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This is classic, every other article like this gets more comments than birds flocking in central park. Classic

He too old school with his… 90 days before sex? Come fam… Not realistic in 2009, maybe 1959.

HES SPEAKING THE TRUTH……..

this book seems hella interesting..!!

As a respectable, and been respectable, man to women it doesn’t sound like anything new to me. I mean both males and females either get serious with each other and look to the future of play. I’m not knocking Mr. Harvey but this vid clip was just too general about men and not all factual. We all can bring up our stories about who did what to us. To me it sounds like a “playa” trying to be serious. Oh well. Good fortune to you though with the book sales.

WHAT HE IS SAYING REALLY ISNT TRUE AT ALL, BUT THE BOOK WILL SELL GOOD SIMPLY FOR THE FACT IT MAKES WOMEN THINK THEY HAVE ALL THIS POWER TO MAKE MEN DO AS THEY WANT AND DEMAND THIS AND THAT ETC. IN REALITY NO MATTER WHAT U DEMAND OR WANT, SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST NOT MADE FOR EACH OTHER..GOOD JOB STEVE, LIKE UR STRATEGY, HOPE U MAKE LOTS OF MONEY OFF THE BOOK

all i have to say is that
steve harvey does not speak for every male or black male in the world.
he’s just tryna get rich off of bulls**t
advice to the ladies.
remember this you have to go the things he’s talking about to know about them so what does that say about goodold house nigga mr. steve harvey
what a jerk

Why is it that all the men that has posted comments on this topic thinking that Steve Harvey is full of s*it?

Why is it that all the men that has posted comments on this topic thinking that Steve Harvey is full of s*it? Hmmm…..interesting….

I agree with the fact that this is frivolous claptrap being marketed as truth. Mr. Harvey is an entertainer. That’s it. Period. He is not a relationship expert, a psychologist, or even a licensed therapist. There are going to be LOT of women who buy this book. The irony is, that Mr. Harvey is “Playin” them worse than any other man he might be trying to talk about. The fact is that the terms, “nagging, “gold-digger” etc. were not made up arbitrarily by men who scheme on women. They were used to describe women who scheme on men, but that won’t sell books to women. Mr. Harvey has a good agent who is using his name and brand recognition to push a self help book. And the key to marketing self help books is always the same no matter what the particular genre or target audience. First, tell the target audience that you have the “Real Secret” (to how men think, how to regrow hair, etc.). Second, confirm the target groups suspicions that there is nothing wrong with them, they are perfect, it’s the rest of the world who is wrong, and the writer is the ONLY one who is (willing, able, brave enough, etc.) to tell them the truth. Next, throw in a few catch-phrases, and divide the cultures into nice, simple easily digestible packets of B.S. (ie. “He’s either trying to PLAN with you, or he’s trying to PLAY with you”{as if there IS no other type of man, and men are really that simple to figure out.}). Give the target audience plenty of compliments, and tell them that they are (strong, flawless, etc.) Lather, rinse, and repeat. You can plug in almost ANY “self help” book especially ones about men and women though. On this particular subject though, blaming someone else for all of your problems is bogus no matter how you slice it. If women honestly think that the ENTIRE problem is men, then there is something wrong with that woman. We can ALL stand to improve ourselves, and we need to hold OURSELVES to higher standards, not demand that someone else jump through hoops, and that there is something wrong with a person that we demand perfection from, if we don’t demand the same OURSELVES. Once again, Mr. Harvey does not speak for anywhere NEAR the vast majority of the men, even the Black men. He is either playing you women to get a paycheck, or he actually believes this crap. I hope the latter is true, because to spreading this drivel to our women on purpose is quite possibly the most unconscionable thing that he could do. I don’t appreciate the snake oil business no matter the form or the face. There is no SECRET or TRUTH to how men, (or women for that matter) act. Men are not from Mars, Women are not from Venus, we are all from Earth. focus on living right, and being right, and only then can you demand the same from someone else.
*rubs two pennies together, and tosses them in the hat*

and as far as the comment from bklyncutie82
“Why is it that all the men that has posted comments on this topic thinking that Steve Harvey is full of s*it? Hmmm…..interesting….”
I think that it’s because we are tired of being put into the categories that Mr. Harvey is trying to push. And I must offer the counterpoint. Why do the women believe that he is telling some sort of gospel truth? The answer to that is, he is telling the ones who want to hear it, exactly what they want to hear. That it’s all men’s faults, and that women are perfect, and that HE can tell you ALL about the REAL way men think and act. I call them like I see them. Harvey has some great comedy, and some good insights (sometimes), but if you are looking to him to tell you about all men, then unfortunately, the joke is on you.

