I think that, naturally, people like drama and so-called “excitement” in their lives. It’s not enough to be in a normal relationship, so many women try to find the “extraordinary” elsewhere. Personally, I think it’s dumb. I’m always #1 and there can only be one leading lady to the show! I never play seconds, and I walk away from any situation that calls for it. Some women may not require a lot of time, attention, and devotion, but I’m real enough with myself to know that I am VERY high maintenance on that end! LOL All hail the queen!!!

If men would keep their joysticks in their pants than there wouldn’t be a problem~ There will always be low self esteem having heffas out there~ But if the men stay their ground then no problem would occur~

how are in bed

you hot has hell

its easy and no strings attached for a minute,then shyt gets sticky and his duffus dumb azz will go out on a limb and tell the skank whoes trying to move on the dude that hes leaving his wife and shyt gets funky at that point.its easy for a woman to pull it off because black mail is the order of the day cause if he threatens to drop her silly s**t azz she calls his bluff and say shes going to his wife and sing like a parrot and he pays up in some form or another.they know a single niggah dont give a fuch(OR SHOULD I SAY THATS ALL WE DO IS GIVE A FUCH)and we aint got know strings or nothin else attached to that azz,so put out or get out is a single niggahs order of the day.

Although I dont agree with it,many women feel that its better. I have a friend who is sleeping with a married man. At one point I asked her why does she liked married men? and she told me that its easier, no strings attached, they can go back home to their family. But what happens when your feelings get involved with a man and then you want him to leave his wife? Cause we all know that most husbands WILL NOT leave their wives for the mistress. We are all different, I would want to be number one with a man, but some women are like men, and only want one thing SEX.

MARRIED MEN PREY ON SINGLE WOMEN

why would someone want a man that’s already married? i definitely wouldn’t.

I agree with MzPretty08….they sure do. I don’t know why folks wanna blame single women for their relationship problems, or women period. Sure there are some triflin women out there that will seek after married men, but there are far more married men seeking after single women. The majority of the time their women that they once dated, and they know that she’s still feelin him and other times they just lie and claim their not married….

I’m single and I’d rather have a single man, because I don’t want borrowed time.

@ MZPRETTY08 but i’m sure more single woman prey on married men.

WOW-WHO WANTS A MARRIED MAN? I HAVE TO AGREE,WITH YA’LL NE-GIRL39 AND MZPRETTY08. I KNOW I DO NOT WANT NO MAN-THAT I GOT TO BE FAKE,WITH….MUCHLESS SHARE-SEX WOULDN’T BE THAT DAMN GOOD…NOR WOULD I BE-WITH A MAN WHO HAS ALREADY BEEN MARRIED BEFORE-THAT IS A SIGN TO LEAVE HIS A$$ ALONE-ALSO THE MEN WHO DON’T LAST LONG IN A RELATIONSHIP-THAT CLEARLY SAY-HE IS NOT GOING TO STAY WITH YOU FOR LONG NOR IS HE-GOOD BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP. THATS JUST MY 5CENTS ON THINGS.( AND YES SOME WOMEN DO IT-TOO)

any woman that knowingly bangs or gets in a relationship with a married man is sorry- the only exception is if you did not know from jump and later u find out. but even then u need to chuck up the dueces…..

From experience most women not all prefer a man who is involved with someone. Because these type of men are usually happy and women feel they won’t have to train them as much. For the men if you tell the lady up front the women will make it easy for you to cheat. If they choose to for a period of time. But if take it beyond the motel/hotel and are seen in public it could be a disaster once you get caught. You have to pay to play.

Married or in a committed relationship. I think women that want a married man are the ones that want something they can’t have. the grass looks so much greener and healthier in their eyes and their envious feeling can’t allow another woman to be flaunting her man around you without you wanting A piece of what she’s got and God forbid that everytime you see them, they seem happy(not knowing how they got to that point) and you are in the middle of what you call a bulls**t relationship or lack thereof.

I honestly think that because there is such a shortage of men (most of them or married,dead,gay or in jail) in the world an do to that we fall for the married or involved man,not so much that we or looking for or perfer to be in a relationship with that type of person but thats how it ends up sometimes ,not every women enjoy being the “other woman” .Until us as women decided that we or worth more then the other woman then we will always settle for less

Some of the “other women” feels that some married men complains about their wives and that they are not happy with their marriages they want to prove themselves that they can better satisfy their husbands and try to take over as the wife hoping that one day he will divorce her, sometimes they leave and other times they stay married and cheat to avoid paying alimony and child support . This guy I know was married to a woman for 5 years and they have 2 children together and the whole time they were married he has a mistress on the side just because the wife wasn’t taking care of business at home, he was living a double life because in his mind it was cheaper to keep her. The mistress stayed around thinking that he would eventually leave his wife but never did so after being with a married man for 4 years she finally left him alone.

