He likes hairy legs because it looks like he likes men.. dont know about this one..

thats because she cant get past that stomach to shave her legs…..

but yes i do tend to think she is beautiful…when she’s not yelling…..

um, the open marriage thing……idk about that one. to each his own as i always say….

What does the fact that she is a big girl have to do wit it? We as women need to stop tearing each other down.

Good luck with that! I don’t hang around women because all they do is tear each other down. They’ll never stop.

I knew with all that loud talking and boisterous demeanor there was a woman with low self esteem. Only the woman with low esteem or self worth would be cool with her HUSBAND having sex with someone else. When you ‘lock rings’ thats saying you dont want anyone else ever again, that you have married the person who satisfies you completely…And at the same time saying that you dont want your mate with anyone else. She’s leaving the door open for disease, drama, some other chick possibly catching feelings for her husband and possibly even a child outside the marriage….But this is Mo’Niques third time up at bat so I guess she had to change up the steez..good luck to her with this one!

riiiiiiiiiight…………

people come on HB acting like they are so holy lol. funny…….

Well believe it or not there are men who like hairy women…don’t understand why but whatever floats your boat. Now, on the subject of the open relationship…nothing good can come from that. I don’t understand why a woman or man would be okay with their spouse straying. Hell, if you want be with more than one person why even get married? That is so selfish/greedy.

It’s now OFFICIAL:

Sidney Hicks is under homo-suspicion. If he’s a hairy-leg-lovin’ freak like Mo’Nique says, I think he’s cheating on her with guys. Thick, hairy-legged guys.

I bet next she’ll tell us he likes butt action…

she’s said that before too LastManStandingTall (that he likes anal)….so i guess you gotta come up with a 3rd test lol….

nba player andrei kirilenko wife allows him to stray once a year. and she’s fine! it’s in the chemical make up of a man to need something different every now and then. and it has nothing to do w/his woman. all you ladies who’s parents that’ve been happily married for 20+ yrs…pops has had some tail on the side here and there.

He’s gay.

I do always wonder why she always gives him top props every time she hits the stage for an award. I wonder if she will do it on Oscar night? I know that people thank their spouses but she really over emphasizes the fact that she loves him. It really makes me wonder after reading this what kind of sense that makes if any. I hope this does not end bad for her but I don’t know. If she wins this Oscar there is a good chance she will be in demand.. and that can change the dynamics of the relationship immensely. Good lucK Mo’.

And for all of the nasty comments about her – you nggas are something else. Can’t you at least try to have some respect for a sista damn. Its one thing to have your opinion but a whole other thing to be so damn nasty about it. You Black people really get me fuked up when you do this.

we both stray in my relationship and we both still love eachother deeply
the only thing is that if our love transfer to another on more then just a physical
level I would break up with my other half, and I would hope he gives me the same curt
nothing about that is bad, you have to be careful with it though means you both must have
alot of comunication between you both and be willing to talk so that it never goes to a point
where one will be hurt as long as your not jealous and you can handle the possibilty of
loosing your other half then it will work but open relationships are not for the
insecure at all and not for everyone you have to search deep within yourself and see if your truely ok with all the factors that go into this and risk and chances. be careful is all I have to say about this subjuect.

Jack_Stephen1, You might have a good point there, its totally possible cuz my folks were married for 20+ when my pops passed away…BUT its one thing for one person to ‘stray’, and its something different when its ALLOWED/accepted.

ZombieBarbie, I mean no offense or disrespect, your post really grabbed my attention though….
With all the factors that are already prevalent for a good relationship to work, why even compound it with UNKNOWNS? Why take the chance of catching some disease? (I cant hardly believe that each and every single person that you two may stray with, that EVERYONE is taking trips to the clinic together for proof). Nevermind the fact that if it is JUST sexual pleasure we never truly know who we are dealing with so people can get ‘crazy’ on you. What if your mate got someone else pregnant? Im sure the ladies or lady he might do something with arent sterile/infertile. How do you account for or be SURE that these factors will never play a part? These things have nothing to do with love or trust or insecurity, these are things that can happen, so how can open communication be of any help if it ever does? And why take the risk JUST for sex?

WOW! You talk about TWO folk’s who are HAVING EACH OTHER PLUS OTHER CAKES & PIES! I guess to each it’s own, as long as the TWO parties involved has set boundaries, what lines to cross and what not to, I say BE HAPPY! IT’s better to lay S**t Out on the Table from the jump front, than winding up going on Jerry Springer and/or Maury! So hey? If it work’s GREAT!

meaning it works or doesnt work for her doesnt mean it will work or not work for you. this is what’s wrong with the black community…we think one size fits all or a slave mentality or a puppy mill

You know, I had heard this before, but never really read her take on what an “open marriage” is. Now I know, and although I like Mo’Nique not only for her acting talent, but because I have NEVER heard her low rate or down grade anyone, which in the business that she’s in says a lot about her character. Her response to any criticism is “I got nothing but love for ya”. Plus she always tries to encourage others. NEVERTHELESS, I don’t know about this one. It goes without saying that whatever works for her, works for her. My whole take on this “open marriage” thing is why get married in the first place, for all of the reasons mentioned below, diseases, someone falling in love with her husband, children, etc. Makes you wonder if indeed she does have self-esteem issues. Shaking my head on this one.

This is not new. What is new is talking openly about it. And, it does not mean that the “new generation” values marriage any less than previous generations. In the 1920’s per doc**ented reports, Chicago had 500 w***e houses, 500! These were frequented by men of all different races (blacks in separate houses) and social economic backgrounds. We are not going to talk about the slaves and miscegenation (Which meant no black man and white woman, however, plenty of married white men were laying (rape) with black women. During slavery and during the early post slavery years. People stop acting as if this is new. How many of you all have a grandfather or great grandfather who remained married until death and at some point you discovered that he had another family across town?

Well to each there own Im glad she has a open relationship with her husband. This is now the norm I mean married men are cheating anyway but at least they have addressed this issuse. However I think this is sad that woman have to marry and say do you cause whether i agree or not he going to do it. AIDS is not going anywhere people wake up.

“Monique says the secret to longevity in her marriage is to allow her husband, Sidney Hicks, to stray.”

Sistas BARELY get accolades and then articles such as this that subtly state, “get with the program or get lost.” What ever happened to love, honor and to checr
If one knows that they have not had their “run-out?” I

It’s simple. Do not marry.

what??? Wow. Well.. damn does she at least have a pre-nupt clause that says if he comes home with an STD that he gets no money, or something like that? I’m sorry, I wouldn’t allow that, if I were her. There are plenty more people who would be with her for the value she brings, why let this guy have his cake and eat it too? Goddamn you Monique. You feeling saddened, after your role in the Precious movie or something? You almost single-handedly made me some som anti-black male speech I picked up from being on this site too much!

Keep in mind, the concept of marriage was Musa’s law (Moses) and introduced as a way to establish ownership in an effort to maintain civil order and control. Nature, however, dictates the natural behaviours, tendencies and urges of humankind. Through indoctrination, societies condition humankind away from these innate desires. If it’s within a human to partner with just one mate, then he or she should do so. If it is not, then he or she should not. But, to fight against Nature is to live in futility. Nature always wins. ;)

I don’t see the point in her marriage! I wondered what type of man would marry a woman that has no sense of responsibility when it comes to her image. He wants her to keep those hairy legs so that she truly resembles a wilda beast. This is the ultimate cop out, Monique does not have the confidence it takes to require monogamy. She is the “FOOL”. Then the audacity to bring children into this! Big black woman, low self esteemed black woman, hit the gym, use a planner, and know what true intimacy and marriage is.

This sounds insane to me…Why get married?…What happened to the sanctity of marriage? People have forgotten the true meaning of marriage…It is a covenant that shouldn’t be broken…Not to say that one or the other won’t stray…Things happen..But to accept that your spouse cheats shows lack of self respect…Looks like she’s trying to keep him “Happy” but I honestly don’t believe she is…Just thinking about my man with another woman gives me the all overs…Do you honestly think she sleeps well at night knowing her man touches other women the same way he does her?…What happens when he’s out playing and she wants him home?…He doesn’t come home for another 2 hours…Then It’s Ok because she knows about it…Or when she gets the stares and glares from women that have slept with her man….Get the flip out of here…I just can’t imagine how someone could accept this…Not to mention the possibility of STD’s and someone elses baby…Oh well she’ll be paying for them…That is her “HUSBAND”…LOL

Another thing Monique start shaving those legs and hit the gym seriously. He wants you to be fat and hairy this is his way of creating damage control for himself. Because of this man the world is still babbling about your “Hairy Legs Gramm. No Good Grown as Man wants his woman hairy and fat.

One another note… I was once dated someone with whom I sensed a positive “evolutionary” connection. Being his primitive, instinctual, male self, he also sensed “pinnacle of oneness” possibilities with me and it was “understood” that he and I both desired to have the other in their life. This guy, however was NOT a one woman type of man. Well, one evening while sitting outside my apartment, he looked me square in the face and asked, “Which one do you want to be – The Mrs. or The Mistress?”

Be it with he or any other man, I’ve yet to decide. :D

That should read… “On another note… I once dated someone with whom I sensed a positive “evolutionary” connection.”

Talk about typos and poor grammar. :)

THE LOWEST OF THE LOWEST OF THEEEE LOWESTTTT….SELF ESTEEM. SAD, I’LL PRAY 4 U GIRL.

unless a woman is big and sexy w/self-esteem, she’s gonna end up w/ the dl dudes and/or bums. very few dudes who got their 5hit together will go after a mo’nique. why would he unless he has a fetish?!

i know of a few dudes who used to f only w/ big girls bc they’d take’em shopping, them and their friends to dinner in addition giving up the tail.

Dayum, is it THAT important to be able to say you are married that you will go this low?

It’s fine until he falls in love with or have kids by the other woman .
duuuum da dum dumB

Aww hell no Mo’. Wtf…I prided you on being a strong sista. But to allow your man to cheat?? That has changed the whole view of you. I’m heartbroken.

