Comments on: Can Men Be Monogamous?

By: GODSOWN84

GODSOWN84 — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 18:02:37 +0000

Does religious preference play a part in monogamy? Your thoughts…

By: letsmakeluv2nit

letsmakeluv2nit — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 18:10:10 +0000

Of course. I have never cheated on any of my past girlfriends and I am 33yrs. old. It takes time, energy, planning and being dishonest at times to cheat. You can take all of that and put it back into your relationship but it has to go both ways.

By: momono3

momono3 — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 15:48:22 +0000

If you want your man to think about you and nothing else but you, do this. It never fails. KEEP YOUR APPEARANCE UP, ALWAYS ALWAYS BE A LADY AND DO NOT PAY HIM THAT MUCH ATTENTION. Treat him well, don’t get me wrong, but do not act like he is your everything or the intimidation will push him away. Put God first, not the man He put in your life.

By: JayDeeQuePsiPhi

JayDeeQuePsiPhi — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 16:04:17 +0000

Sure we can. Every man walking is NOT a dog in heat. The biblical reference is a great starting point for success in a relationship; however, how many follow those thoughts and ideas.

By: tester02isback

tester02isback — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 12:58:11 +0000

@ DaRealReckLess- 93%? LOL

By: tester02isback

tester02isback — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 12:53:07 +0000

Sure. It just takes work. Monogamy isn’t a one-way street. Not to mention it depends on who you have and who much you don’t want to lose them.

By: Daddy_Dont_Stop

Daddy_Dont_Stop — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 17:52:51 +0000

I agree with SyrexxG, because… it’s a two way street. If you aren’t willing to compromise and sacrifice with someone, then WHY are you in a relationship “(Sex, Money, Benefits, Children, Opprotunity)” anyway?
What ever happend to LOVE?

By: dmello559

dmello559 — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 02:53:32 +0000

As a man I think absolutely a man can be monogamous once he meets a woman who is willing to play “the role” that is described in the bible, which is allowing your man to listen to God for guidance and then make the decisions while trusting his judgement as far as where the couple and/or family should go. What I have noticed is so many women want to be “independent women” and are not willing to allow a man to be a man. Sure women are just if not more intelligent but that is not how we were instructed to perform relationships. At that point he say’s f**k it because he already knows your not wifey material and continues to hit and look elsewhere.

By: courtneyR

courtneyR — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 02:46:06 +0000

@syrexxg.. of course women can be monogomous.again,it goes back to how your are raised and what values are put into from your parents.some people grow up with both parents being committed to each other.so as a child,thats what you are going to want to do.why,because its special.nothing special about not truly being able to call your man or woman your one and only because they are sneaking around.its a betrayal when your believed to be in a committed relationship not sleeping with anyone else.
another reason,its absolutely NASTY and down right gross to be swapping bodily fluids with different people.Hell,im grossed out when I go to someones house,go into thier bathroom,and I dont see baby wipes on the back of the toilet.what im saying is,it doesnt matter how cute or gorgeuos a man or woman may be.you still have to be a clean and decent person.I find that the people who play of of thier looks to get what they want,usually are the ones that end up to be the nastiest.sorry,im a monogomous type of female and I demand the same from the man that im with.if he cant understand that program,i dont want him.In todays society,both men and women of all races are way to loose.Having a std,cheating,or possibly passing on a death sentence is not ok.ill keep a lock on mine until i come across a decent man with some common decency about his life and cares just as much about his life and body.until then,ill keep making money,play my playstation 3,go to museums,go on vacation,whatever.If you think that your that special,you wont be out here giving your body to a man because he finds you attractive.call me prude and old fashion.but im good..

By: SyrexxG

SyrexxG — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 19:59:23 +0000

I damn sure think men can be Monogamous! Women think that just because we have a dick and 2 balls between our legs that we walk on all fours, but that’s a lie! Some men might try to used their dick as an excuse, but not me! I’m very in love with my lady, and where going through some s**t that I thought I would never have to go through again, but we stick by each other no matter what. Where both faithful! And it’s going on 2 years! It’s the longest I’ve ever been in a relationship, and I’ve never been happier! Abiola I want you to think about something? If women goes out and finds a man at the club? Guess were es going to be? The club! If she finds him somewhere in the streets? Most likely he’s going to be in the streets! Now I got a question for the real men out here! Can women be monogamous?

By: Cody_Bnice

Cody_Bnice — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 18:39:52 +0000

Funny thing is how yall girls act like ya’ll don’t want it to. Champagne-73 says hell no well if her and others weren’t showing their assets on their pages guess married men and baby mama having guys wouldn’t be hitting her up all sexual like! S**t I just wanna hit it after looking at her page got four ass shot pics!

By: 1_dre_10

1_dre_10 — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 18:29:41 +0000

well according to simple evolution biology, humans are not monogamous at all. we are a polygamous, promiscuous species that are forced into monogamy through social status. the only thing that makes us monogamous is because we can “choose” even though technically we are not, that is why men and women cheat on each other. Its not because they don’t love each other, men are polygynous (need more than one woman) and women are promiscuous. its that simple.

