Good stuff… thanks for sharing!

i agree with it all.

I disagree about #4. I’m selfless and help others. So I’ve been used and taken advantage of before in the past. I met women who were selfish as h/ell and wanted to take instead of giving. So #4 doesn’t apply to every man out here. Because it’s selfish men and women in this world.

Let’s not forget to warn our daughters about them old a_ss wolves on the prowl that will come and whisper anything and everything into a girl/young womans ear. Especially w/ girls developing faster than a 3rd world country.

Also making sure she knows that as a young woman she is capable of doing it all, but as a lady she shouldn’t have to. Yes a man should hold your door open, yes he should stand when you leave the table and when you come back, yes he should pull out your chair and yes he should pay for the date. Can she (the daughter) yup. Should she have too? Uhmm…no.

Virtue can’t be given back. Know that your worth is priceless. If they don’t belive it how is any one else supposed too?

Where was respect on the list? Also bring him home. I don’y care if he just is trying to call on the phone or wanna carry your books in the school yard. He calls himself having some kinda interest, you come on over so momma can put a face w/ a name. And so you can meet Miss Bang Bang, my 12 gauge pump action shotty. ; )
My baby is only 11, but God knows I’m preparing her and am getting ready.

I beg to differ on this list. To be honest, women are the same way. Some of them will use a guy and not even be upfront about it. Then women think that being devoted to a man is to nag him and act like his parent when he didn’t ask you to do so. If a man isn’t ordering you around why should you order him around. It seems that women will tend to assess a man’s weaknesses and try to exploit them. It is saying that men lie but women have a bunch of secrets that they don’t tell their man. Then a woman has different accounts of what has happened the times they do mention something. Lastly, a woman will want you to sacrifice getting you life together just to give them attention. Now, I know women don’t want to be with a man who is broke as hell so a woman should be willing to check her ego and not need attention. I find that the reason that women engage in cheating is because of their pursuit for attention. You can be giving your woman attention and she’ll even critique the way you are giving her attention. I honestly feel that woman can be demanding and never take time to see that they are demanding, maybe because they think men don’t have limitations.

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one day yall ladies are going to stop all this judgemental S/hit and learn to honor us for the men god made us to be. yall need to quit it because yall have no knowledge of what yall really f/ucking up here wit that s/hit. and don’t say you know because if that were true yall would look, think, speak, and behave waaaaaaay different than the way you do today. and thats true about us guys too were not exempt. but this was about teaching something to girls, don ‘t think your doing good jobs teaching these children what you think is good to teach them because you can not teach any child about his or herself if you don’t have knowledge of your self. and i know there are lots of n****rs out there who would read this and say some ignorant a.ss sh’it like, “i know who the f8uck i am!” well trust me, if you truly did, you would look, think, speak, and behave a lot different than you do now. people would look at our women as royalty and have the utmost respect for them and never look at them as easy dick food. people would see us men as functional and strong, intelligent , and prosperous, but instead we are seen as police prey. stop fooling yourselves because your on your way to being even lower than the n****rs they set out to turn you into. if your going to teach our children anything, teach them all how to respect and love themselves, and teach them that if they want respect and love they have to give it. and stop teaching these kids that race doesn’t matter. no other race thinks that way but n****rs. how do we look teaching our kids that theres only one race, the human race, when all the other races are teaching their children to always honor and stick with their own. any race that wants to intertwine with another race, one of the races have to be conquered so the men can freely have sex with their women. dont you forget that. the only reason we talk that one race s’hit is because we have been defeated.

To the poster below (just2chill)…I’m sorry if your species feel so attacked to where you have to take things to heart, but I must admit…ni99as ain’t shyt, but hoes and tricks. I mean forreal though, if there was a test of 100 men being observed for their traits and/or characters, 99 of them (I might be nice and say about 95 of them) would be sneaky, lying, conniving, trifling, loaded down with sin, deceitful, s l u t dawgs trying to manipulate and control any and every woman that he feels he can get away with. This is the most ho-ish generation in the book of history and thanks to the leadership and guidance of men, women have gotten out of the box of being reserve and classy to being just as trashy as the men that they seek. So go figure! It is what it is and I don’t see it ever changing. Homosexuality, bi-sexuality, fornication, perversion, pedophilia, sexting, adultery and infidelity has high rocketed beyond what it has been from the beginning. Nobody, but a handful of ppl has any morals anymore. It’s men against women and vice versa. And it’s sad and pathetic because as it is, there are too many ppl hurting and suffering with life as it is to keep playing these ignorant games with grown azz ppl that continously go around seeking and destroying and adding more baggage in other’s lives to have to deal with whether they are worthy of love from another human being or not. I say that self-love=the love you have for Jehovah God should be all that individuals seek in this day and time. Maybe some of that hurt and pain of trying to be accepted by others will not seem so important anymore.

Oh yeah, when I said ni99as, I also mean all the other races beside black men. Men in general are not worth the time and effort that it would take to be bothered with them. The ONLY exception would be those that are god-fearing, godly-devoted and god-seeking and speaking. And even those kind of men would really have to proove themselves to be worthy.

number 4 has my husband written all over it….he’s a momma’s boy and only child who could do no wrong.