This is so bad. I thought mo’nique had more love for herself. I be damned if that would go on in my house. Especially if I am providing him my love, heart, and soul. If I give everything to a man who isn’t deserving, then what will I have to give to the man who is true? I am so sad that she hasn’t stood up for herself. This dissappoints me. This is why there is bitterness and craziness in relationships. When feelings are involved, people can get hurt physically and emotionally. Damn this is too much for me to process right now……

Wow… sooooooo.. what is the point of getting married.. ur supposed to get all your hoeing and one night stands out of the picture BEFORE u get married.. otherwise if ur not ready to commit .. then DONT GET MARRIED.. hmm… sounds like she is SO desperate to keep this man she’ll do whatever.. “he likes hairy legs so thats y i dont shave” lemme guess “he likes to go out and get p***y all over the world on MY dime and time so i let him do what he wants”.. wow.. maybe the desperate s**t works for her but i got more respect for myself. Do right or get left- obv if u out with chicks u not worried about me so it won’t hurt when i tell u to get ur s**t and leave.. smh..

I don’t know. I don’t think she saying that he can and she allows it. Maybe she saying that that can work through it or that she’s doing what ever she doing and he will not want to cheat. @ sexyphoenix and other people who think you need to get the ”hoeing” done before you get married, you not supposed to have sex before marriage anyway. Premarital sex should be just as bad as cheating/open marriage. You can’t just pick and choose. That’s not what I want for a marriage but what works for them works for them.

I am completely & utterly appauled at some of the comments that not only the men have posted on this subject, but the females as well. Granted, this is a forum in which, freedom of speech is welcomed, but why does it have to be at the cost of disrespecting someone? Women are the FIRST to put another woman down. I think it’s quite sad that in 2010, we have STILL not gotten to the point where we as women help build each other up. You can say what you feel, absolutely, but, why is there a need to say such derogatory statements? Is it a lack of something better to say? Just wondering. @sylkiiifeather, how does one’s stomach prevent them from shaving? I am not that hairy, but, if I needed to, I am sure that I could get to any part of my body! Im sure Monique can as well. @butterflycover29, I happen to know quite a few GOOD, GROWN men who LOVE fat women. Hairy, well, that is a matter of preference(not mines), but, how can you possibly generalize for every man? This is about Monique’s CHOICE to allow her husband to stray – while I completely disagree with the idea of an open marriage, who am I to judge her for how she CHOOSES to live HER life? Like many who have already stated before me, why get married if you dont feel like that person can truly satify your needs? That question is for both males & females. To me, it is absolutely pointless to make a COMMITMENT to another person if you know that you are not in a place spiritually, mentally, physically to make that COMMITMENT work. Absolutely, things happen. We are human, so we definitely get “tempted” to stray. That is where YOUR COMMITMENT to the person you vowed to honor “should” come in to play. People think that marriage is this cute little “thing” you do when you love someone. The constitution of marriage has become so deluded that it is not even respected anymore. A comment was made that it is within a man’s “makeup” to cheat… Eh hem…. I am seriously rolling on the floor with that one! Someone truly needs to break that one down for me! How is it that men were made with a automatic “pass/fail” gene? So, that means that only women are capable of being faithful, loyal & honest? Wow. I guess I learned something today.
BTW – you dont have to be FAT to have low self esteem/self worth. I know some rail thin chics who think they are the ugliest people in the world. Low self esteem “usually” comes, not from within, but from other people’s ideals, thoughts, judgements placed on that individual making them “think” they are the way they are. I have been a big girl most of my life. My family NEVER made me feel different or ugly. They always let me know how beautiful, talented & BLESSED I was. That has always stayed with me. It shows in how I carry myself & how I treat others….yall be blessed.

If I am not mistaken, Monique really hasn’t been married that long. I remember her talking about how their marriage came to be (they were best friends for 20 years or so and he used to pick out her outfits for her). My guess was that she married her gay best friend. And this dude is a nobody that he should get unfettered access to all the tail he can get. Who does he think he is? …Will Smith!?! :-)

I’m thinking along the same lines as SLAbron2001…he was looking gay to me before I even heard about the open marriage thing.

What the Heck is going on with black relationship?

Well, I am just as surprised as everyone else with this news, especially Ms. Mo. The very one who is always preaching about self-esteem issues. Although, I have learned at my age is that what works for one, may not work for you, or others. Lets not be so judgmental here. Because she allows her husband to stray, does not necessarily mean that she has a low self-esteem. If most of you ladies would be honest with yourself, your blind to things that are right in your face, and Always giving these men “Coochie Coupons”. Please, for the love of God, “Keep it real”

NOOOOOT Feelin this on so many levels!!! This is sad. This ends with either another woman with his secret children or another man. Sometimes you also need to keep some things to yourself. You tend to lose the respect of others. Better yet why don’t you just not have a relationship like that in the first place. He’s still a cheater even if it’s condoned.

I am very dissapointed Monique! I thought this was the real deal. I couldn’t let my man stray outside of the relationship. He’s all mine…… I am very surprised.

this statement is actually old and which she clarified what she meant by saying they have an “open marriage” I watched her on either Oprah or Tyra and she said it doesn’t mean they sleep with other people, she was speaking and terms of honesty, and having no secrets…

@butterflycover29 perhaps your being much to hateful and blunt.
Monique for all its worth is absolutely a wonderful person.
And I agree dont be married and have an open relationship
I have an open relationship but I am not married but if I where
I’m sure my view would change on this subject. I not ashamed to
say that I have an open relationship but again I am not married
my I am not insecure and basically allow this for my selfishness
but as I tryed to point out before
I am very caustious based on alot of fators on how I have gone
about this and many being my lack of caring either way
and my extreme monitoring of the situation.
me and my partner both have great communication its
honestly unreal we tell eachother everything and I never get
mad and I assume he never gets angry with me
and with my work (plasma tech.) I know at least
once a week that we are both clean for the fact that
as apart of work I have to give plasma as well as take it
and if I where not clean I would be bared from donating
anything so basically its a std test I get paid for every week.
with the caustion they have to take from the process and where the
plasma ends up we have to know that about everyone.
But as I once said that theres no reason at all to put yourself
in that situation if your not careful if your not aware of the risk if you
have no confidence within yourself,
and espeically I think most importantly if your not communicating
about this with your partner because under the cover of darkness
(in secret) theres a greater chance for you to be surprized with
many things, its not for everyone honestly you must be CAREFUL, theres
just so much that goes into this but I do suggest in even in a closed
relationship have good communication skills a man or women who can
communicate with there other half without fear is more likely
to inform the other person of when they do wrong which
increases your chance of not getting anything or being hurt or scared in
the long run

you all act as if they’re the only ones that have said they have a open relationship Will & Jada say they have an open marriage. But to me a open marriage is being unfaithful and like what a couple of people said one here one or two things are bound to happen you either start having feelings for that person or a love child will come about. but if they like it more power to them

She’s comming from a place of low self-esteem, and it’s not appealing. I pray her “happy” open marriage does not bring her home Aids.

Well I can only hope she’s as ‘open’ if she gets an STD

Open Marriage………HELL NO!!!!

yea dats not exactly cool cuz i mean anybody can pretend theyre happy dat way… i think its stupid.. i mean but whatever works for them

Mo’Nique’s Secret To A Happy Marriage? An Open One
By Deborah Bennett, Senior Editor March 3, 2010 9:17 am

monique-hubbyMonique says the secret to longevity in her marriage is to allow her husband, Sidney Hicks, to stray.

DEBRA BENNETT YOU ARE A LYING A$$ SIMPLE MINDED BYTCH BECAUSE MO’NIQUE WILL KILL YOU OR ANY OTHER IGNORANT A$$ LYING WH@RE LIKE YOU IF YALL WERE TO TRY AND F*CK AROUND WITH HER MOTHER F*CKING HUSBAND.

YOU IGNORANT FOOLISH WH@RES ARE SUCH LYING A$$ TROUBLE MAKERS.SOMEBODY NEED TO MAYBE STICK A DYCK IN DEBRA BENNETT MOTHER F*CKING MOUTH JUST TO SHUT HER LYING A$$ UP.

WRITE OR TELL A LIE ABOUT ME I’LL THROW A SHOT BACK AT EM’ POP POP

HELLO BEAUTIFUL BE POSTING LIES IN HERE WITH HER IGNORANT STUPID WHITE TROUBLE MAKING PROBLEM CAUSING FILTHY A$$.

YOU SIMPLE MINDED FLEA BITTEN TICK AND LICE CARRYING TRIFLING WHITE BYTCH.

YOU STUPID A$$ WHITE PEOPLE ARE DEFINITELY GOING DOWN WITH THOSE MANY LIES THAT YALL HAVE BEEN GOING AROUND TELLING ON OTHER PEOPLE.

YOU BUNCH OF FOOLISH A$$ IGNORANT BYTCHES.

I HOPE THAT MO’NIQUE SUE YOUR IGNORANT LYING A$$ OUT OF EVERY MOTHER F*CKING THING THAT YOU OWN STUPID WHITE BYTCH FOR TRYING TO SLANDER HER GOT DAMN NAME TO THE PUBLIC.

C.I.A.
CENTRAL INTELLIGENCE AGENCY

Sovereignty,
Michelle Dixon

1ST POINT: WHY? WHEN A CUTE ‘ BIG GYRL’ GETS MARRIED SHE HAS TO BE IN A ‘OPEN MARRIAGE’ . . . THATS SAYING YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME SO IMA DO MY THING EVERY NOW & AGAIN. “TELL ME , YOU DON’T SEE SKINNY GYRLS GETTING MARRIED & TALKN’ THAT FOOLISHNESS!!! YOU DON’T SEE ‘DENZEL’ & PAULETTA’ SHARING THE GOODIES !!! WHY B/C SHE HAS CONFIDENCE IN HERSELF AND KNOWS HER ‘WOMANS WORTH’!!!! MONIQUE YOU HAVE LOST SOO MANY COOL POINTS WITH ME!!!! ‘GET IT TOGETHER MAMA’!!!!! !!!!! !!!!