My thoughts are, why are you men so up in arms about this, if it’s not true don’t worry.
Riiiiiight?

Ahhhh!! The men on here is upset because Steve is telling it all. Everything he said is what Ive been trying to tell ladies all along. You noticed not one guy has said what part of what he said was bullsh*t. They just mad. And yes women do have the power…they just worried that that sorry azz man is gone leave them if they stand up for themselves and demand respect.

I think some brothers are upset because much of it rings true in some form and may apply to many situations.

well I’m officially calling everything on this video at least B*llsh*t! I’m only angry because women are buying this crap without question. I am in a stable relationship, and even my woman says that this is crap. There will be some men that are only angry, but the ones that are like me ae angry because to try to insinuate that I am some dog that doesn’t deserve everything that I work hard for, and that all men or even MOST men are lowlife simpletons is sexist, and detrimental to not only men but especially to women. my first post says as much.

@Rebecca

I think your on to something. LOL!

Im a bad man! i wont buy a book…when i can read it for free in a book store! terrible i know… LOL
I didnt read the whole thing, BUT i gotta say he mentions about important values in a relationship for Men and Women. I myself have to say that it does come off a bit GENERAL, only because of inexperience vs. experiences. He does mention about letting go of stereotypes and wivestales that make women feel stuck because what they tried to do failed on them…
With that being said, to me it still came off like a ‘Chick flick guide on how to understand men better’. Which if you are interested in that kind of thing, it might work out for you.

the men on hear are jokes lol, they are getting so upset because steve is telling it like it is, i men damn dont cry because he’s speaking the trruth!!!

Steve was only trying to tell women that men aren’t that complicated. If we can get an understanding of how men really think and what they want, then perhaps we won’t go through unnecessary heartaches and a waste of time. We all know ‘all’ men aren’t dogs, we just need an insight on which ones are and which ones aren’t.

If you ever listen to the Strawberry Letter on the Steve Harvey Show, you will know some women out there need all the help they can get. Now this book is not for everyone, but those that need it, I sure which they will pick up a copy.

I feel it’s cool that he could say, what he feel about men and women.

But, I don’t think women or my women should think this is for all men because, I know my man is the man at our house. and he know just like Steve know.

I OH SO BELIEVE IN WHAT STEVE IS TALKING ABOUT…WHY DO GUYS THINK THAT FEMALES DONTHAVE PLANS OF THEIR OWN…LIKE RIGHT NOW THE GUY I AM WITH I LET HIM KNOW UP FRONT ON WHAT I WANT AND HOW IT’S GOING TO BE. I AM NOT AFRAID OF LETTING ANYONE KNOW. SO I AM HAPPY TO SAY THAT I AM NOW ENGAGED TO THIS GUY AND WILL BE GETTING MARRIED REAL SOON. HE HAD A PLAN WITH ME AND I HAD ONE WITH HIM….BROTHERS STEP UP TO THE PLATE….THE GAMES ARE OFFICALLY OVER.

Well all I have to say to that is thank you Steve, finally there is a man who will stand up and tell it just like it is, and could care less what other men think about him and what he says.

ARE WE ALL TAKIN NOTES

wow finally a REAL MAN who is tellin it like it is bout time

yeah he pretty much hit the nail on the head…im going to Barnes and Nobles…brb……*running for the door*

I dont think steve told the real, he just put in a way where women would jock him. basically nothing’s wrong with you, only these men out here. lol

People all men and all women don’t act or think the same. Women are not more emotional than men. Emotions are emotions, and people display their emotion different ways. Don’t take this guy’s word as gospel.

i got my copy from amazon.com..sista gotta get it on sale honey!! (used copy and nuthin’ wrong with it..can’t wait to read it:)

Wow….Would it be hard to believe I JUST figured this out in the past year! He is speaking what we akll know but afraid to say and another thing! We as women have to be ok with being by ourselves. I am alone but I am not lonely. And nwo after going through a helluva breakup about a year ago I have much better standards and requirements….Da Bomb Nikki I might see you at Barnes and Nobles!

I honestly feel that there is so much more too it than just what Steve is saying, though I also agree with everything hes saying, it just depends on the situation and the man/woman.

