I think that Tameka is a beautiful African American woman…I am understanding, why that there is so much hate about this woman. You can say that it is jealousy, but to me it is deeper than that. Tameka exemplifies what a lot of African American look like…

Love is not about skin color or age…you can not help who you fall in love with…I have heard people say that she is too old to be with Usher, she is not pretty enough, she had kids prior to being with Usher, she needs to lose weight, and so on, and so on..

We really need to get it together instead of tearing people down.

Hmmm…This is not News…Who really cares, one way or the Other? Probably only Usher fans…

I agree 110%
Personally I always liked the chick.. thats the main think I like about her…she’s REGULAR. She is beautiful, she is brown skinned and normal looking. WHATS WRONG WITH THAT!!

Not all overprocessed, fake, bubbled up with implants… just REGULAR .

Worst thing is, all that negativity probably caused their break-up. Hate’n ass black women… She was nice normal woman, he fell in love with HER (AND NOT YOU…get over urself)

I never had a problem with Tameka in GOD’S eyes we’re all BEAUTIFUL and at the end of the day thats all what matter. It’s usher life and choice he seem something in her to marry and go bare in her. Did he do it to chili NO and dey both look like middle aged average women too chilli looks no better just smaller…women who thinks she ugly are in fact are jealous and that’s understandable…lol.

So what she is average, why cant a average woman snag a celeb. Why are woman hating, I thought it was cool of him to marry a average black lady. Celebs are almost always hooking up with someone who is already in the spot light or just fine ass hell and most of the time divorce after a few years. I can really care less about their business. Im a hot single mom with,so I guess I wont be hooking up with a celeb….

Keep in mind that she wasn’t doing too bad herself and come to think about it, in Hollywood and all that P.Surgery, one can alter themselves to look however they want to and most of this stars do that, so I can applaud a real woman for being herself although in Tameka’s case, I think the criticism had gotten to her so she’d decided to have that surgery done that almost killed her. I don’t remember on what though….

Hate…really. Anyhoo, I never understood the dislike against Tameka. I was just happy he married black. But the fact that she was 9yrs older, previously married with 3 children to him 9 yrs younger, never married, & no children. And the fact that it seemed like she was with child so soon after they started dating. It reminds me of The Cosby Show episode ‘With this Ring’ when Vanessa announced that she was marrying Dabnis. ‘It’s in the presentation, that’s the way he brought you here on a garbage can lid.’

To the contrary,for me,it has nothing to do with what she looks like.I happen to think that tameka is pretty and nothing compares to brown and darkbrown skin .Its absolutely beautiful,all men know this even white men.

It had to do with the fact that she appeared to come across as a MANIPULATOR.Already being married,already having a slew of children.For some women ,it came down to that.THE NUMBER ONE FACTOR,

CAUSING A WEDGE BETWEEN USHER AND HIS MOTHER.Their is something to be said about when you have a VERY SUPPORTIVE intelligent mother who had the UNBELIEVABLE TASK of keeping her son safe,out of jail,motivated,from the streets,and did a damn good job of protecting his career creating usher into a BORN SUPERSTAR for the world,saw something DISHONEST in the woman that usher picked for his wife.granted ,it was ushers choice,he made his decision.

But you have to question the fickleness in this woman who was willing to DIE FOR PLASTIC SURGERY MONTHS AFTER HAVING A BABY.SO if you can be so off in your thinking like that,TRUST ME,THEIR WERE OTHER THINGS.

TAMEKA IS A PRETTY WOMAN,she just doesnt realize that.

Ummmm because their HATERS…why else would a person or people HATE somebody they know nothing about other than whats posted and commented on by other individuals.

Personally I see nothing other than the fact she was married to Usher, so whats the big deal??

Hopefuly these same people who are hating on her are not the same folks who are having issues keep a man or woman AND not being told they have the same issues that people (think) Tameka has themselves.

just keeping it real

WHO EVER WROTE THIS MUST BE BORED…FOR THE FACT I DONT KNOW NUTHING ELSE ABOUT THIS WOMEN EXCEPT SHE IS USHER EX WIFE…WHO AM I TO JUDGE HER? AND I THINK ITS GREAT SHE IS NOT A CELEB AND WAS ABLE TO SCOOP UP USHER..AND PPL REMARRYING EVERY DAY THE FACT SHE HAS CHILDREN FROM A PREVIOUS MARRIAGE DNT HAVE NUTHN TO DO WITH ANYTHING TO ME….NEXT

I don’t like that woman & I don’t know her. Like I said in another post, there is something about her. I don’t see myself in her.. I don’t have kids.

i don’t even know tameka

trust me all black women are NOT jealous of Tameka and why should they be? I loved fact that he was dating someone who was a regukar woman and not a celebrity, and who didn’t necessarily fit the mold of what mainstream society and Hollywood expected him to select! Ushers choice was just that.I didn’tcare m still dont but she seems a litle off mentally, and a drama Queen to the max!

This article is full of BS!!!!!! I never dislike Tameka, I question the fax why her ex-husband was stating he was the father of unborn baby before she and Usher gotten married. And remember when they got married??? The wedding was called off, and a couple of weeks later, they got married. I guess Usher was waiting for the DNA test to come back????

A LOT (not all,if this doesnt apply to you then shut up) are jealous,hateful and vindictive. Thats why they didnt like her. It has nothing to do with all that other bulls**t. You had black women cursing this chick to hell because she got him and they didnt. A lot of black women actually thought they had a chance with him.

i have no prob w/ meka. i was very inspired when he married her. he couldve had ANY woman he wanted, and he knows that. but instead of all the white girls, latinas, groupies, gold-diggers, fans &/or Chilli….he chose his stylist….meka, married her and gave her two kids. get it girl. i aint mad at cha gurl. he captain-saved her, but its all good. now…since i moved to ATL….i know its possible to cop one of these stars i luv so dearly. their marriage…no matter how brief or unsuccessful, was an inspiration to normal, BLACK women all over this globe….in my opinion anyway. if u dont like it…..kill urself. j/k.

