Kandi,if your asking ,you already know the answer. :) Life is to short.Their’s only so much b*&&^%&t a woman,man, can take..Your better off doing you until something with some commonsense crosses your path. :)

kandi i feel you, there’s no way and no need to put up with men and they crap, they’ll be out there cheating and doing them, while we’re home taking care of home, and they would deny it to the fullest, like who does that!!! come on, since when dating me, i’m definitely not about to tolerate any mess up at all. you better believe me!!

OK SO IF U JUMP OFF THE BRIDGE OR FALL OUT OF A 100 FLOOR WINDOW WILL IT DO U ANY GOOD. NOW U NEED TO WORK ON THAT SELF ESTEEM HONEY IF U CAN RAISE THAT U BE FINR I M SEEING U READY TO PUT UP WITH ANYTHING U THAT OF A DESPERADO. U A BLACK WOMAN BE PROUD OF URSELF AND RAISE THAT ESTEEM IF U GOT NO VALUE U DONT SEE IT IN U, NO MEN WILL COZ IT DOESNT WORK LIKE THAT, GOOD LUCK BUT DONT U TAKE NO S**T FROM NO NIGGA. IN RUSSIA WE SAY I HAVENT BEED MADE ON THE GARBAGE DUMP, I KNOW MY VALUE. GOOD LUCK SISTER KEEP IT MOSITIVE

with some commonsense crosses your

Why does it seem like EVERY reality show that has to do with finding love or someone with issues is a black woman? My goodness why do our people allow themselves to be so easily exploited for money?? These shows do NOT promote female bonding or relativity, they only serve to hit home the fact of ‘US’ having a gang of ISSUES in life! And that’s all good but when do muf**kas keep they bidness to themselves so they can STOP being seen as the worldwide spokesperson of ALL of US?!?!

Kandi
I Love NY
What chilli wants
The Pepa show (whatever its called)

FOOLISHNESS!

You are who you attract.

I guess Khandi and I have the same thing in common, because I too have little to no tolerance for a mans bullshyt, and I’m showing no signs of lightening up as I age! Other people would have us thirty something yr old ladies to believe that it’s such slim pickings for us that we need to just get with the first man that tries to hollar, but WRONG! If it does not feel right to you than it’s probably not good for you. Most women are blessed with something called intuition. Why should I tolerate a man being unfaithful if he’s supposed to be involved with me and only me? Why should I tolerate a man lying, and telling half truths, and all that other nonsense? I’d like companionship on a serious level but Iam not desperate for it,and while I’m ok with compromising on “some” things (and sharing my loving is not one of them)I am not going to lower my standards to a level where I find myself being disrespected by someone who’s supposed to be loving me and treating me right.

AND Khandi does NOT need to be taking any advice on love from Kim Zolciak, who is known for F^cking someone elses husband, for gifts and money & who that she spent the entire show referring to as “Big Papa”, because his azz didn’t want his identity to be known publicly. By the way isn’t he now back with his wife, after stringing stupid Kim along and giving her a ring? These married cheating mofo’s are a trip. LIARS!

There is something wrong with a black woman who has a trashy white friend like Kim…I’ve never seen the show, but from what I have heard in the wind…Of all the crakkkers I could choose to be friends with..she wouldn’t be one. The seemingly ‘illustrious’ kandi has ISSUES!

I respect Kandi and her talent. But I think she has very poor taste in men. Her late ex had about seven kids and was rumored to be a drug dealer. Is that the best you can do Kandi? I suggest you do some self analysis to figure out why you keep making bad choices.

I fell she DOES have issues..Finnacial s**t can change; the economy is so unpredictable that YOU or I CAN GO FROM 1 million to 1 dollar in a heartbeat….
also a guy could say the SAME things about the bulls**t meter, but get criticized MORE for their opinions..I refuse to do all for a lady and get NOTHING in return, I just refuse to..and for her to date guys who had OTHER ladies or is married shows she don’t know NOTHING about finding a quality man……
I think her opinions is just that-BULLS**T!

