heterosexuals have STD’s and HIV more than gays.

Do you people know that there are a lot of down low sisters out there to? I was coming out of my gym and saw to sisters tonging each other down like crazy and with children in the back seat of the car. Whats up with this world!!

Oh women can get infected from one another as well and spread it to a man..come on..

i have learned to keep stuff like that to myself. the person that u are trying to warn will just end up pissed at you. she is not dumb she just doesnt want to be without a man in her life. so just be there when she comes crying telling u how she caught him with another mans meat in his mouth. just keep it to yourself honey. that will be best.

Is Paul Mooney gay? I know he is a little different but I never thought he was gay. I know he has a daughter but that doesn’t mean anything.

I have heard Miss Jay on ANTM has a son and I know he it GAY.

If your guy is gay- you know it- just ignoring it. Something happened at one time or other to let the thought go across your mind. If you see something to make a thought as serious as THAT go across your mind- its TRUE.

Don’t sit there and let your friends get AIDS ladies. WOW. You gotta draw the line somewhere. You would let your friend have sex with a gay dude and get AIDS just to avoid hurting her feelings. WTF?

Why are so many people acting like being gay is synonymous to having HIV/AIDS?

How is it that everyone notices ol’ boy is flaming, and your friend doesn’t? She has to know already. I have learned it’s best not to say anything outright…she will only get mad at you. If you think you can handle that, then I guess, do what you do. But something tells me she will stick by her man anyway.

@ the_realest2004, I’m sorry to say but that was an ignorant comment. I myself am heterosexual and know, that she has a higher chance of getting AIDs from a straight male then a gay male. I pray no one thinks that only gay men can spread AIDs. Get out of that little box of thingking because woman are getting AIDs from straight men.

yes ,but have proof with you when you tell her!!!!!!!!!!!!1

lmao@that dumb ass comment the realest left….so now it’s a fact that if you’re gay you automatically have aids? the ignorance in 2009 is at a all time high. And lmao@manwhich…that would actually be funny as hell to see her face if she walked in on one

she has a higher chance of getting AIDS from a downlow brother or intravenus drug user and usually drug addicted men sell themselves for sex to other men. let alone share needles. so yes any woman can get aids from a”straight” downlow or drug addicted man. if i was the lady in question i would leave him alone. in our culture we hide homosexuality and that is why blacks have so many AIDS cases. because our people sneak around and do things you know live in the closet or denial. so she should step off. he may be creeping and unprotected. i live in a small town where AIDS is rampant among young black men. there is a large gay community here as well. those young men sneak around with the gays for pay. whether it be drugs or just financial gain period. drugs are rampant here also. so there are alot of men having sex with men. no one is saying all gay men have AIDS. i have a gay family member and he does not have AIDS and the sad part about that is our own people wish it on him. sad ain’t it?? my family member was not on drugs or nothing like that.

Whoever wrote the letter needs to get a man of her own. If she had a life she wouldn’t have time to be worried about someone else’s.

IF SHES HAPPY JUST LET IT GO…SHE WILL FIND OUT ONE DAY…ITS GONNA HURT BUT SHE FOUND OUT ON HER OWN…DONT SAY NOTHING

DEPENDS HOW CLOSE THEY ARE AS FRIENDS…IF IT WAS MY BEST FRIEND I WOULDN’T HESITATE TO POINT IT OUT TO HER…AND LET HER MAKE HER OWN DECISION…I MEAN THE CHICK MUST BE BLIND OR DUMB TO HAVE NOT NOTICED BY NOW…I MEAN HOW DOES SHE KNOW HE’S NOT SLEEPING WITH MEN ON THE SIDE POSSIBLY NOT USING PROTECTION??
THEN AGAIN MAYBE THAT’S JUST HOW HE IS..IF HE WAS REALLY TRYING TO HIDE BEING GAY WHY WOULD HE ACT LIKE THAT? WHY WOULD HE BE SO OBVIOUS ABOUT IT??
MAYBE HE’S JUST A GOOF BALL
OH WELL..AS LONG AS SHE’S HAPPY…LET HER MAKE HER OWN MISTAKES AND LEARN FROM THE S**T

Not all effeminete men are gay, not all butchy woman are homosexual. I wear my hear short and I am a strong, aggressive woman, people always assume I am a lesbian…including other lesbians. I am not on the down low…i love men…even though i may act like one sometime, I am not sexually attracted to woman. Likewise, this guy may love woman, even act like one(which would explain him being so good in bed)These characteristics don’t necessarily make him gay. I agree with the advice, make her see for herself in time…If he is that good in bed she may never want to see…Men that don’t think ramming their 6-10 inches is all that is required to be good in bed…are few and far between. Let the girl get her groove on.

