WOW…I was expecting more from this article! To answer your question, yes LDRs can(and do) work. Just like any relationship, it takes communication, commitment and lots of effort and trust. By the way, ANY relationship is doomed if you’re a sex fiend and you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel

LOL…its 2009 and the divorce rate is sky-rocketing!so wucha think? hell,two people living in the same household might find it difficult,nevertheless,sustaining a long distance relationship.((shrugs))

Yes, Yes & yes…. LDRs can work. If you put effort into the local relationships that doesn’t work or the communication isn’t there, then why not work on a LDR. Its all about trust, understanding, & mostly faith.

Yes they can work… But the odds are in favor of “NO”

Yes they can work. I have a long list of reasons why some people think they can’t but contrary to popular belief they work.

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They may work for two people who are not attractive to the vast majority of others. But image two incredibly attractive people trying to do the LD thing.

Not gonna happen!

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FIRST U HAVE TO TRY…………

Hell no^5(thats hell no to the fifth power for math challenge folks) lmao now with that being said I’m only speaking for me nope I do not trust any man who brings that idea to the table. Oh so you mean your in Las Vegas and I’m like in Inglewood and you like want to date me like ok yeah right

And while your at I be a virgin who can walk on water and tell the future that your going to f uck m over toodles keep playing with your loose noodles im out….

Why is it that in America, relationships (or potential relationships) are defined by limitations? Pathetic

Nope they don’t work….. flat out

It all depends on how long distance. If you’re more than 1-2 hrs away from your partner….NOOO!! I will not work! save yourself some agony, don’t do it! Trust me.

It all depends on how long distance. If you’re more than 1-2 hrs away from your partner….NOOO!!

Maybe like 4 out of 5 times… if that.

if the person isnt even in your state u prob shouldnt do it. at least not as far as relationship goes but i mean for sex i mean do your thing even though dats stupid too considering it’ll wear down ya pockets and i’m sure its frustrating. but oh well do ya thing but they’re right.

No it can’t work but the things thats so wierd is that all the cute sexy women that want me live hella far away!

Come on now people long distance does not reall simply because you cant trust that person. people tend to feel the need for sexual attention once far away. That seeing you once out of a month aint gonna cut it, if thats the case should i say you can find a freind down the road for a more pleasureable moment. i advise any dumb person to get out of the relationship so fast it makes your head spin and it knocks sense into you.

hell no lol

good luck !

every once in a blue moon they will work out for some people, but from my experiences… down the drain. i will never do that mess again

To LDR’s I say “To Each His/Her Own”. I am personally opposed to them because I have tried it a few times and the results were less than favorable. However, it is easy to identify the problems. With that being said it “CAN” work but it requires committment, CONSISTENCY & communication on both parts. There is no room for slacking. The telephone becomes a best friend and you acc**ulate miles on the car (or frequent flyer miles if you are flying) but it can be worth it. On a positive note one of my close friends lived in Michigan and her (NOW HUSBAND) live in Seattle, WA. He flew her in every month, he would come to Michigan and sometimes they would meet in “neutral” locations to keep things interesting. They did the long distance thing for about 3 years and then moved in together and about 2 years after that they were married and are now going on 7 years of wedded bliss. It is all in the person. Coincidentally I am seeing someone long distance right now and the chemistry is amazing. However, I have learned to take things one day at a time.

LDR’s work only if you want them to work. You have to have trust and faith in that person. You have to have plenty of other activities to keep your mind off of the needs of a relationship. The sexual part of it. Remember, when you want it, you just can’t go and get it. You have to wait. You better believe, if I am going to wait for something, it damn sure better be worth it. Every once in a while opposed to want some get some is a hard thing to compare. Not that it’s all about sex, but hey, isn’t that what makes up that tally of 100%?

i have a boyfriend dat lives an hour away and i see him every other week depending on our schedules and gas (lol) but i think it depends on da distance and if you think dat person is worth it… he is definitely worth it to me

Long distance relationships can work if the people involved have integrity. Some people will use the distance as a justification to behavior they wouldn’t otherwise do if their partner was readily available and accessible. Relationships at a distance, whether the separation is caused by mileage or tension, require great effort. But there must be an immediate short-term goal to close the gap; otherwise there will exist a certain comfort level, associated with the distance, that may sabotage any long-term plans for the relationship.