KHANDI……..if you continue to seek out other people’s advice, you will always doubt yourself. On the other hand, publicity articles are GREAT for the career (wink).

“CaliFemme23Jun. 25th, 2010
at 9:24 pm

Why does it seem like EVERY reality show that has to do with finding love or someone with issues is a black woman? My goodness why do our people allow themselves to be so easily exploited for money?? These shows do NOT promote female bonding or relativity, they only serve to hit home the fact of ‘US’ having a gang of ISSUES in life! And that’s all good but when do muf**kas keep they bidness to themselves so they can STOP being seen as the worldwide spokesperson of ALL of US?!?!

Kandi
I Love NY
What chilli wants
The Pepa show (whatever its called)

FOOLISHNESS!”

You forgot Omarosa…

I dont like this format for kandi. it seems phoney and lame. She needs to do something more classy to make money. Be behind the scenes or suntin

Selection of men is the problem for most women. No direspect intended but a guy with 7 kids by various baby mamas who runs a strip club isn’t exactly the best selection for a mate.

I’m with Kandi on this one, the older I get the less Bull Sh*t I can take, and that is why alot of young successful black women don’t want to or aren’t getting married. Yeah you can criticize Kandi for her past dating, but obviously there was something about that man that not only got him those babies from other women, but also allowed her to trust him…Think About it. The only real thing I ask is for a man to be open and honest and if you can’t do either then you got to go. Cause If I can’t trust you to be honest with me then there is no relationship. Anything else I can work with, well except serious baby mama drama, I can’t do it!

There is always going to be some level of BS in all relationships, just have to decide how much of it your going to take…nothings perfect just draw a list of the good and the bad stuff…if the bad out trumps the good, then kick his tail to the curb.

GET A NIGGA THAT WILL LOVE U. NOT BALLER OR A RAPPER MOT RAPPER GOT A SMALL DICK LIKE GOVERNOR THAT ROLLS WIT 50 CENT …. YES HE LIKES TO LIKE ASSS… SO ANYWAY B***H FIND A DUDE THAT U WANT FOR LIFE AND DONT U PUT UP WITH S**T

Cali girl Imma say it finally……..

@aleonalovesdaniel BYTCH U THE ONE THAT NEED TO STEP AWAY FROM THE KEYBOARD, STAY OFF THESE THREADS AND SHUT THE FUKKKKKK UP!!!!

*sigh* Im so dayum sick of ur lame azzz!

b***h get the fukkk outta here… weak broad needs an asss wooping do something wit ur messed up s**t har biiiiiitch get the f**k outta here with a dog face u and cali femm xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx russia just s**tted on ur monkey asss

*rolls eyes* Typical response from a wannabe-black-and-down-with-ghetto-peeps-no-intelligence FOREIGNER!!! Go watch some BET and sukkk it hard!

no bulls**t please!

You absolutely do not have to put up with BS. It’s completely unnecessary.

You attract who you are.. And you are who you are attracted to. Cosigns with NeverbeeninJail

HELL NO IN ORDER FOR A RELATIONSHIP 2 WORK IT TAKES 2 IN GD COMMUNICATION N TRUST SAVE THE LIES,GAMES , N DRAMA 4 YR MAMA.WE GETING 2 OLD FOR THAY S**T

There’s different levels of BS…you have small silly stuff, then the BS thats in the middle and then you have that BIG BIG BS that make you wanna do him/her dirty…so u have to decide what level of BS are you going to take? Nothings perfect and all relationships have some level of BS in them.

