you haven’t earned one!

this is the time of year when broads ease up on the craziness and start behavin…they want have a date on v-day or want the ladies at the office to see’em receive some flowers. it’s fuuny weein the change in behavior!

I guess im a little bit of everything..thats why im single…

Being single in this day and age is better than having another headache of a man that needs more taking care of than a newborn baby. I’m cool with being alone, but the only fact of the matter is, I’m not alone. I have my kids and I’d rather tolerate them than be with a man of this society. Like I said, I’m on a spiritual journey and I’m not having a man being lead to me by the Holy Spirit, then I’m better off being alone. But check this…I’m never lonely.

*and if*…

What kind of defeatest article is this? This author is acting like ONLY women get something out of valentine’s day…Last time I checked, after the flowers and candy and bullshyt is over, the lingerie, private lap dance and fukk me shoes are put into full effect. And WHY is there so much emphasis even put into valentine’s day? For those couples that look forward to this day, they should make it a point to do something nice, romantic etc if thats your thing on more than JUST Feb. 14th.

Msveevee1, You probably said it best though…”But check this…I’m never lonely.” ;-)

yeah… all I’m hearing is a bunch of lonely, whiners, making up excuses and hiding behind tough talk to mask their hurt feelings. I mean if you have a dude making it it hot everyday, not just Valentine’s, that’s 1 thing, but if you’re not getting crap because this article touched on your faults, stop hating on it and address yourselves. Stop trying to be so damn tough when you know you’ll be breaking down and crying like all those girls on VH1 shows, acting/saying the same crap.

I think this article is hilarious! Mainly because I can relate to almost ALL of these descriptions or know someone who is described perfectly in this article. Thank you for the laugh and for pointing out something many females don’t want to admit!

One of those articles is me and that is Ms. Independent! I can’t help who I am that is my character and it will never change. What man doesn’t want a independent woman, better yet..I get so many compliments on what I know as a woman that most men know and that is changing a flat tire, checking oil and other fluids in my car, plus to top that washing and waxing my own car, Hell whose else is going to do it, if you don’t have a man, then hell I can’t let it sit; until I get one. A man was shocked, because I threw the trash out..WTF…I aint going to let old trash stink up my house, some men are lazy, because they are spoiled and I don’t need a lazy ass MF sitting under me, I can’t wait for nothing..especially if I know I can do it, I will do anything if I have to, even if it is changing a doorknob or plumbing…The next article needs to be: WHAT IS A MAN ON EARTH FOR? …s**t

The LADIES has and will always be on TOP of the WORLD. Men are loosing touches on everything, and u know where we stand, becasue more women who are not afraid of getting dirty or changing oil in cars…I am single every dang V-Day..and what makes me more of a woman is I go and get my own valentines, and still walk with pride,because I accomplished a self banner that says: “I LOVE ME”

if a b***h dnt have a valentine man then they are so sorry.

Go head LadyGoLucky! You speak what I speak and that is love you first and eff the rest! Valesntine’s Day is overrated and commercialized. It shows who are the followers and the leaders. It shows whose really content and who be flexing. It shows whose alone and whose actually lonely. Those who go out and buy a bunch of materialistic possession for someone that they are not committed to by marriage or who cheats on them and commits adultery on, what will this dau actually do for them but cause more bad memories to get over? Who needs that? And as far as sex goes….eeeewwww! Bcuz nobody believes in monogomy anymore, what the hell am I missing out on? A bunch of nasty dicks that been up in any and eveybody else? No thank you! I don’t want that. The kinda man I want either don’t exist or hasn’t present himself to me yet and until then, I’ll leave all this fake ass Valentine’s stuff to the fake ass lames that have so many masks on their faces, that they can run a costume shop. If it ain’t sincere and the person don’t belong to me with whole mind, body and soul, then keep that superficial, vain stuff to the ppl that live by that mess. Until them, I love Jehovah, myself and my family and that’s all I need. And that’s on the real!