Real good advice !!

ha ha ok huntbounties but most are emotional and i thank God that steve harvey wrote this book because it is MY GOSPEL OF RELATIONSHIPS. sorry just admit its true and the s**t huntbounties. ;)

I don’t see it as all the men on here are upset because he is telling the truth I think they are upset because they are being put in a group of men that they don’t consider themselves to be. Let’s keep it real ladies if a woman called herself giving advice to men about women and further influenced men that all women are sneaky and conniving and can’t be trusted how would we feel knowing that we are not in that category. I think the only way to have a good healthy relationship is doing what makes you happy. Alot of times people try to follow society’s guidelines to happiness. Couples that have been married 20, 30, 40 years etc. didn’t read relationship books and they handeled their relationships amongst themselves. I will say relationships are not easy but the only way to know your man is to learn him. God gave us our instincts so we could use them and any woman knows when you get that feeling it’s up to her to decide what she is going to do. My motto is do whatever makes you happy. This is Steve Harvey’s second marriage so when it’s all said and done even though he is giving advice he’s still human and can’t control things not working. That’s just life you learn from your situations, it makes you stronger and wiser and even that much better next time around.

eyebrow raised…

I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO sick of these f**king CORNBALLS trying to speak for ALL guys when they barely know anything to begin with….ESSSSPECIALLY this clown! He f**kin’ makes me SICK every time he opens his face….he kills me how he tries to speak from the chick’s point of view…he’s OBVIOUSLY been on the view one too many times….f**king disgrace…

Is this fool serious? He is actually tried to make it seem like there’s no such thing as a gold-digger or nagging. YES, guys, most likely made those words, but give me a f**king break…..A HUUUUUUUUUGE number of chicks out there fit the profiles to a f**king T….so this fool…Ray J’s fruity ass, and anybody else who tries to speak for every dude from the FEMALE’S point of view, can all go suck on a jagged shlong dipped in lemon juice and s**t….seriously…

lol ok. Its simple fellas what Steve Harvey says in his book may or may not be true to you as a man, but there really is no need to get upset. Im not gonna say the book is (hatting) but it is what it is. What men do and how they act has been taught and passed down for many years. With that in mind, men I ask you……Would you walk down the same street to go home everyday if u knew there was someone waiting to let there dog chase you from walking down that street? All im saying is always stay one step ahead of the game. If niggas write books running they mouth just read it for yourself and then switch the game up! Thats why its called (Game). I hope you men take this bit of knowledge and rest easy…. Deuces.

he only mayed since when he was talking about planning and playing.
yeah baby i am a player and you have plan on changing the game. if you want me to listen to your nagging. cuz like he said i dont want to hear it.

but fellas you know this nigga is a in the closet homosexual.

he only mayed since when he was talking about planning and playing.
yeah baby i am a player and you have plan on changing the game. if you want me to listen to your nagging. cuz like he said i dont want to hear it.

but fellas you know this nigga is a in the closet homosexual. writing books on womans perspectives and s**t.

i dont knw why “BOYS” such as iwalkalone247 are getting upset! if it doesnt pertain to you then keep it movin boo! but for some reason i think he ACTUALLY is describing you, and i can tell just by your LANGUAGE alone! i see why you only have TWO friends, and then they white! hmmm? go figure. all do respect! chuck wick got it right though!

Man this is so funny. If you tripping over something that u think describing your game, then u need to step up.

Little that u know fellas it is the same way for us. But Steve is selling a book he have to give up something to get something.

Ladies stop looking for the perfect man cause nothing is perfect in this world. So dont believe everything in the book cause he is misleading in some issues.

One thing alot of females lack of is patients. If u take the time and observe the man u are chasing or want, then you will know if he fit in your life or not.

Another thing ladies, dont try to make a person what they are not. Would u grab a McDonald burger and dress it up with Mayonnaise, lettuce, Tomatoes, and onion and call it a whopper. Now people why u want to do it with the people u want to be with. Take you but to Burger King

It took me alot of years to figure out that what Steve says is true true true. I wish I had heard this YEARS ago and I will use his information to teach my daughter why she needs to hold out for better, same with my girlfriends. Keep some pride, keep your standards high and they WILL be met. A GOOD man will appreciate that in you.

Ladies please understand that Steve Harvey is a brand, a product, trying to make as much money as possible. He’s telling you what you want to hear in order to sell copies of his book. I know all about advertising and how advertisers go after a target audience. I have a Degree in Television, and I know that advertisers target women more so than men, because women usually control the money in households. I’m not hatin on steve, but I can honestly say that I don’t think that he is sincere about the info he is giving to you ladies. I could go on, but I wont. I’ll leave you with something to think about. Before companies comes up with a product to sale, the first thing they have to figure out is who their target audience is and how to cater to that audience. They also use a formula called the A.I.D.A formula which stands for, Attention, Interest, Desire, Action. It works like this, first say something to get the audiences “attention” once you have it keep them “interested” to the point that they “desire” to have it thinking that they can benefit from it, and take “action” (buying the book, or whatever it might be that’s selling). Ladies I love ya’ll, but understand how advertising works.