The woman asked for advice not judgement. Like someone with “commonsense” already said nothing is perfect and every relationship comes with its own bullshyt. There is obviously no need to deal with some who can respects you point blank. Yes liars, cheaters, and beaters should never be dealt with. But, what about the gray areas Ladies and gents? When in a relationship nothing is ever just black and white and if that’s the world you live in then you are delusional and need to see the world in the full spectrum of color for what it really is. Ms. Kandi I don’t know you but, All I can say is this…weigh the situation. If you bad outweighs the good then maybe it’s time to move on. If you can reflect back on your own relationship and can’t find any good reasons to be with who you are with then let it go and move forward. And for all you hard pressed females out there. I’m trully sorry that you have been hurt, done wrong, bullshytted, and played over, but all men aren’t dogs(meaning disrepectful, lying, cheating, womanizing-men) and even a “dog” reforms to become a better man. It just takes time and a little maturity. Respect is the key here. Respect for yourself, respect for the relationship, and respect for the one you love. If you can’t do that what are you in the relationship for?

I believe that u knw that if u let the little things go on for 2long they will turn n2 bigger BS. Its been said over&over…a person will do what YOU ALLOW them to do. NO TOLERANCE. we all knw what tolerating BS leads to. After that we will think about all the things we shouldn’t have tolerated and how we just let the little BS go, while we waiting&focusing on the BIG S__t. Later we label the little s__t as “signs” we ignore or let go. I spent a many nights after all the drama went down in my past relationship thinking abt all the “signs” that I say i “missed” when really I just let that Ish slide . Moral of The story: NO BS, NO TOLERANCE.

Hell to the NO! If you don’t stand for somethign you will fall for anything.If I just wanted ANY ole man or any Ole relationship I could hook up with any Ole guy! I want a decent man, not some lying ,cheating,no good mofo that can’t be happy with just me! I realize relationships are give and take and compromise is a must biut some things I won’t budge on , because I am not interested in playing the role of fool or being a doormat for no man!

KaiKai7, sho you right! Straight up. I find that BS makes me feel like my old self. The self that had to learn about BS to recognize it. The old self also would make them pay for thier extreme BS. Many bleached, ketchuped, torn up clothes. Broken windows, keyed cars, and cell phones in the toilet. I have no tolerance for BS at all. And I really, really have a problem with liars. I do much better with truth and honesty. Life is to short for it (BS). You grow old and you have to grow up and that goes for men and women. Who wants to get older and still be about or still be dealing with someone who plays games, or is deceptive? No I don’t want to be alone, but I am asking to much by seeking a man that is real?

Kandi, you can’t make a relationship. Enjoy life by figuring out who you are from day to day. Live for you. It takes years to figure out how much BS you have put up with. In your heart, you say no BS put don’t announce it to the world. It’s in your heart. You say no BS, a guy say “I can play the game where she won’t know”. And they do. Meet, enjoy life, put cold water on it, and stop focusing so much on a relationship. The key is getting to know who you are, instead of what another person is about and who they are. You learn all that in time. Don’t look for trouble, or set it up.

Like I said. I have yet to meet a woman with all her crap together who only attracts losers. Guess what the common denominator is..YOU.

MiSz_PiNk_DiamOnd
Jun. 25th, 2010
at 9:53 pm
You are who you attract.

peace,

it would depend on what Khandi would consider “BS”.

as far a her losing weight, i say..Khandi, please don’t start that hollywood crap about being thinner, you will definately look bad if you start trying to lose weight. you already look thin enough(yes, even on tv), and don’t need to add the problem of worrying about your weight to the other issues that you have.

you are human, so yes, will want a mate in life, but, think about what you are considering “BS” to be..is it really?

[...] Kandi Asks, “Should I Put Up With B.S. For A Relationship To Work?” [...]

[...] Kandi Asks, “Should I Put Up With B.S. For A Relationship To Work?” [...]

I didn’t look at the video to get an idea of this topic. But I was married for 22 years and the older I got I realized what I will and won’t put up with. So NO – I won’t put up with the bull to make a relationship because as long as you put up with it – he will continue. And once you decide to live with it he will think he can get away with anything because he knows that you will stay. So I agree with her on this one – don’t keep the bull going, find someone that is worthy of you and what you have to offer.