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I’m not rushing out to get a man or say yes to maybe man just to have a V-date.I love myself just fine thank you.

YES!!!! Finally!!! A CHECKLIST for these PSYCHOS out here!!! Hopefully they’re literate enough to comprehend this advice!! Many of the ‘Women’ that I and so many other GOOD brothas out here have run across, have more issues than Sports Illustrated! INCLUDING the Swimsuit Edition!! In my opinion, ALL HOLIDAYS are Overrated! But.. Valentine’s day IS a reminder that something has gone terribly wrong! Not that you need to RUSH anything just to ‘have someone for that day’, however, but.. It does have a cruel way of throwing the fact that you’re single in your face. I can say that I’ve run across ALL of the above types of ‘Women’ before myself, as well as so MANY Good Men out here. Yes. There ARE some Psycho Men out here too! But, THAT’S NOT the topic for 2day! ;-) I’m so glad to see this topic finally arise from the depths of The HelloBeautiful Repertoire, that’s I’m gonna post it to ALL of the Social Networking Sites that I’m a Member of. Ha!! Score one for the Fellaz!! If you’re Psycho and you know it, clap your hands! If you’re Clingy and you know it clap your hands! ;-)

@ (someone who shall remain nameless)-> We can ALL tell who the Lonely, Bitter ones are in this room! It’s QUITE obvious! ;-)

A Wise person once said “The only thing worse than having M.I.S. (Multiple Issue Syndrome) is EMBRACING IT and thinking that It’s something to be PROUD OF!!” ;-)
(Okay, maybe that person was ME! lol)

Attitudes….that’s why there are a lot of women who are man-less. Some women will never receive a wedding ring…just only the ding-a-ling.

Maybe thoseloony-I mean lonely ladies should gp on Tool Acadamy or Tough love on VHI or some other reality show…..

HB-come on now this topic-is some real bullsh*t. All the reason you stated are of those woman who want to be used on valentine’s day. Just because your not in a relationship,married,etc don’t mean your lonely or don’t get gifts on things such as valentine’s day. Its really about love on valentine’s day and it don’t matter if its from your man,kids,family,or just a friends as long as your get’ing it. Im single by choice and im NOT run’ing out here to grab a man just to get candy and a gift-only to have him thinking its like BK at the end of the day. So stop acting like VALENTINE’S day is a day for gifts,cards,candy,and flowers and SEX. Those things happen at anythime out of the year if your inlove or friends. Its a choice we make as to what our life will be like or rather or not if we want to be in a relationship-NOT for the reason you gave and it DAMNSURE don’t mean we are BITTER nor LONELY. So all you PROUD SINGLE LADIES PUT YA’LL HANDS UP AND LET THE SOUND OF MS.INDEPENDENT RING THREW YOUR HEAD AND SMILE WHILE YOUR DOING. I N D E P E N D E N T THATS ME. :)

I think most people who put women under these titles are projecting their feeling about them selves. I can’t say I have ever been psyco, a doormat, etc. I can be independent but im the only one paying my bills lol. But past the artical it’s the response that make me want to stay single it sound like a lot of bitter women hating men and women stay on bp too voice any opinion and down grade everyone thats not as perfect has them. Lol but contiue living ur life and have fun doing it…and stop reading dont help other put you in a box.

These responses are a trip! This is an article about certain types of women who men don’t like. If none of these categories fit you, then why get defensive? If you’re not a doormat, clinger, deranged or just too independent for your own good, then this article was not talking about you, so why are you getting an attitude about this article? This is for the women who are guilty and know it. This is not about running out and getting a man just to prove a point to anybody. This is about making some necessary changes so you don’t keep pushing men away. It’s one thing to be single by choice…it’s another not to be.

LOL…

im in a relationship and even i hate valentines day…always have. just another occasion to buy sh*t….