I agree with this post–for once. I don’t think it stops at black women. Just women in general. Most women don’t realize their inner beauty. We’re always tearing the other woman down. Do you know why chefs put lids on male crabs when they’re cooking em? Because they build a ladder between all of them and help the other ones out…some of them sacrifice themselves to help their comrads out of the boiling pot. Most don’t know that chefs don’t need to put a lid on a group of female crabs because they all pull the other one down trying to escape the boiling water. Most women are like that. It’s something deep in us. It’s really sad. I have to admit that a little piece of me thought, “He married her. Shoooot…I definitely would have looked better next to him then she did.” But a bigger piece was happy for him. He had found someone that truly made him happy enough to want children with. That is a true level of commitment–when you purposely choose that person to procreate with. You’re saying that person is more than good enough to carry on half of you and keep that kind of deep long lasting connection. Good for him! I’m just sorry that he made it public. He doesn’t owe us anything, but good music and great performances. He should really learn to keep his private life private.

Whoever writes these articles is truly an undereducated, uninsightful idiot. “Instead of it giving regular chicks hope that they too could snag a celeb, it annoyed them more than anything.” That’s not even gossip or hearsay, that’s just plain I-don’t-do-research-so-I-make-s**t-up. I’m embarrassed I even just read this. How the hell did this person get this job??

um no, thinks for the attempt to get in the minds of black women, speaking for us as a whole, but no, none of those guesses you came up with have ever crossed my mind.

1. I wasn’t surprised Ush had married Tameka given that their relationship seemed very intimate during a behind the scenes from his Confessions tour when she was his stylist. And yes, that was when she was w/her last hubby.

2. I dislike Tameka because she heavily influenced Ush into firing his mom..that’s what some women do to men..they seem all sweet and loving, thoughtful and caring until they get the ring on their fingers and then POW turn into that man’s nightmare!

3. Usher’s singing career hasn’t been the same since they got married..the last two albums he put out are very weak compared to Confessions.

4. Someone from Ush’s camp made a claim a few yrs back that he was only marrying Tameka for the publicity.

5. I was irritated that she wanted to have some basic ass barbecue in place of a reception after their wedding. Um, Ms. Bourghetto, you were marrying Usher Raymond the IV, what made you think he was gonna be cool w/a bbq? From that lil disagreement, they have postponned the wedding..should’ve just cancelled it all together in my opinion.

6. From people that have met her and Usher and could careless about either of them have all stated how nasty a person she was. For someone with experience with marriage and having sons, you’d think she’d have that marriage last longer than what 2 yrs and want to have a stable home for all 5 of her sons.

7. Isn’t she 40-41 now..why is she on twitter.com acting like a 16 yr old? Just cuz the man has interrupted your world, said this and that, said he wasn’t that man, etc, does not give an excuse for you to act a fool..

8. I still see all of this as a publicity stunt..one after another. This is played out just like Usher getting robbed once while staying at the Trump Towers and more recently while at the phone store..um, yeah, as believable as the many rappers who have been shot randomly.

Valid points made, I always thought Tameka looks good, but yea she aint no damm super model. Someone like Usher done problably banged out the finest chicks in a 300 mile radius so he pretty much knows the type of woman he wants to raise his children, not some ditzy fake bibmo caught on her looks.

I truly believe that at one point in time Usher did love Tameka. I am sure that she is still in love with Usher, but just in an delusional obsessive kind of way. I personally think that Tameka is beautiful. But only with her make up on and the fact that she had a Plastic Surgery Operation. I am in no way jealous of her at all. When I first heard about Usher and Tameka, I just knew that their marriage was not going too last. She just did not seem to be the right woman for Usher at all. Usher was not really ready to settle down anyway. Even though he made videos with all kinds of different broads all over him, I could tell that he was not really into Tameka that much at all. Usher still wanted to have flings with many women. Most of these women were hotter than Tameka anyway. I feel sorry for Tameka in a sense, because she may have really wanted their marriage to work out but it didn’t. She just chose the wrong man. Usher is a grown man but he is young in spirit. I felt like Usher just used her to get what he wanted. I am not playa hatin, but I am telling my perspective of how I have seen things for my very own eyes. Don’t fault me for my opinion, because everyone is rightfully entitled to their own. I don’t even see myself in Tameka at all. As far as being average looking, I guess she was. But that does not make me average looking because I am not a famous celebrity. Deep down, Tameka is panicking because the control that she had on Usher is wearing off. Usher is independent and strong minded. She thought that she could control and take over Usher’s life. That is why Usher fired his mom as manager. Tameka was very jealous of the fact that Usher’s mom was his manager for many years. She did not like that at all. And that is why she pushed Usher into firing his mom as his manager. Yeah, I said it, “PUSHED”. In Tameka’s eyes it was all about control. She also thought that by giving Usher babies, it would keep him close to her, but that did not mean anything at all. Usher is confused if you ask me. Every time he breaks up with a woman, he has a song to sing… Both of them were not ready to be in a true marriage. Tameka was out for control. And Usher was just out for the booty.. This marriage was doomed from the very start, I knew it and so did many other people. And no we are not haters, we just know when we smell a skank! These are just my words and thoughts. I want to see Usher and Tameka happy, but they are just made out to be right for each other. But who am I to decide upon this.. Usher made the decision on his own… So, society can’t be blame for their divorce and why they did not make it together. They are both to blame for their hot mess!

Ahhh, come on people…..THEY ARE BOTH AVERAGE LOOKING!!

The article is written by someone that has a problem with black women themselves and is using this as a front on what they THINK black women feel.

Tameka Foster did herself a disservice by getting involved with Usher the way she got involved with him. They both were not ready to be in a relationship and brought in issues from the past that had not been dealt with and made them public.

Women (black and otherwise) not liking her has to do with the personality protrayed rather than her looks or the fact that she got with Usher. How you introduce yourself or how you are introduced will cause people to react good or bad.