It is simple people!
Unfortunately I think that single women prey on married men b/c of the “perception” of qualities that married man seems to have. Many women today have been starved of the basic necessities in a relationship. Things like honesty, comfort, conversation, and purpose. When that single woman comes across that married man and he puts it out there that hey “I am married; how is your life going? This is what I am looking for, here are the rules… “. Ironically (and sadly) those series of statements present a man who is honest; makes her feel comfortable by not requiring any sacrifice; gives her small conversation; and lastly gives the relationship purpose (as twisted) as it may seem.
I must say that the single brothers out there slacking! If you ask most women today “What does your man want from you?”, many of them will say “Well we are just seeing where it goes, and he is waiting to get some things in order before we really get serious serious. Right now we are just serious”. What in the world kind of response is that! lol. There is usually no clear direction in most relationships. Both men and women are important individuals who have roles that were given to them by nature that they must uphold. There are too many brothers out there on the fence with what/who they want b/c they feel they have “choices”. Fellas, if you are on the fence about anything regarding a woman, there is no way you can be her foundation (or the relationship’s foundation). The fence will not get you that warm house, warm meal, or warm woman waiting at home for ya!
*Think about… even thugs/hoes give women a purpose (which may only be for one night)! Even in our careers, not matter what a company paid us, if they never gave us our purpose at the company we would eventually become unfulfilled and eventually leave. That is why some people leave high paying jobs for a lower paying ones with tangible goals and direction.

I can go on and on about what both men and women can do to have “HEALTHY” relationships, regardless of the type of relationship.

*Thinking should start my own blog (this is my first time responding to anything)! … but I have to get back to work. :-)

WOMEN/MEN WHO GO AFTER MARRIED MEN/WOMEN ARE JUMP OFFS
AND THEY FAIL TO REALIZE “JUMP OFF” ONLY MEANS COMMITTING MENTAL SELF SUICIDE.
CANT SAVE ANYBODY IF THEY ARE ALREADY STEPPED OVER THE CLIFF…SO I REALLY DONT FEEL SORRY FOR PEOPLE INVOLVED WITH A MARRIED PERSON.

I think they want committed men because they are in a sense jealous of what his girlfriend or wife has. As women get more educated and get older, and as the desired single man population decreases with violence, prison, lack of education and marriage I guess the rationalize that being with an involved male on the same level is better than dealing with the rest of men who are either not ready to commit or already have their flaws… idk.. thats my opinion… not justifying their actions.. because… I DON’T LIKE TO SHARE… AT ALL LOL

wow, talk about over-simplifying things. people cheat. that’s what they do. and to sit there and say women prey on married men is pure BS. yes, there are some women out there who do, but trust me, the men’s arms don’t need twisting. they do have a head on their shoulder, they know what they’re doing. i would venture to say that more often then not, the married men are the ones preying on the single women. for all you ladies out there who say you’re #1, and you wouldn’t share, think again, you might be sharing your man right now, but just don’t know it. EVERY man i know who is either involved or married, is cheating on his woman. even the man you never thought would go there, is getting some outside his home, so don’t be naive. and quit blaming the women as if men are so innocent they can’t think for themselves

Honestly, I think SOME single women look at married women and what they have and somehow conclude that if they can take their man the women isn’t “all that” and that the single women isn’t missing out on anything by not being married.

The truth is a single women dating, sleeping with, or attempting to woo a married man is pathetic. I do not see the excitement in dating a man who is not completely available, you set yourself up for heart ache and your reputation is shot!

On top of that once a man knows he can have another woman on the side of seeing you (like his wife) it makes it easier for them to ALWAYS have another woman on the side of you!

Sometimes men say that the wife is not doing what she should at home,but maybe she’s not,it might be possible that he has done things to take her to that point. Tell me what person would want to keep lying down with someone they do not trust. That happens the other way around too. For the women that pursue married men,I think they know, the men know without a doubt that he is going to have to spend some money. She has the fun while the wife gets the work,she has to wash his clothes,cook his dinner,clean his house,while the woman in the street gets the gifts,dinners and the money. With all that being said,anybody want mine??????????? I will wash his clothes,cook his dinner,and clean the house just don’t come by my house. You get to f**k him (I don’t want that job anymore),you get a little shopping, I’ll take the pension,life insurance(that’s if I out live him lol),and social security. DEAL???????????????????

some women do it because they dont like being controlled or the drama of a relationship. the guy tends to be of the mistress favor rather than a baggage or a barrier. the mistress is also free to make decisions without being controlled and usually control the situation more so than the gf to a certain degree. except for if children are involved usually the cheater that may have a little heart and the decency to at least put the child/ or children first. myself personally i avoid it all because most men are not up to par on a relationship level. i focus my energy on things that bring brighter days or of my favor.