No Proof = Shut Ur Mouth
You sound like a hater

Oh, man. I have been where this woman is now, so I know that this is a hard one, but she’s got to let this guy go. He is GAY AS F**K and she is going to get her heart broken. He’s gonna get hurt, too. Both of them are very much in denial, not just her. I want to say so much more about this, but I can’t put it all into words in this little space, so I’ll just say that the things that draw this woman to this man are the qualities that she’d like to see in herself and vice-versa. When she becomes the woman that she always wanted to be, and finds the man she always needed to have, but didn’t know it, she won’t fall in love with gay man anymore. I can’t really explain how I know this. Just trust me on this one thing.

what about STD’s ???what about not jumping into bed before marriage?

Maybe she knows he is gay or bisexual but maybe they have an arrangement they may both want children and have decided to have a family together he could make a better dad and father and husband and provider than some of the uneducated straight dead beat bums who have all this children that they don’t take care of and the children grow up not knowing who there father is and there mothers have to work two or three jobs while they were growing up I know lots of women who are looking at and deciding to marry this type of men he treats them well he provides well and he is her best friend it maybe all she needs sex isn’t that important to some women or even some men straight or gay maybe they just love each other and want to be a family so mind your on lady she’s a grown woman the important thing is that she’s happy and he’s happy.

AYO, I AM WIT P-CITY-MAMI 360%.
SHUT UP BEYUTCH!!!!!!

subconsciously sometimes a friend wants another good friend to be honest with their opinion but my not ask your opinion however if you are a true friend and you see an open opportunity to have your say, then do so. I want my friends to be as honest and open to me as possible or are they really a friend when they can’t do so??? This does not mean I will agree with everything one says but two minds are sometimes better than one. If you don’t choice to say a word just be there sportively when the truth does finally come out and expect a possible statement of ‘why didn’t you tell me’

if she ain’t a man and ain’t slept with him she don’t know ish!!!!!

The Guy? May be this, that or the other but some FEMALES believe they have this POWER to Change a Male INTO W-H-A-T she want’s him to be & then when the S*** backfire’s on her, then she tries to come off like she is the innocent one, who was set-up, lead on and lied to! I’ve seen it a million & 1 times thus far. Girl’s better learn to self-protect themselves & pull their faces out of Life Time/WE Cable Channel’s and quit fooling themselves!!!

SHE SHOULD MIND HER BIZZINESS, WHERE IS HER MAN ?AND THE COMMENT ABOUT IF A LOT OF PEOPLE SAYS IT, IT MUST BE TRUE IS BULL,MAYBE DUDE IS JUST FEM DON’T MEAN HE’S GAY.FOR EXAMPLE, I WENT TO GET MY HAIR TWISTED AND THE GUY THAT WAS MY STYLIST WAS I THOUGHT GAY,HE WASN’T. HE WAS FEM ACTING BUT HAD A WIFE AND I THINK A COUPLE OF KIDS SO,IN CLOSING THAT WOMAN SHOULD MIND HER BIZZNESS.

Wow….there is some interesting point of views concerning the said topic. It blows my mind that people are so interested in what is going on with their friends,family, neighbors etc,(managing them)….that they forget what is going on with themselves. It is a fact proven by science that people’s fears,suspicions,hatreds,ism’s, all start from within. As a man or woman thinketh, so is he or she. What is self evident in this society that we call the United States, is that this society for the most part is experiencing homophobia. Honestly, dont know how to deal with it. Often individuals,groups, or entities, are quick to pass judgement on a person,people, places ,and things that they know little to nothing about. Where are the facts, or is this just how I feel. Facts would be people, places, dates etc…in other words hard core undeniable evidence, and/or without a shadow of a doubt.. For example: if a person,(who is considered a man by all reasonable bounds), comes into a social situation and makes a comment to the effect of “girl….let me tell you honey, you should move your car before it get towed, and/or where did you get your hair did….this is cause for a RE