This goes out to ALL THE FEMALES in here who thinks they shouldn’t have to put up with BS to make a relationship work…And I’ll name names too

KASHI101
CONNIEMO
KAIKAI7
Crysta2Ls
Thed_msp
CourtneyR
jerseyfinest_973sc
CARREMEL25

and any other female that comes in here co-signing and/or validating KANDI’s unrealistic statements.

You females put yourselves on such a pedestle with this (NO DRAMA, NO BS or keep it moving) mentality that you forget that YOU YOURSELVES have “SOME” form of bullsh*t in your life. Wether it be BABY DADDYS (if you have kids out of wedlock or are divorced), OPINIONATED relatives (you know the family member that doesn’t like your new BF and no matter how hard you try to get them to like the new BF they continue to keep tension in the room when the BF is in the same room), you have a GIRLFRIEND that doesn’t like your NEW BF (and for whatever reason maybe she like him and is mad at you for having him, maybe she jus PLAIN DONT LIKE HIS @ss and is constantly voicing her opinion about him in his presence), YOUR VERY OWN OPINIONATED @SS….yes ladies YOU can be a living breathing walking talking form of BS to a man. Just because you think yourself to be BS FREE doesnt mean you are. PERCEPTION is something hard to escape. No matter how often you go to church, how HOLY and sanctified you think you are, how POSITIVE and NICE you think you are..no matter WHAT LADIES…you have SOME FORM of B.S. with you and you’ll meet the guy (if you’re not already with him) that feels as tho your B.S is too much for him. Oh and lemme guess, you’ll get on BP, FACEBOOK, MYSPACE….etc and complain about how MEN dont know a good woman if it HIT HIM in the face…NO, there is no such thing as a GOOD MAN/WOMAN….cause nobody is 100% good, everyone has some form of BS with them. And if you really and truely have a NO BS mentality then you may as well remain single for the rest of your life because BS is inevitable. WHO TEH F*CK do you females think you are that you can DENOUNCE BS but BRING your own form of BS? You may not think you have drama and BS with you…..but TRUST ME, wither every BEAUTIFUL WOMAN there’s a GUY SOME WHERE that’s SICK of her SH*T.

And I say this to all you beautiful females that I’ve named and those that are on there way here to comment…..you may be beautiful, but there is a guy SOMEWHERE if he’s not STILL WITH YOU TODAY that is SICK and TIRED of your SH*T. If he still with you maybe its because you have something he wants and can’t get anywhere else, if he NOT with you maybe its cause he SICK of your BULLSH*T….the same BULLSH*T that you have a “ZERO TOLERANCE” for he is sick of…

The moral to my speech is for you all to LOOK IN THE MIRROR BEFORE YOU POINT YOUR FINGER TO JUDGE and then ask yourselves “AM I PERFECT”….

PEACE!!

My thing is, don’t “demand” what you’re not willing to “give”…No one (woman or man) has to deal with anybody’s “drama” or “bs”…Last i heard, it was a choice & when you know your Worth you tend to make better choices anyway!!

Iamdiverse : Uhm excuse me but I said what I said and I meant what I said dammit! When a woman knows her worth why should she have to tolerate disrespect from a man? I know that society would have us ladies to believe that due to the slim men- women ratio we should be willing to man-share, be happy for whatever crumbs we can get, and all that other bullshyt but I am not going for the okey dokey! I’d rather be single and happy then attached and unhappy.I am not perfect, and never will be. I don’t seek perfection in a mate and there is nothing wrong with some compromise but again if you dont stand for something you will fall for anything, including allowing a man to walk all over your azz like a doormat. Is it too much to want a man that gives as much as he takes, shows respect wehn respect is given, is committed to me and only me as much as I am him?

[...] Kandi Asks, “Should I Put Up With B.S. For A Relationship To Work?” [...]