Why can’t we all “just get along”. I think relationships have become complicated because people don’t value each other properly. Men and Women have some different roles and the “proper respect for those “roles” need to be in play. For example, some women don’t need a “mother” but some men get more “mothering” from their women than they give to their children. A “Man” already has direction and purpose. What some of need from women is “the polish, the beauty the compliment that women bring to the table. Not the direction, the leader, ( and in some case—NO DISRESPECT LADIES) the man. I think real men and real women…….know when a real man and a real woman are in their presence and will respond accordingly. RESPECT for each other is the real key. We live in a society that has been producing a near 50% divorce rate. Do we really wonder why, people lives are shattering……..the foundation of family life has been altered and is changing as we speak. At the end of the day, we all have to ask: what purpose does this serve ( our individual behavior). Lastly, for all of you ladies who have been mistreated by a man……..I WILL TAKE THIS TIME TO SAY: “I APOLOGIZE FOR ANY WRONG THAT I HAVE CAUSED AND ANY MAN HAS CAUSED YOU”. I challenge anyone who reads this to start “BEING THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP”……..LET LOVE rule supreme.

2daTopnonStop-I have to agree with you…even thou you can’t fine a man in this day and time who will stand up,when a woman leave the table mustless pull out her chair and pay. And BlackCaspers2001…I feel you too.

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Throughout history, much has changed. Including the dynamics of what “should” foster “healthy” relationships between black male and female. Again, we see that the face of that HAS changed.
First and foremost, the “blue-print” or base should be a realm of spirituality. Following this, accountability and last, but not least ,developing CHARACTER and a personality that would “attract” one person to another.

Granted, this society is ever-changing but what remains steadfast is the “mantra” Ree-Ree belted out when we were either babies, kids, teens, young to older adults or just a “spark” waiting to emerge into the world: “R-E-S-P-E-C-T. And due to the world and “personal head-trips” MANY of US HAVE lost sight of this. Anyone could actually do a dissertation on this, but the “truth’s” that one “owns” ARE the result of THEIR experience. Thus, many walking around with anger, bitterness and disappointment can STOP putting on this armour DAILY and learn from it. And then GROW as an individual. I believe that due to the high percentage of “single” parenting and especially the black female that “roles” have become “combined” for many females. That is, as the mother-bird protects her young, many single mothers, not all, HAVE taken on a more “aggressive” persona. This may be due to no “support” or male representation/leadership to “protect” her as well as her children. Not all black, single females fit the picture of the ABF (Angry Black Female) but yes, there ARE some out there. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes. But for BOTH male and female? Do not allow your anger, bitterness, etc. to rule YOU.

Before you can love another? Love YOU first. First preservation is the first law of nature. Say what you want, but it is very apparent today that many of our bros. and sistas do NO love themselves based upon their actions. It is not being selfish for selfish is when one cannot and will not think beyond themselves. But loving yourself FIRST can save many a tear and heart-break.

Black males. Yes, we know that you are on the “hit list” as soon as you bravely enter the world. By history, the black male HAD an “allegiance” with the black female. Because all we had WAS each other. Clearly the face of this had changed as well. The out and out disrespect and name-calling between both sexes does not announce to the world that “I am here.” It states to the world that “I am immature, lack compassion and need to do MORE soul-searching before I even contemplate entering a relationship as a “whole” individual.

Chivalry is not dead as the saying goes. It IS present in mature, evolved males that have been TRAINED. A “lady” that has been TRAINED has a very real sense of self, has the social graces down, but TRAINED as well. And more importantly? She does not have to “step out of character” and spew off like a garbage disposal to announce, “this is me and I have arrived.” .

While the foot-steps of a good man are ordered by God, it is the responsibility of his FATHER to “train” him hand in hand with his mother.

Both sexes to need to realize this: “have your OWN chit.” People like “balance” in their lives with regard to money. Having a viable income does NOT give one the “right” to “expect” to “get paid” from YOU. That is, unless you allow this. Having your own chit gives one the advantage of being in the driver’s seat so that YOU can “navigate” a relationship in the manner that you are comftable with. Not control–but comftable with. It is rare for one to “retire” from pigging-backing someone else’s paddy-wagon.

The mind-set of “dating” for many has become just like a chess-board: “your move.’ How sad.

wow women act if they are so weak if you feel like niggas and s**t then stop giving out the coochie so fast.i mean no one puts a gun to your head and say im a p***y bandit laydown and spread your legs.women need to take more responsibility, also if you are over 25 and you are still getting played by men then you are stupid.We do not live in the 50′ or sixties.we can not hold each other by the same standard as our grandfathers and grandmothers did. it’s impossible we live in a different era where the rules are different. i mean all that pulling the chair out, holding open the door and paying for dinners sounds good …..in the 70′s. if women are as independant as they claim. then alotta of those things are meaningless if you are not willing to do the same for the man. My point im trying to make is, if there is not total equality in a relationship then it simply wont work. you want your man to be king dingaling in bed then you better make sure you are queen punani. If you dont want a broke as man then make sure your ass is not broke.its really about matching up. you hear so many people say well i want this and i want that…fine..but what do you have to offer. if all a women is bringing to the relationship is p***y then im sorry boo but you are lacking. The same goes for a man.If you feel a man is kinda shady but you not 100 percent sure. then make his ass strap up. Its no sense getting pregnant or some disease by him.Yes men can be dogs, but for every no-good man there is a no good money hungry woman on the prowl as well.nothing will change as ong as everyone is pointing the finger at each other.