Agreed @ Tiredman
Why is it that in America, relationships (or potential relationships) are defined by limitations? Pathetic
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I feel that relationships are so limited by some “ideal” and not customized by the two individuals within the relationship. So sad that many relationships which had potential to take their bound to unknown heights, were stopped and limited by “everyday ignorance” and restrictions.

There is a such thing as true happiness in a relationship and not settling…if you both want that!?!?

why cant you have that long distance relationship with someone and have casual sex with other people? just an idea lol…

It can, but very often it doesn’t.

ANY relationship can work if (1) both partners are willing to put in equal amount of effort, (2) if one partner doesn’t continually want more than the other is willing or capable of giving (hear that women?), and (3), if we stop defining relationships by potential limitations.

well my experience i was the one running my mileage up on my truck men dont put any effort into it. I might have let a great guy go but i’m a great person too and for 2 yrs i came to him and he never came my way unless it was a Texas OU game and i didnt know he was close by until after the game so i think that short term it’s okay long term men are gonna cheat and women too not me but that’s just me so i opt to go solo and just chat cause relationships are hard. So the short answer is NO they dont work!

Interesting..you guys are scaring me…lol. I only read this topic because I too am coming up against a long distance relationship situation….And its not an hour or two away..Im talking about He will be in Afghanistan for six months. First I must say I am ONLY a sex maniac when I’m with him…other than that I can go without it. What sylkiifeather says here does spark an ideal if nothing else…I think I could handle it better with him being across the world for six months if I knew that we left it ‘open’ for him to have casual sex, NO STRINGS ATTACHED with whomever she may be. The reason I say ‘him’ have casual sex is because I have great will power, and once my mind/heart is locked onto one person then I can’t enjoy sex with a ‘nobody’. I would just be really hurt if I thought he ‘cheated’ on me as opposed to us agreeing that he could knock the ‘edge off’ when he really needed too…

Does what I say make sense? OR Do you guys think im fooling myself???

They can work if you both really put the effort into it…but as for me nope I’ve tried a few times but big failure..I was the one always taking the train to go see him but he never wanted to come see me…so I had to drop that one.

Yes they can work and I wouldn’t try it but,1 of my close friend has a man who leave 8 hrs away and they keep it 100 with eachother and they are happy and they don’t cheat and when ask why don’t they move closer together-they both agreed its they job and they wouldn’t give up they job just to live close to eachother when love can stand the test of time. I don’t down niether of them and im happy for them as well. So they been together for 11yrs now and they got 2 kids who spend time with both of them and they are happy too.

of course it works…I love long distance relationship. It works when both party has a LIFE. When
ur life is just the other person it won’t work. Be happy and respect ur difference. Long distance
can help u love ur partner more…TRY IT , AND GET A LIFE.

Only if there is a strong sense of self-esteem, confidence, security and trust between the two. If not, then no it will not work.

It can work but takes alot of extra work on part of both individuals!

It can work i’m dealing with that now it sucks though b/c the are not near but in the end someone has to move to either place I just wish I knew what makes it work b/c I stay depressed some folks are so happy wih their mate and they haven’t seen them in a year or two and they are just so excited with a phone call or picture.

If your into that, married, done it before and can hack it then sure, but if its new to you, you need an actual person by your side not a postcard, IM’s or phone calls then…..HELL NO!!! especially if it starts off long distance thats ever worse. the emotions can be driven by conversation and thoughts, but without your mate by your side you will grow further and further aprt…driving you both into the arms of somebody closer.

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NO they don’t work after awhile u get tried of being alone!!!!!

CaliFemme, please don’t give your significant other the go ahead to have a fling! It’s not a good thing. You need to know that he has the discipline and willpower to stay faithful to you. What if you all get married and you have surgery or an accident that you can’t have sex for 6 months or a year? Would you give him permission to have a fling then? What about when the two of you have kids? What is the time that you can’t have sex goes beyond the 6 weeks? Matter of fact, what if he’s so used to being able to have flings he doesn’t even want to wait the 6weeks? If he can’t stay faithful to you, then he is not the one you need to be with. If he needs to take the edge off, that’s what his hand is for. Please see yourself as worth the wait. If he doesn’t see you as worth any sacrifice he has to make then he will never make a good life partner.