By: sickwitdaflu

sickwitdaflu — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 18:06:52 +0000

can WOMEN be monogamous and not f***k up, when the realize they have a GOOD man, which is rare?? dats the real question….women talk and talk, and complain about men being “dogs” and all that, but then they’ll f***k up, when they have a good man on their shoulders…..at this point, its just like “who gives a f***k!!!! just live ur life….if ur lucky to have a good woman, or man, just be happy and dont F***k up!!!! lol

By: alterego380

alterego380 — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:58:11 +0000

it’s amazing how more women are trying to answer this question than men. Look at a man’s history. I’m mean look at the bible and the men who fell at that time. Really, rather you women like it or not men are not made to be monogamous. Women got it all wrong. And no matter how many times we tell the women how it really is women continue to understand it there way. Which in turn leave us men to keep doing what were doing. No ladies don’t mean we dog’s or were not good men because you’ve went after a few yourself knowing we got a women. But it’s okay on yall’s part but we dog’s on ours. But that’s a diffrents posting. I’ll say this again to all women reading this. From everyman in the world, (the reals ones that want to be truefully) it just a sex thing with other women. That’s all. We don’t care for them like you, we don’t scarfice for them like you, we don’t give them our hearts, mind, soul, MONEY and body to them like you them chicks don’t really know us like you do. Yea,,yea,,it’s hard to sallow this concept but it’s true. I got a good women and wouldn’t trade her for anything in this world. So ladies, ask your man to break it down to you. Women think sex is what a man wants from a ture women. NOPE.. Sex is just what we crave. But it ant going to keep us. A classy women, a women with things that guy wants is what keep us. Once again Sex is like spending money. IT COMES, AND IT GOES.

By: bigmalik59

bigmalik59 — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:49:56 +0000

If a man wants to be monogamous he can it’s a decision only he can make though if the person in his life completes him it would be very easy to do. But if he is not finish running no way but if he is done yes it is possible

By: CHAMPAGNE-73

CHAMPAGNE-73 — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:15:29 +0000

that’s a hard question to answer, but i will say no i don’t think so men are to hung up on looks the ass to pin point. my ass is fat and the attention i get is so sexual, they married or have a baby moma and still try to kick it with me, so i say no, hell no they can’t be monogamous.

By: lips03

lips03 — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:08:21 +0000

A male friend of mine once told me all a man needs to cheat is Time, Space and Opportunity. I added to that depending on the male and his character will determine if he does it or not once those there things are aligned. I have heard people say that a man cheats because there is something he is not getting at home. I can not fully buy into that because I have heard men say, “yeah I have a good woman”. Those same men turn right around and cheat on the women they just said they knew were good. That makes no sense at all. Knowing how virtually impossible it is to find a quality mate why would those men put their realationship in jeopardy with their “good woman” just for a quick roll in the sack with Miss New Booty? I have heard men say their “good women” will not do the same thing a “freak” will do. My questions to those men is well how do you know that have you ever asked her? They have all said no they didnt. So ummm how can you say your women will not do what a freak will do if you have never asked her to do it? I know men that have justified cheating because it was just sex and not love. I promise you, your lady will not see it that way. Even though sex has nothing to do with love. To most women the fact that you slept with someone else is betrayal and they think how can you love me if you slept with her? Its crazy really and at this point I have no clue if a man can be momogamous. It would be nice to think that yes there are some men out there that can be but I am not sure how realistic that is in 2009. So I will just say I hope that if a man knows that he has a quality women that he would respect her and their relationship and not cheat on her. I will also say the same in reverse as it applies to women who have found their version of a “good man”. I think if you treat a person how you want to be treated things can work but the minute you start taking the other person for granted drama will soon follow. Male or female cheating is never the answer.

By: rockio

rockio — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 15:48:53 +0000

I believe a man can absolutely be monogamous. But he has to be ready to be that way for a person. A lot of times we try to settle down before we are really ready just because we THINK we like someone or because its convenient at the time. Most times when a man cheats its because he is not fully satisfied with the person he is with (this can go for women too). Maybe she doesnt really meet the ideas he has in his head of the type of him he could fall for. Thats where we go wrong because instead of cutting the relationship off once we realized these women dont exactly do “IT” for us, we try to stay because of the sex, companionship, or becuase she is simply a good women but we try to searched for what we are looking for all at the same time, Greedy right? Now you might say “well if she is a good woman, then whats the problem?” well the problem is JUST BECAUSE YOU A GOOD WOMAN, DOESN’T MEAN WE ARE MEANT TO BE. You have to find the RIGHT good woman. You know, the type of girl that excites you and makes you long to see her when you away…the one that can cook, and dont mind doing it. the one that you can have crazy conversations with and enjoy it….the one that dont stay mad for too long or hold a grudge when ya’ll get into it…the one that works the HELLLLLL out of you in the bedroom and makes you want to get up and get her some WATER afterwards cause YA”LL both thirsty…the one that thinks about you and does little things for you too, just because and out of the blue…yeah…you know….That one.
But not only these things, ya’ll have to have a real bond, chemistry. Either way, its always better to just leave than to cheat cause you dont want to hurt people. TRUST ME its a horrible feeling. And Lastly, A man has to be secure and complete within HIMSELF to be the same to you.