NOW @ The_Rude_Awakening1 AND THE OTHER CHICK!! READ A BOOK! MAMI. . .
‘ WHEN MONIQUE GOT MARRIED’ ; SHE ‘STATED’ IN AN INTERVIEW SHE AND HER HUSBAND WAS IN AN ‘OPEN MARRIAGE’!!!!!! IT’S TRUTH NOT LIES; BOO BOO !!!!

-BUTTABABY MOMENT ; HOLLA!@! :)

ummm… @The_Rude_Awakening1 i actually saw Mo’nique say she’s in an open marriage on TV years back, this person isn’t lying, they’re just late as hell, i mean, have you ever met Mo’nique to hear what she actually has to say about it?? Her husband may or may not have been with other women during their marriage, but she did say on television, that she him “stepping out” on her would be a deal breaker. i understand ur point, these BP “News Flashes” are often bulls**t, but this is just late as f**k.

and i agree with @ButtaBaby02 if i was married to ANYONE it would not be Open Nothing… relationship, MAYBE but marriage, if u some how got me to propose or accept a proposal, b***h u better not be cheatin, and i would never cheat on a spouse. I LOVE ME A BIG GIRL, these small slores usually aint got s**t for me, plus, skinny on skinny hurts

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What’s the point of being married if the spouses gonna cheat on each other? This country morals are going down the drain each and everyday. Nothing is sacred no more.

yeah i aggree with sensational. i think she has self esteem promblems with herself. this BIG WOMAN confidence act is just a front to the public. thats if this story is even true

but man im sorry to say, her hubby looks like a big flirt lol

but u know what, this is a good good question though. all the married actors and actresses making love scenes in movies, does that constitute unfaithfulness, or is it just part of the job? would love your opinion on this.

too_much7467, Ummm, Judging by her statement made to B. Walters, she was talking about MORE than just honesty and all that… She said if he did ‘step out’ would it be grounds for speration..the answer was ‘no’….She asked would Mo’ be ok with that, she said ‘yes’…

Sorry to all of you Mo’Nique lovers that had her picture pinned on the cubicle wall as the big woman empowerer…She has LOW self esteem just as the typical sterotype of the ‘big woman’ goes. She didnt help to strengthen the black women with this mess, she actually took a few HUGE steps backwards because this is loaded with insecurity. The person that lets their mate step out for whatever reason doesnt have much respect for themselves and doesnt think they can get a loyal spouse. I mean really, STD testing, communication blah blah freakin blah, Why in hell would I want my mate to return home after they have been deep sea diving on some other chick an hour ago breathing the residue in my face and I would THINK that my man wouldnt want me kissing him goodnight after I just swallowed some other dudes kids….Black people please! This is some more of that Euro crap that society wants US to feed into…Lets not forget where WE came from and it wasnt this fukk er’body openly type bidness….

shawnt1974
3-3-2010 11:54 pm, This post from you was real talk. Whatever ‘big woman love yourself dont take no ish’ BS she was spittin before just went down the damn drain….

Well in that case I wonder how she would feel if her friends and some of her fans decided to f**k him lol.

wow, i hope in the future people dont get the opinion that open marriages are ok. if either of them didnt plan to be the only ones in THEIR relationship, then they should have never got married in the first place….also… being in a faithful in a marriage keeps both people healthy with no risk of contracting STD’s from outsiders ( if ya know what i mean).so Why in the heck woudl she be ok with him messin with another female that could give her something and pass it back to her…… she need to find some self esteem somewhere and be the strong black woman that she portrays to be. an enforce her vows her and her husband gave before god

this broad is known for marrying dudes out of jail, and pull nothing but dudes from jail. Shes the definition of a desperate fat broad. They normally take what they can get, whether its good or bad. I’m surprise shes in a supposedly long marriage, since her marriage normally last as long as a high school teenagers relationship.

@nanapeppa, We are not animals we can control our urges. If we were animals women would be in heat every spring, and we men would be powerless to resist once we got the scent. We overcame nature long ago.

F*uc that…
F*UCK ALLLL OF THAT!

Well said Neaj! Couldn’t agree more!

Ok People CALM Down, Thats a Grown Ass Woman and a Grown Ass Man! What works for them may not work for you! My thing is if ANYONE is looking to famous people for their relationship advice, then they are the ones with the problem. This was just Moniques way of saying that her and her Hubby are swingers they aren’t the only couple in Hollywood that are. Her life and marriage are hers and I bet you ANY amout of money that if and when he did step out she was right there with him. Just because she has an open marriage doesn’t mean she has self esteem issues. Again if she is Happy why does anyone else in here care how HER AND HUBBY do their thang?

Not the way to stay married….I would be afraid of LOVE CHILDS, SYDs jealous ex mates, HIVs, SMH….

THANK S ALOT MO NIQUE GIVE MEN ANOTHER REASON 2 THINK THAT ALL BIG WOMEN HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM!!

I absolutely luv her…one of the few real sisters that i could actually stand…

i used to think monique was a very intelligent woman…but this article and that horror of a movie ‘precious’ it just confirms that she mentally challenged as well…i mean what the hell? she allows him to stray? what is wrong with these artists???? every week it’s some bulls**t!!!! does she realize how many young women look up to her? not withstanding the fact that he could give her something that would ‘kill’ her ass…but why let someone beat down your self esteem and dignity like that? i guess she didn’t take her character in at all huh? i just don’t understand women like that….who will take s**t off of a man…just to prove that ‘yes i am married’? and then has the audacity to call her marriage successful? is she serious? i wouldn’t call that a marriage…that’s a disaster!

Of course he’ll stay with you if you give him cake and ice cream and don’t care! Then again he may still leave you for being so careless. I don’t call that making a marriage work, that’s just careless and hard up to keep a man/woman. If they want to go OUTSIDE of the marriage, duh take a hint and love yourself instead of ignoring the fact they don’t love nor respect you!

When I took my vows I remember it saying something about forsake all others but that was 4 years ago maybe the vows changed or they vary state to state.

More power to her… That is something I will not do… What makes a person think in order to have a good marraige, it has to and open marraige… I plan to spend the rest of my life with this man, not this man and his other woman….SMH

Then what is the POINT of being married? Now if I say that their morals are lacking I’ll be accused of “judging” someone. That’s the modern term for justifying bad behavior.What were their vows? Mine were to “FORSAKE ALL OTHERS”. And they were before God (guess He doesn’t exist either) I mean damn,lol! What was the point?

Damn monique just when i thought u coudent get any worse, u yet again prove me wrong!!!!!

Oh this also goes to my point, i was dating this one girl not too long ago and we were talking about monique and she said that monique was happily married and i said yeah but he proable cheats on her! I didnt know how right i was!!!!

that nigga says he likes hairy legs to keep other men running away from her. she doesn’t know how men think
poor big fat girl w/ the low self esteem, taking anything to keep a man. sad.
maybe she’ll start feeling better about herself as she continues to drop those pounds
funny to find out after years of all that loud mouth trumpeting of her showcasing her “pride” was all phony. poor monique

MrbaldheadC..I conqure……

so what” she got hers” u need to get yours she is very niec person she been thru s**t i understand what she saying if Mo” husband want to be sleeping outside there marriage let him u cant stop no one from doing what they want to do when that day come and sit and talk to her husband and ask him what did u do and ur marriage what did u do he cant say anything .so with u kashi101 u say “POOR BIG FAT GIRL WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM” U R VERY SAD PERSON U DIDNT PUT UR PIC UP SO WE CAN SEE U ”””””’UGLY”””’ thats what i see ur heart its very UGLY u said what u feel about ur self anybody talk mad abouy some one have a heart of pain low self esteem and u dont walk with god AND U HAVE A BLESS DAY

Cant stop no men or women from doing what they want to do u have to live if u see them and the act thats when u do something but i dont think MO is seening her husband do anything he is not doing it in her face

She’s always telling big girls to stand up..be strong, hold your head up, be confident, dont let men do this and that and blah blah blah blah then she goes and does this and LOSES WEIGHT lol. Just when I thought I couldnt dislike her anymore….here she goes. A MARRIAGE is between one man, and one women and all others should be forsaken. Thats it!
Why get married if you are going have an open marriage? Leave it up mankind to twist s**t around to fit their lifestyle and to trick themselves into thinking its right. It all falls back on one thing…..she has been frontin for years. She has very low self esteem……only a women with low self esteem and internal problems would have an “open” marriage. This is the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard of. BIG GIRLS….it aint lookin good for yall. She has money and STILL, the only way she could get a dude to marry her is to let him sleep with other women……lol…wow…what a crock of s**t.

I totally agree with Calm_Cool_Collect, with the paycheck she has, you would think she could find happiness, but it still alludes her, so much for the hollywood lifestyle. Whats next, the lesbian thing?

ppl think on such an insular level that its sickening to even read the comments. All i hear is responses based on a box perception….rather that be the all mighty religous box(regardless of the plethora of evidence in the bible of open sex) or the “im a diva/stubborn lonley and bitter box” or the chauvinist box(both sides). Where are my educated ppl at? or anyone that has been anywhere else in the world for that matter. This s**t is so old and so played, nobles and the wealthy from all time frames have engaged in these kind of activites since the dawn of time and have had happy marriages. Why? cause they had no box and therefore their perception of sex was alot different, from the courtesans who help shape and mold the very fabric of philosophy and polotics, to the kings, queens, and dukes, who used sex to quail the tensions between kingdoms or out sheer indulgence. But promiscuity was considered the norm. the only argument that can be made for todays time is that it is obviously very dangerous these days to live like that(a fear of disease wasnt a factor in those days) but monique is just the first to really put it out there but all of the so called wealthy and powerefull ppl do this, its just more monitored for obvious reasons. With that being said, thats not what monique is saying, monique understands a humans nature especialy with men and about 65% of women also, and that is the ablity and desire to have sex without emotional attachment. How u gonna stop human nature? you cant. secret women cheat jus as muc as men do, their just slicker because of the double standard!