I think the author of the article is talking from a personal (perhap her’s) perspective. She should have her own feelings investigated, I hear Ron Artest has a good psych. doctor.

she is not attractive, period thats why i dont care for shorty.

First of all the chick was already married with three kids when their “love affair” began. Second she did the ultimate no no came between a son and his mother, And yes she is average looking but the way she’s conducting herself now is making her downright ugly.I understand she’s hurt and upset that she lost Usher and that getting knocked up by him (twice) couldn’t keep him, she needs to realize it was what it was and move on.Be a lady and concentrate on raising her five children to be better than the fathers she chose for them.

Usher is a grown man and his mother is a grown woman. To say this woman made him do anything is ridiculous. Because his mother had been managing him, it seems she felt like she could pursuade him in regards to his love life. I’m sure it isn’t easy when your son is with a woman you do not approve of. But, you have to let a man make his own choices. I would say Usher’s mother had a hand in destroying their relationship because she should have fell back. Brandy has issues with her mother managing her now that she’s a woman.

I just think Usher needs to make decisions for him and his mother needs to respect his freedom to do so. I can not understand dislike for Tameka because if Usher chose to be with a crack wh*re with 10 kids and 10 fathers, HE made the CHOICE. He is not a baby. I can never say anyone manipulated me into doing anything. It’s called free will.

People missed one of the most important parts of that interview-when Usher said he had a strong urge to have a family. He got with Tameka and had one. He said he is so glad to have his sons. He said he’s single and doesn’t plan to marry any time soon. He is not a victim.

HMM,,,SO IF THIS IS WHY BLACK WOMEN “MIGHT” HATE HER,,,THEN WHY MIGHT WHITE, LATINA, OR ASIAN WOMEN HATE HER?? LOL!!!
I REALLY THOUGHT THERE WAS A GOOD REASON LIKE, THIS FEMALE STOLE FROM HIM OR SOME BS,,,I DUNNO. I DID WATCH HIS BEHIND THE MUSIC, BUT AFTER THE CONFESSION SESSION TO CHILLI I WAS COO ON THE REST OF IT,,,MAYBE ILL HAVE TO PEEP IT AGAIN. I MEAN I DONT KNOW WHY THERE WAS DRAMA WITH HER AND HIS MOM BUT REALLY I THOUGHT I WAS GONNA READ A GOOD REASON,,

LOL @ TOOTIEFRESH N FROOTY,,,I DIDNT KNOW THAT BOUT CRABS,,,THAT ISH KINDA SOUNDS SAD,,,LOL,,THANX FOR THE LESSON!
AS FOR FEMALES BRINGING EACH OTHER DOWN,,,EH AINT NOTHING NEW THERE,,,THE PROBLEM IS,,,TOO MANY FEMALES IN EACH OTHERS BUSINESS, OR FIGHTING OVER MEN. I RARELY EVER HAVE A PROBLEM WITH A FEMALE CUZ I COULD CARELESS WHAT THEIR DOING, IMA TELL U THIS MUCH,,,FEMALES WHO SAY THEY DONT GET ALONG TOO GOOD WITH OTHER FEMALES,,PROBABLY HAVE ALOT OF MAN TROUBLE,,JUST MY OPINION,,,I THINK I GET ALONG WITH FEMALES PRETTY GOOD,,,NOW IF SOMEONE HATES ME,,THE B*TCH JUST HAS PERSONAL PROBLEMS,,LOL

I think the writer is 100% correct. End of story.

To be honest in truth . I think most women were mad because of the factor that she was wrong at how she got him. She knew of his relation with the other woman and she had no regrets upon it. Once she saw a weakness in knowing what he wanted and she latch on to it . look at the episode a gain and lets remember he wanted kids and she knew what she can give him. After that she made it even worst. She married him and had to think of her self as a star she is average as you sat well what average person needs a her personal crew she a no one and now she made her self a some one with a man who was a some one. as hard as that seem she is still a no one . she is a no one with a big as child support and alimony check

This story is a bunch of nonsense. The real reason why so many hate her is because she is like a bad rash that just refused to go away….period.

Hell to the f*%k’n Naw! Jealouse of Tomeka Foster, LMAO. The woman(and I’m using the term very loosely)has no polish about herself. In my opinion, she was digging for gold and pulled a double uterus wammy. In fact, Tomeka should be labled as a Pedophile. Anyone who has had a relationship with a child since the age of 13 then turns around and marry’s as an adult is alittle deranged.

I thinkit is all unneeded drama. Even if Usher were not famous, it is messy. I refuse to ‘hate’ on anyone. You make your bead, you lie in it. I hope you know a bed of roses has MANY thorns.

i agree with mrslmitchell thats a dam shame let a man do it they going to jail-shame on you b***h i was abused as a child i don’t like people who prey on children

I think the wrtter is correct,and that’s a shame!!That “she doesn’t conduct herself right” thing is just an excuse to justify the hatred against that woman!!i don’t think any woman in this country would’ve reacted differently than her,so…

Not true. Women were angry because she broke up her own family in their minds and left her husband and children- for what? If Black women were angry because they felt an average woman could not have a man like him- our women really need mental health counseling. Usher isn’t good looking and he isn’t God. If we want money we can make it by earning it ourselves. Give me a break please. As a black woman it is our strength- the norm/behavior to uphold our families- she broke that tradition because it seems she broke down her own family for a man. We do not know the circ**stances of her leaving her husband- just rumors. But it is what it appears to be. If it walks like a duck and quacks like one- it is one. She was seen as a home wrecker period.

ooooohhhhh hell to the nawh you didnt. that b***h in on way shape or form represents me. okay I dont have a bunch of kids, i still look good to me. I washed out and up. that chick was beat down from her first marriage saw the right sucker and got a ride on his disco stick and had 2 more to the bunch. only good thing she did was marry the hoe. YEAH I said he is a hoe. but he was single or unfaithful who really knows though. as i need to care. Tameka ass was 2 damn old and damage, fight cats and dogs at 6 in the morning. She didnt come between him and his mom. HE became a man at some point decided to grow up alittle. HE has to live with his choices. I am a fan but I stopped being a DIE hard fan after I grew up. CHILLI aint thinking about that old hagful b***h so she need watch for the checks and mind the kids. career hoe. attn: look at tamekas first husband and then look at usher sorrowful ass tell me if you see what i see. attack of clones

We are all on the outside looking, who knows what Ushers personality and treatment towards others behind closed doors is really like. Its sad to say this and that about her especially if nobody knows her or him personally, Dont be fool by Ushers smile and dance moves….he might be a arrogant verbally rude jerk to people he’s been with, but then again who knows.