AWW LOOK AT THE MEN GETTING ALL MAD AT THIS DUDE
YOU’RE JUST MAD CUZ HE’S RIGHT SHUT YA MOUTH’S

I have not read the book yet but in all honsety,if we as women would take our time and realize that we are so valueable and that we don’t have to settle for less. I think 90 percent of men are good but everyone has a different place in our lives. Some men are meant to be friends and then there is the right one for a husband and best friend. But as the Bible states, a man that findeth a sife findeth a good thing.But also ladies it states to be wise as a serpent and soft as a dove.

Steve YOU TRAITOR!!! lol

ayo steve…you supposed to be tellin jokes man…lol you killin us bruh..lol nah man jus playin..you tryin to eat too…

lol. all man now we need a code word for Gold digger. Crap!!!

Emergency Men League of Playas meet at 20 mins at the …. overtime rec center. And bring 20 dollars in singles.

that made a lot of sense….i’ve gotta find that book.

somethings u should just keep to urself. WTF steve. women r not gonna listen any way cause they r blinded by love so do ya book thang. I aint mad at u. u r not the only one to make a book bout this. An u wont be the last. thats y we label most women b***hes and hoes. step ya common sense up ladies. we do only toy with yal cause yal let us!!!!!!!!! So play on playas!!!!!!!!!!!

Steve been talking to oprah. He waits until he is in his 50s to write a book thats really common knowledge. I see his mouth moving but all i hear is blah blah blah.

Like they say…Don’t Hate the Player, Hate the Game!!! Go Steve!!

Wow- Sounds like some dudes are really hating on this book. Y’all just mad cause the same weak games you been playin’ ain’t gonna work no more. Ya’ll need to step up your games and come correct quick… Don’t worry- there are still plenty of women who don’t have the book yet :-)

I GOTTA GET THIS BOOK!!!!!

Lol it’s tight because he ain’t lyin. I’ve been the planner and the player….yuuuup….that s**t is true. I’m not gonna hate because my s**t is tight and right and I ain’t gonna miss a beat from this book. Playas just gotta step ya game up.

I don’t have the book but I surely commend Steve for trying to help sisters out. Some of needs help. I’m just fortunate enough to just have married the man the Steve describes in this interview, June 21, 2008. I’m 51, the last one in my family to get married and the only one in my family of 8 who was not married. I’m the seventh child. I would have married my sons father but after being with him for so long when my son turned 10, he’s now 29; I had to roll. The drugs was more important to him. After that my guard was up full time and I would not get close or let anyone get close to me. I dated married me but soon got tired of that. I had a Philadelphia–DC relationship that did not work thanks to him so I had to roll and am now with the man that treats me like a queen and I treat him like a king.

So Steve I give you your props and will get the book just because it’s you and I’m sure it will be helpful.

Thanks

I appreciate this interview. It really made me think.

I’ve read the book. Get it, its such a good read, and will change your outlook. I’m trying to get all females I know to read this book, cause it’s freat

*great

Im not goin to say what Steve is saying isnt true, cause I havent read tha book..only saw this vid..and I cant judge a book by it’s cover or this video for that matter..It may be a lot of fluff..maybe not…but his thing about Standards and Requirements is true! Bottom line men (and women) work for what they want…the more work they put in the more you can equate their desire is to have something…If your S&R’s require a guy courting you before taking it to tha next level then you will weed out about 80% of the fellas that fall into tha playa category. Playas dont have time for a three month courting process..period!! Also your INTUITION should help you sift through the other 20% that have lasted through the courting phase. This book is problably good reading and interesting but I definitely dont think it will replace the ole fashioned way of trusting your INSTINCTS and making someone WORK for what they really want…If hes not even TRYING to meet your S&R’s..leavem alone and move on, dont make excuses for him dont take into consideration his looks, his money, his job, etc, etc. just move on. If aint nobody met your S&R’s in say 5 years…well maybe u may need to revaluate your Standards and Requirements….(i.e. are they too materialistic, are they more than you can offer the person in return, etc, etc.) simple as that!!

he has to be smoking some huckabee

well i read the book but it not the best book i every read about this matter, The best book I ever read is THE BIBLE , I agree with some things he says and I disagree with other things he says. ALSO his popularity is in good standard with a lot of people but how ever Steve Harvey is still a man who need to speak about his self and not to speak about other men he never met.In his book he is being judgmental on some areas , And some areas are true He,s not a person to me that I would measure my self to. I mark the perfect man and that man is Christ.