That’s insane!

MONIQUE IS GROSS!!! NOT AS GROSS AS THAT MEATBALL WITH FEET (THE GIRL WHO PLAYED PRECIOUS) BUT DAMN, I WOULD NOT FU*K THAT NASTY HEFFER ANY DAY!!! BOTH OF THOSE CHICKS LOOK LIKE CHEWBACCA’S CHILDREN!!!

This is a bunch of bulls**t. First, she claims they’re in an “emotionally open” relationship while she was interviewed by Oprah…then her man cheats…now, she’s claiming they’re in a “sexually open” relationship?? Sounds like Mo’niques doesn’t even know what kind of relationship she’s in. She’s beginning to sound desperate to keep her man, and is making up excuses for his behavior. Obviously, neither one of them value the true meaning of MARRIAGE.

But whatever. That’s their agreement, who am I to judge them.

i’m loving mo even more. now for the stupid guy who wants to down her and the precious star based on looks i can only imagine what he’s f**king if he’s even getting any.to love someone so much to know that sex outside the marriage is not a deal breaker sometimes a deal saver.it’s when emotions become involved that’s when the problem start. but. when you and your partner are secure when you and your partner respect each other thats a whole another level that few people get to enjoy. and for the one who said mo has all that money and still can’t find happiness apparently has never really looked at mo.she seems pretty damn happy to me.i wanna be like her when i grow up confident secure loving and with a marriage thats as honest and open and by the smile getting it good haters find your own happiness or shut up

lol..

that’s not a marriage…and it’s an insult to folks who are truly married…

IMO…monique settled, and to keep from crying about that shyt…she’s coming across like it’s alright…

to each their own…but it’s not my cup of tea…

@cubsfan1973 you are a real class act. I always wonder why some people feel the need to tear someone else down. Is that what a “real” man does? Jump on the bandwagon. Yeah,I could see you in a crowd picking on the “mentally challenged”. Little do they know you’re one of ‘em. Monique is doing her. And Gaboureys star is just rising. She can diet and excercise,that will take care of her weight. But no matter what you do you can never “buy” class. Peace…

@calm_cool_collect, I totally disagree with your beginning and ending statement about it not looking too good for big girls. I aim a Big boned Woman myself and I refuse to settle for any man to treat me any kind of a way. I think for you to put all big women or even men in the same category, is not an intelligent statement to make.

I don’t know about all of that straying away for a second outside of the marriage stuff but what is this advertising to deal with things like this and thats the only way to make a marriage work. It clearly shows that advertising this was link to just that. What is this world coming to when celebrities thinks its okay to advertise negativity and not think that there are not people dumb enough to follow through with this kind of negativity. Is this suppose to uplift my daughter to have a better marriage. I as well as my daughter are Queens and we are treated as such every day. Its a problem when a man has to step outside of the marriage because that should tell you that your husband is clearly there for probably the children or to maintain his straight image but continue his down low. You heard her say he loves hairy legs. So women marry a man that treats you as you do him because if he doesn’t you should question if he is in love with you. there is a lot of this going on the “hollywood” circle. Don’t set yourself up for failure.

Well dam…can i geta piece of him 2 Mo?…..Jus 2 let ya kno he mite not come back 2u. Lol but yea u a nasty 1, Yall mite as well jus b dating n livin together cuz wat u letn him do aint marriage! Big gurl or not, us women need 2 get back our respect n folks lik this aint doin it 4 us…. dammm am i da only good woman left wit a brain?

N ya hair azz legs… i can c a stubble but deezzzaammmm i seen those thangs on ‘phat girls’, notta good look at all!

If your husband is going to stray what is the point in being married? You could have just stayed “best friends”. Women don’t lower your standards and think that a man has to sow his wild oats and can’t be faithful and that we have to accept that. It’s just b.s.!

@mizz214-You should hang around better women then

Yeah he’s probably gay…

Open marriages can work and does work. For those who believe in the bible after much prayer I think(not a biblical scholar) Abraham wife let him mate with the housemaid. There was also mention of a threesome in the old testament.

Back to modern day, no human is perfect or ideal. I think a man can “love” one woman and vice versa but they can fulfil their sexual desires within and outside of their marriage in a discreet and safe way without loosing their “love” for eachother. A tight/good/awesome punani or a big/long/thick wang is not a reason to “love” someone… too many time both genders get “obsessed” and/or emotionally attached to a member of the opposite gender becus of a body part. Personally I don’t think having the “best orgasm” u ever had is a reason to “fall in love” with some1… I am sure as humans if we look deep within ourselves we want to be “loved” for who we are… not $$, breastsize, wang size, punani tightness or whether or not we give the other person the best orgasms ever… PPl reading this will argue that women become more emotionally attached due to “good sex” than men so it would be tougher for her to fulfil her sexual desires outside of her marriage… however if she trully “loves” her hubby and look at her marriage as the big picture good outside wang shoud NOT make her run from her marriage.

With that said, once two ppl truly “love” eachother sexual desires outside of their marriage cannot break their bond of love.

Monique is a smart woman…when having a lifelong mate its only natural to have outside urges after you been hittin the same p***s or coochi for 10-20 years you kinda wanna eat at a different restaurant…doesnt mean you dont want to stick with your significant other..just a taste of something different every now and then…

Now I’m a fan of Monique BUT big no-no to the “open” marriage thing! its so against the word of God OMG! I know about all about Sarah allowing Abram to sleep with the Hagar but that was against Gods plans for there lives and b/c of that they had a drama bible mess!! Ishamel was born but out of the will of God.(read your bible people) the whole book!! especially chapter 12-20
Open marriage is not the answer! why get married??? thats crazy!!!

OKAY THIS IS CRAZY I LOVE MO’NIQUE BUT OPEN MARRIAGES MEANS OPEN DISEASES. AND THEY HAVE CHILDREN TOGETHER SO THEY ARE NOT SETTING AND EXAMPLE FOR THEM! SOMETIMES THE REALITY OF STARS GO TO THEIR HEADS!

The tell-tale sign?

“Allowing” the male to stray. This shows that she does not value herself as an individual or woman.

Him? “I can do this–until someone “better” comes along!”

Both fooling each other.

Certainly everyone is entitled to live God’s gift of life as they so desire, including the very talented Monique. The concept of an open marriage is a very difficult one, and those who indulge in it should weight carefully the concept of marriage between a committed man and woman. The book of Genesis did not man and several women shall leave their parents and become one flesh – it’s said a MAN and a WOMAN. But for those who don’t live according to the Bible, live your life as you so desire, but know that it is a very difficult thing to have an open marriage. I recall cases where people have opened up their marriage, thinking it exciting at first, then when one spouse witnesses the twinkle in the eye that the other spouse has with an extra marital partner, unexpected feelings of jealousy and resentment come out. some people swear by this lifestyle, but i don’t buy it – i think those who promote it are the ones who either initiated the idea with their spouse or benefited more from it than the other spouse who introduced it into the marriage. But c’est la vie.

A few people on this post made some very intelligent arguments in support of open marriages. One person mentioned how courtesans were used and shaped philosphy, politics, etc. Another person mentioned how Abraham’s wife let him have the housemaid. That may be true…but there is still something that doesn’t quite sit well with me–especially with M’onique and her husband. I just think that she suffers from low self-esteem and this guy is just giving off the “gay vibe” to me…she can piss on my leg and tell me it’s raining all day long, but I’m not buying it. But hey–it’s her life. I just wouldn’t use her as a model of happy marriage. That’s like going to Rosie O’Donnell for advise on beauty.

What I read is that it wasn’t a deal breaker. Black women tend to tear each other down way too much. If you haven’t been married for atleast 5-10 years. You can’t say that this is so strange. At 330lbs or 130lbs, hairy or smooth, are the women who say it won’t work pushing 15 years of marriage? I think not. Men don’t always get with single women, they want too much. Everything to be exact! Will you stay faithful when you hubby gets fat, goes to jail, falls ill???? Hell No. I think Mo is smart and she has atleast for now a husband. I wish them the best.

just lost all respect for her.

I LOVE MONIQUE BUT I WOULD RATHER LIVE ACCORDING TO THE BIBLE AND BE COMMITED TO THE MAN I MARRIED WHY WOULD SOMEBODY WANT AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP WHEN YOU GOT MARRY TO THE PERSON YOU “LOVE” WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE ELSE IF YOU LOVE THIS PERSON YOU MARRY BUT THEN AGAIN EVERYBODY SAYS TIMES HAVE CHANGE AND THEY HAVE BUT I STILL AND ALWAYS WITH LIVE BY THE BIBLE

Open ??? I will NEVER share my wife with another man…never

I can share other women tho….lol

Some of you people are pitifull! She dont have to live her marriage as how you see it should be lived. This what works for her. Dont get mad if it dont work for you. If gays can be gays why married couples cant have open relationships. Monique Self esteem is far from being low. We all know how quick she will leave a man. She has her own money so no man dont help her out financially. She is a very beautiful big girl who dont have a problem getting a man to date her. Remember the football player she dated! You women know there is a 75% chance that your man will step out atleast once during a marriage. So why not have open marriage. You dont have to do it but he or she may wont to. 9 out of 10 men want his cake and eat it. Its no woman that can step in and make me want to leave my wife. My wife dont question me about what i do and im not going to let it be obvious to her what i do. When I leave go have my fun. Its nothing better then coming home to my beautiful Caribbean queen. I have had good P***y on the side but what me and my wife has is love and I will never give that up. JUST STAY PROTECTED!

“In that day so few men will be left that seven women will fight for each man, saying, “Let us all marry you! We will provide our own food and clothing. Only let us take your name so we won’t be mocked as old maids.” Isaiah 4:1

signs of the times

For those guys who seem to be ok if they have a side jump off, is it equally ok if your wife has one? if not, then you don’t have an open marriage – its called adultery.

Monique obviously despite the fame and money has low self esteem to allow this.Is he straying with men or women though? I wouldn’t put up with that at all.