Girl something about your articles be so true, I know ur the same one who wrote the one about “Thick Women” and I appreciate ur reality checks :)

Hate is a strong word to use. i never hated her but i never knew anything about her. i remember my mom telling me she came in between him and his mom

Even though I have responded about this ordeal between Usher and Tameka never could I say I hate a woman that I don’t know and as it has been mentioned that is a very strong word to use although it is used very loosely. Tamakea did not make herself look good from the jump. If she supposedly cheated on her spouse before marrying Usher then that speak love volumes about her character. It is not that serious for me enough for me to say I hate this woman because I don’t know her. She is upset as I said before that VH1 did not invite her to have any comments on her ex-husband. Then to attack Chili saying she has what Chili want which is what a fresh copy of some divorce papers.. She thought that she was going to have this man for a long time and by getting pregnant she thought that he would stay but we all know better than that. The only ppl that they should be concerned about now are those little boys and Tameka need to move on and stop making herself look desperate and bitter by attaching someone that you know nothing about star status don’t make you an intelligent individual…

I know he is a “celebrity” but I need to add that Usher is just average looking too. Look at that picture of them together before the article starts…He is NOT cute or anything special. Now his little brother is adorable.

Tameka is a pretty woman but we need to stop thinking relationships are all about “looks.” That is shallow and pathetic. Hell, the Dream married Christina Milian (who many feel is gorgeous, beautiful) they are heading for divorce. Get a clue.

Halle Berry has been divorced, what twice and she was once said to be one for the most beautiful women in the world. Something tells me that while looks may be a drawn for some initially it is not enough to solidify and keep a marriage. Free your mind and dig a little deeper. Good blog though.

please you all get a life ok!!!!!!!!!!!!

this article is bs first of all i’m NOT like any other “black” women or women in general. and c’mon EVERYBODY KNOWS the REAL reason why they hate usher’s ex wife because she is a straight up B***H!!!!!!!!

Nice prospective, but I know nothing of their relationship, which 99.999% of the people reading/posting comments don’t as well. But I won’t say black women hate because she is average. First, NO black woman is just average! Black women are the backbone of our culture and there is nothing average about that. But who is anyone commenting on this post to say this and that about the woman. Y’all don’t know her, besides what the media is portraying about her and what Usher (one side of the story) is saying. You can’t pass judgment or comment on alleged information, when it may not be fact!

usher is a a celebrity its true, but is he the ultimate prize for a woman?..if so, why?…explain that…i agree that the world would accepted chili more, but who cares really….

i dont necessarily agree with “yeahshesaidit” comment because i dont think tameka represents all, every or even most black women. and if you think about it, had she not been his stylist, she woulndt have snagged him either. no, shes not beautiful or glamorus. she was jus the right person in the right place at the right time. i think women hate her because we have never heard anything good about her. all the gossip has been negative behavior, negative comments and a nasty diva attitude. so what you put out there is what you get back.

None of us know either one of them personally, so its whatever because what any of us has to say about “their” situation is not valid. Looks are’nt everything and neither is money…if it was the richer you are the happier you would be, seems like the ones with the most money have the most issues aquiring the things that have no price tag

how ironic

She is an attractive woman and Usher is a talented young man. Different people have differing definitions of beauty, but I believe Usher is an attractive man. He has that charisma, and charm that women gravitate towards. It was time for him to leave the nest and stretch his wings. I hope that he learned something from the experience and will grow from it. I also wish Tameka well, and understand her pain and insecurities. Most of us do not play out our lives in front of the media.

I enjoy Ushers music and will continue to follow his career.

THE Breaking news I AM A RUSSIAN LADY AND I AM A THE ONLY REAL LEBRONS FATHER AND WE WANT ALL OF HIS MONEY IN EURO.

AND MY 4 YEAR OLD SON THAT IS RUSSIAN IS LEBRONS GRANPA. SO YA KNOW WE WANT THA MOOOONEY.

AND F**K TAMEKA WHO WANTS TO TALK ABOUT OLD P***Y. I KNOW HE GOT USHER COZ SHE WAS BLOWIN ON HIS BALLS AND DICK, COZ THAT HEAD GAME GOTTA BE AMAZING AFTER HAVING 36498404978 MEN, YA KNOW.

ANYWAY USH, U DIDNT LOSE ANYTHING SHE STIL AN OLD PUSSSY

I dislike Tameka becuz she makes the rest of us look bad. Bottom line NEVER get pregnant to keep a man it doesnt work

I thought it was just because she looked like a man. There were several debates (many years ago) that initiated that she was orginally a man. Anyone could adopt children, is what they said! lol I have to agree wholeheartedly with allthatizthiz2u’s comment – getting pregnant (or allowing yourself to become pregnant) is NO way to keep a man. It’s usually a guarantee to push him away, if you’re not married already. lol I think the reason people dislike her so much is that everyone wanted him and Chilli to be together. Yes, confessions was a great album, but if everything had remained the same and they were still together, and eventually got married (I’m speaking of Usher and Chilli still) then the world would have embraced that union!!! IMO!

