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couple paintingDoes your man do enough around the house? Or is he a couch potato? Here are some tips on how to get your man to help out around the house from sheknows.com:

In a respectful, loving way ask for what you want.
Make a clear, specific request about exactly what you want or need. Avoid criticisms and judgments such as, “You never do any housework! You’re lazy!” They’ll cause a man to feel either ashamed or angered, and neither result will help your cause.

Present the issue as a problem for which you need help.
But, remember: he is not the problem–getting the housework done is the problem. Allow your man to come up with options and make suggestions.

Leave room for new ideas and a full, honest conversation about housework and related issues.
Stay calm, be open and make yourself listen to him, even if you don’t agree with what he says.

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/cmarac06/ cmarac06

    the way i see it just tell him he will get something he really wants like bribe him into doing things that you want him to do

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/1SexcellentGal/ 1SexcellentGal

    “How To Get Your Man To Do Housework” Who says he doesn’t do it…big daddy & I do what needs to be done to maintain our home. Big daddy’s cooking is actually edible and he knows where the hamper is too. He really helps by not putting his clothes on the floor or on a chair. Sure, I do the laundry (he helps with folding), but it helps when he doesn’t just drop it on the floor.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/FunSeeker6/ FunSeeker6

    @ cmarac06… “…[Just] tell him he will get something he really wants…”??? Interesting way to manipulate a man… Dudes like me don’t respond well to manipulation. I respond to being COMPELLED into do something, NOT being forced. Dudes like me respond MUCH BETTER to a woman GIVING something he NEEDS TO HEAR like the following things SINCERELY said from the lips of a woman…

    1: I APPRECIATE you doing that for me–more than I tend to say.

    2: I’m glad you’ve noticed that helping me helps you, too.

    3: I need you–more than you know and far more than I say.

    4: Thank you. (LOL… Can’t knock the clasics…)

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jazzwatch/ jazzwatch

    I have no problem sharing the housework duties with the woman….who knows when she might go away on a vacation or get sick….share the duties with her, and I used to say “get more done, have more fun”…….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/FunSeeker6/ FunSeeker6

    @ jazzwatch… I don’t help my woman in sharing the housework duties because she may go away on a vacation or get sick. I want to help my woman because I know that helping her helps me, too. LOL… Besides, it’s just dang nice… LOL… She’s not the only one in the house, so she should not be the only one doing ALL the work. My style is to observe what household duties she feels she does best and help her out IF she needs help in that arena while doing whatever else needs to be done. If my woman wants me to do something concerning housework out of my style, then comes the compelling and encouragement mentioned in my response to cmarac06 as and after I attempt to do so.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/stylemaker2020/ stylemaker2020

    I guess I am a Leader amongst Many.

    I have always been a leader in the kitchen, laundry room, and household repairs. I came from a time when in High School, a lot of us MEN worked in the construction field, when men were men, in relation to household repair. When mothers taught men to cook, clean, and maintain ones self without turning Boys to women.

    Unfortunately, my son is lazy and this article will end up applying to him if he does not step his game up. :-0(

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jazzwatch/ jazzwatch

    Funseeker6, don’t mind it….my late, great mom taught me ALL of that, the cooking ,cleaning, and my older brother is a P-I-G…..so doing it is no smoke from my boo boo, and as far as COOKING is concerned, I can throw down……at least I won’t STRAVE ;)…….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/FunSeeker6/ FunSeeker6

    @ jazzwatch… Had a feeling you don’t mind, either…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jazzwatch/ jazzwatch

    Funseeker6, now if I can find a H-O-T-T-I-E who don’t mind (with a phat behind ;)), then I’ll be SASSIFIED…..

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/differentcloth/ differentcloth

    it’s simple. Don’t try and make him do it or try and make him feel bad by not doing it when you want it done. Trying to manipulate him with bribes, well I can’t speak for anyone else, but that won’t get you anywhere with me unless it’s a nice check that you’re trying to pay me with for my service…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/divainohio/ divainohio

    Bribe is such a strong word…..I use incentives…..lolololol! Telling him that I’ll cook him his favorite meal in just an apron and heels seems to do the trick!!!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jazzwatch/ jazzwatch

    divainohio, sounds GOOD to me-BOINNNNGGGGG!