I CANNOT FREAKING BELIEVE IT!!!!!!!!! SMH MO WHAT ARE YOU DOING SISTA??

No such thing adultery anymore. Its Infidelity!

Marrage just does NOT mean s**t anymore. Just paper.

Men has sex with the p***ses, not there hearts, unlike women. different wiring, accept it

Marriage is benefits. Someone to cook, clean, help split bills, bare children, and guaranteed sex. lol

Where do I start? If shaving is uncomfortable and painful then ur doing it wrong, DUH….. that’s no excuse and if he like hairy legs then I wouldn’t worry about him sleeping with other women either it would be me worrying about him and other men.. Y even get married? she’s ri-damn-duculous and I tried to be supportive but she done bumped her damn head…

monique i must say is a wise and beautiful person. i saw a show about her where she was speaking about how she kept positive about her life and career and made it . i think it was called divas something. cant recall the title.any ways she is a strong lady and shes a inspiration to alot of us.. i love a strong woman regardless of her color.. yet i love me some monique..smiles……

Kudos to Monique. If they like it , I love it…This is just not for me. I don’t think it has anything to do with her self esteem. This works for some married couples. Do I think it’s right? NO, do I care Not even…She said he is her friend of many years, so she trust him. Good luck to her on the marriage and winning the Oscar Sunday…Marriage is defined many ways nowadays, not like the old days…For me, not sharing my husband with nobody…

I agree with (wouncie4life) n to me she sounds a little desprate ……i mean from reading this she seams like the type of woman thats glad she has a man no matter what he does smfingh

@ j_sp8ts…. I find it hard to read your ‘she dont ask, I dont tell’ approach to your marriage without feeling some arrogance in it. That whole, ‘what she doesnt know wont hurt her’ theory doesnt work for me. I dont disagree with Monique’s choice for her marriage because at least she is real bout it and like many have said, it works for her. The point being… THEY ARE HONEST ABOUT IT. What you said reeks of deception in your union, despite how you stated there is no woman who can step in and make you want to leave your wife. Is that supposed to make your wife feel great if she finds out you creeping??? Makes one wonder if your wife does you just the same way without your knowing. People give as good or bad as they get in this world. Cheesy as it sounds.. it is profoundly true that what goes around comes right back around.

Monique’ is a very enlightened woman and if she and other enlightened women stand up and create a new standard to begin with- since the old standard just aint working anymore- black men and women would be better off and further down the road to progressing together instead of worrying about who is doing what with whomever!
i am in a open relationship- which is finally coming to an end because we finally realized we are growing apart- and it was the LONGEST and the most fun relationship i have ever had in my entire life- nothing is wrong with it!
its not for everybody and it takes quite a bit of self esteem and letting go to endure to be able to get to the fun stuff!
Will Smith and Jada Pinkett are also in that kind as well and i think it is time to let go of the old ways and try to learn the new ones if we are going to be around in the next hundred years!
men already know that most of us are constantly tempted by women -REGARDLESS OF OUR VOWS!!! women still look but dont touch- WE ARE ALL HYPOCRITES!!!
you dont need to get married to have sex and most married people dont have the kind of sex they truly want anymore anyways!!!
TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE!!!
enjoy life because its short!

Good for Monique, but if my man strayed, it’s game over. I can find another one.=)

jojo864, you said it…

shyscorpio1, being able to have an open relationship has NOTHING to do with self esteem. So you’re saying go ahead and let people stray because they are probably going to cheat anyway? GTFOH! I have VERY high self esteem, it shows in everything I do, but what I dont have is a lack luster approach at relationships and thats what an ‘open’ one is. An open one is basically saying…”I can NEVER be satisfied with just you”..How self respecting is that? To know that your mate holds sex higher than they hold you. That no matter what you do they are always going to have sex with others. Because my esteem is so high, that to me is lowkey saying Im not good enough. Why would ANY woman/person period SETTLE for a mate that isnt willing to give YOU their all? That means that your together-ness is based on sex since you cant get over the fact that you will have to be with ONE person. “Honey I love you but I GOTZ to fukk other people, no offense though”…SMMFH@ that mindset….

If this is the ‘new standard’ to keeping a man then damnit I just dont want one!

So is this a business deal?

If it works for them then it works for them who are we to put our standards on someone else when we don’t know them or their marriage so Mo do your thing.

Is this story really true??? Her husband having sex outside the marriage is not a deal beaker. I guess when he brings her something that can’t be cured back home I guess that will be okay to. Why get married if that is the case just remain single and date and have sex with who ever u want.

I agree with you CaliFemme23, you can call it old fashioned if you want to. I don’t see anything old fashioned about having a love that is all yours. If you can’t love me enough to keep it in your pants around other women, then you don’t deserve my love. That is just ridiculous. I guess to each their own. I will not be in a relationship choosing to be 100% faithful to a man and being ok with him not being faithful to me.

The real question is whether Monique deep down in side is happy with this open marriage arrangement or is she doing it to appease a husband with a roaming eye? I don’t even think that she made her husband sign a pre-nup before she married him, which could be why his straying isn’t a deal breaker! She hasn’t had sex with anyone but her husband since she married him but he has? Seems to me that she’s happy with him alone, but he maybe feels the need to go elsewhere! To each his/her own but I just don’t see the logic in getting married to someone if your not ready to be committed to “only them”.Marriage is NOT easy but this whole open marriage thing to me is just a way of doing whatever the hell you want without honoring the marital vows! Women need to set boundaries early in the relationship or dating about what they will and won’t tolerate, and stop being gullible and marrying these men just to say you have someone! You could have just had a relationship with the man or openly dated instead of getting married ,because when it’s time for you to walk away and you really get tired of this arrangement and request a divorce you are going to be handing over half of everythign you own to that person.

From watching her show it seems like her husband might be gay. Maybe she does not think it is cheating if he is screwing a man. He loves hairy legs I don’t know any guys that are not gay that like having sex with hairy legs. Look at his pictures closely! He is gay!

HAIRY LEGS HUH====ok WELL IF YOU ALL WILL EXCUSE ME IM GONNA GO THROW UP IN MY MOUTH A LITTLE BIT

She is trippin! One of the main reasons why i would get married besides love is the sex cause he’s all mines and i dont have to worry no std’s cause there is to much s**t going around. So if this is true she is not the woman i thought she was cause i just know Mo’Nique wouldnt let her husband sleep with other woman. She must not feel to good about herself to say some s**t like this and mean it and if he does it he dont love her at all and it’s all about her money. (IM JUST SAYIN)

They were best friends for 25 years so if she is happy with him than good for her.
For some people it may suit them (lifestyle) while for others like me it does not.

THIS IS A CLASSIC MARRIAGE… THAT IS DEFINITELY UN-EVENLY YOKE… NOW WATCH IT FALL… IT’S NOT BUILT ON A SOLID FOUNDATION AT ALL…

alot of black women dont shave legs or under arms and call it natural(which i is)but then alot of sistas dont suck dich cause they call it unnatural,so she claims he likes it that way but lets see who he has stepped out with besides her fatt azz.and lookin at the picture he looks to have some sugar in his shoes.

LOL.. i think he looks gay too…lol.. wow…Mo just wanted a pretty man i guess, so thats why she’s letting him get his Tiger Woods on…
Why do people get married if they are going to be sleeping with other folk..I guess Marriage isnt sacred anymore.
I hope they make it but i think she’s gonna find him in bed with Maxwell before its all said and done.

It works for them … so what ….

Ideally i feel it is a good idea to marry someone that can fulfill you emotionally and sexually!!! If a woman can make me happy emotionally and i still want to sex around … she is not the one I should marry :-/

THAT’S MY GURRRRL! GO MO! MO! PLUS WE HAVE THE SAME FIRST NAME. SHE LOOKS GOOD CONCERNING THE WEIGHT LOSS TOO BUT “OVER ALL” SHE’S ACHIEVING HER DREAMS DAY BY DAY AND I’M HAPPY FOR THIS AFRO AMERCAN SISTA, SHE’S EXTREMELY FUNNY! GOD BLESS HER AND HER MARRIAGE! PEACE HB* ;)

Marriage is supposed to be between God and the two people he put together. Not anyone else.

well baby if you ever decide to stray as well come down to jacksonville and will break you off something but legs would need to be shaven first,lol.

naw thats a sign of insecurity, she has sons what type of message is she sending them and other women.

whats the reason for the marriage then
they could of just lived together and did all that
im not sharing my man with no other woman please she appears to be a strong woman but that right there is a sign of a weak woman we dont share our mates with anyone especially if you loved them WOOOOOOOOW!!!!!! WOMEN DO ANYTHING FOR A MAN

men CANNOT and WILL NOT be ever faithful FOREVER!!!
it is not in our genes and it is not in your genes to go out of your way to satisfy our every whim and hunger for sex!
here is my requirements for solemn vow fidelity forever;
1. she must LOOK GOOD from day one and always look good for the rest of her life with me!
2. she must never argue with me in public or in private!
3.she must always be ready for SEX with me at any time and she must know how to come and get sex from me when she is horny too!
4.she must not be MATERIALISTIC or overly ambitious for anybody but herself- If it works for you, do it- but dont front me for not wanting the same thing as you!!!
5.she must want to spend time more with ME then her friends or family! i must be the PRIORITY in her life- nothing else!
6.she must not want to have KIDS at the drop of a hat!
7. she must want to make me HAPPY – and if that means to let me have my ALONE TIME- SO BE IT!
she must not want me to be a MIND READER! if she wants something- SPEAK YOUR MIND!
8. she must not EVER speak ill of me like she would want THE SAME FROM ME FOR HER— RESPECT!
9. she must LOWER HER EXPECTATIONS and get a more realistic perspective on life- nothing wrong with being successful, but keep the happy talk away from me- i am ALLERGIC TO BULLSHYT!
she must be BEAUTIFUL, SEXY, SENSUAL, INDEPENDENT, FUNNY, INQUISITIVE, TALL, HAVE REAL FLOWING LONG HAIR, AN HOURGLASS SHAPE, NEVER GET OLD OR TIRED, ALWAYS SUPPORTIVE,BIG JUICY PERFECTLY PERPORTIONED BUTT AND BREAST, EXOTIC EYES, SENSE OF HUMOR, EROTIC, AND UNABASHEDLY UNINHIBITED OR AFRAID TO TRY ANYTHING ONCE AT LEAST!!!
how does it feel ladies to hear the truth about what a man REALLY wants in a marriage!?
that list is not as long as yours but it is very very pacific and not as unattainable-
except not all these things can be found in 1 single woman!
no wonder we wander!!!
the bride of FUNKENSTEIN!!!! many different parts for many different needs-
women have the same kinds of needs from men- men already know we cant satisfy any 1 woman for long and being forced to marry somebody for sex——–
INSANE!!!!