men do it because they are always seeking more and not satisfied do to a lack in a specific quality usually se x. women do it because they feel like they can make the guy love them and leave the wife or just the sense of freedom without strings attached while needs are getting met.

ok here it is coming from the perspective of the once married women whose husband cheated. fact of the matter is no matter who is preying on who both parties consented to having sex and starting a relationship and you can tell when a man is married and vice versa, and in my experiance once it starts it wont stop the females or men that your significant other will continue to do it even after they find out they are married especially if the relationship benefits them in any way. My ex’s side piece told me when i met her that she ” didnt wanna do it and knew it was wrong and she was sorry, she isnt that kind of person” yet continued to sleep with him after that, moved into my house with her kids after i moved out, and less then a year later was pregnant with his baby. now yes i blame her but he gets just as much blame if not more because he was the one that was married and had everything to loose not the girl!!! you cant blame just the guys or the females because it goes both ways the decision is made by both parties to engage in the relationship not just one or there wouldnt be one to begin with.

This whole cheating discusssion is a good one. Cheating has been an issue i’m sure since early times…so it shall be till the end. Men and women i believe cheat for very different reasons. Men and women view sex differently. For most men, it’s simply a release, period. That’s why you hear so many men who’ve been caught say “it didn’t mean anything”. That whole emotional thing, that’s us. Our emotions are generally tied to the act of sex. Men cheat for 3 main reasons i think. 1, they can, 2, they don’t think they’ll get caught, and 3, boredom. With women cheaters i think it’s more complicated. They lack or crave something emotional, physical, intimate, financial or all of the above. As for women “preying” on married men, i think it’s really the other way around for the most part although you do have women who only date married men. It’s usually because she gets to have most of the fun without the commitment or responsibilities of the married woman. No cleaning, cooking, or sexing if she doesn’t want to. Not saying it’s right, just saying what is….

My husband and I have been married for 7yrs and I know for a fact that alotta single women do go after him just because he’s with me. Ive had single women try to befriend me just to get to him. I went out to the club knowing he would be there and stood in the background and watched him standing alone looking sad and pitiful. He saw me, came up, kissed me, and bought me a drink then automatically the trick radar went off and thats when women started to notice him…I guess nobody wants somebody that no one else wants. What these type of women dont realize is that 9 times out of 10 married men DONT leave their wives for them.

Why would you want a man that leaves his wife to be with you anyway? God doesnt like ugly so hell just end up leaving you for someone else. I love what you said “trytruluv.” I have the pension plan the 401k the life insurance bank cards etc…they can have the d**k..hahaha! Thats just my take on women who prey on men. Married men who cheat…now thats a whole different story and I dont have time to go there.

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Them hoebags like the thought of comin’ in and taking what some one else has. I had a friend once who used to tell me that she would only date married or otherwise committed men. Because when she was done with them she could always send them home. But she was a STD card carrying member. She always sent them home with a present. I once witnessed her young daughter commenting on how bad her ‘kittykat’ smelled. And you could tell that she was embarrassed. I also think she slept with my boyfriend of the time. But I couldnt prove it. Needless to say, she was no longer my friend. But to some of them homewreckers defense, not all men will admit right off that they are married or otherwise committed. And some women find themselves caught up and find themselves in love and just decide to stay involved with the lying S.O.B.

Here’s a reason: we (people, that is) are dumb creatures. Enough said.

Actually my experience has always been married men coming after a single woman. It’s pretty bad too. The sad part about it is that a married man never wants to just be friends, sit and talk or just act like a gentleman around a single woman. Here on BP, all I seem to attract are the married men and what’s so pathetic about it to me is that I do not even have a dating tab on my page nor do I wish to date on the sites at all. I will add people to my friends list only to have to go back and delete them because the guys get mad because I say no to their advances. I like to write and listen to good black music on BP….
Point is, most men are the aggressors in my experiences. But there again, I live in Phoenix, Az. There is soooo much going on in this place..it would make you sit up and say..”WTF!” The guys HERE..are BOLD! Yes, I know it is in other places too but PHOENIX is on the “HOE” list for real!
On the other spectrum however, Some woman.. I believe… (both single and married)…accept married men advances because the single men …are dating married woman whose husbands are not fulfilling them emotionally or physically at home. The other ones are just dammitt selfish and hates to see other’s happy. Ego booster if you will. I have heard some woman even say that they will take another woman’s man just because “THEY CAN”…Hmph.

THE DEVIL DON’T SLEEP

There are always some desperate w***es out there out to disrupt someones relationship and the dumb ass men who go along with it. I have been cheated on in the past and it is not a good feeling so I would never sleep with another womans man it is not right.And he is not going to be with the other chick anyway even if the girlfriend or wife sends him packing!

cant have much faith in people, for we are the only things on this earth that likes misery.