A man has a right to his personal opinion, also It not what goes in the mouth of us people men and women, But what come out of our mouth may and can defiles us, so Steve needs to be careful what he say about men he do not know.we as a people only know Steve by his comedy or some of the T.V shows, But At his level of success he not really think about us that are not on his level of success. Personal The brother needs to apologizes to us brothers.Because he don’t know me I never met the man in person or hang with him on a daily base. He may mean good but it needs to be perfected. Its only one standard and that standard is in THE WORD OF GOD

Why Is it that any time a man goes public about what men do wrong and what women should be doing every woman jumps on the bandwagon like “yea he’s right. Yall men/boys need to listen to him.” No the real def for a gold digger is a woman who lets a man take her out and spend his hard earned money on her to try to please her and entertain her when in her mind she has no interest in him at all. Now i know quite a few of yall women/girls are guilty of this. And yall wonder why more and more guys are so damn cheap toward woman now. Would you wanna spend money taking a man out who you have no clue as to if he is actually interested in you or ladies? Now my next point is so do you women know what to do with or for a man who has done all of the right things and met all of your “standards”? Because this love, life, and relationship thing is a two way street. And a lot of women out here just want a man to take care of them while they do nothing for their man. And that is sad because a lot of these women on here talking about “fellas step it up” are those women who wont even complement a black man much less take care of him like he does for her. You are our equals right? So act like it and stop lookin for a new Daddy.

the key is that men by nature are hunter-gatherer types and it is what it is……..the problem with alot of men in my opinion is that we are clueless when it comes to women and having a commitment……….we have to understand if a woman is not feeling us that nothing will happen and we probably wont even get to 1st base……lol a woman has to “feel” something abt us to wanna sleep with us or have a relationship with us….
everything has to “fit” right for a woman. right place, time, etc etc……. just my analysis

I have read the book and think all females and males should as well.. It taught me a thing or two, believe it or not. And I think its about time a man broke it down for us. Too bad there cant be a book written from a lady’s point of view, lolz. Were way too complicated ; )

First of all, I have found that men (supposedly real men & men in general) do not even know how to date women anymore….Now days, when you meet a man, that you might even think that you may be interested in, the first thing they say, I’m looking for a freak in the bedroom……(WOW)…..they don’t know how to say, “Let’s take in a movie together”, or “Let’s set a date for dinner, dancing, or anything nice”…..The only thing on men minds these days is SEX, SEX, SEX……It’s so scary out here in the world now days, I just assume to stay celebite, keep a supply of batteries on hand, and date my ownself…..SAFE & SECURE…..

Hello,
I need some good advice.. I am 25 year old single female who has alot too offer, I am on way to starting a good career in the criminal justice field… and I am ready to settle down, the problem is I keep running into the same guy, people who are afraid of committment, what do i need to change? anyone with advice would help? I am tired of getting hurt and played, where do i start to change the cycle..
Victoria

I’m sorry ladies, but anyone who takes love advice from a comedian is an idiot…I mean would you take financial advice from a bug bunny?
To me its very simple…if you are trying to win the affection of a man but going about it in the wrong way, common sense SHOULD tell you to switch up the way you are going about things, take for example if your are inside an house and trying to go out but keep running into the wall, you’re not gonna tell the wall that its in the wrong place, you’re gonna find a different route to get outside and accomplish your goal.

Monogamous relationships are pretty much in the toilet until we all get through playing around in our youth and want to act right, both men and women.

Its when our beauty and bodies fade when we all decide we want to settle down.

The smart people learn rather earlier in their years what they want to do with their lives, and go for it, stick with it, and produce wonders while the rest of us argue about it.

Peace.

the black mans guide to understanding black women was more than likely a descent guide if nothing else,but correct me if im wrong but didnt mr harvey go through a messy divorce now ur going to read his pointers on Power Money an Sex. negro plz,hes a subpar comedian an thats about it,last time i checked he had no masters or phd in relationships or anything close.he like most of these so called big negroes play on the fears of women in general an sistas in particular because its profitable(an black woman eat it up like fools).show me elderly couple whos been together for 25 or more years an ill listen,but a foul mouth fake suit wearing wanna be richard pryor,nigga plz. once again someone will drive another wege between black man an woman.

@Kenny

Truth be told, many couples who have been married over 25 years will say that they’ve stay together because one of them forgave their cheating partner, or stay with the man anyway even though he had another family across town, etc.

Some say stick it out, so we also cannot act like the older couples stay together that long with out their own troubles. Just today many people feel that they don’t have to go through all of that and demand higher of potential partner than in days past.