Wow and I actually looked up to Monique once upon a time. She needs to wake up because a union between a man and woman is not shared with “men” and “Women”. I definitely agree she has insecurity issues. Why would a married woman or man want to share their bed with someone else? In this case insecurity is the major factor! Because she say’s she do not have sex with other men an only her husband sleeps around. It’s almost like she’s not good enough for her husband. To give one permission to cheat just because you want to hold him down is not healthy and it won’t be in along run either. And she said she do not shave her legs because her husband like them unshaved? Wow it’s obvious he doesn’t like them too much since he has to sleep with other women. And I wonder do the other women he sleeps with have unshaved leg’s aswell?

@shyscorpio… For real? Are you honestly speaking for EVERY man in the world or are these just YOUR requirements? If that is a “realistic” list of what EVERY MAN “expects” when he is searching for a wife, then I think you need to create a cyber-chic. NO HUMAN WOMAN could ever fulfill the outrages DEMANDS you speak of. That sounds more like a dictatorship than a marriage. Marriage to me, is not about perfection, but yet a journey that two – equally yolked(two cannot walk together unless they agree) people take together towards perfection for THEIR relationship. That would be the equivalent of a woman telling you, you have to make a certain amount of money or your hair or teeth could never fall out. You must be able to get it up at all times without fail & without drugs. lol A huge reason marriages fail is because, folks get married for all the wrong reasons. If a man OR a woman cannot stay faithful, ALTHOUGH they “claim” to be in a COMMITTED relationship, simply lack what is called “self-control”. If you fall into that category, date, have casual sex, have multiple sexual partners(protected-hopefully), do you & whatever floats your boat, but for God’s sake, PLEASE dont get married! Don’t sell someone a dream, by lying to them that you will forsake all others. Not saying that mistakes couldn’t happen in a marriage, because we are human, but, I am talking about marrying someone with the INTENT to stay faithful, with the intent to remain monogamous. I agree, some women have seriously unrealistic ideas in terms of what it is that they want/need from a man/husband. In the same breath though, men do as well. You expect a woman to “stay beautiful” regardless of life changes(having kids, etc.)? That is completely insane! Men “change” as well, so what, we are supposed to accept your “short comings” as well as the fact that you “feel” you are entitled to stray? Since, I am hearing this yet again that men are “made” to cheat, I would love to see some REAL DNA proof(not what you “READ” somewhere) that men genetically are predisposed to be unfaithful. Until I see that proof, across the board, for EVERY MAN, I say that claim is complete BS! I am calling for all the REAL MEN on BP to stand up & be heard on this subject. Do you all really think that it is IMPOSSIBLE to have a monogamous relationship? Im talking about, you are with someone & you love them, I mean truly LOVE THEM, not just the idea. Respect them. You love their flaws(& they love yours), the way they make you feel(physically, mentally, emotionally, etc). If all the chips were to fall tomorrow & you know that she would still have your back kinda chic. You would risk all of that for a nut? Honestly? Wow.

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I must agree with shyscorpio1 to a certain degree. Only because the “Example‘s” he displayed is reality. There is no such thing as the perfect man or woman, point blank! Women also have high expectations for the idealistic mate they want to spend their life with! But just think about it, we all have settle for someone that do not meet our full expectations. However there is still no excuse to cheat on your mate. I think people should marry for love! Not for what a person have to offer them. If you marry for “love”(not lust or benefits) then the marriage has a good chance to be successful. Not all men are dog’s and the same go’s for women. If you see problems or signs during dating a person why marry them? The problems only get worst! And trust me there are signs if you date a person long enough! Getting married within a year time frame is not long enough to know anyone(my opinion). However appearance is the first thing that most humans are attracted to. And that is also important. I think you have to have some kind of physical attraction for a person when you meet them. But to prey on someone because they are a possible “meal ticket” that’s not cool. But not all cheater, cheat on their mate’s because of lust for another. Some people actually cheat because one may not give then any attention, or the communication is non existence and there’s many other reason. However whatever the issue is with your mate, there has to be some type of communication involved, in order to pin point the problems. And some sort of changes has to be made in order to keep that relationship alive. Communication plays the head role in a marriage/relationship! It’s very important to know what your mate is unhappy with just my opinion. But both have to be willing and prepared for the demands, and if you can’t handle them then the relationship is useless!

Neaj, Girl you beat me to the punch! I couldnt have said it better myself. Shyscorpio1 is so OUT OF TOUCH with reality it isnt even funny…

shyscorpio1, LMBAO! I can only HOPE that each and every ‘rule’ you laid out will equally be adhered to by YOU as well…She must be sexy and in perfect shape ‘forever’?? If you were to get married at about age 25, looking fine, I wonder if YOU are still going to look that way for your wife after 35-40 years of marriage….hmmm, think about that one my man. The MEDIA has really turned you out bruh and youre a hypocrite when you say you want all of these things yet women need to ‘be realistic’ with their requests and standards…

Open marriages are full of dysfunctionate drama. SOunds like she loves him but seems he’s into her for other reasons. I wonder if he’ll wait until she’s at the pennacle of her career then file for that 50%. I hope she has a good pre-nupt, otherwise lifetime alimony for dud.

I think the open marriage is a perfect thing in my opinion. Statistically though monogamous vs poly the rates of divorce is the same so it is a matter of personal choice and what you “think” is going to work for you.

“Jahn_Lynx1 YOU ARE A 100% RIGHT… SAD BUT TRUE…

@ Neaj….. I totally agree with you, very well said. And a nut (from a nut I might add) is all it boils down to. LOL,LOL,LOL.

MONIQUE UR MY GIRL & ALL…WE FROM THE SAME HOOD BUT I DON’T AGREE WITH OPEN MARRIAGES. I MEAN IF U OR UR SOON TO BE SPOUSE STILL HAVE URGES TO CHEAT THEN JUST CALL IT A WRAP! SAYING U WILL ACCEPT UR HUSBAND OR WIFE CHEATING IS BS! ALL THAT’S REALLY SAYING IS U HAVE SELF-ESTEEM ISSUES & LOW VALUES ON YOURSELF. MAYBE MONIQUE FEELS AS IF BECAUSE SHE’S OVERWEIGHT THAT SHE CAN’T PREVENT HER MAN FROM CHEATING…THAT’S BS!! CUZ IF A MAN REALLY LOVES & RESPECTS WHAT THE TWO OF U HAVE HE WON’T CHEAT UNDER ANY CIRC**STANCES! IF HE GETS THOSE URGES HE WILL COME TO YOU ABOUT SPICING UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP, ROLE PLAYING, ETC.

@ shyscorpio1 your comment is ridiculous and I would say insulting to men who are faithful and true to their vows. Your neanderthal way of thinking might make ‘real love’ ever-elusive in your life. But it would seem you dont believe in that emotion or life event either….

Love you Mo, but thats a negative. I cannot do it. Good luck to you and yours, but a man is gonna be with me and me only or he can bounce.

classy57lady, “A nut from a nut”..love that one! lol

i just don’t understand it at all…once you’re married that changes everything…it’s a difference when you are dating…then you can be with whoever you want…but once you say those vows…that’s it!!!! LOL.

OMG. I feel what Mo said comes from a woman who is not secure with herself. I have observed Mo and in my thought process, I feel; if you do not have some form of religious belief you are lost. I listen to what she says and how she speaks and she comes off as an ignorant black woman, who is stubborn, uneducated, unwilling to change and lost.
Now, don’t get me wrong; the roles she has played on Television has been no doubt funny. But, on a personal stand point she has made some bad choices. I watched her talk show and she comes off as overly PHONY (not real) just for ratings.
In a marriage there is the unconditional love aspect but, not for him to do what he wants. There are nasty people out there in the world of Hollywood and disease does not show favor.
I would hope her husband comes to his senses and her too. But hey, if it works for them, I guess we should be like; so be it right? Wrong, she opened up these cans of worms, when she let us know that tid bit about her marriage.

Females like Monique make it hard for females that would not take that from a man..I don’t care what she may say but she should not accept that kind of behavior (adulter /cheater)from him…Some woman feels like it better to have a trifling man than none at all..Well this is my motto: I CAN DO BAD ALL BY MYSELF..

P.S.Especially in Monique shoes, if I was her I would drop that adulter and buy me a young tall,dark,&fine (J/k) cutie pie..LOL

What a great lady, very modern in here ideas and more women should
be inspired by her… I’m a ne fan and if she doesn’t wanna shave ot’s
her choice, with her out look on her marriage, she should be the
next president.

