if they are cheating i would want to know. better safe than sorry. better to find out sooner rather than later. i have never felt bad for snooping and i never will. yea i might trust you…but just because i trust you, doesnt mean you are trustworthy. i would never want to be made a fool of. most people arent trustworthy…which is why i dont do relationships much anyways.

you didnt make any sense lady below me…you either trust or you dont…snooping and spying indicates that you dont trust and are paranoid. and the article is right. you should talk to him, not be effing nosy. because if you are WRONG and he finds out you’re snooping, then thats not going to end well now is it…its not hard to just sit him down and talk. COMMUNICATION people. use it. and no…ive never snooped. never had a reason to.

Hell yes I snoop…if I have a feeling that he’s cheating, it’s usually right on. So then I wanna know whats going on before I get an STD…I’d be stupid to not snoop and let him bring something home if I don’t follow-up on my gut feeling. Besides, if he’s the type to cheat, then he would be the type to lie right to my face when I would come out and ask him about it.

if you snoop your around in your mate’s personal business you deserve to find out that they cheated on you. honestly this has been a topic with me and my friends for a long time.. simply because i dont snoop. they think something is wrong with me. but hey i feel like this.. u find what u looking for. and trust me when i say.. being the only girl with 4 brothers, they know when u lookin thru their s**t. and if they was faithful before.. the snooping will give them a reason to look for another woman. my bro told me a long time ago, if im guilty for no reason, i might as well commit the crime. be careful with snooping, he knows and it will push something that may be good for u away. and for the record, i can say i have never caught anyone cheating on me, but like i said, i didnt look anyway. men will be reading this and u wonder why men trip they way they do.. and bash women and refuse to commit, regardless of race, that s**t will make anyone want to be single

let me add, you should use good judgment about the people u date. if the person doesnt seem right in the beginning, they may not be right period. it takes time to find your soul mate, dont rush love. peace ladies..

THANK YOU LaDawn! I see why they call u “TheGreat1″. Lady’s take note. The most important note Mz LaDawn made was the advise she got from her brothers. Every man that is not your man or trying to get wit ya is going to give you honest advice about other guys. Though still with some youhave to read between the lines (watch the faces). Like your brother I would not cheat but if accused or snooped on as if… I may develope leanings to find someone more trust worthy. Now whether or not I’d snoop? Honestly? I have and found what I didn’t want. But with those ladies I did express my concerns beforehand. But bulls**t has a srong smell, don’t ignor it just to ‘feel’ happy or keep a man/woman. Have I with every relationship? Hell no. Don’t fool yourselves, u KNOW how much u can trust someone once u start seriously dating them. If u don’t, you’r deaf, blind and dumb!
If you’r young, listen and learn now. Save yourself a lot of heartache. Cause what advice we give, is learn just that way.

Don’t snoop , ive learned mah lesson. im a true believer in “whats done in the dark WILL come to light”… most men dont know how to cheat anyways ..so TRUST you will find out, and honestly and truely iFeel the same way ,cause if iFind out you snooping im going to give you a reason to really snoop. so iDont waste mah time snooping cause eventually you will find out.

I dont have time to be snooping thru my mate’s things..my gut is usually 99% correct and whatever is done in the dark will always come to light..trust n believe. That being said, if i had real suspicions of cheating than i would have to confront it with my partner in a way which is respectful yet firm, than decide if we are going to work it out or not.Simple.

Well let me tell you from experience…. Snooping really is not a good idea. At first I had an intuition that my ex was cheating and when I started snooping the first time I found out he was cheating. So we broke up of course because once a cheater always a cheater. Alot of you guys really had some strong points on this topic too. I feel ya 100% about not snooping. I really wish I hadn’t done it because I was paranoid and once you get started doing that you get sucked in and it really consumes you. So I too feel that you should not snoop because if you see some red flags in the beginning then why even entertain their thoughts any longer. Just save your self alot of heartache and pain from the jump. So right now I’m just focusing on my beautiful daughters and doing me. And I’m loving every moment of it.

NO IT’S NOT OKAY TO SNOOP AND TAKING IT FROM EXPERINCE “DO UNTO OTHERS, AS YOU WOULD WANT THEM TO DO UNTO YOU” IF YOU DON’T WANT YOUR SIGNIFCANT OTHER DOING IT YOU SHOULD NOT DO IT. YOU DON’T HAVE TO SAY THAT YOU DONE IT BECAUSE THEY WILL KNOW. YOUR WHOLE ATTITUDE TOWARDS THEM WILL CHANGE. IF YOU DON’T TRUST THAT PERSON FOR WHATEVER REASON SIT DOWN AND TALK ABOUT IT. IF ONCE ALL WORDS HAVE BEEN EXCHANGED AND THAT PERSON HAS ACTED LIKE AN A&& THEN THERE IS NO POINT. THAT IS JUST SAYING OK AM I SUPPOSE TO CARE, I’M DOING WHAT I DO AND I’M NOT CHANGING.

I FOUND THE BEST WAY TO DO IS TO PRAY ON IT. NOTHING BETTER THAN THAT. LIKE A FEW BELOW ME HAS SAID WHAT IS DONE IN THE DARK WILL SURELY COME OUT IN THE LIGHT. IF YOU WANT TO LOSE SOMEONES TRUST OR END A RELATIONSHIP QUICKER SNOOPING IS THE WAY TO DO IT. KARMA IS A BIT**.

