if we’re referring to serious relationships here, then TRUE. if a woman wants kids at some point in her life, then why should she waste time with a man who isn’t father material?

it’s better to open the door ONLY to compatible mates than to find yourself having “accidentally” fallen in love with an incompatible mate, all because you left the door open to begin with.

In the past I’ve dated men I would never marry, have sex with, or have childern with because it was only a few dates.  If we weren’t compatible then a relationship never developed. People should “date around” instead of “sleeping around” to get a feel for who they are compatible with.

Get with one that’s compatible and a INCOME….who wants to raise kids struggling or BROKE? Not you…….

who said u have to have kids?

The author of this post twisted what the Facebook user was saying.  Per the quoted statement, the Facebook user said that she didn’t believe in sleeping with someone that she wouldn’t want to have kids with.  The author of this post transposes the concept of sleeping with a man with dating a man.  You can date someone without sleeping with them.  They are not necessarily mutually inclusive of each other.

there’s nothing wrong with DATING a man you wouldn’t have kids with. just dont’t MARRY him. unless the both of you don’t want kids.

why would you waste time dating someone you knew you were never going to marry?

why cant ppl just quit thinking theres rules to dating, finding a mate, having sex or whatever. If u gotta have so many rules and/or questions, then u shouldnt even leave ur house, i mean damn, ur probably just a headache to deal with. I bet theres someone out there who trys to apply all these “advice” articles, to their real life,,,gets me mad,,,just f**kin up more ppl in the head,,,,thats all we frickin need, is more lames. LOL

You don’t screwlove but how often are 2 ppl just sleeping together and a slip up isn’t made aka condom break, just didn’t use one, she said she’s on birth control, you both acted in the heat of the moment, so on and so forth? Its about being responsible with and for yourself and your future. I hear of too many men that regret who they ALLOWED  to mother their children and vice versa. And why waste time dating someone you don’t see yourself with in the future? Personally it seems like a waste of tone. Screw some people are more responsible with using protection than others.

tRUE tOO MANy PHyCHOtIC MALES IN AMERICA

There are persistent reports that U.S.-backed Libyan rebels are killing
black Libyans in towns and villages near Tripoli, but the Obama
administration and many members of the Congressional Black Caucus
remain relatively mute about what human rights groups and eye-witnesses
call war crimes and genocide, according to a report from Joseph Farah’s
G2 Bulletin.

The rebels committing the slaughter also have the backing of the North
Atlantic Treaty Organization, or NATO, without which they would not
have ousted the government of Libyan leader Moammar Gadhafi, who
remains in hiding amid reports that he is preparing a
counter-insurgency campaign against the loosely controlled rebels.

“These are the ‘liberators’ that President Barack Obama, President
Nicolas Sarkozy and Prime Minister David Cameron helped install in
Libya,” one source told G2Bulletin. “They all rejected an African Union
proposal that would have brought a ceasefire and the warring parties to
the table to create a constitution and to hold elections.”

Sources say that the indiscriminate slaughter of black Libyans, some of
whom supported Gadhafi, constitutes revenge killings which rebel
leaders of the National Transitional Council, or NTC, said are not
supposed to be happening.

Observers say that a majority of the blacks who have been rounded up by
the rebels are migrant workers from the sub-Saharan countries. The
number of those being attacked remains unclear. The nation has a
population of about 6.5 million, and there are estimates that some 1.5
million workers from sub-Saharan Africa are living in Libya.

Nevertheless, what observers report as systematic rape, torture,
executions by being shot in the back of the head, lynchings, beheadings
and horrific internment is happening to black Libyans principally in
the towns of Misurata, neighboring Tawergha and in other small towns in
the sub-Sahara populated mostly by black Libyans and people from the
other black African countries.

In Tawergha, for example, sources say that many of the homes once
occupied by black Libyans have been vacated, with many having been
ransacked or torched. In referring to the plight of the black Libyans,
NTC head Mahmoud Jibril said that “nobody has the right to interfere in
this matter except the people of Misurata.”

As the source pointed out, it is the people of Misurata who are undertaking ethnic cleansing.

“Surely, Jibril knows that he’s inciting to further ethnic cleansing” by making such a statement, the source said.

According to various sources, attacks on blacks have been particularly vicious.

The effect of ethnic cleansing in Libya is being felt all over Africa, sources say.

African Union Commission Chairman Jean Ping said that anti-black
attacks were one reason many African governments refuse to recognize
the new regime as Libya’s legitimate government.

“Blacks are being killed,” Ping said. “Blacks are having their throats
slit. Blacks are accused of being mercenaries. Do you think it’s normal
in a country that’s a third black that blacks are confused with
mercenaries?”