Wonder how much of an allowance she pays him to stay with her…Don’t understand why you would pay someone to stay with you, while you stand by as he does what he wants to do, but that’s what she is doing…She could be keeping her money to herself and spending it on only her and her kids instead of taking care of someone who obviously doesn’t care, love, or really deal with her…This is a shame and a disgrace…She says this so proud like it is a positive accomplishment or something…

She tries to come off as so head strong and independent, but she is selling herself short and all of her insecurities are showing very clear now…No self-esteem…Having a lot of money and basically no one true to share it with is so horrible to see…I would be surprised if they don’t get divorced sooner than later…

Idk but it seems like she has low-selfesteem

Mo’Nique has completely lost her mind right about now.
This man is CLEARLY GAY so she wants to pull a Star Jones BUT she wants to make sure before anything gets out that she knows.
What is wrong with these women today?
Are you that desperate for a man that you’d allow a man who CLEARLY does not desire you sexually just to have someone lay in bed next to you- well somtimes anyway?
It’s never that serious.
That’s why God said that HE THAT FINDETH a wife findeth a GOOD thing!!!

while i fond that quite disgusting (not shaving)…but yes..i have to agree..she does appear to have low self-esteem…i bet he is the reason why decided to lose weight..not because of health problems…damn…oh well….

to each his/her own on how their marriage works…I personally wouldn’t want to go au natural or have a straying husband because i feel that when a couple is in front of the priest, saying their wedding vows, its in front of God, family and friends to be faithful and love each other until death do you part….. also, i don’t recall the priest mentioning for a couple to stray in the marriage, then what’s the point of getting married IF a person can’t commit? Now, i may sound old school, but hey that’s just me and my opinion.

@Neaj: Thank you, that’s so true

yall all keep saying she has low self-esteem yall need to look at ur selves. she’s happy doing her thing with her family, if its working for her why u hating. u heard what she said he has permission but so far he hasnt went anywhere. and as far au-naturel u need to try it instead of polluting ur body with the poisons and toxins the government is feeding and giving u to put on ur body daily

she have to have a open marriage she is just a loud annoying woman, she is just happy to have a husband, I think she has low elf esteem and she will accept anything he says to say she has a man, but hey if it works for them then be it, I dont think its nothing wrong with it if everyone is okay with it. but, depending on how many women he sleeps around with is nastey.

What’s the point and why stay married to him? Mo’nique is ASKING for STD.

shyscorpio1: you wrote:

“men CANNOT and WILL NOT be ever faithful FOREVER!!!
it is not in our genes and it is not in your genes to go out of your way to satisfy our every whim and hunger for sex!”

Shyscorpio, true, the need to spread his seed is programmed in every man. It is also this way with other species. That said, human beings are SUPPOSED to be more evolved than most other animals. We have cognizant thought and have created culture and value systems.

Also, I am sure that if most of you men had more to lose, you would learn the discipline of fidelity really quickly. But it would be a shame that it takes loss for you all to grow up.

You also created a list of requirements that would keep you faithful:

“1. she must LOOK GOOD from day one and always look good for the rest of her life with me!”
I hope you practice what you preach because no good-looking woman wants an unattractive man on her arm.

“2. she must never argue with me in public or in private!”

Hopefully, you won’t provoke her to argue with you.

“3.she must always be ready for SEX with me at any time and she must know how to come and get sex from me when she is horny too!”

There will be times in life that we are under stress, have hectic schedules, etc….If you want your woman to be forever ready and willing, help her out once in a while. But I warn you; women do not have robo-coochies. You may want to invest in a toy.

“4.she must not be MATERIALISTIC or overly ambitious for anybody but herself- If it works for you, do it- but dont front me for not wanting the same thing as you!!!”

I agree. Find someone who accepts you at the level you are currently on. This way, neither one of you are disappointed in the long run.

“5.she must want to spend time more with ME then her friends or family! i must be the PRIORITY in her life- nothing else!”

Here’s your pacifier.

“6.she must not want to have KIDS at the drop of a hat!”

Some women have always longed for children. There is nothing wrong with that. Hopefully, you meet a great woman and if you do, and if she wants YOUR children, consider it an honor.

“7. she must want to make me HAPPY – and if that means to let me have my ALONE TIME- SO BE IT!”

You do the same for her.

“she must not want me to be a MIND READER! if she wants something- SPEAK YOUR MIND!”

…To use YOUR excuse of genes, it’s in a woman’s dna makeup to expect a man to read her thoughts. : )

“8. she must not EVER speak ill of me like she would want THE SAME FROM ME FOR HER— RESPECT!

You know damn well that you even talk about your mama when she pisses you off.

9. she must LOWER HER EXPECTATIONS and get a more realistic perspective on life- nothing wrong with being successful, but keep the happy talk away from me- i am ALLERGIC TO BULLSHYT!”

….Keep the happy talk away from you? LOL…you ARE the cynic, aren’t you?

she must be BEAUTIFUL, SEXY, SENSUAL, INDEPENDENT, FUNNY, INQUISITIVE, TALL, HAVE REAL FLOWING LONG HAIR, AN HOURGLASS SHAPE, NEVER GET OLD OR TIRED, ALWAYS SUPPORTIVE,BIG JUICY PERFECTLY PERPORTIONED BUTT AND BREAST, EXOTIC EYES, SENSE OF HUMOR, EROTIC, AND UNABASHEDLY UNINHIBITED OR AFRAID TO TRY ANYTHING ONCE AT LEAST!!!”

Okay, Shyscorpio….WTF are YOU gonna bring to the table?? Seriously, you mapped out a blue-print for a great woman–and she is out there, but WHY ARE YOU NOT WITH A WOMAN LIKE THIS YET? I can tell you right now; a woman like that is going to be on the arms of a celebrity or someone with affluence. I realize I am being presumptious with the following, but men like you are the same ones that complain about women being too materialistic, having standards set way too high, etc. No disrespect, Scorpio, but maybe you should lower YOUR expectations. Just a thought.

SHE SAYS HE CAN CHEAT BECAUSE SHE KNOW DATS HES GONNA CHEAT ANYWAY,IM NOT HATING ON MONIQUE BUT SHE IS FAT AND SHE KNOW HE PROBELY WANTS SUMTHING SEXY AND SLIM SUMTIMES,BUT DA REAL TRUTH IS MEN R CHEATING DOGS ANYWAY,THEY CAN HAVE DA HOTTEST GIRL AND THEY WILL STILL CHEAT…..PRIME EXAMPLE,HALLE BERRY AND ERIC BENET OR JENNIFER LOPEZ AND BEN AFLECK…….MEN R DOGGGS!!!!

Wow @ LILMNIC comment “Monique is fat he probely(probably) wants sumthing(something) sexy and slim sumtimes(sometimes)”. Wow do all slim and sexy(only in the eyes of the beholder)women think like this? Well I’m not the smallest of the small and nor am I the biggest of the big however that statement is so not true. Now it sounds to me and correct me if I’m wrong, that your mind have been poisoned into believing that slim women are every mans glory! SMH let me enlighten you my dear all men do not cheat on their partners with slim women! They have known to cheat on their wives with even larger women then there wives. And to give you a little known fact (men cheat true indeed) when I was smaller(140lbs standing at 5’7) then what I am now 6years(had my son) ago my husband at the time(divorce) cheated with a “big Girl”(she was at least 5’6 at 250lbs+) at that, and trust me that changed my views. So honey wakeup! It’s not about slim women anymore(never were). And no matter what a man may tell you he won’t mess with a big girl ever, he will! Just as soon as the right one comes along. Trust and believe! But it’s too fuuny since I picked up the extra baggaed I can’t keep them(men) off lol ,and they say slim women get all the attention, not! Hell I have more of the skinny’s hating more than the pluses(which I like to consider myself as).

i just have to say to some of you with the men bashing sh*t please stop you be the main ones not happy with yourselfs. and i’am going keep it real some men cheat& it’s the same with women but if you have your mind set on that one person in your life& the both of you want that make it happen& please stop with the crazy sh*t with men are dogs. some people don’t want to grow old by there selfs. damn wtf wrong with some peolpe on that bullsh*t!

[...] Mo’Nique’s secret to a happy marriage? an open one [...]

I think that self esteem is playing a big part in her comments. I mean she got a divorce from her last husband pretty quickly and then hooked up with this guy and got pregnant fast. Its not about being slim because Monique is a beautiful woman. But her statement makes it hard on the women trying to maintain fidelity. It already feels like cheating is so in and trendy.

Freestyle:

You are right about her low-self esteem being evidenced by her comments. I think that some of the self-esteem issues come from the weight though and she is putting on some pretense. MANY overweight people have issues with their image because society puts them down. Most overweight people “fake it until they make it” when it comes to having self-confidence. They have to put on a thick skin and go out into the world with a sense of bravado showing the world that they are okay with who they are and love themselves.

Based on what you mentioned about her marrying her third marriage pretty quickly and getting pregnant, I suspect a few things: (1) this guy is gay (sorry, but my gay-dar screams when I see this man); (2) Monique wanted to have kids but her desire for a family was not met with her previous husbands; and (3) she and Sidney made an agreement to marry with the understanding that he would give her children and they would have an open marriage. I say this because it is not in a woman’s makeup to tolerate cheating unless there is some financial benefit to it; Mo’Nique’s career is taking off…apparently, she has more wealth. Why would someone in her position of power allow her man to cheat? She also mentioned that SHE has never gone outside the marriage, but never mentioned whether or not HE has….by omission, I infer that he already has…and probably with a man.

I am glad that Mo’Nique is doing well and I wish her continued success. I also think she keeps up her appearances and makes herself shine. That’s great. Yet, her situation is a bit suspect to me.

But hey–it’s Mo’Nique’s life….if she is getting all that she wants to out of it without hurting others, good for her! : )

shyscorpio1 is the reason why women say 90% of men are Dogs!

I think i see where Monique is coming from. She is a beautiful, sexy curvy woman, who seems to know and accept herself. (btw, everyone has security issues, its human. It’s a matter of how u deal with it and how much you make it a part of your life). Anyway, she has given me something to think about. It is true if you really love and care abt someone, first you accept them as a human being, who like yourself is prone to “mistakes”, and like every other thing in life, if you really want the relationship, it is up to you to decide if you wat to continue. This may also be a new avenue for applying some behavioural psychology. Allow your partner space and freedom to do what they feel and the respect of making their own decisions, regardless of what society accepts (of course in this context of marriage and intimate relationships), instead of enforcing rules and stipulation may be a new idea that works. Concentrate on being the best person you can and enjoying life for yourself and with your partner. Persons who adopt this lifestyle may be on to something. Of course this won’t work for everybody, because we all have our different cultural, religious, emotional, etc. baggage to deal with, that is so ingrained. I respect Monique’s stance on her relationship and more power to her. If this is what she believes.