Wow….there is some interesting point of views concerning the said topic. It blows my mind that people are so interested in what is going on with their friends,family, neighbors etc,(managing them)….that they forget what is going on with themselves. It is a fact proven by science that people’s fears,suspicions,hatreds,ism’s, all start from within. As a man or woman thinketh, so is he or she. What is self evident in this society that we call the United States, is that this society for the most part is experiencing homophobia. And quite honestly, dont know how to deal with it. Often individuals,groups, or entities, are quick to pass judgement on a person,people, places ,and things that they know little to nothing about. Where are the facts, or is this just how I feel. Facts would be people, places, dates etc…in other words hard core undeniable evidence, and/or without a shadow of a doubt..behaviour that is exemplified on a daily basis. For example: if a person,(who is considered a man by all reasonable bounds), comes into a social situation and makes a comment to the effect of “girl….let me tell you honey, you should move your car before it get towed, and/or where did you get your hair did and this is exemplified on a consistent basis….this is cause for a RED FLAG…….THIS SHOULD BE CHECKED INTO IMMEDIATELY. Because no real man would consider making a comment like that or going down that road of bulls**t and confusion. Quite often in this society loose behavior,irresponsible behaviour, and all kinds of mediocracy are considered the norm and accepted as funny, cool,the in thang and the like. While responsible behaviour and like is considered weak or indifferent. Hence the result of mediocracy and loose behaviour is that now, you have a physical man wanting to be and act out a feminine role, and a physical woman trying to become a man. In other words role reversal. Out of balance. Whatever one wants to call it. Yet that is not the problem, the problem is that this society accepts this s**t. and promotes it…..then turn around and complains that they cant find a significant other or life long mate. Lets think deeply about this brothers and sisters with all our high degrees and education(BS,MS, PH D) BS: Stands for Bull-s**t, MS: Stands for More-s**t, and PHD: Stands for Full-of-s**t. Why wont brothers and sisters admit that they are so concerned with and unsure with, their own sexuality that as a escape mechanism place their insecurities and issues on others around them in their environment. Example: is a woman a lesbian because she wears her hair short. Well, now, I guess that would include a lot of prominent and famous people. What about Halle Berry, she now wears her hair short. What about Angela Bassett, and countless others that you see on a day-to-day basis. Is a brother a homosexual because pink was found in his necktie. Or that the brother went to the spa and got a manicure. Where is the line drawn, because there a difference between being Gay and a Homosexual. The definition of the two terms is found later in the blog.

Lets go back for a minute and get some clarity on what it means to be responsible as a man and woman and all the things that come along with that. A responsible man starts by being able to take care of himself. He takes baths, he keeps his self in shape, he shaves and/or trims his facial hair and the like, he cutts his finger and toe nails, cleans out his ears, and nose hairs. He knows how to cook for himself, he wears clothes that fit him and/or is presentable…..and when it comes to relationships with a woman he can provide, he can maintain, he can protect, he can listen, he can assist, he can manage(himself,wife,children,extended family,friends,etc…..) this is a responsible man that performs these things on a consistent basis. As far as a woman is concerned, and I have received this from a women who is well-known and who is not homosexual to the best of my knowledge, says a responsible woman is one who takes baths,keeps her self in shape, KNOWS HOW TO COOK……….,KNOWS HOW TO CLEAN AND STAY CLEAN……….knows how to manage a house, knows how to conduct herself in front of her husband,family,children,guest, and society, loves her feminity..(WHICH MEANS THAT SHE DOES NOT NOR DESIRE TO BECOME AND ACT OUT A MAN’S ROLE,,,and loves to be a homemaker..and not someone who is in the street becoming a CLUBMAKER….. These are just a few tips to help brothers and sisters, bring clarity to what a man’s and woman’s role are. There should be no doubt after this. Because anything less than mentioned above means that there is much more growing and studying to be done. And there is nothing wrong with that as long as a person realizes that, then acts out on it to better themselves. Yet, lets not be hypocrtical, none of us were born with all the answers and made all the right decisions, its when we refuse to acknowledge and change that we stop our own divine fullfillment.

Ask yourself brother and sisters, does being clean-cutt, attractive responsible,refined,civil equate to one being a homosexual.I say homosexual, because by webster’s definition, that means having desire or affinity for the same sex. However, gay can be defined as one who is jubuliant or happy; it is often synomonous with affinity for the same sex. So again lets deal with facts and specifics. If you look at my pic that I have posted on BP, I have chosen a clean cutt pic. I can rest assure you, that I am not a homosexual,fag, or have thoughts of being with a man in an intimate setting. As a fact, I have more sex with beautiful women as a single man, than most people do married. Yet you do have your haters……….I dont understand why being refined,cultivated,on point,responsible, wearing clothes that fit ya and is accepted internationally is construed as Gay or Homosexual. Again a misnomer, or rhetoric of someone who is gravely misinformed,jealous, envious and like and just plain ignorant.

She should take it like this…..she may take it as you hatin’/ c**k blocking. Just let her experience it all ,and in the end she will be like girl his azz is/was gaye. Of you will say I know, but I didn’t wanna tell you do to you would think I was hatin’. or wanted him. Or as for some they would think ’cause you are single it’s a case of misery loves company