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/blckman73/ blckman73

    You shouldn’t have to ask a male or female for that matter to do housework. It should be automatic. He should want to keep a tidy house just because he likes cleanliness. I do housework for both of us. It’s nice to come home to a clean environment and you have a sense of self discipline. Peace….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/YaSouthernBell/ YaSouthernBell

    I just had to read this article. As for me, I don’t have the patience for BS. I do my part, a brotha better be doing his. That’s one of those things I just can’t put up with. I like REAL MEN that like to get there hands dirty. That’s a big turn on for me. So that laziness, wouldn’t fly for me.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Isaiah192/ Isaiah192

    Attach housework to a desirable incentive. I’m sure EVERY woman knows what that incentive should be.

    http://www.isaiahtellsdatruth.com

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/SimplyComplex_87/ SimplyComplex_87

    easy…suck his dick more often and better.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/jazzwatch/ jazzwatch

    Sounds good to meeee ;)……

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/ziggidy/ ziggidy

    “how to get your man to do more housework”

    1. get a man

    2. get a house

    3. break some shyt, see if he fix it.

    4. refer to this HB article for further instructions

    5. i’m impressed if you’re still reading at this point. give urself a cookie…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/BakkByPopularDemand/ BakkByPopularDemand

    You stay trying too hard sweetie…..go jump already….sheesh!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/BakkByPopularDemand/ BakkByPopularDemand

    How about the woman just clean the damn house up and shut up about it?  I do my own house cleaning because I want it done like I want it to..period. 

    We all know house work has always and will always be related as ‘woman’s work’, and that shouldn’t be a problem anyway.   What’s wrong with the woman doing housework alone?  I mean, my man damn sure can’t toss me a pair of coveralls and ask me to help him get underneath a car and fix the transmission or something…..

    Once again I say, men and women have roles, the woman’s role is to cultivate, nurture and keep the home intact….The man’s role is to protect, provide and secure….

    maybe, just maybe women could find those ‘good men’ if they didn’t try to turn em all into b***hes. Damn, what’s the next article on here gonna be?  ”How to Persuade Your Man To Paint Your Toenails and Change Your Maxi-Pads”?  LET MEN BE MEN damnit….

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/dkh2/ dkh2

    Girl, I promise.  Some of your responses have me laughing so hard because I can almost hear you saying the phrases as you write them.  You are always entertaining.  :)

    I think this issue comes up a lot for married people.  I am not married, but I have heard that a common complaint from wives is that their husbands want more action in the bedroom, but they are too tired from doing things like working a full time job, cooking for the household, and doing housework to comply with their husband’s request.  I have heard multiple people say that if the husband would just run the dishwasher every once in a while or take out the trash it would free the wife up to meet him in the bedroom.  ;)

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/CARA-MELLO/ CARA-MELLO

    This article is implying that all women keep their house in order which is FALSE. there are some neat females that are on point in keeping their home clean and then you got some trifling, nasty heifas out there.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Mufasa364/ Mufasa364

    Bla,Bla,Bla
    Just ask him to do the s**t.

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     DAMN THAT’S THE BEST RESPONSE FROM YOU I HAVE EVER READ!!!! YOU HIT IT RIGHT ON THE HEAD…THE LAUGH PART MADE ME CRACK THE HELL UP, LOL!!!!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Dark_Zero/ Dark_Zero

    LMAO!!!!! 1. GET A MAN, LOL!!!

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    That would be an excellent incentive.  Honey where’s the pine sol and windex, LOL

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    Damn..Why do these writers always make it seem like men are these neanderthalic, non thinking, bass ackwards beasts that you have to use a whip, whipped cream and a f**king chain on to get along with us?   When my wife wants me to do something she walks in the room and says ‘Hey hon, can you take that trash down, or can you get the girls from school today for me? or….can you make that such and such for dinner I liked last time?”   SIMPLE! Just ask us!!!!!  DAMN!

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