the funny thing about RESPECT is you have to EARN that. look around on BP at the females taking pics bent over in doggystyle position wearing boyshorts or squating with her friends in front of an airbrushed blanket in the club. then you read their personal message and it talks about how “so close to God” they are and that they demand respect. LMAO : D

well i cant speak for other ladies but myself, and from what i see nowdays its like this some mans dont want whats good right in front of them its the looking for more, which i understands that but what more 2 look for, when yall mans can have whats good right in front of yall, im looking for a man thats gonna love me and not for what he can get out of me.. im looking for a man that wants 2 have a future with me he dont how 2 be the richest man in the world i just like 2 be spoilded at sometimes, well enough about that yall guys knows what a lady want lol!

Quote the guy 2 spots below me. Thats some real ass sh!t. I knew I wasnt the only one seeing all of these club rats and alcoholics doing all of these weird things which to them seems normal because they dont know any better and then expect a real man to respect them or make a long term relationship with them ? and then they wonder why they are with a man for a couple months or maybe a year depending on how long they wanna keep her around for a f**k buddy or his main just so he can be entertained while he goes out to try and find a better chick. Personally theres no way in hell i would put a ring on a finger of a female that clubs and does all this sex provoking things

DAREALRECKLESS
7-29-2009 3:55 pm

the funny thing about RESPECT is you have to EARN that. look around on BP at the females taking pics bent over in doggystyle position wearing boyshorts or squating with her friends in front of an airbrushed blanket in the club. then you read their personal message and it talks about how “so close to God” they are and that they demand respect. LMAO : D

but peoples minds are so warped no a days they have no sense of direction from whats right and whats wrong

Respect is a two way street. Men want women to treat them a certain way, yet they’re not willing to do the same in return. Its true respect is earned, but nobody wants to do whats necessary to earn it. Men expect to be respected cause they’re men, and women do the same, without really showing any reason for it. My parents always taught me to show respect to those who deserve it, and no others

unfortunately DAREALRECKLESS has hit the nail on the head with this one.
i have encountered many a woman doing exactly the things he describes but she was only trying to show off what nobody else was good enough to have, in otherwords, she was FALSE ADVERTISING!!! big comon for a big letdown!
i would respect any woman who has the courage and courtesy to even speak to me but if i see more of her then she wants me to, STOP SELLING IT SO HARD SO I CAN STOP SEEING IT!
i will still ask that kind of woman out for a date but i am not going to stop oogling her regardless; because she is the one who put herself out there, not me! but i would still marry a woman who was sexual, sensual and kind but dont be snobbish!!!

On my page I talk about what women want, through research and experience I found out what it is that women really want. Funny things is when I find my preference or what I think is my preference like others have said how can I give the things that are deserved to a “LADY” when what I have is a “little girl.” Not saying that she can’t take care of her business. She may be “INDEPENDENT” with a job and take care of her bills and she may have a child that she raises all by herself and she may have her own car and house. Yet and still her relationships all fail because everything is all about her she’s all selfish, spoiled, and unrealistic. Or she has done playing yet or she has been independent because she had to grow up quick at a young age and now she’s ready to experience what she missed during high school and college. And you want me to give you my respect and you dont even physically respect yourself. You want the queen treatment but you are acting like a peasant…. Naw not here

Lol…. I don’t believe this article, 3 simple.
ALOT of Women are complicated with themselves, and Confused

read!!!! DAREALRECKLESS comment.

The three things women really want: money, power, and sex

This article hit some good points but there is definitely more than just three things, I will agree that respect is key. But personally I want to be treated as a woman (QUEEN) but at the same time not be seen as inferior, I want to be treasured and desired, basically I want it all. I wish it was that easy 3 things would be nice.

well..me…i dont want a nigga for da loot cuz i got my own sooo…but yes i do want respect, love n sex sooooooo

one thing gets me about men they love to say they dont want a female that clubs and sleeps around but thats what they always choose they have a gd woman but always cheat wit the trashy girls the ones that sleeps wit all his homeboys, cousins, brothers even his dad they will even sleep wit his sister they stay in her face tho but they dont want her and the same thing goes for females also so a little advice men and women stopping saying you want a man or woman that is honest, caring, giving, considerate, one who appreciates you, a man to treat you like the QUEEN you are and a woman to treat you like the KING you are you turn ur back on them and try to have a long term relationship with GARBAGE.