Look here Women and Men IT IS WHAT IT IT.What ever you’re feel in your Heart or stomach THAT’S IT.iF IT DON’T LOOK WRIGHT ,IT’S NOT WRIGHT.IF IT DON’T FEEL WRIGHT IT’S NOT WRIGHT.

Hey victoria,
Have fun! Thats it. your problem just may be that you need a change of scenery. You cant keep going to the same type of places expecting different people. Trust me once you start your new career your going to meet all kinds of new people. sometimes its hard for us to see a good man even if he is sitting on us, because they are not what were used to. And dont change s**t about you, if you always treat yourself like a queen and expect nothing less you will attract it to you. and thats not being conceided thats confidence! its bout time these damn men learned how to court a woman again! sdm7 called it!

As a woman, either young or old. You learn from personal experience or watching vicariously around you adopt and revise as you grow and mature. What you as a person stand for and what value system that you have in place. Learning about relationships come from communication, observation, and knowing what you want from the begining. Then what are your foundations of a relationship is your back..Or Intelligence. What bothers me is why the term is just labeled on women? There are men that are golddiggers will tell you what they want and who.

Tell em Steve!

SOMEONE PREVIOUSLY POSTED THAT THE MEN NOWADAYS DO NOT KNOW HOW TO DATE WOMEN! I AGREE 100%. THEY DO NOT KNOW HOW TO CARRY ON A GOOD CONVERSATION EITHER. THEN YOUR “SUPPOSE” TO GO TO THE OTHER SIDE OF THE CITY TO SEE THEM? NO ONE IS PERFECT, BUT GUYS COME ON, SET YOUR GAME UP! I AM NOT TRYING TO OFFEND ANYONE, SO IF THE SHOE DOESN’T FIT TAKE IT OFF. I AM PERSONALLY TIRED! FOR KENNY, MAYBE STEVE IS SAYING SOME THINGS THAT YOU DON’T WANT WOMEN TO KNOW. YOUR RESPONDS HOLDS AN AIR OF BITTERNESS. IF A WOMAN WANTS TO SPEND HER MONEY TO BE MISLED, THEN LET HER. BETTER THAN SPENDING IT ON A MAN WHO IS NOT IN HER CORNER!

out of dallas, got this marrage guy, but i dont want to have sex with him because it not right, and he can”t do his thing because of his sugars, keep him from getting, (Hard) and keeping it, but i enjoy being with him, I try to make hime still field like an man, don’t have sex at home try to keep it real,i am 57 i look good for my age ,just need to hold on, because if he did move out,where he at now i will not shack,so i tell him to stay.home.and do his best,

if we go back to the u bring half i bring half ….the golddigga thang wouldnt be an issue.if we go back to dating..instead of tryna hit that…..if we go back to kourting for a while instead of tryna get them in a bottle of patron…these probls wouldnt be diskussed…..get god in the relatiohship……

I like Steve Harvey and undoubtedly he drops knowledge and has an intelligent sensible out look on life. However, I don’t believe that the women of the world are the ones that need to be schooled on love. I understand that ladies buy more books then do men, so of course we are your target audience, but if you really want to make a difference,writie a book for the male population and advise them to stand up and be men. Say what they mean, do as they say, and be honest. Don’t have all these mumbo jumbo ways of saying and doing things and expect us women to decode them.

who made steve harvey the expert what cause he has a little money and hes on tv. that goes to show you people will read anything. how many times was he married ? oh yeah thats what makes him the expert. whats next steve dianetics

