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A hot topic on The Urban Daily this week has been Cash Money’s Brian “Baby” Williams proclaiming that he would kiss his “son” Lil Wayne on the mouth all over — again. Baby was responding to an interviewer’s question about a picture of him kissing Wayne several years ago.

Now, I’m not going to dive into the pool of questioning anyone’s sexuality, but I do have some clear feelings on the issue of kissing your kids. As far as Baby’s assertion that Wayne is his “son” thus making a kiss on the mouth appropriate, I totally disagree. I have never kissed my son on the mouth, even as a baby, and my father never kissed me on the mouth. To show affection, we hugged, or I’d give him a peck on the cheek, but most often my Dad gave me a rub on my head while I was doing my homework. I think that’s why I’m bald now, but that’s another story for another day…

If I were to give any leeway to a man kissing his son on the mouth, I’d have to put the cutoff age at 2 years old. Babies are adorable and I can’t fault anyone for kissing a sweet newborn on the mouth, but when he’s old enough to wipe his own butt, that needs to stop.

I do feel that there is a different standard for mothers and specifically for girls, but age plays a huge factor to me. While I’m not a big fan of mothers kissing their sons on the mouth either, my wife does do it to our six-year-old Justin from time to time. However, even she knows that the time is coming pretty soon where she’ll have to stop. Conversely, our 3-month-old daughter gets the mouth kiss from her constantly, but I’ve yet to do it. I’ll kiss Sabrina on her cheeks, forehead, hands and even her little feet but I’ve never felt compelled to kiss her on the mouth. Some of my female friends have said they kissed their fathers on the mouth until they were about 8-years-old and agreed that the practice should stop once a certain age is reached.

I acknowledge that there are cultures or families where parents kissing their kids on the mouth is normal, but it’s not for me.

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/easye22/ easye22

    The Wayans Brothers kiss each other in the mouth when they see each other lol

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/lilman77088/ lilman77088

    hell yea. lol

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/stamped/ stamped

    No, because it is can transport germs, yes germs…. even if you are the parent!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/utickleme/ utickleme

    They know it’s a way to show loving affection for siblings and it’s been Today they make that choice, they’re adults who see it as the extra that makes them special. Shallow Hal sees it as a sexual gesture, so Hal, keep the blinders on, and keep pulling that junk wagon, it’s your choice
    A choice that has taken physical contact out of the normal equation of any kind of relationship. That’s one for so many cammers, and not enough married people providing the earth with a more equal balance

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Face-nda-Hunnie/ Face-nda-Hunnie

    I think that this is what’s wrong with the world today and more importantly the black community, why can’t you kiss your son on the mouth, it only turns gross or inappropriate if u make it so. I am a 36 yr old woman, with two sons and a husband, my young son still kisses me on the mouth and the oldest, well I guess he thinks that he is too old for it, but that is his choice not mine. My father is long passed, however I still remember kissing him on his mouth well into my 20′s, I wish he were around now, so I could hug and kiss him!!! Maybe if more fathers thought about showing some affection towards their sons and giving them the love and attention that they need, without all the macho crap that men think that they are suppose to do, our sons would grow up and love and care for other people instead of always wanting to fight and kill !!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/GI_AppleB0ttum/ GI_AppleB0ttum

    well i have a son, i kiss him on the mouth with no problem. im grown and i still kiss my mom on the lips. i see nothing wrong with it. but to each his own. i completely agree with the fact that its how you grow up. so baby kiss wayne, thats their business. thats what they do. so what. as long as its not you right?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Kountry_Mayne/ Kountry_Mayne

    Kissing kids on the mouth ?? Lets see kids immune systems arent as strong as most adults so they are more likely to catch infections and viruses even if you are not sick from what you are carrying. But kissing your kids on the mouth in general naw i would teach them to kiss on the cheek. I dont see any reason that would be considered good that you should kiss your kids on the mouth. But hell now a days you see people licking on new shoes , kissing their pets/ animals on the mouth or letting them lick alll over their faces and ect. Some people are just plain nasty

