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6 Things You Should Know Before You Visit New Parents

Written by Hello Beautiful on July 26, 2010 1:15 pm

couple-newborn(From apartmenttherapy.com)

Remember when you went to visit a friend and her new baby BEFORE you had a baby? At least for us, we just didn’t realize the place they were at. We wanted to stay and hear all about the birth and just hang out.

When we had our own baby, we saw things in a different light. We loved having visitors come and meet our new baby (and bring us food), but we were also really tired and preoccupied with a newborn baby. We noticed that quite a few non-parents made themselves comfortable and had a hard time taking our hints that it might be time to go.

“Oh, it’s time for me to feed her.”

“Oh, OK, go ahead, take your time.”

Here are some of our faves:

1. Don’t make out with my baby. Yea, I know you love her and all, but she’s still young with a weak immune system, and, well, it’s plain gross to watch! Reserve your necking for your significant other! If you want to show her love, donate $100 to her 529 Plan and give her a light hug goodbye.

2. Don’t expect to visit soon after the baby’s born, unless you are family. Well-loved family. Phrase the question: “When will you guys be ready for visitors?”

3. Make the effort to visit them. When the time is right, they will love you visiting them. Emphasis on you, because most likely it’s a lot more difficult for them to visit you. A lot more.

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4 Do not visit new parents and their baby if you are in any way sick; yes, pinkeye and open sores count as ’sick’.

5. Be on time. It is quite a big production to prep a baby for visitors; tasks include: timing the feeding so that the baby’s in a good mood for you, changing her, cleaning her and calming her; and, let’s not forget the work involved with the parents trying to decently spruce up themselves and the home. If you’re late 30 minutes, it’s like tossing half of that work out the window.

6. Wash your hands; this will make mom feel better and think more highly of you as a righteous, upstanding citizen – and, someone worthy of holding her prized golden baby snow monkey.

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/CaliFemme23/ CaliFemme23

    How about stay yo ass at home until the new parents give you an invite…

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/D_J_Trends/ D_J_Trends

    amen.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/kaikai7/ kaikai7

    I agree with CaliFemme 23.lol I know its sounds harsh and I am not a parent yet, hopefully one day before I am 40,lol but anyhow sometimes you need that space and time to relax, catch on sleep, housework, adjust to having a new baby and parenthood, get back to some of your routine. People sure dont mind imposing so you have to set boundaries! I am a very personal individual and I do not like to impose on others.I believe in giving space, and waiting for invite so its not a problem for me. I’m ok with just seeing a pic ,until you get around to bringing baby out.

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/BLAK_BUTAFLY/ BLAK_BUTAFLY

    I fully agree with the suggestions made here. Its all you can do to bathe yourself MAYBE.. and catch a couple hours rest…yes, 2. Its all take-out food. If you want to help, bring some food (call first) then leave and wait for an invitation or until his/her first immunizations shots. (I have 3 kids—-18, 23, and 6) No offense… just not convenient unless you’re CLOSE family

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/i_gOt_tHat_gOOd_sHt/ i_gOt_tHat_gOOd_sHt

    am i the only one that caught that this article said golden baby snow monkey….wtf?

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MZ_KNIGHTOWL/ MZ_KNIGHTOWL

    LOL i saw that ending,,,golden baby snow monkey,,,wtf is that supposed to be,,,LMAO

    PPL i know with kids ask me to come over,,,i think they just want a baby sitter,,,those bastards,,,LOL. i think when it comes to newborns,,,if u wanna see the baby,,,u should only stay for a lil bit,,30min or less,,,i mean the baby is sleeping most of the time,,,u see the baby,,,then chit chat with parents,,,then give urself the boot. My friend just had her baby 4 days ago,,and asked me today when am i going over to see the baby,,,lol,,im the one saying im tired,,,i work and come home,,,saturday is party night,,,and sunday,,,well i might be free,,,so hey,,sometimes its stressful on us visitors,,sometimes they want ur company,,,guess it depends on who it is,,,LOL @ stressful on us visitors,,,SELFISH!

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/LesNubiannQueen/ LesNubiannQueen

    Snow Monkey Defined:The Japanese Macaque (Macaca fuscata), also known as the Snow Monkey, is a terrestrial Old World monkey species native to Japan, although an introduced free-ranging population has been living near Laredo, Texas[3] since 1972.[4][5][6] It is the most northern-living as well as the most polar-living non-human primate. In Japan, they were historically known as saru (“monkey”). Nihonzaru (Nihon “Japan” + saru) is used in modern times to distinguish from other primates. Individuals have brown-gray fur, a red face, and a short tail. There are two subspecies of this macaque:[1]

    Obviously, whomever wrote this article is a racist p***k.

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