In response to comments that state maybe books about relationships shouldn’t be aimed at women, but if you really want to fix relationship issues to instead aim them towards men. That wouldn’t fix anything. The point of the book is to assist women who do want a real man, and to help women weed out the ones who aren’t actually real men. Now don’t get me wrong, writing a book for men could be of assistance for men who are already Real but just want to become better so as to find that women that’s for them. However it wont fix the issue of fake men (if you will). As they wouldn’t read it because they are already getting what they want out of some women. That’s the point of this book, so women can help weed out those BS-ing guys. As well into comments that delve into a bunch of sexism, it should be known by now, yes there are gold-digging women AND men, we all know that. Anything you can call a women (even though you shouldn’t call her that), you can find a guy who deserves to be called it as well. But stop trying to fight that battle, the reason women get called b***hes and gold-diggers is because its to put them down. Stop fighting the battle that there are men out there like that too. Of course there are, women and men are as different as people tend to stereotype. But that battle doesn’t fix anything, instead let it be known, “I” am not a b***h and “I” am not a gold-digger, damn it go old school and say, “I am women hear me roar”. Just don’t fight for the pointless and already known perspectives, fight for showing who you know YOU are and for what you deserve and want in a relationship. Oh and by the way no there is NOT anything wrong with a woman paying for her own meal et cetera and doing things of that nature that is true (in regards to other comments made below). But that doesn’t disclude men from knowing they should be picking up that bill. Maybe not every time, because men and women are equal, however 50% to maybe even the majority of the time the man should. Why? Because its chivalry! And damn it its not dead! Women are suppose to be able to take care of themselves and stand on their own two feet, however men are suppose to take care of their women anyways, even when both of them know she can take care of herself, because he loves her and WANTS to be there for her and do everything for her and BE her everything. Doesn’t mean a man isn’t suppose to let a women be herself, but we all know the main ideal of this, its an equilibrium in a relationship of a women being a women and a man showing his deep affection for her in one of the many ways that he attempts to do so every day. (And in response to the comment about Steve; I don’t think Steve is an expert, but he is just trying to sell a book and give out some advice. You don’t have to buy the book. But there are a ton of other people putting out books that don’t know any more than he does either. Just because he is famous doesn’t mean he needs to be an expert to want to make a book, being famous just helps him market the book).
In the end there were a few too many bias, some sexist and some blinded comments for this in my opinion. So… I had to add a little something to try and set the record straight a little. :)

I am glad Steve wrote the book I got this book for several of my friends because I got tired of always repeating the same things over and over. Its not a male bashing book or saying females are better the book is helpful.
I listen to his show sometimes during the Strawberry Letter segment and some of the letters that women and men write in are just good letters because they not only are getting help themselves they maybe asking a question someone else may not have had the courage to ask so they are helping others. Like the other day this lady wrote in about how she has the perfect man she always dreamed of and let him know that she didn’t want to have sex with him until they are married because she wants their union to be blessed by God yet she has this ex that she tips out to have sex with because she just can’t resist him. Questions like these are answered in the book everybody could use a little guidance every now and then.

hey sisters listen up all the brothers on her complaining about what Steve is saying are the ones thats playing. a real man doesn’t not have a problem with what he is saying. and for the sisters that are complaining you are the ones gettig played and don’t have any standards or requirements. And it is does not mater if you ae married or think that you are so in love. it is a lot of people in fake ass marriages and they have a hoe and pimp relationship.

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yo Steve hit it on the nose. he described two types of men and i was the dude that played games. i did all types of dirt but now the games stopped I’m married to a woman thats completely different from the women i was playing games on. so women if you want to get married or have a long lasting relationship establish what you want and stay by it. trust me you will weed out the men from the boys real quick.

even though his marriage ended f**ked up he made good points

“On the real ladies, Steve hit it on the nose,…I truly feel him and where he’s coming from,…Now all we need to do is have Mr. Harvey write a book about the brother that has learned from past issues with women. So Mr.Harvey, when will a book come out that tells women to stop judging men so harsh, Such as seeing a young man in hiphop clothing and assuming he’s some form of thug, or he’s beneath her…

listen men don’t bash steve for making a book about men and what ladies shouldn’t looking for. if your a playa or balla use this as an edge. i read most of the women comments on here and they are practically seeing this book as the bible and running out to buy it. i say men should by this book too and stay ahead of the game. these woman are going to use this book as advise, we can use it as advise for our needs also. this game has been played since the dawn of man and as time went on the game has changed. its just time to make another change in this evolution game. so i say to women yes go buy the book and to get your man. i will be the promoter and the advertisement manager,nuff said.

Well you are only as good as your tools and if no one has taught you how to be a lady then how do you learn? There are no victims only volunteers. People will treat you the way you allow yourself to be treated. We as women, especially women of color need to stop limiting ourselves and putting material incentives ahead of what really matters. Maybe the brother drives a bus but maybe with an intelligent driven sista by his side he can accomplish more but we snub our noses at the fact that he’s a bus driver then sit around wondering where the hell the men are at?
Steve is telling it like it is.

And men….you all need to get it together as well. But I’m not a man so you are gonna have to figure that one out!(hehe)

Peace and Blessings to all my positive folks out there!

you are right on the money steve men need to treat their woman like gold and trash all the time. my ex needs a page out of your book, you hit it right on the nose. all men need to treat their woman like gold and not like a slave, and you should always pay for your girlfriend or wife’s dinner.