By: Shamel_

Shamel_ — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 14:48:54 +0000

I think any man “CAN” be monogamous. However, I think the question is more so “Do they WANT to be”??? That is a relative question and varies from person to person.

By: pbs205

pbs205 — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 14:37:40 +0000

i tried… i’m like 1 for 20 right now

By: courtneyR

courtneyR — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 14:02:10 +0000

Damn,we have a man on blackplanet that makes sense.Thank you BIGGUYNORTH for making sense.If you are going to cheat,call off your relationship or better yet,stay single.Whats the point of acting like a coward or scallywag with your tail tucked between your legs coming up with stories?It would be easier to tell the truth.Not all men cheat.Alot do,but not all.And you know what,if hes the type of man that you think dont have swagger or whatever you call it,sign me up.Oh,I know one,my brother and he sure isnt ugly.All the girls were after him,light,dark,white,didnt matter.He picked very carefully.He had supper fine chicks and dropped thier asses right back were they came from.He always liked the simple woman.A woman like his mother.Im not saying it isnt hard because alot of men and women have no self respect today at all.But all of us dont compromise to what the world says to do.Every man dont like fast ass.Some do want substance because they are substance themselves.No sir ey bob.I’ll wait ..

By: Jauharah

Jauharah — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 14:00:53 +0000

Hmmm a man would need a Vanna White type? So in other words: white so she is afforded the opportunity to earn more money and looks horrible in pants and may not be able to string two words together to make a sentence unless some mystery person put the letters out in front of her. That sounds like only a shallow and egotistical man with no real value and self-worth nor any earning capacity of his own would want that type. But I assure you if that man doesn’t have sufficient equipment and isn’t giving good lovin’ on demand and isn’t giving that woman everything she wants when she wants it he will find himself kicked to the curb.

By: blackhammer34

blackhammer34 — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 13:53:55 +0000

I think men can be Monogamous. I think that if a man cheats, its because he is not getting what he wants at home, at that is the case, he should get out of his present relationship before he desides to cheat. I hate cheaters, especially men, because it makes it hard for the few good men like myself to have any chance at meeting a nice woman. But dont forget woman cheat just as much as men do, so dont try and make this a one way question?

By: blkpuddn

blkpuddn — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 13:12:45 +0000

WELL I WAS ONCE TOLD BY A MALE FRIEND OF MINES THAT ALL MEAN CHEAT…IT’S JUST A MATTER OF TIME. HE SAID EVEN THE BEST ONES CHEAT EVENTUALLY. HE COMPARED IT TO EATING THE SAME FOOD EVERYDAY…EVENTUALLY U WILL WANT SUMTHN DIFFERENT. WELL I DID’NT WANT TO BELIEVE IT BUT PPL LET’S LOOK @ MOST RELATIONSHIPS…THEY DNT LAST & IF THEY DO UR SIGNIFICANT OTHER MAY BE GETTING SUM ADDED PERKS SOMEWHERE ELSE. HEY THAT DON’T MEAN THEY DON’T LOVE U…THEIR JUST A GREEDY *!@%!! GOD PUT MEN & WOMEN ON THIS EARTH FOR EACH OTHER’S COMFORT & PERSONAL NEEDS…BUT WHO SAID LOVE HAD ANYTHING TO DO WITH IT!

By: TiredMan

TiredMan — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 11:46:29 +0000

I think in order for a man to be monogamous, we would need a woman like Vanna White…pretty, has a job, knows how to spell, and doesn’t say sh*t! LOL

By: bigguynorth

bigguynorth — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 09:30:31 +0000

I don’t, never have, never will. So my answer is yes men can be monogamous. I mean cheating is so stupid to me, i feel if you wanna f*ck with someone else just be single and mingle. If your in a relationship and someone else catch’s your eye and you wanna act on it call off the relationship first. I despise cheaters, men and women the same. Buut thats just me lol

By: cmitchella

cmitchella — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 08:28:13 +0000

Dear _chiick I think you need to read a little more stats . knowing that they are not 100% perfect , but most will say that 55 to 60 % men and 45 to 50 % woman cheat but most women wont tell but men will at times

By: Rare-Find

Rare-Find — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 07:11:28 +0000

The answer is NO! :D

By: candy_apple_blk

candy_apple_blk — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 05:22:37 +0000

being manogamous is about what you truely in your heart want to do in a relationship. a grown person will do what the hell they want when they want and we as “humans” have the ability to think before we do unlike animals. the question of the matter should be can people be monogamous because women cheat just as much as men. youve seen maury povich. mama’s baby daddy’s maybe but yes i do believe that men can be with only one woman and be true it may take alot of hard work and effort for some but its possible he just has to be completely ready and not just thrown into a situation he know he cant handle

By: mrspillit

mrspillit — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 05:10:57 +0000

Yo Peeps! The deal with being monogamous is knowing yourself very well, and where you are in life. Generally speaking, you gotta live out those wild oats before you can recognize, appreciate and humble oneself in the blessings a monogamous relationship offers.