ALSO ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER, WHOMEVER SAID THAT IS WRONG. I USED TO CHEAT ALOT. HONESTLY AFTER A WHILE IT GETS BORING YOU GET TIRED OF HURTING PEOPLE OR YOU MEET THAT ONE PERSON WHO HAS THE UPPER HAND ON YOU. SO I AM A REFORMED CHEATER.

WELL PERSONALLY, EVERYTIME I HAVE SNOOPED IT HAS COME TO SOMETHING. I DONT FOLLOW NO ONE AROUND BUT I DO PICK UP THE PHONE, DONT HAVE TIME TO CHECK NOBODY VOICEMAILS I RARELY CHECK MINE. BUT I DO READ TEXTS.LOOKS AT PICS, I DONT SCROLL THROUGH NO DAMN CONTACT LIST THATS RETARDED. I RATHER KNOW WHATS GOING ON THEN SIT AT HOME CRYING WONDERING WHATS GOING ON. SORRY LADIES THATS JUST ME. YEAH IF THEY ARE CHEATING, U ARE GOING TO BE PISSED AT YOURSELF. BUT ITS GOOD TO (FIND OUT) BECAUSE YEARS OF AN ONGOING CHEATING RELATIONSHIP WILL END IN MAYHEM. AND STOP SAYING ITS NOT TRUST OR ITS LACK THEREOF. WHEN U FIRST START OFF IN A RELATIONSHIP U CAN TRUST SOMEONE ALL YOUR HEART DESIRES. BUT IF THEY ARE DOING SOMETHING THAT DOESNT SEEM RIGHT, U WILL START TO QUESTION IT. THATS “EVERY” WOMAN. THATS OUR NATURE WE LISTEN TO OUR INTUITION. IF I TRUST MY MAN, THEN I WONT GO THROUGH HIS STUFF, BUT IF I START TO REALLY FEEL DOUBT AND HE’S CHANGING SIGNIFICANTLY, I CAN CARE LESS ABOUT THAT PRIVACY S**T. AND WHEN HE ASKS FOR MINE I GLADLYYY PASS IT OVER. IM NOT TRYNA DOG NOBODY’S OPINION, BUT IM TELLING U, IF U HAVE EVER BEEN CHEATED ON, MAJORITY OF THE TIME U COULD HAVE FOUND OUT BEFORE IT CAME TO THE BLOWUP. NONE OF MY EX’S EVER GOT MAD AT ME SNOOPING BECAUSE AFTERWARDS, I WOULD TALK CALM, ASK DIRECT QUESTIONS, MAYBE IT WAS A LITTLE ARGUING BUT THEN WE ENDED ON TERMS WHERE IF WE SEE EACH OTHER IT AINT TENSION. MEN CANT GET MAD BECAUSE IF THEY ARE CHEATING, THEN U WILL FIND OUT AT SOME POINT, IF THEY ARE NOT, THEY MIGHT BE A LITTLE UPSET, BU IF THEY UNDERSTAND YOUR PAST OR YOUR CONCERNS, WITH VALID REASON OF COURSE, THEN THEY WONT TRIP. NONE OF MINE DID. THEY DUMB ASS JUST GOT BUSTED LOL. WELL LADIES, NO ONE CAN TELL U WHATS RIGHT FOR U OR WRONG FOR U (BUT YOU) SO DO WHAT U FEEL U NEED TO. BECAUSE TRUST AND BELIEVE PPL THAT TRY TO TELL U WHATS RIGHT OR WHAT TO DO WOULD NOT HEED THE SAME ADVICE IF THE ROLES WERE SWITCHED. DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT AND LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. DONT WAIT 4-5 YEARS DOWN THE LINE WHEN U GOT KIDS BY HIS ASS TO FIND OUT HE SLEEPING WITH SOMEONE YOUNGER, ANOTHER RACE, SOMEONE U KNOW, ETC.

PEACE AND BLESSINGS :)

Just curious…. Why are we able to leave comments on here when people get offended about what you say? First of all my comments are about the topic and my own experiences. I’m not here to bash anyone nor single anyone out. When I said once a cheater always a cheater. I was referring to my own personal experience and how I felt about cheaters. So if you are a person who used to cheat or whatever and now you don’t, then don’t take my comments personal because I’m not talking about you ok. Anyways be easy and I’m out!!!

No, I’ve NEVER snooped on my man && I’m not gonna start. Personally, I feel that I can trust my man UNTIL HE GIVES ME REASON NOT TO. I’m not gonna just go around LOOKING for him to do wrong.

I was always told if ur looking for something you will find it so…i just trust my man and give him the love and respect he deserves!! If I take care of home like im suppose to, even if he is snooping around, he will still come home to Momma!!! (ME)

i have snooped on my man. and i did find some things i didnt want to find. and even though were still together. i dont trust him 100% like i did when we frist started to date. but when thing i have to commend him on he awlays told me the truth when he f**ks up bad. no hold bar.

Never have and never will. I know a lot of women who has snooped on their significant other and found out something they didn’t want to. I have never been a one who need to do such a thing. Because if you go looking for something, you just may find it and not be too happy about it. Even if he give me a reason to want to investigate, I still won’t do it. It’s an invasion of privacy. Us ladies don’t want our privacy invaded now do we??????

i gave this stupid chick once all that i could. she still cheated on me. i found out in her aim chats and later after she broke up with me in her email (her password was my name). she had the nerve to say i was sneaking. B***h what? her favorite phrase was what you do in the dark always come out in the light. i wonder why??? now i don’t trust anyone anymore. i know i was the best she’ll ever have but its all good. a loser like her doesn’t deserve someone like me.