Damn..i have a friend that reminds me of Ms. Doormat. Once you see it in person it scares the hell out of you. Which reminds me i have to call her..she needs an intervention.

I make sure I’m single on Valentine’s Day. Why spend money on a girl when you can pick a fight with her, break up and come back on Feb. 15?

This also works for the holiday season, especially Christmas.

Honestly, I could do without relationships altogether. You can get laid without committing to some drama-hungry single mother, ready to heap her issues on you.

^5!! VEEVEE1! Sho Nuff girl! WTH is V-Day…Red Day…huu..I can wear the colors…The 2 people who brought me into this world is a Special Day for me, they are my Valentines. I am not worried about being with someone,but if I have a date that is fine…but nothing will change.

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BECAUSE DONT NOBODY LIKE ME NOR WANT TO GIVE ME THE TIME OF DAY NOR BE WITH ME OR TAKE THEIR TIME OUT TO WANT TO GET TO KNOW ME.

Where is the article about “Why you don’t have a woman this V-Day”? Oh are they still pushing that “Men are single by choice and women are single for lack of being chosen” mess? And are women still falling for it? Cute.

I really don’t get the big deal that it makes whether you have a man on Valentines day or not…seeing as most women who do have a man still don’t get the roses, romantic dinners or gifts anyway.
To me, articles like this, just add to the plight of the Black Woman. Who wrote the book that states that a woman is only a woman if she has a man in her life to celebrate Valentines day!
Where does all that mess come from? Women have come a long way and to constantly see articles like this that try to place women in this “I HAVE TO HAVE A MAN TO SIGNIFY MY WOMANHOOD” crap is only showing the lack of confidence in the spirit and motivations of Black Women!

real spit a lot of women that are single are just immature w***es lets be honest.

CAUSE THEY SPEND MORE TIME REJECTING MEN & LOOKING & FINDING OUT REASONS NOT TO BE WITH SOMEONE… THESE SAME WOMEN ARE THE SAME ONES WHO ARE GONNA GROW UP LONELY OLD LADIES & DIE WITH THEIR PET CAT AT THEIR BEDSIDE & A VIBRATOR THAT RAN OUT OF BATTERIES IN THEIR HANDS..LOL

WHAT WOMEN FAIL TO REALIZE IS THAT WOMEN DONT HAVE AS LONG A SHELF LIFE AS US MEN… MEN BECOME MORE DISTINGUISHED & AGE GRACEFULLY… WOMEN JUST PLAIN DEPRECIATE & MORE WOMEN LIKE OLDER MEN THAN MEN LIKE OLDER WOMEN.
& YA TITTIES TEND 2 SAG DUE 2 GRAVITY. SO TRY 2 LOCK UP A DUDE NOW WHILE YA CAN B4 ITS TOO LATE!

LMAO!!! I’m so glad I’m not one the women described here. So I guess I’ll finish making my “silly, meaningless and commericial” plans for Valentine’s Day. Flowers…check, dinner at a nice restaurant…check, lingerie for the “after party”…check, Not making up excuses as to why I’m single lonely and supposedly “NOT” looking for a man…PRICELESS!!

I swear let it go already, Lil Pookie has moved on got his new broad pregnant. HE CAN’T HURT YOU AGAIN!!! Now if you pick another Lil’ Pookie after the first one, is it the man or you???