The G2Bulletin has been given access to some of the videos showing the raw brutality toward totally defenseless black Libyans.

As G2Bulletin reported Aug. 10, the intention of the rebels is ethnic
cleansing. One video showed black Libyan children massacred with their
fingers and legs severed.

Observers note that most of the media has been quiet on the issue, as
has the U.N., the Obama administration and even most of the
Congressional Black Caucus.

Rep. Jesse Jackson Jr., D-Ill., however, appears to be the exception.

He has called for an investigation by the International Criminal Court
into the killings of blacks in Libya. He also will ask that U.S.
assistance for reconstruction and transition to democracy in Libya be
conditional.

As one writer told WND Editor and CEO Joseph Farah in an email: “No
black American would ever vote for (Obama) ever again if the truth came
out that he’s murdering” blacks in Libya. 

Yes ofcourse this is true, us females are responsible for our future and outcomes of life. We the female creature have very enticing gestures which are the very weakness of the male creatures thats why we females get hurt or heartbroken during the process because me fall prey. when the male is truely encouraged from within himself than thats how true love began, with the head’s heart (king)<3

Well, I think this statement is true.  And its also true for men as well.  But the reality is, whilst some of do apply common sense to relationships and want relationships or families to develop in the proper way, the other two thirds dont.  And that is why we have so many single parent families and poor children that have be in the middle of mommy and daddy hating each other.  Why? coz they laid down, didnt even know each other and boom here comes the baby and not one drop of respect was even established for each other!  Then it would be people like me in social care that needs to come in and deal with the emotional issues of these children.  So the whole, “just go with the flow, no rules  and have fun” concepts are not working people.

Please, try and employ standards and know that you do not need to be so quick to jump in bed with someone.  And yes, accidents can happen so be responsible.  And like others stated, focus on dating and getting to know someone first.  Only this will build the foundation of a strong relationship. 

shows how backwards views are now.  how about dont date someone you wouldnt want to marry, spend the rest of your life with, trust with your health, finances, role of “next of kin” as well as to raise and care for your children.  how about that black folks???  lets start thinking with our minds and not our sex organs

Hmmm…You know, each generation is coming into adulthood less educated, less prepared, and less self-disciplined than the previous one…and the endless focus on sex and dating and mating (all without the benefit of proper role models to emulate in their families, communities, etc.) is brainwashing people of color to willingly adopt any social standard for themselves, so long as they fit in and are accepted as “cool”  or “down with it” in the end.  People try to convince themselves that younger, less sophisticated, under-educated youth are not embracing myriad negative role models that are put on an “entertainment only” pedestal…but they really need to take those rose-colored glasses off and look at the kind of young people our communities are producing these days.  Their focus is either bad, or woefully sad…Who’s gonna be the next rapping/p***y snatching superstar, aka Lil Wayne?  Who can get more facebook/my space ho’s or dress like Lil Kim & Nicki Minaj rolled up into one skanky female…Is it any wonder that self-respectful dating has gone the way of the dodo bird and Jimmy Hoffa (both are dead as a doorknob)?  Our porn soaked world wibe web has seen to that…and movies/tv shows/video ho’s and reality tv back up the p***y parade, teaching our children to focus more on sexuality than on eduating them about real world realities.  There are few men self disciplined enough to date without sexual pressure, and I pity young women and men navigating the highly pressurized, high speed, utterly meaningless dating mine fields awaiting todays youth.  Nobody is interested in getting to know each other better enough to make an informed, careful decision before jumping into bed with each other, and the millions of fatherless children half raising themselves in this country is a testament to the lack of priorities, values, life goals and self discipline necessary to successfully find a suitable mate in this ever shrinking pool of acceptable candidates.  I willingly took my own self off the market and refuse to go back…its just too ugly and empty and shallow out there, these days.  I’d rather spend my time on something that will bear fruit in the end…and high speed dating?  WhaT IS THAT?  The p***ycat fast track?  The fast track into the sack?  LMAO…

I ten to go with, don’t sleep with a man you wouldn’t be willing to have kids with. Accidents o happen, and then you’re stuck if he’s the wrong guy. Date who you want, but be careful who you get in bed with.

How can you marry without dating at least once? Nothing against arranged marriages and all that, but i prefer to get to know someone.

What happened to Black Americans? 

As a woman probably the age of those folks that used to say that, it was a BAHAHA type of thing.You know, don’t mess up your gene pool you might have ugly kids! It’s nice being old enough not to worry about such things when you date or sleep with someone ;)

because you, yourself, have growth that only a potpourri of life experiences with various personal interaction can elicit?