Steve you have given good advice on relationship. I am going to put this on my priority list so that I get what I want and when I want it. Thank you for the advice.

steve wat you are sayin is so true i have been alone for so many years until one day i saw a face i new was goin to be my husband and with so much respect he capture my heart and yes in four years we were married on feb 24 his b-day he said i was the best present he could ever ask for was for me to be his wife i love him so much . sign jeana

hello steve i just want to say thank you from a whole lot of us lady’s i am a smart woman and i have always had my head right on my shoulders and still do but u r so very right because i had a younger guy that i knew wasnt my type of a man he was more like a boy and i thought i could help him so i did have my standards up high and my wall up but i fell 4 this younger boy not a man and tried to turn him into a real true man but it didnt happen cause why i lowered my standards and just kinda accepted some of the things he was doing that i didnt like but put up with him and i dont know why and no ladies or men it wasnt cause of the sex..but i thought i could help him be a man , so ladies dont let a man tear u dwn and tell u them made up words like steve said cause everything steve has said is so so true and thats why i kicked his ass to the curb where i picked his ass up from in the first place so ladies go get steve book and read cause i did….thanks steve and i love u and always have…..

I do not think a man should do everything for his wife in a relationship it should be equal he must pay for dinner then at another time she should pay for it he should not do all of that then she will develop greed this is why woman’s use men to get what they want because they see the large sum of money he got and starts thinking this is when the greed kicks in relationships should be fair he gives her things and she gives him things now if you have a girl/boy and you give that person alot she/he is happy but when you want something she/he does not want to satisfy you by getting it for you or telling you she/he does not have enough money for it basically telling a huge f**king lie :\

First let me start by saying rocki1 is absolutely clueless. There are lots of women out there who truly are gold diggers. Then there are those who have their standards and simply want financial reciprocity. Lets define the two for what they are. Then and only then will you be able to clearly see the fine line that divides them. And that line WILL miraculously become thicker. We cannot ignore the fact that there are women out there who judge a mans worth but the material things he possess. And if that’s what they use to determine what they want from a man, they will surely be blinded to the things that really make a man good; or bad. I asked my mother, in admiration, how she and my father make it work. I remarked that she must really have that 50/50 relationship across the board. She looked at me with a smirk and said, “No, son. We do not have a 50/50 relationship. We have a 100/100 relationship. We give each other our all and have been doing so since the beginning.” She later clarified that this meant spiritually, emotionally, physically AND financially. They have been married since Oct. 3, 1976. She was not a gold digger, she dug for something much more valuable, and she found it.

Having said what I said in my last post. I am disgusted that relationships between black men and women have been reduced to dollar signs. Do you know what Barack got for Michelle on their first date? AN ICE-CREAM CONE. I dont think finances is a major part of their relationship, nor should it be. She was his supervisor and clearly in a financially superior position when they met. But she looked past all of that and saw the man that he was. And now, with her love and support he is the man at the wheel. I dont think gold digging and what seems to be his “responsibility to foot the bill” was anywhere near this evolution. Do you?

STEVE, I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!

well steve harvey did it he actually made women to think about what exactly they want in a man and not what they can get out of a man. hope this helps our black men and women to see each other better in relationships and starting relationships.

Steve you words are so profound. Men really do not want to court woman anymore. Woman are often perceived as being a Golddigger she simply requests that a man date her outside of her house. Woman please demand of certain level of respect. Require that men go through the courtship process of a relationship. If you don’t, it makes it extremely difficult for woman who do require it. Men will then choose not to put the sweat equity into courting, because all other woman make it too easy for men. So men elevate your game.

It saddens me to see how Black men have heard that we are the source of all Black women’s problems for so long that some of us have seemingly acquiesced and accepted the blame! According to that line of thinking, there are no golddiggers. There are no women out there who pursue men solely on the basis of how many commas there are in their salary. No women have emotional baggage that keep them from forming meaningful relationships with good men. There just aren’t any good men! It’s not a woman’s fault when she “falls in love” with a married man who promised to leave his wife and kids but changed his mind later. Shame on that man for making his mistress that promise, and using her as his little side-piece concubine! After all, it’s our fault that so many women have bad attitudes, are loud-mouthed, and confrontational–all in an attempt to show the world that they’re “strong.” The ones that act this way, have to. What choice do they have, right? It’s all our fault because we make women commit adultery, have children out of wedlock, get pregnant by drug dealers, players, and guys who already have 10 children by 10 different women–none of whom are being supported by him. I mean, women are higher beings. They better than us guys, right Steve? Everything they do is just in response to what we’ve done to them, right? The stuff many of us go through in marriage, relationship, on the job, and even in church dealing with women is all in our heads, right? Dude, what planet are you living on?

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I could not have said that better myself…damn