I’ve noticed that as V-Day gets closer, I’ve received more notes, messages and gifts on this site. I guess women aren’t the only panicking because they don’t have a special person for that special day. However, I’m still single by choice(clearly)
.. Ladies-we all now quantity doesn’t mean quality… just because you have offers doesn’t mean these men are worth a damn!. Guys like Alphamanec are a prime example-talking all that smack because he gets turned down!..
So do you my sisters-even if we are sans valentines on the 14th, we are still the bomb and special….waiting for that special person who DESERVES

….us…. HAPPY “I LOVE ME SOOO MUCH THAT YOU NEED A RESERVATION” DAY my sisters! xoxo

So much misery in the comments smh. I’m single and V-day is cool to me. Like someone said you can tell from reading the comments who are the angry lonely ones. Trying to act like your empowering women, please you’re trying to convince yourself that your not angry for being alone. Honesty is the best policy. But everyone enjoy your V-day if you have someone or if you’re single etc. Just be thankful you are alive and in good health.

wow i think ive been acting like ms.doormat because i do be doing to much and it never seems to end up going anywhere-i learned something:)

I’d like to add another reason: romance gets in the way of friendship. People are so busy trying to dodge “friend zone” that they are stopping the one thing that allows a real relationship to actually last, friendship. Good thing I’ve got my friends this Valentine’s Day. Have a great one, everybody.

It is about time there is an article about how women drive men away. Geez, and believe me, a woman isn’t always as good as a man in everthing, please get that right Hello Beautiful. Some of these I agree with, especially Ms. Independent, I mean it’s not about the fragile ego, it’s about women who allow their attitudes and their self accomplishments turn them into a stuck up, hypocritcal a*****es that want to always tell a man what he isn’t doing right all the time, but she does everything perfect (in her reality). I want to add another one too, the trifling disrespectful woman that has over 50 guy friends that she spend too much time with and they aren’t having sex. That is B.S. and these women need to be slapped seriously. Why is that when a man has alot of female friends, it’s not right and if you have a right to feel uncomfortable, but when I say as a man, that you have to many male friends and I am uncomfortable, you call me insecure. How double standard is that.

Oh yeah, another type are the women who call a man gay because we caught you up in your lies and/or games. It’s funny, I am handsome, charming, and a well balanced man, until I hear your ex or boyfriend in the background, which you lied about having over there or still dealing with. Then I am a weak, gay a** nigga. Women today are doing things not because they have a reason, but because they are listening to the media, black men are allowing it, and women are getting more immature and ignorant as they age.

If you are tired of being alone for Valentine’s ladies, learn how to be strong and submissive with a balance. Stop always trying to be a man, and be the woman as God created you. Women have become so disrespectful these days, and you can’t blame rap videos any longer about the disrespect of women because even now R&B, Pop artists are doing the same thing. Women always have an excuse about their cheating ways, their negative remarks, and making a man feel like he is nothing, and many times, it’s not the man,it’s the woman who has the issues. You are no better than men, please stop thinking you are better. Because you have a job, or a piece of paper behind your name doesn’t mean you are granted superpowers, you are still a nigga like everyone else. You just have a few more doors opening up for you, that’s all. However, you can have those doors slammed in your face just like anyone else as well.

I am not saying the brotha don’t have their issues from the men that don’t want to work or attend school, the men who are in prison over stupid charges, and men who are lazy and have no ambition. However, its just not the men who are like that…What about the women out here having babies just to be a welfare check and use up those that are working tax paying dollars. Mothers who are throwing their babies in dumpsters killing them, and allowing live in boyfriends to hurt their children. What about those women..Let’s about those trifling people.

Just keeping it real people – Happy Valentine’s Day

STANDING OVATION FOR ALPHAMANEC & DARK_ZERO.

Hmmmmm I hacked my ex’s FB account but I wouldn’t say I’m DERANGED!