Mo’Nique didn’t say that. That wrinkled assed Barbara Walters ‘INTERPERTED’ it as that. Mo’Nique said that wouldn’t be a ‘deal breaker’ between her and Sidney. Another way for WF’s to make us look
bad. That’s what they have been doing from the beginning to time.

‘beginning of time.” I’d better go to lunch. I can’t spsell! LOL

@shyscorpio1-Trying really hard to get attention aren’t we?

Cherron: LOL…most men are attention seekers. They are worse than women!

Hey dolls! This issue really stook with me because I have always loved mo’nique..she seem to be so real and down to earth. When she was big she used to boast and brag that “Skinny Women are Evil”…..she is now what she preached about! Can she honetly say that she allows her hubby to astray? What the hell are you married for? There is no “Open Relationships” to me because, if you wanna be in the street dont committ! I thought committment was a one-on-one thing! Then she do all this crying and stuff, on tv when she comes in contact with a person of the lord….why? You cant say you abide by the word, because that what SHE calls OPEN…We in the christian world call that….ADULTERY…..INFIDELITY…….CHEATING……UNCOMMITTED! But like she said that is what works for her, but what are you saying to the women who are struggling trying to keep their men all to themselves? Women that looked up to you? Seems like she cool with it cause she know she cant stop it and that is what she hides behind….to keep him! Not cool! Thought she was a better woman than that….at least that is what she portray! So she gonna teach her boys that too?
There gonna be alot of heart-broken little girls!

Wow, I could not believe what she said. My girlfriends and I said the same thing LOW LOW Self Esteem. How are you going to try to speak for BIG girls and say it is ok that he cheats..what Woman would look up to her. The other thing that is crazy is

…is that her so called husband a blackman did not speak up at all…humm what is that saying about him{Cash Rules Everything Around Me}…We never really got into MoNique and now for dayum sure..is it that much to want a man that..you c**koo for coco puffs. Why get married? or even better why say it out loud But the No Rebuttle from him..wheww…Not a role modle nor anyone to look up too. Only thing we hope is parents, single parents.men ,women,cats ,dogs who ever..this is NOT the way to be Truly Happy..do ya really love yourself?

Always SoftKisses

To each their own.

For me, a dealbreaker is an affair.
I would not stay with mine with an affair with the exception that I will have my affair and then if he accepts me back and and cantrust me after my affair, then I can trust him to.
That makes us Even Steven. Fair is fair.

To each their own,but I MUST shave my legs and armpits weekly. I shold get my arms waxed. I shave below the belt too.

I don’t understand…so why get married? It doesn’t make any sense. Monique must be really desperate to hold on to a man to actually give him permission to cheat. This man is getting his cake and eating it too. He couldn’t possibly love her. It’s okay for him to cheat but she wouldn’t cheat. This is a terrible example for their children and for women and men in general.

azreal and others..i thought that i was alone in my thinking that my gaydar screams gay/bisexual as far as sidney is concerned but to each their own..i will not share a man that i get involved with..if that’s the case, i’m better off alone and happy.

I think that however Mo-Nique and Sidney want to live, is good for them! Not everybody views marriage in a conventional way, neither is open marriage a new thing. It’s not for everyone, but I admire her candor and conviction on the subject. Mo-Nique has never appeared to me to be a woman suffering from low self-esteem, but gutsy to the core. She may have had those issues at one time in her life, but anybody who saw her acceptance speech at the Oscars could clearly see that she is a woman in total control of who she is and where she is going, and having her husband who clearly has her back, has made her even better. They have been best friends since childhood, who love and respect each other enough not to put restrictions on each other. And just because they practice open marriage doesn’t mean that they will cheat on one another, but IF they do, it’s not going to ruin their marriage which is what ultimately, they are committed to. There are no guarantees in life, and there certainly isn’t any guatrantee that a spouse is going to stay faithful, so with an open marriage, that worry is eliminated. They may be onto something. It takes a lot of guts and knowing yourself and your spouse to be able to do that. Go Mo-Nique!

@nanapeppa FINALLY SOMEONE WITH EDUCATION AND KNOWLEDGE OF HISTORY ppl are so brainwashed with the indoctination of this western world combined with the fact that half of you making these harsh comments have never been anywhere outside the u.s say to like southeast asia or india, since the dawn of time sex has been not only open but considered empowerment. Some call it the chi others the shakra but marrige is a religious option brought about by the so called jews who had their personal qualms about sex. But the rest of the known world saw sex as the norm without a taboo attached to sex. All of the Queens and Kings of old had sex outside their marriage and understood it to be human nature to do so. Emotional attachment is when you love a person for their spirit and mind, but the body is outwardly and can be stimulated by who you choose without emotional attachment. This subject is a matter of perception..which varies depending individual progression

These men SAY they want an open marriage, but that is only for them I am sure. Just let the wife get out on the prowl and I bet all this openness changes.

Mo’Nique probably made those comments due to the fact that she is on the road filming, performing and not always available and ready for him at the drop of a hat and she knows good and damn well that she is not always going to be able to have him on set for a film for months at at time while shooting on location and expecting him to follow her around and be at her beck and call whenever she is gone for an extended amount of time. I do not know what he does for a living but I know it isnt in the film and acting or entertainment industry. Its really about being an accepting adult. She found a man who loves her for who she is hairy legs and all. On top of that she is accepting to the fact that he is a man and she is a busy woman bottom line. You other women should do the math and stop thinking that because a person accepts another person for who they are they have low self esteem. With her understanding her limitations in the relationship she made ways to understand his and made the situation fair between them. And regardless she always has a man to come home to, loves her and has her back either way………….

In response to Angilix…
“@nanapeppa, We are not animals we can control our urges. If we were animals women would be in heat every spring, and we men would be powerless to resist once we got the scent. We overcame nature long ago.”

While individual you may have developed a sense of self control, the average human has not and/or does not without trial and error. I’m pretty sure you’ve made a few “my actions come with consequences” type mistakes involving sexual attraction, arousal, urges and desire. If not, then you’re either a virgin, a true monogamist (meaning that you’ve only ever been with one female/male partner who has also only been with you and noone else), you’re a para/quadriplegic or more than likely speaking untruthfully. And believe it or not, healthy women absent of hormonal imbalances (and sometimes with) experience heat once a month; just before, during and/or after their cycle – menses/menstruation.

May I also suggest researching the definition of animal or moreso mammal. We as human beings are homo sapien sapiens – land mammals. We are hairy bodied with warm blood and our females give birth to live young who by nature suckles milk. Although our large developed brains and ability to create fire may have placed us highest along the food chain, we are still mammals and mammals are animals. ;)

wowww dats crazzy idk if i can believe dat one!

In response to JuanakaBigBlock…
I (We) have been blessed and fortunate enough to allow forward motion of not only mind, but of physical and spiritual self. With human evolutionary social, procreative and theological history comes a greater understanding of where we stand today; especially involving relationships and family structures. And yes, The Ancients have offered much towards these matters and it is true that sex was experienced and enjoyed inside and outside spiritual/political unions. The Karma Sutra is one prime example of sensual/sexual openness and enlightenment. If only more of us chose to stimulate our strongest and greatest sexual organ – THE BRAIN.

Also, I’ve read all comments posted thus far and unfortunately most are lacking in communal knowledge as well basic human observational practicality. When people talk they tend to tell of and on themselves and most thoughts and opinions hail from emotional depths of infidelity distraught. This alone stems from indoctrination and social conditioning set against natural design. Not that it’s impossible for men and women to be faithfully committed, but that a few of us must simply face and accept the fact that desires may not be mutually held. A man can and will be faithful, but only when he’s ready and willing and only with whom he deems worthy of his committment. The same applies for a woman. The sooner we as a people (especially us women) understand and openly accept this fact, the better off our lives, relationships and mental states will be.

Ooops… That should read “In response to JuaneakaBigBlock…” :D

alright, i’m a dude, married for almost 7 years now and in that time i’ve seen my woman with smooth, silky, shiny legs, and times without…typically in the winter she doesn’t shave em cause she doesn’t wear anything for people to see…this from a woman who ALWAYS changes her underwear if the line shows and who wears liners to stay dry…that being said, i can’t say i’m on the “i likes em grizzly!” or the “ewww, that’s sooo nasty!” train…but i wish we could educate more of our women so that they stop looking like fools when they say that not shaving is unsanitary…how? exactly how does that defy the laws of personal hygiene? seriously, that is both ignorant and annoying…if it were unsafe then untold millions of dudes would be dying off in droves…it’s an aesthetic choice, much like shaving under one’s arms…and to be precise, shaving is actually more of a health risk than not shaving…there’s a reason we got hair all over the place…as far as the open marriage thing, i think she’s an idiot, but to each their own…you tell a cat he can smash whoever, however, whenever, cat is gonna smash whoever, however, whenever…but if it works for her, so be it…but let’s get our education up and stop spouting the same foolishness…it just gets embarassing after awhile…

i hope monique doesn’t live to regret that one. Even if infidelity isn’t a marriage breaker for her, she shouldn’t give him a license to cheat.

lol…You can tell from that smirk on his face he got it made. If you know you’re man is a cheater and you know no matter what he’s going to continue to cheat and you’re dumb ass don’t leave the relationship you have to be very insecure.

she probably figures, just like most men, he will cheat too so why not have it in the open and save time and drama. As for her hairyness, well if she likes it and he likes it why is it an issue for anyone else

Ummm if he loves those hairy legs then why is an ‘open’ marriage even on the table as an option?? Mo’Nique need to go somewhere with this bullshyt…

I feel if you BOTH took that vow before god, then why add extra into it, by allowing an open marriage, where do they do that at?

I am totally confused and we wonder why marriages these days dont last.

People dont take Moniques’ advice.

Now i love her as an actor, comedian, and a sister and woman of god but to each his own. Think for yourself.

I agree @ CaliFemme23

Go on with that one, now if he brings you an STD, are you still gonna love him?

Love self first, that’s what I say.

And besides he looks too suspect to me.

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