Well I don’t dislike Tameka, HOWEVER, She just looked more like his momma and JUST LIKE HE SAID ON BEHIND THE MUSIC, ROZONDA “CHILLI” THOMAS WAS HIS BEST FRIEND…I DON’T THINK USHER AND TAMEKA HAD MUCH IN COMMON…SHE DIDN’T SEEM TO UNDERSTAND HIS MUSIC CAREER AND CHILLI DID…CHILLI WAS THE ONE WHO TAUGHT HIM A DANCE MOVE ON HIS FIRST VIDEO I BELIEVE THAT IS MORE OF A FRIENDSHIP THAT I COULD SEE BLOSSOMING INTO A RELATIONSHIP INSTEAD OF JUST SEX…A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT JUST BASED ON SEX…IT’S MORE!MARRIAGE IS DEFINITELY A GIFT FROM GOD AND A MINISTRY…WHEN I SAW CHILLI AND USHER TOGETHER IT MINISTERED TO ME MORE THAT YOU CAN HAVE FUN AND LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST IN A RELATIONSHIP…WITH TAMEKA I JUST SAW SHE CAN’T DANCE, SHE’S KINDA ON THE PLUS SIZE SO HOW COULD SHE KEEP UP WITH LITTLE USHER, LIKE MAYBE GO SKATING OR HAVE FUN AT AN AMUSEMENT PARK OR SOMETHING FUN…I SAW THAT MORE WITH CHILLI…HE WAS MORE LAID BACK INSTEAD OF TRYING TO BE AN OLD MAN AT 20 SOMETHING…WHEN HE WAS WITH TAMEKA IT SLOWED HIM DOWN AND MADE HIM ACT MORE LIKE THE OLD HOLLYWOOD A-LISTERS THAT HAVE GOTTEN OLD AND REALLY DON’T DO ANYTHING ANYMORE LIKE BILL COSBY AND SIDNEY POITIER…BUT THEY’RE OLD SO YOU WOULD EXPECT THEM TO BE AT HOME ALL THE TIME AND PRETTY MUCH NOT ON TV OR DOING ANYTHING…BUT USHER IS YOUNG AND STILL IN HIS PRIMES SO WE WOULD LIKE TO SEE HIM STILL DO HIS THING…IT AIN’T LIKE HE HAS ABOUT 20 ALBUMS OUT YET…THE CD WITH “YEAH” WAS THE FIRST TO BLOW UP AND THAT WAS JUST ABOUT 2 TO 3 CDS AGO…SO CHILLI JUST UNDERSTOOD HIM A LITTLE MORE AND WAS ABLE TO SHARE HER MAN WITH THOUSANDS OF THE CRAVING WOMEN DURING HIS CONCERTS BECAUSE ONE THING CHILLI KNEW WAS HE WAS COMING HOME TO MOMMA!LOL! TAMEKA SEEMED MORE SELFISH AND SEEMED LIKE SHE WOULD HAVE WANTED HIM TO STAY HOME WITH HER ALL THE TIME…THAT’S BORING…LOL!

I DON’T SEE WHY BLK WOMEN DISLIKED HER EITHER I WAS JUST GLAD SHE WAS A BLK WOMAN THAT DIDNT LOOK FAKE OR WHITE.AND IF HE MARRIED A WHITE WOMAN BLK WOMEN WOULD HAVE BEEN MAD ABOUT THAT 2 SO I DON’T UNDERSTAND IT SEEMS LIK SISTA AIN’T SATISFIED. I WAS PULLIN FOR THEM MYSELF BUT SHE F**KED IT UP SO I HOPE HE DON’T GIVE UP ON THA SISTAS. I STILL WANT HIM AND CHILLI 2 GET BACK 2GETHER.

@Sexkitten48, the answer is pretty obvious, generally black women are haters, not all but a higher percentage then any other race are. Ask any candid honest sister and they will admit that BW are the most nastiest and most rude group towards each other and towards others out here. And many have the biggest chip on their shoulder and are defensive as hell when you try to point out things that they perpetrate. Yeah I know BM have lots of problems and I’m not denying it bc I’m not in denial, but this isn’t about BM it’s about BW.

Most ridiculous theory ever. First of all, I’m Black and don’t have several kids AND I appreciated that Usher was with a “regular” black woman.

It’s a lot of white women who probably don’t care for a white male celeb’s wife….nobody makes it a race issue. Why is it a race issue when it comes to a black celeb??

lol oddly that is a dayum good point! Hmm makes you think. I actually respected Usher more because she wasnt all those things you named. She was normal, no glitz. It shows it was true love instead of image infatuation. I think her age had a factor as well for some women.

I don’t usually agree with ‘Yeahshesaidit’, but this time I think you hit the nail on the head because I couldn’t figure out for the life of me, WHY this woman generated so much hatred.

So what if she is older, she still looks very nice. And so what if she ‘had kids’, so does Chilli, Tiny, Toya and several other women. (BTW, Just goes to show that if a man truly wants you, he wants you. No matter what you have done or how many ‘kids’ you have).
But I think you are right. Women saw this plain, ordinary, single mom and wondered “Now how the hell did she bag THAT!!”

Not sure what she wanted with Usher anyway…..other than the money.

Right @ whoever said Usher was’nt even all of that to look at
i’ve always thought that now he is ok and has some nice dance moves which might equal good moves in the bedroom, but other than his singing the buck stops there for me. Dont know Tameka personally nor will i sit on the net an act as if I do.

wish her the best of luck and hope Usher is a good father

First of all who’s done this so called research on every woman in the world to rightfully post a measure on the demographic of black women haters as compared to latin, asian, pacific, American Indian (the list goes on) women? Why in the world would every black woman dislike Tameka in the first place and where do you folks get the word that Usher was the best black man out there to want to be with since sliced bread? Obviously he saw something different in her than any other woman he’s been involved with. And she wasn’t standing in some welfare line when he met her, she was already in the industry with a pretty well etablished career of her own. Just because she wasn’t celebrity doesn’t make her or anyone else less than desirable. Folks put too much emphasis on “celebrity” as if you’re better looking, richer, nicer, or much better than any other human because of it. Usher and Tameka had the same problems any other couple would have in a relationship put out in the open like that. But to count off all black women as haters has nothing to do with Usher , or any celebrity. It has to do with the cotunued crticism of black women everytime they have an opinion of something. Might be some lil teenagers or other younger women who in any case may feel animosity towards Tameka or some immature older women, but don’t group us all up like that everytime a situation like this surfaces. And certainly be mindful of the many other races of women who love Usher.