This article indeed hit alot of points i agree with this TOTALLY!

The article is not true: Women want a 6 ft something hunk, he has to have a 6 figure job and bank account, and he MUST BE good looking. Women have fed into and eaten the western version of what a FAIRY TALE relationship is supposed to be like….TV makes them live in a fantasy world when it comes to finding a man so much so that they go through many men before they finally SETTLE for Joe Public and then treat Joe Public like crap because he does not live up to her STANDARDS…..

I agree totaly. Some men are totaly clueless when it comes to what a woman wants and how she like to feel. Respect should be something that all men should have for a women and (sex) love making is a very important factor most men like to hit it then quit it maybe if you don’t know what to do you should ask her what pleases her a real woman knows how to please her man. One of my favioret sayings is love is what love does. All women are not golddiggers or pocket pimps most just want to be loved unconditionaly and all the other stuff will follow. Men if you want a good woman love her and treat her right.A true women was born knowing how to love her man.

the article never said these 3 simple things was all that women wanted they just said that they were simple things to give ..like basics ..of course there will be more these were just 3 simple things…pay attention folks

1.) MONEY
2.) WEED
3.) 10″ of male appliance
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Now the next BLACK WOMAN or ANY WOMAN tells me……”OH I HAVE MY OWN MONEY SO I DON’T NEED YOUR CASH FLOW!”…….can go and get a flying saucer to Mars!…….what that really means is ……..”"”SO IF YOU CANNOT MATCH MINE, WE CANNOT MAKE A GO OF IT… BUT IF YOU GOT NUMBER 2 AND NUMBER 3, THEN WE CAN PARTY…… WE CAN F**K, BUT I DON’T WANNA GET SERIOUS, CAUSE YOU CAN’T MATCH MY MIGHT BABY!……..and!……..and!…….ONCE YOUR MONEY IS OUT……..I’M OUT! I’M NOT ABOUT TO TAP INTO MY RESERVES TO ENTERTAIN YOUR BLACK AZZ! AIN’T NOTHIN MORE RIDICULOUS THAN A BROKE AZZ N!word”"”
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Now i feel the Romance part of this article though! thats on point!
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But the other parts?! RESPECT? i’ve yet meet a BLack Female that implements the concept! Do you know whats it like to have a conversation about the IRAQ war/conflict/situation/ whatever the heck its called? lol with a Black Woman? “OH ITS GEORGE BUSHES WAR AGAINST HUSSEIN FOR THREATING HIS DAD GB SENIOR???? ! ” And if you tell them…….NO ITS NOT!…… they will tell you, “OH YOU JUST LIKE THE WHITE MAN! ALWAYS WANNA CONFUSE THE ISSUE!” with all the black woman idiosyncrasies and verbal trimmings! Respect? HA! the only RESPECT a BLACK WOMAN HAS is…….( $$$$$ cash flow baby ) !

The simple things i want, a black man couldn’t provide, as evidenced by these black men’s responses. The article’s true, these simple things are pretty much what women want, but will not get from black men, black men would give it to any other race, but don’t feel black women deserve it, so they treat us anyway. Not worth our attention….

LOL There are a lot of butt hurt dudes out there and in these comments. You catch more flies with honey, dumbasses. This is pretty spot on, though. Brothers, listening will get you a lot farther than you may realize. Also, be upfront about what you want. If you just want to smash then say that, we’re all adults. You’d be surprised how many women will respect that. They may not get down but they will respect your ass for being honest. As for romance, that depends on each woman. You need to pay attention to the things your girl likes and surprise her with them. That candles and roses s**t is cliche. One more thing, fellas: when you run into these women you’re describing, TELL THEM ABOUT THEMSELVES. Don’t curse the girl out, but tell her what you like don’t like in a cordial, adult manner. Be the man you claim to be and get real about yours. Stop whining on message boards. LMAO