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/prettybowlegs06/ prettybowlegs06

    lol@Jerry Barrow…i think a nice hug and a kiss on the cheek is appropriate for a man an his son..My son kisses his son in the mouth SOMETIMES b/c he’s only 2, but knowing my son, thats gonna stop pretty son, he don’t play that MEN kissing s**t, lol..Now i kiss my son on the mouth , but its real quik, lol., other than that its the cheek for him..You have some families and cultures that men do kiss their son’s , like the Italian men are famous for that.I guess its up to the Father on how he dispalys that sort of affection towards his son..With the Gay community being as bold as it is nowadays, ALOT of men will shun this act of love!…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/dovonna2u/ dovonna2u

    ill kiss up to a certain age. I remember I used to kiss my mom on the lips but i never kissed my dad on the lips. As for my mom I told her I was uncomfortable when I was a teen and she stopped. Its that simple.lol

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/QuiniGurl/ QuiniGurl

    it really doesn’t matter ta meh im 18 yrs old & i still kiss ma mama on her mouth but everybody is different & everyone does different things but it shouldnt matter they yo kids u kiss em on da mouth if u want..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/BabyGyrl810/ BabyGyrl810

    ya damn right u should…i kiss mine all of the time..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Azja_Mommy/ Azja_Mommy

    i kiss my baby on the mouth all the time

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/lovessuns/ lovessuns

    i have a son 12 daughter 3 i’m lucky to get a kiss out of my son but if he choose to give me a kiss it is on my cheek. my daughter is a loving giving daughter but she to will decide were she wants a kiss. if i say give mommy a kiss she will choose were she wants to plant it on my check or on my lips . so in the end its all about what your child is comfortable with. kissing is a sign of love and affection lets not make it more then what it really is.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Dopegurlmagic17/ Dopegurlmagic17

    i agree with lovessuns i think its wateva da child is comfortable with. i used to kiss my mom and dad on da mouth and i kissed one of my step dads on da mouth (only one and he was around before kindergarten)

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/hammer_headqtrs/ hammer_headqtrs

    i dont kiss no man on the mouth, period. i kissed my son until he was about 2.
    i have kissed my great grandma on the lips until she passed and my aunt who is my grandmothers first couzin.

    so it depends, but men who want to raise men need not to kiss boys, then boys will think it is ok to kiss guys.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MamaMuli/ MamaMuli

    I have to comment on this one. I have 2 kids and I regularly get grief for NOT kissing my kids. I love my kids and tell them that many times a day, I DO give them pecks on the cheek or forehead but from where I stand, I kno where my mouth has been, And as many times as i might brush my teeth, its still wrong for me to put lips on my man then my kids…. I jus dont think its ok. Atleast for me.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/OnlyAmber/ OnlyAmber

    I kiss my little brothers they’re only 6 & 8. It just depends, they kiss my dad and their mom on their lips too. Once they get older I’m sure it’ll cease but now they’re so cute and little it’s ok to show them love. A lot of parents don’t hug and kiss their kids I think it’s sad. My parents gave me lots of hugs and kisses and I’m glad.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/SoDelicious09/ SoDelicious09

    When I was growing up, I knew my mom and her “men” kissed on the lips often and I would not kiss my mother on the lips or drink off the same cup or soda bottle as her if I knew her man had put his mouth on it. That’s just a NO NO and I did not want his cooties. I’m 20 years old now and I still feel the same way. I don’t have any kids but I do have a 3 and 9 year old brother. I kiss them on the cheeks and regarding men, I don’t kiss them on the lips especially if I know they are fans of eating the COOCH. Not these lips buddy. Kiss the other ones but not the ones on my face. Who knows how many people he done kissed down there and then wanna come and kiss my sacred face lips? I don’t think so.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Corner_Boy_Scarlet/ Corner_Boy_Scarlet

    i say don’t kiss kids at all, never never never… just leave them poor children alone

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/kilo88/ kilo88

    well i kiss my 16 month old son on the lips and when i ask for a kiss he comes straight for my lips he does the same with my dad his granddad but my dad turns his head so he ends up kissing his cheek, neither of my parents every kissed me on my lips, but im tryin to break the habit with my son but he thinks its a game lol he wont kiss me til he can kiss my lips, i guess when he gets a lil older and understands more it will easy to stop it

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/kilo88/ kilo88

    reply to so delious…if u dont want them kissing the lips on ur face y let them kiss the lips in between ur legs? if u dont trust there lips u shouldnt allow them to kiss u anywhere…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/4U2LIK/ 4U2LIK

    I do not see the issue with parents kissing their children on the lips. I a son that i kiss all day long on his face and hands and feet, his 8yrs old. i love showing affection to my son and he doesn’t mind! why do people make everything so sexual..its so innocent. I would like for my son to give that same affection to his future kids.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/dennyt919/ dennyt919

    I don’t think it’s ever possible to love our children too much. However I do have some concerns about this. My main reason is that mouth to mouth contact exposes children and babies to adult viruses and or health conditions,directly. Me myself, I stay away from the lips. The cheeks, forehead, feet, knees, top of the head, hands, are just fine for me.
    Also, I never wanted my kids to think that it was ok for just anybody to kiss them on the lips…I’m probably old school, but I’m a no nonsense kind of woman.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/mccranky2/ mccranky2

    Lets face it Lil Wayne and Baby finally got caught….don’t they live in one big house together?