nah i disagree totally my feelings toward the whole situation was indifferent but to say may be black women hated on her because she reminded them of themselves is out there if i seen a celeb dating someone who look like me i wouldn’t be jealous shooooot I’d be like hey then i have a chance women hate on the women that celebrity men date and marry all the time when Monique was dating gerald levert he commented that women were verbally attacking her calling her fat b***hes and im sure some other unnecessary names it’s not that they see themselves it’s that they thought they had a chance lol

Well said, Sister!

Of course everyone has an opinion and that is beautiful. However, I would like to remind all of the Black women and men, who are saying meanful and malicious things about Tameka and Usher ( a Black woman & man),that all groups (races, cultures) are reading these comments. Let us not confirm what they think of us. Personally, I think Tameka is a beautiful woman-period! I think Usher is a wonderful talent. We all have flaws. If you don’t, then go ahead and cast the first stone. I’m still gonna love you as my sisters & brothers!! Thanks

sorry so many ignorant people in the world but nothing stinks like anyone who doesnt get their own, but can snatch anyone who works hard for their money! As a black woman, I be damned if I need or have the desire to want a celeb, as they are just as hard working as I am. Sorry for the author who wrote this article to assume that black women hate on Tameka, because she got Usher???!!!! Pure ignorance. Let folks live their lives and be with whom their hearts desire, but ALL BLACK WOMEN, dont live like leeches, hoards, or bloodsucking wallet snatchers. Im quite sure Usher wanted Tameka just the same. Why do you think she almost died during surgery? She wanted to look as fake as the rest of the Plastic hollowood world.
PUHlease, they must write this shyt for mindless folks. smh smh smh!

Tameka is a beautiful sista, its just how she got usher, that irked some of the sisters. On top of that there is no unity in the sisterhood any more. They should had been glad she snagged this brother than a silicon bimbo which most brothers think is a one up on a sista. But, hey this article is most likely right. I saw far too many comments on how she was ugly this and that and some very hateful things that are normally said about any sista when her looks arent to some liking just plain childish and immature.

lol people who post on blogs are full of shyt! mostly the females. y’all don’t know this woman personally. miss me with that ” i don’t respect the way she got usher”. just miss me with the bullshyt!.

***QUESTION****
why is it that when i ask any and every black FEMALE do they have female friends they say,”NO,females are messy and can’t be trusted”.

……………..you can learn a thing or two from females!

I like Tameka because yeah they had their issues but she is doing good now. Has her own business and is raising her kids. He likes older women so yeah they look older than him…the one he has now is older than Tameka she is 42. Thats just him so deal with that ladies. Stop hatin on eachother besides if he didnt get with older women would he be with u? Doubtful…let it go and let this sista live her life dang

I never understood what the big deal was. He loved her, got married, and produced to beautiful boys. okay. moving on. Whats the reason to hate????? I think she’s gorgeous anyways.
usher on the other hand, gets uglier with age. smh.

I didn’t feel one way or another about her. I found it interesting that Usher’s mom didn’t like her.

I can’t believe the stupidty. Some Blackwoman & Blackmen are so spiteful & hateful towards each other..conquer and divide has worked. The only race on earth that beat each other down, physically & emotionally. Always got something negative to say. All you ignorant haters need to read the Lynches Papers. As hard as it is to meet a brother who has something going on with himself to compliment hard working, goal oriented Blackwoman like myself who are committed to thier race as we lose so many blackmen to other races, I can see why….but I want my sane, intelligent Blackmen to know that there are a lot of us among the dead, so please remember, we need you..I do speak for myself, but there are other positive woman out who are planning for thier future by going to college & holding down a job, and by the way, I am 48 and my son is 31…I don’t have all those kids I keep hearing about. I don’t keep up with gossip couldn’t help pickup on the situation at hand..I appreciate the thoughts from several positive sistahs above. A star like Usher..can get any woman of any other race, but he chose a Blackwoman, who by the way, is pretty..perhaps not by the white establishment..I guest, she she don’t fit the profile because she has real boobs, real nose, however, she was influenced for some reason..why go under the knife when all you have to do is workout..crazy..perhaps she felt that she needed to fit the criteria of all the other so called sexy woman, who are all fake ….Yes, a lot of blackwoman hate on blackwoman..just like all the black on black crime.. As crazy as it sounds, i am from Brooklyn..relocated to SC..o, my God..should have done my homework…yea, so ignorant here, I have been hated on because of the way I talk…I am always asked..”You’re not from here” that’s what’s wrong with us now..your mind has been whitewashed and brainwashed… If our race is going to survive another century, all you haters, those of you so selfish and not being a positive role model for your kids, also all you blackmen, believing the so called forebidden fruit is better,once in not so distance past..just look!! If you don’t know better read history. My thing is if you want a woman of another race don’t talk negative about the blackwoman. As many insecure, in jail, thugggish, women beaters, disrespect, nasty, brain between legs, pants down ass, no job we decent blackwoman have to put up with, please, we don’t talk negative so everyone can hear..make me sick..make the white woman think she better. Perhaps she has more..I wonder why..if you chose the wrong type of woman because your brain is between your legs, don’t put us down. The black race has proven time & time again to be spiteful of self, constantly sham the almighty..keep our race down..better get grip if children. Think because you can by Escalade, best clothes, able to rub elbows, guest what. All that is temporary because while you think you got it made…the REAL HATERS are still planning.,..but they don’t really have to do much because we are doing a great job on our own. It’s ignorant to put your own self down..One day you may have to run homw and the doo is going to be shut. I get upset because, I pray for a well established, intelligent, well groomed blackman and who do I see him with..and then see what I have to pick from..we are all not loud, haters, so called gold diggers…matter of fact, I consider most men pu–y diggers, so what’s the difference..the only race that put their women down for ALL TO HEAR..WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU LOOK LIKE TO TO THE WORLD..O, I know most of you don’t have a commitment to your race anyway, so it does not matter, and there is nothing wrong with having a commitment to your race..if you don’t know,that means taking care of HOME first. Sistah’s who know where I am coming from..let’s continue to love ourselves, teach our children love, respect, education. Be careful what they watch on that TV..a lot of CRAZZY Stuff..stuff you think is funny buyt guest what..just like rap..negative influence..if you don’t believe me..just look around, in every city…young boys and girls humping and sticking weah other..man marrying man..woman marrying woman..woman & men go against the creator.change sex..old woman, old men molesting young children..o, don’t foreget..so call petifile priest..now does anyone know where all that crazy mess come from..go ahead and follow..suppose to be a free country, then we wonder what’s wrong with our kids…parents can keep the cell phone off their ear no enough to know what their kids are doing..so many black kids in foster care..drugs, jail, gangs..Think all this a joke and it does not affect you..I guest as long as it does not affect you it’s not your problem..Don’t be surprise you wake up one day and it’s at your front door..Black Race when will rise above the chains of psychological slavery on the brain..couldn’t even stand up for all our great forefathers/mothers who died so that we can stand proud and not be treated less than human…don’t remember..o, that long ago!!

