Ok im the first to comment on this one. Alot of younger people around the ages of 18-25 are rushing them selfs into marriage only to end up with 3-8 kids, single and struggling to take care of their kids on their own. Especially with young men out here rushing a marriage to lock a young woman down to keep her at home but dont even be really in love. I see it all the time.. out here in the city and on here on these websites… its actually hilarious to me. I believe there is no time frame on being engaged but i do believe that there is such thing as being too soon. Being engaged or even thinking about it or being married around the ages of 18-24 is too young. whole life ahead of you, college , work , getting a house and finances established. Getting engaged within the first 2 – 3 years of knowing each other is too soon as well. It can take a lifetime to truely know a person in and out. and learning some one is a life time process as people change and make different choices and decisions. but hey you can only kick knowledge and sit back and learn from other peoples mistakes and take heed to them. Or see for your self and make life harder then it already is.

yes, i agree young men get married all the time to try to lock a female down. a friend of mines out married when he was 21 now his 19 and getting a divorce because they really didnt know one another. they were high school sweethearts and thought they was in love now they have a baby and dont even want to spak to each other..more ppl need to wait til they atleast 3 or 4 yrs. then get engaged and talk about marriage.

I have a different view point on this whole marriage and engagement thing. Personally I don’t think that you need to be together for years to determine if someone is the “right one” for you or not. What happened to God being in this? What happened to he that findeth a wife findeth a good thing? What happened to marriage couseling? What happened to for better or for worse til DEATH do us part? Yes, I agree that too many people get married quickly. But it’s not the quick part that tears them apart. It’s the reasons behind why they got married. I believe that there should be a period where you develop a friendship, then you court and then HE proposes. As for me…If he doesn’t know that I’m the one after 2years it’s time to bounce. That’s a long time to allow temptation to settle in and fornication, infidelity and other types of mess. I mean, those things can happen either way. But also, I want to say this…even if you wait 4 years before you propose, it doesn’t mean that you’ll know everything about someone. You can be together for 4 years and not know their favorite color, eye color and which side of their mouth they start to chew with first. C’mon people, get familiar.

P.S. I disagree with the part about young men getting married “all the time” to try and lock a young woman down. They can’t succeed with their effort if the young women don’t allow it. So both parties need to be educated. But there are a lot of young women trying to lock down a young man and pressure them into marriage so they can keep them. Too many people get married ’cause someone is pregnant or lied about being pregnant. So give the young men some slack. Both young men and young women are to blame. I’m sure if they had a true village that had a hand in raising them that there’d be less mistakes made when making decisions to get married.

A year minimum, try 2 learn as much as possible about ya other half….the good and the bad, trust me…lol

Well my fiance and I dated for 3 months and we are living together and engaged. through our courtship we were very honest and open with each other about what we wanted out of life and each other. We keep the lines of communication open and it is working for us. Maybe because we are older. ( I am in my 30′s and he is in his 40′s) I believe it depends on the individuals and their maturity.

nine months. Three months people stop the facade of perfect after six months you know rather that person is for you are not just stop making excuses or if they are a good person appreciate them. After nine months what you see is what you get too often people ignore the signs so they screw themselves or they know it’s a good person and mess it up my taking them for granted.

AT LEAST TWO YEARS

OMG!

You wait as long as you have to wait why do women want to rush marriage?

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There are no hard and fast rules for being engaged. It depends on how long you’ve known the person in the first place, amongst a number of other things. If I was to take that step I have a 7 year rule. People change and outgrow each other. I’d want to make sure I get it right the first time!!!!!!
To each it’s own, but, don’t say imma marry you today and you just met!

Whenever you feel you’re ready.

2 be honest i am engaged but i wanna marry him in 3 years cuz im finding my self and Im going to school…