    Yeh right!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/D_vinesoul09/ D_vinesoul09

    I think there is an appropriateness with age regarding kissing your child on the mouth. My mother would not kiss me on the mouth after a certain age, and my dad seemed to pick it up when he was with his 2nd wife and tried to make me kiss him on the lips when I was about 12, I was not happy about it lol after all, I didn’t even kiss my mom on the lips! but my stepmom would make me kiss her on the lips and me and my lil stepbrother kiss to make up – if we were fighting. Now that i really think about it… that was just wrong.

    Grown people do too much sh*t with thier mouths to be kissing children in the mouth. I don’t have kids, but when I do I know I am going to have to hurt my stepmom’s feelings – cuz that aint going down.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Hav2Write/ Hav2Write

    My daughter is 12 and i kiss her darling lips everyday. I also still kiss my daddy on the lips (avoiding the ever-present toothpick of course). It’s a peck, not a smooch. Keep “love” in context and it won’t be misinterpreted. As for the germ factor, get real. The straps of your purse have more germs on them than someone’s mouth.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/CamuiMS/ CamuiMS

    You really shouldn’t kiss kids on the mouth. The mouth is a filled with bacteria, and mouth-to-mouth contact is a quick way to spread measles, meningitis, hepatitis b…list goes on. There is no excuse for kissing children on the mouth, whether you are their family or not, it’s just not cleanly. That’s what foreheads and cheeks are for.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/CamuiMS/ CamuiMS

    I never heard of anyone putting their purse straps in their mouth, (and its the bottom of purses, not the straps btw). get serious…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/TwanaRain/ TwanaRain

    Well I kiss my children in the mouth and they are ages 4,3 and 3 months. I try not to kiss after eating because of fatal allergy incidents that I have heard of but I love my children and I show them with my motherly affection. If they ask for one I give it to em.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/nanell/ nanell

    I agree with Hav2write. In this world now a day with some misguided ppl doing horrible and deplorable things the true form of love expressed toward family and friends gets a bad rep. Even though I dont think baby shouldnt be kissing that grown man (He is not really his son). Although the men im my family do not kiss eachother on the lips if at all its most likley a hug but mothers or women period is a different subject and ill kiss my daddy until one of us isnt here anymore (along with the rest of my family). There is one more thing, yes the mouth is filled with bacteria (CamuisMs) but what do u think ppl genitials have but ppl put their mouths on that stuff all the time like its gonna disappear yet Ive heard no complaints about that.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/TotallyThik2000/ TotallyThik2000

    I completely agree! When they’re babies, it’s cute, it’s okay.

    My son is 3 and loves to kiss. K, no problem with that! But, I am to the point where I am trying to get him to kiss me on either cheek, forehead, nose, or chin. I don’t have to show him love by kissing him on the lips. I always tell him to give me a kiss (and, he always asks), but I always turn my face. We’re not lovers, we’re mother and son.

    I do believe that fathers should not kiss their sons in the mouth and mothers shouldn’t kiss their daughters in the mouth either. It sends the wrong message when someone of the same sex is kissing you in the mouth, whether a peck, smooch, or kiss. I don’t care what anyone says or thinks, kids are so much smarter than we really want to think and/or believe!

    And again, there are so many more ways to show love and affection than by kissing on the mouth. Then there’s no telling who or what else they may be kissing on, especially older children, like 12-year-olds.

    Also, kissing on the mouth does need to stop @ a certain age, but only each individual child or parent can determine that.

    Baby kissing Lil Wayne on the mouth is just a gross thought!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/show_stopper25/ show_stopper25

    Your mouth is very nasty and you should not kiss your kids in the mouth.Not to mention what some ppl do with their mouths. Your mouth is full of germs. I kiss my kids on the forehead or cheek and tell them I love them daily, hourly…whatever

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