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my reason: i’m newly single! geez, do we have to have a man on Feb. 14 of every year? sometimes it just doesn’t work out that way

i have a couple dates lined up for this weekend, so i think i’m good on these “woman issues” lol

Yeap this is my 4th year single w/no valentine, and this is the only year i actually feel a lil lonely, Im a mix of Ms independent and someone who trys to find flaws. But its not my fault im sooo independent other than i run into men who CANT do for me or are not doing enough–Im good tho my son has been my valentine the last few years :D

I do not fall under any of the points they made so I know I done things right. So if the writer of the article think some women like me who is single by choice have a problem getting a man, I got a bridge to sell them. I get marriage proposals regardless of what day and month in the year while I am still single. What they should be talking about is how to avoid losing a man when Valentine’s Day comes. Quite a few relationships fall apart because there was no proposal of marriage, no flowers, chocolate, gifts, cards, become drunk and embarrassing in public or just plain not saying I love you enough etc. People forget they should never base a relationship on material things or even take it for granted let along a marriage proposal. My last boyfriend cook a nice dinner for me and we had champagne at his house. I appreciated that greatly but did not wanted to marry him. From my observation some people are in love with the idea of getting marry but do they ever look at that person and truly honestly can say they wanted to be with them for 20, 30 or 50 years??

There are many reasons why women are single on V-day. One of the main reasons is because some men are not interested in settling down. While there so busy “playing the field”, women like:

MS. I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-NT – get tired of waiting on “dead-weights / deadbeats” to get there act together (financially — U better call Tyrone).

MS. DERANGED – becomes insecure due to how she was or been treated be4 by other losers.

MS STAGE 5 CLINGER – falls 4 any guy that shows her alil’ attention. Still doesn’t give men (or women — it’s 2010) power to play on their emotions. U can tell if someone is going in that direction. If a clinger is not what u want, don’t prolong it (like alot of folks — lol do). End the bs and let her know why.

MS DOORMAT – tries to keep someone by letting em’ walk all over her. She feels that by letting men/women do what they want to do, it proves her devotion. But yet, there are still alot of guys (and girls

Way to kick the lonely and sad women while they are down. I’ve met some wonderful single women of all races. The thing is, just because someone is good… doesn’t mean they’re good for me. I feel they’d make the right man a wonderful girlfriend and/or wife. Let’s be real though….. men play their part too. The lack of respect shown to women nowadays is sad. When more black men start really acting like men…. we’d all be better off….. from the communities to how our kids are being raised (or not being).

This Valentines you have to be ‘Single’ because it is Carnival Sunday in Trinidad and you leave the man at home… or go separate fetes(party)… cause it’s madness down here until next week…

Wow! Well I don’t know how it feels to be lonely on v-day I always have some male companion wanting to take me out. (Whether it’s v-day or not). Sometimes it’s best to keep more male friends then female(not on a dating tip friendship wise) honestly they make better friends to me. Whether it’s someone I’m currently dating or one of my single male friends. I’ve never discovered a lonely v-day. Good luck lady’s I hope cupid finds you.

Im still trippin off the topic-VALENTINE’S DAY don’t just mean you got to have a man nor woman in your life-to get a gift-its all about love and you can get that from your child if you got any or from your family and close friends. Im not going out to look for love and im not going to stop being INDEPENDENT-just so I can say he got me a gift-either. I get those things and love threw out the year and I don’t worry about V-Day because I know im loved.(JUST MY OPINION)

(scrolled down to make a comment without reading a bit of this article)…ummm ok. Stop trying to lower women’s self esteem by making them feel they aren’t adequate enough to have a man. I’m not going to elaborate any further on this…next article plz

A bunch of arrogant single women are all I hear.
Your attitude makes you unappealing to men.
I wouldn’t want u c**ky ladies even if you looked better.
Even ugly people have relationships. The problem
is some guy told you that you were the s@&$
and you believed it. Nobody is perfect
stop acting like it.

true article. the women that do this mess won’t understand though. it goes over their heads. too many of my single friends fit the deranged, stage5 clinger, doormat categories. can’t teach them nothing either

Why is it that when black women take pride in all they do-SOME ignorant a$$ N!GGA come alone and type something dumb because some of us-BLACK WOMEN don’t need the man,gifts,candy,cards,etc to be happy on Valentine’s Day nor to feel loved. Why not go for it all year round instead of just for one day? As long as your happy with yourself nothing else really matter.(JMOA)

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