I think Tameka and Usher made a great couple. In my opinion its’ good to marry someone not famous, they’ll be there for you more and keep you grounded.

The reason I didn’t care for Usher’s ex Tameak, has nothing to do with her looks bcuz She was ok looking as appearances goes. However my dislikes came because how the relationship came about. It started as a doomed relationship. Once she had his heart, she started throwing her wet around. She was married and divorced, to get with Usher, I was also upset at Ursher, he played a roll in this. I feel Usher didn’t ever love her he can say he did all he want. I feel she married him cuz he was who he is and he married her to get over something eles or because his mom didn’t care 4 her and he wanted to prove his manhood to mom. A lot of u have it all wrong there is not a dislike Tameaka campaign. I think everyone just knew this marriage was doomed and that she looking for what everyone eles looks for in this life for that I say good 4 her. With that being said Usher and Tameka should be ashamed of themeselves. Because, they not only involved themselves they involved her children and the children they had together. She tried to hold on to Usher with the kids. When that wasn’t working she tried to change herself by having procedures that almost ended her life. Good for her that she is moving on with her own business. I think she knew she had hit the jack pot and was willing to do anything to keep him. That part about her was sad. They were the new Bobby and Whitney. No jealousy here just saw they were not good for each other. I wish Tameka all the luck in the world. As I would wish for all women. As for Usher I am sure he will be a great dad to his kids. I also wish him success in music career. JEALOUSY NONE just didn’t see it lasting at the start. She knows it started wrong. I am sure she is cool with it. I mean its all good for her she is doing great. She got us blogging about her. several years ago no one even knew who she was. That has got to mean something. Yall can keep it going I am done. Oh! one more thing there was someone who said black women I dntify with her cuz she was a single parent with kids. No I don’t identify with her at all I identify with any women of any race who is hard working goes after what ever she wants takes care family rather single or married What I don’t like is how some black males put the title angry or jealous black women out there. Like they know every black female in the world.Like they have had some dealing with all black women when they most likely have never left the town they live in. Peace!

Did anyone catch her interview on the Ricki Smiley Morning Show? She has a terrible attitude and seems really snotty, they didn’t even offer to have her back like they do to other interviewees. At first I thought everyone was a little hard on her and I didn’t think she looked so bad, but after that interview I know why people in their circle didn’t like her. She seems messy.

Oh God, I don’t understand, at least he married a sister. Can we as black people at least give him credit for that. The world was in his marriage to much for his marriage to even work. Imagine this, you are a man or a woman who marries a man or a woman whom you feel you love and then everyone comes to you saying things about that person you love like, “she isn’t pretty”, or “you can do better”, or “she is to old”, or “she has to many kids”, after a while those negative remarks are going to weigh in heavily on your mind and no matter how much you love that person soon you are going to start believing those constant whispers. No ones saying she was the perfect wife but I believe there was some sort of unsuperficial reason usher loved and married her. Anyone is subject to get “The Grass Is Greener” syndrome with that much interference in a marriage.

most people who are hating need to look at themselves and their relationships. Half of them don’t have a relationship of their own. There is nothing wrong with the the way this woman looks. I think she is pretty. However Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Whatever happened that caused them to break up is their business. We don’t know the whole story. I do agree with one thing that the article said was that i think people were judging her because she wasn’t this “hollywood glam” girl or famous chick and curiousity killed them cats. But i didn’t agree with anything else the article said about tameka being a reflection in the mirror.

I first laughed at the comment man like usher or caliber, What make usher a man of caliber ? simply because he can entertain ? and i use the word entertain loosely because a lot of people can entertain and don’t have any talent he just like most of the entertainers use computer assisted voice enhancers to make them-self sound good usher is not excluded can he read and write the music he sings ? i mean music and the lyric can he play a instrument ? if not he is just another entertainer that people go crazy over because their name is up on the billboard and in the glitter and lime lite.

@sexykitten48 im with you on that. they would have dogged him out like you said.if he was with a white or any other race. just alot of bw haterism. also i want him and chilli to get back together to they made the perfect couple his mama even liked her. i do want to say one thing. its a reason why his mama didnt like her(tameka). they argued and fought with each other alot. so those are signs, if you ask me. Parents knows when something isnt right majority of the time.

