And that is how mine’s was. And still Until this day… I don’t have no kind a connection with my father… When I first seen him is back when I was about. I don’t know twenty five. When I have asked for a Cellphone… And yes he paid the bills for me. But he never bothered to call me just to see how i was doing. I alway’s found myself calling him.. When that cellphone got distroyed. I got another one. Gave him the New number still the same thing. The situation with the was the same until have I got sick and tiered of the whole Situation….

I was done.. And I have told my mother of the matter. That I didn’t want to deal with him anymore. And she still Insist that I should Call him… What is up with me doing all the calling. This is the man that I don’t really consider to be my father because he was never there for me. I am a grown women now… And I do for myself. I don’t need his help I just thank GOD that he has been there for me. That is all that I need Is the Lord Jesus Christ and Not someone that don’t give a

Jack ass About me.. What hurting is me listening on to the conversations of this video and fantasia want to talk to her father not to argue.. Or get confrontational… And that is sad.. And like someone on here has said… You just have to let some folk’s go even though they are your family members… And I truly do understand this…. Fantasia did all that she could but then again it still hasnt helped nun Because the man said is not backing down to Know Body…. That Know body your Daughter Name fantasia… And She is your flesh N Blood…

Cherish_This_Diva

Awesome commentary that you wrote. You touched on SOOO many points that I don’t know where to begin, so right now, all I will write is that I agree with you.

I don’t know if you had the chance to check out my shirtless entry :o) into the blackplanet poetry contest but it has been selected as a finalist!

I hope you take the time out to check it out and vote for me as well as send me a note and friend request to let me know what you think about my piece. As I am one of the only entrants to write a piece for and about the subject and not use a poem I already had written.

Look forward to hearing from you!

Thanks again

BLESSMAY

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Are you fuking crazy? NO ONE deserves to be put through emotional abuse even IF its from your so called “parent.”

Learn to love yourself.

@LastManStanding……@Lovevon
Co-signing with the both of you.

You all may sound harsh to others but the fact is the truth hurts like a b*tch! That’s when people have to know that they need to face the truth or they would never be free of the negative cycles they got themselves into. Life is a learning experience and men/women supposes to learn from mistakes and not keep repeating them constantly.

I agree with Lastmanstanding. When will women look at the long term effects of sleezy panty dropping at any man’s will? I am so tired of baby mommas and baby daddy’s I don’t know what to do. People just breeding with no concept of family as a fcuking unit. Too many “I don’t need a man to have/raise my kids” type of women. Selfish, selfish, selfish. It’s not about you. It’s about the kid and their INDIVIDUAL/PERSONAL responses to their fathers. Its not about you and your failed relationship with some dude you thought you fell in love with cause he made you wet.

Women need to stop getting pregnant by men that are no good. If you got pregnant and THEN LATER YOU FOUND OUT HE WAS abusive/controlling/drug abuser/a liar/a cheater etc then you took your panties off too quick. POINT BLANK. A good man will never respect that. In the back of his minds if you did it for him you will do it for another (Most of that is true). Take time to get to know what men are bums and which ones are good. Especially b4 bringing a child into this world.

Too many good men are falling by the wayside because some of you women prefer thugs and ballers. Half of you stay in abusive relationships and miss out on the good man you could have had. Get your mind right ladies. Then you won’t have to worry 20 years later why your child doesn’t have a real loving relationship with their dad.