@kaikai7

yEAH YEAH…WE’LL all worth something…and NOBODY wants to put up with BULLSH*T..but BULLSH*T is inevitable….so dont sit here and say that you aint willing to put up with it when YOU YOURSELF (YES YOU KAIKAI7) have “SOME” form of bullsh*t with you. I may not know what that BULLSH*t consists of but I DO know for sure that you IN FACT have bullsh*t. HOW DO I KNOW KAIKAI because you jus said it yoruself that “AIN’T” nobody perfect.

OKay well allow me to put a “MIRROR” in front of you. You have just CONTRIDICTED YOURSELF (hence ONE FORM of bullsh*t that I’ve noticed ALREADY and I haven’t even seen you in person). How did you contridict yourself? SIMPLE….you just said and I “QUOTE YOU ON THIS”……….”NOBODY IS PERFECT”….which means you have some flaws. FLAWS KAIKAI can be perceived as BULLSH*T KAIKAI. IMPERFECTIONS that CLASH or CONFLICT with the personality and or TOLERANCE LEVEL of the man you are with or looking to be with. And so….you are EXCUSED….as you so eloquently put it..because as long as you have FLESH on your body you will always be IMPERFECT..hence…..SOME FORM OF BULLSH*T..not matter how BIG or small.

And from what I’m reading you ladies are not saying NO BIG BULLSH*T or NO SMALL BULLSH*T you ladies are saying “ABSOLUTELY” NO BULLSH*T. NOw if you meant NO BIG BULLSH*T then you would make perfect sense, but since you are PRESSING the issue of “ZERO TOLORANCE” for bullsh*t that means not even a small amount…well again I REPEAT….if you are IMPERFECT that means that there is a small amount of BULLSH*T within you…so I SAY..LOOK THE MIRROR before you point your finger to judge and ask yourself “AM I PERFECT”

@ IamDyeverse why are you messing with people…….they have there own opinions just as your black apple head opinionated ass does…..now goto bed EVERYONE…….IM TIRED OF YALL BULLS**T

AND YOU BETTER NOT SAY NOTHING SMART

I SMELL BULLS**T A MILE AWAY ALL YALL FULL OF S**T CUZ EVERYONE HAS TO PUT UP WITH SOMEONES BULLS**T BE IT WORK SCHOOL HOME OR FAMILY ARE SOME BAD ASS KIDS EVEN GOOD ONES…NA COSIGN DAT

I SMELL BULLS**T A MILE AWAY ALL YALL FULL OF S**T CUZ EVERYONE HAS TO PUT UP WITH SOMEONES BULLS**T BE IT WORK SCHOOL HOME OR FAMILY ARE SOME BAD ASS KIDS EVEN GOOD ONES…NA COSIGN DAT

@IamDyeverse AND U BETTER NOT SAY NOTHING BOUT MY 4HEAD NIGGA

Females have more options than men do. If a guy doesn’t want to put up with a girl, he might not meet another girl for a minute. Women can have men chasing them 4 at a time, so they can find their future mate if they so choose to not put up with BS. I don’t understand how some women just get caught up with the same dudes. I agree with Kim that you should have an open-mind, like dating outside your race or your regular type of guy. Most women ask themselves “why do men do this” but they don’t realize that they chose those same types of men to date.

[...] Kandi Asks: Why Should I Put Up With B.S? [...]

BS is just that…BS! If someone or something is not real, why settle for it? I’m with Kandi, time is too short and there shouldn’t be too much tolerance for foolishness. I expect realness and I give it.

Women need a little BS. BS, in small doses, keeps them on their toes and keeps them interested.

I think NO ONE should put up with B.S. in a relationship….If you let B.S. come into the relationship from the beginning, that’s what you’ll end up with at the end..
We should all learn what not to do from Kim Z….she was with a man who was full of s**t and ended up with it at the end

life is to short,to put-up with guys foolish. Either you’re in a relationship or not.