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Is Dating Older Or Younger Good For Me?

Written by jasonsmith on April 29, 2010 1:00 pm

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I posted a question on Facebook the other day: A 40 year old dating a 20 year old. How young would you go when it comes to dating or getting involved? What can a young man or woman do for you that someone your age can’t? There were so many comments coming in and some are still asking themselves, is dating older or younger good for me?

“I am 42 and I have only been attracting younger men lately. The youngest recently was 24. I told him that’s way too young for me (only 6 years older than my oldest son) but he keeps trying to tell me why it could work between us. Not buying it. He is nice and all and we have gone out as friends and he knows how to treat a woman but as far as being in a committed relationship with him I don’t see it ever working.”

~B.H.

Is Having A Dating Check List The Reason Why You’re Single?

I am seeing more and more older women that are dating younger men. For some women it’s the thrill, they say older men simply bore them, they like the excitement that younger men give them. Still, there are pro’s and con’s to everything and there are pro’s and con’s to dating a younger man or woman. Here are a few questions you should ask yourself before getting involved with a younger man or woman.

Questions You Should Ask Yourself

  • Are they mature enough to handle the relationship?
  • Is this relationship about sex or could it go further?
  • Will I have a problem bringing them around friends and family?

Listed above are just a few things you should ask yourself before getting involved. Once you’ve asked yourself, see what happens, and if it’s worth it, take a chance and don’t look back.

“30 is my limit since I’m a 44 year old man and not looking to have any more kids, or get married again. A 20 year old is gonna want to get pregnant and get married – not for me.”

~C.C.

Sometimes when dating a younger man or woman you have to look at the big picture. If you have kids but don’t want anymore, and you’re dating someone that’s younger who does want kids, there is a problem. Make sure the two of you are on the same page about your wants and needs. Sometimes we get involved to have fun but feelings get involved. One person is thinking one thing and the other person is thinking something else; it’s important that the two of you are on the same page. If you don’t want kids and he/she does, you might want to reconsider getting involved. On the flip side, if you want kids and they don’t, you need to look at that. Ultimately dating someone that’s older or younger is solely up to you, just make sure you know what you’re getting into before proceeding.

Your Thoughts

What are your thoughts on dating someone that’s older or younger than you? Would it be solely for the thrill? Could you possibly consider getting seriously involved?

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/MiSz_PiNk_DiamOnd/ MiSz_PiNk_DiamOnd

    Ive always have dated at least men 5 years older than me..The oldest was 10 years..My King is only 3 years older than me but is an old soul like me, whatever floats your boat…Love knows no boundaries

  • http://www.blackplanet.com/SunnyCocoa/ SunnyCocoa

    I’m 31 and my man is 42. I think at a certain point it all depends on the individuals. In your 20′s (man or woman) people are usually feeling how who they are and where they fit into the world. This is something to be considered if you date people in that range. I have found however that if you are seeking out a “casual” realationship, younger guys are less inhibited and are plenty of fun. I lucked out because my man has the brain of a 42 year old but the stamina of a 25 year old and is in good shape.

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/JoeC/ JoeC

    I’m 23 and my husband is 49, but we clicked just about from day one. Age is really nothing but a number and you can’t help the year you were born, nor can you help who you have a connection with. We’re happy, my kid and his kids are pretty ok with it now, and our family and friends are all on board as well. It took a couple of years to get some peace, and there’s always going to be some kind of snarky comment or issue, but for the most part, the looks and snide remarks amuse us. So many little people with their heads up their behinds, lol.

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  • http://www.blackplanet.com/Homynum/ Homynum

    Older or younger, lately too many games anyway. I’m almost 40, older like me, some younger like me, so they say. Most younger want marriage, kids, most older been there done that, and just want to be “wanted”. All want “more” and what some are offering still isnt enough. Like, “what you want now, a mall”? shyt.

    Then there’s times where I’ve clicked with a nice younger woman, and also an older woman, for a few years. Like someone just said, love knows no boundaries. If you’re happy, eff others opinions, just know they’re coming

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