SAXPLAYER6339, this is the most lucid and coherent statement made on this sight; who is he, what is he doing for society to make it better? A catch, caliber, those are some lofty words to describe a guy, who is moderately good looking and a performer, not an artist, like Alicia Keys, who can actually write and play music and performs her concerts LIVE, where ever she may perform, backyard venue to Broadway, ask Beyonce, Usher, and Ciara to do that, dogs would be howling all over the countryside. Tameka looks like a man and that to me, is the only reason why people hate, he damn sure could do better!! To call her average is an insult to average, she average looking for a man!!!

Hello, “ms editor,” I hate the fact you believe that black women did not like Tameka because she reminds them of themselves. All black women do not have a “bunch of children.” You had to take a cheap shot at black women just like so many. I asked myself why do you feel that way and came to the conclusion. YOU AND SO MANY others do not understand, “the black woman.” Personally, I have no negative feeling for Tameka and I am a black woman, so I would you label that. Perhaps the women who does not like Tameka did not see her and Usher a cute couple or maybe because her “not so famous status,” they said, “DAMN,” that could have been me. The next time you throw “low self-esteem shots,” at anyone THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK! YEARISAIDTHAT!

What the hell?! I’ve always thought Tameka was pretty. Why is she unatractive, because she’s not light skinned or next to white. Women love saying that she got Usher the wrong way. They’re just mad that she got him and they didn’t. There are so many hot white celebrities who have average, older looking wives. You don’t hear women, esp. white women, ripping them apart. We need to get it together. It is beyond absurd to hate on a celebrity’s wife or ex. By the way, the editor is simply perpetuating the stereotype that black women are hard to get along with. Yes, some are. But we must ask ourselves, who made her that way? in American culture it is almost like young white girls are taught that they deserve a white knight on a horse. Young black girls are taught to take what they can get. Screw that. I deserve the best. Why should smart, beautiful, educated women settle? When they do get with a man who maybe makes less or is less educated, it hardly ever works out. This is with all races. Yet when the roles are reversed things are more likely to work because men are expected to be the provider, not just financially but other ways. That’s just the way things are. All women deserve to be treated like queens, especially us. We have worked too long, and too hard to settle for anything less.

My “issue” with Tameka is the way she treated her other children to be with Usher. You don’t leave your childen, or ship them to their fathers when you get into a relationship-regrdless of the man. The older children were in her majority cusotdy until she and Usher got serious. You NEVER see pictures of her, Usher, her sons and their sons together.

Tameka looka lika man! She’s a golddigging w***e and Usher’s mom was right on the money about her! Even the plastic surgeries she had, which almost killed her, wouldn’t make her pretty either. Usher is better off without her and I hope he gets sole custody of those boys he has with that Jawanna Mann.

To the writer please do not insult us or if you are going to try to write an article based on facts try talking to more “black women” first as you put. One would have to be of pretty low self esteem to identify themselves with Tameka. I didnt like her at first sight simply b/c there was something off about her and my instincts were proven right in this case, turns out she is nothing more than just another gold digger (not b/c she is dark brown as we are seeing enough of the other shades around these days too, enter Kim K, Amber Rose…). You are quite ignorant if that is your view of black women and no I dont think that Usher is so extraordinary that he’s unreachable or too good for me smh please lol on the contrary we dont run in the same circles nor will I ever be interested in dating an entertainement!!!!
BLACK SINGLE HARD WORKING MOTHER OF 2 & PROUD !!!

I really don’t understand why the chick was so hated on. She was Ushers’ choice for a wife,baby momma. Now she getting paid. I guess to him it didn’t matter she didn’t have the typical ‘supermodel’ look. He wanted her anyways.

HANDS DOWN USHER CHOSE TO FOLLOW HIS HEARTS AND IT BACKFIRED BAD…I NEVER DISLIKE HER OR HAD A PROBLEM WITH HIS CHOICE.I THOUGHT SHE WAS A GREAT CHOICE SHE FOR ONE IS A BEAUTIFUL HARD WORKING BLACK WOMEN THAT HAPPEND TO BE A MOTHER OF 3 MIGHT I ADD AND US AS BLACK WOMEN NEED TO GET PAST HER LOOK SO WHAT SHE WAS NOT A LIGHT SKIN OR EXOTIC LOOKING BLACK WOMEN BUT HE CHOSE HER FOR A REASON…HIS MOTHER WAS NOT TO THRILLED WITH HIS CHOICE BECAUSE OF HER CRIMINAL BACKROUND(she commited welfare fraud while reciving child support!!) AND WHAT CAME WITH IT AND HOW IT WOULD EFFECT HER SON.YEA SHE MAY NOT HAVE LOOK THE WAY WE EXPECTED BUT SHE IS OUR SISTER AND US AS BLACK WOMEN OUR BEAUTY IS DIVERSE WE COME IN ALL SHADES..YEA TAMEKA FOSTER IS WHO SHE ISTHERE NOTHING WE CAN DO ABOUT IT..AFTER ALL SHE’
S JUST LIKE ALL WE SHOULD LEAVE IT AS…SO WHAT IF SHE’S BITTER ABOUT THE BREAK-UP OF HER MARRIAGE AND SHE WANNA AIR HER DIRTY LAUNDRY IT’S ALWAYS INTERESTING TO HEAR…OH YES B4 I SIGN OFF 4 SUM OF U IGNORANT AZZES I AM BLACK WOMEN AND MY BLACK IS DIVERSE AND DON’T LET THE LIGHT SKIN FOOL YA-WE NEED TO UNITE AND STOP DRAWING LINES IN THE SAND TO SEPARATE OURSELVES WERE DOING EXACTLY WHAT SLAVE MASTERS DID TO US DURING SLAVERY SEPARTING US AND DRAWING RESENTMENT FROM THOSE LINES OF SEPARATION

Um who said anything bout her not being lightskinned??? Anyway I feel bad I think they divorced occurred cuz the Sex Appeal wasn’t there Anymore n his album hadn’t done well cuz be was [ married ] Tragic and ashame Male singer cane have a Successful career cuz of that. Black women Are not the only women werenot the only upset by the marraige any1 who was a fan /wanted him

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