shyguy needs to meet some mature women and stop generalizing its annoying

Sorry to hear that ShyGuy hasn’t had the best experience but please don’t get it twisted. EVERYONE IS NOT THE SAME! Maybe you should think about if you attract the same type of women maybe it’s something about you that needs to change. Food for thought. Burbstyle82 said it on point though. If you be honest about EXACTLY what it is you want you’ll find that you will get just that. However, if you bulls**t about what it is you want and in the end she gets mad don’t be surprised. This is not just with the independent women [for us time is money, most of us are workaholics], this is for ALL women. Waste our time we could have invested in the “right match” for the “wrong match”… then you screwed up BIG TIME! Same as it would be for you, if she lied for example about being your ride or die chick and as soon as you went broke she told you to kick rocks you would be mad too… you just invested time you will NEVER get back with a gold digger when that was not what you wanted and is wrong on her behalf. Same story, different genders, same scenario. You’d be surprised that a lot of gold diggers will tell you just that “I want a man that’s going to take care of me.” Please dismiss what she is saying to you thinking that you won’t get played because she is telling you up front… then you finally meet a woman your type and may lose her if you make her pay for the other girl’s faults. At the same time “I want a man that’s going to take care of me is not always refering to financial status, it’s emotional & mental as well… you will know the difference of the meaning based on the person telling you.
There is nothing better for me than coming home after a long day of work and my boyfriend giving me a massage or having cleaned up his own mess so I don’t have to. Little things like that work for me, but you have to find out what interests your lady to know what things will work for her. To the ladies out there don’t always put it off on the men… you as well should do the same for him. If you treat him right most likely he will return the favor and vice versa… this is for people in a “real relationship” only… not the player & the played “couple”… that will forever be a give and take situation.
Lastly romance… I know from growing up with nothing but guys that you enjoy the thrill of the chase. My advice to women is not that he has stopped caring now that he’s got you but also that you’ve stopped running once you’ve got him. I think if on some things you keep yourself spontaneous he will naturally react in a similar way. If you always have to be the one to get things started instead of nagging at the other person about it. Play your role… you know what you have so stop knocking the faults and use them to step your game up. Turning what you think are their faults and knowing how to work not around them but with them is what a relationship is all about if you want it to last. Lastly a good man does notice the things you do and appreciates them… stop trying to turn him into one of your girlfriends! You wanted that man for some particular reason and you committed to who he is NOT who you want to change him into being… and guys sometimes when a woman tells you to change something it’s not saying you are not perfected as you are don’t take it as a hit at your ego. A good woman will always try to challenge you into improving yourself for YOU not for her benefit… and that goes whether you stay with her or not.

Don’t be shocked because this advice is coming from a 19yr old. My advice will work for anyone who is mature in their mentality not their birth date. I’ve always been matured [Thanks to being raised by mi Abuelita Mary... the #1 woman in my life!]

Oh and for all those who think I got a 6 figure dude let me make it very clear to you…. My boyfriend isn’t tall, rich or the best looking guy I’ve ever dated… Yes he makes more than me now but when I first got with him I was making way more than him. I let him play his role, he’s the man and I never try to cross that line. We put our money together to meet our goals that we share as a couple and then we have our other money set aside for ourselves to do as we please. I’ve always been independent but as a independent young woman I know that “independence” doesn’t mean doing it alone. I know when it’s okay to step back and when it’s important to keep guard. I’ve dated rapper, basketball player, gangsters [my typical preference], models, rich guys and I’ve never been happier than with my man I’m with who is none of those things and on financial status I would not have chose him if I were a gold digger. What I wanted in life was someone to challenge me to go beyond the limits I set for myself. Someone to support my goals, which doesn’t mean has to always agree with me because believe me we DON’T have the same view. It works for us because I respect his stance & he respects mine, that’s what it’s all about. So with all that said don’t get it twisted when I say I am living proof that all those stereotypes out there are not true for ALL people… people choose who they want to be and who they don’t same for who they are with and who they aren’t! Blaming others before getting to know them personally is your mistake for judging a book by it’s cover. Had me or my man had done that we DEFINITELY wouldn’t be together because I’m not his typical type and he for sure wasn’t mine either. HaHaHa

Simple enough. Too bad they won’t keep her LOL!

And cash flow , don’t watch what i got. :O

Understanding And cash flow , don’t watch what i got. :O..