The male dominated media loves to promote the image of  irrational, emotional, drama queens who are at constant odds with each other. Reality television shows like The Real House Wives of New York, Atlanta and New Jersey keep us inundated with the “cat-fights” and foolishness of these so-called ’real’ women, who thrive on negative energy and attention. Yet no one ever talks about ‘Divos’ the drama kings of this world who equally have a flare for the dramatic. I dated a man who loved to argue; he would say anything to get a rise out of me. I should have known that something was up when he said “if I wanted to, I could get with your sister.” When I looked at him like he was crazy, then he tried to shrug it off, as a ‘just a joke.’  

It is not as socially accepted for men to behave in such a way, like Jay-Z said “males shouldn’t be jealous that’s a female trait,” which I completely disagree with because there are plenty of men who are just as guilty of bringing on the drama. Here are a couple of tips to let you know if your new guy is a Divo:

1. Every time you talk to him he has an elaborate story: Who knows why he does this or maybe his mom never gave him enough attention so he has to have your undivided attention– always. These stories will get grander and grander over time but dealing with his fantasy life can be a huge task, so just be ready to put in the work.

2. He tries to pull you in on act: He needs this fix so bad that he decides to pick a fight with you. He will say anything to push your buttons. Or he may pair himself up with a drama queen, when I was in college, there was this guy who seemed really laid back and nice. Although, his alter-ego was worse than Mel Gibson, he would purposely talk to other girls on campus so that his girlfriend would want to fight him, while he just sat back and laughed under his breath as she created a huge scene on the yard.  Who knows, maybe it was his time of the month so he needed to transfer that negative energy to her.  That’s an extreme case but if this happens on a smaller level even once it will happen again.

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Pay attention to the man that you are dealing with and if he does either of these things early on,  then you can decide if you want to move forward in this relationship before you get emotionally attached, like Maya Angelou said “When people show you who they are believe them the first time.”

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As woman, we can be way more critical of our bodies than most men. We complain to our friends, family and to potential mates about our body issues. The stretch marks, cellulite, sagging breasts and chubby belly are just a few of the issues that most women have with their bodies. I don’t know about any of you, but I have at times, during sex let my mind wonder “I hope that he does not notice my chubby belly.” I know that I am supposed to be in the “hot sex on a platter” mindset but there are those times when I cannot help myself.

While talking to a male friend of mine recently, he echoed Kat Williams sentiment that ”real men do not care about stretch marks and cellulite.”  Yet us gals, just want the perfect body when we’re naked. I feel your pain, so here are tips that will help hide some of those issues.

1) Stretch Marks and Cellulite: During sex, most man do not really care about these issues but cellulite typically is on the back of the leg and thigh area. If you are having an issue with it then doing it doggy style will fix the issue.What he is seeing: Men love that position probably because of the view and think about it, everything is stretched out so bend over as far as your back will allow because from his point of view, you look perfect!

2) Chubby Belly: Gravity is your friend in this case so resort to the missionary position and your stomach will automatically look flatter. What is he seeing: He cannot even see your stomach if he is on top of you. He is just looking into your eyes which makes for a very intimate time.

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3) Sagging breasts:Being on top is the right choice to get you looking great. Just put your arms up above your head, maybe play with your hair,and arch your back. That will lift them up and they will be as perky as a 19-year-old.  What he is seeing: he is seeing your breasts at their glory. If you are felling a bit shy then bend down and kiss him, either way you both should be very happy.

If none of these are tips are helpful, just remember that men are just happy that we let them in “sex land.”  Sex land is a magical place for men but you, as the woman, are the queen and the king so just make sure that he knows your boundaries.

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I was walking with a friend of mine and we saw this guy that I have had a crush on since high school. I can say that I am much more pulled together now, than I was back then. He stopped and we started to talk. But there was a moment when I was sure that my high school crush would finally ask for my number, yet he just said, “well, hit me up on Facebook!” Facebook?I was instantly brought back into the school cafeteria where I had my friends innocently stalk him, so they could tell me if he looked at me at least once–he never did. Being a self-proclaimed dating/relationship expert, now I was sure that he still did not want me. So here are some of the signs that I saw to help all of you avoid the men who are just lukewarm about you:

1) He does not tell you anything about himself: If I am being honest, I must say that I was such a geek about it, I even mentioned that we have a mutual friend. This let him know that I have been asking about him after all of these years. Never did he volunteer any information about his life.

2) He did not ask for your number or offer his: Even though, I could not stop myself from talking, there were a couple of moments when the conversation could have ventured toward exchanging numbers but he did NOT. Instead he said, “hit me up on Facebook!”

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3) All he really did was comment on my body: When we were about to leave, he hugs me and said, “nice legs, sexy” and there was a sexual tension between to two of us, in that moment that I could feel. That last comment was like a bullet hitting him in the head, I finally got it.  He was letting me know that he doesn’t really want me but if I chased him, he will sleep with me!

Ladies, please do not let this humiliating lesson go in vain. Men let us know how they feel about us all of the time we just have to be aware of the signs.

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I was at a function where a lot of gay men were in attendance; this is like a single girl’s heaven because everyone kept complimenting my outfit, while also giving me kudos on my hair. But once the drinks settled in, I noticed that a couple of my new gay boyfriends could not keep their eyes off of my breasts. Then it happened – someone cupped my left breast, like we were Scarlett Johansson and Isaac Mizrahi on the red carpet.

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I was floored, yet I was more intrigued than angry. It was hardly a sexual gesture, but felt more like when a toddler grabs your breasts just because they’re protruding. He said, “squeechy.”

You know that I had to find out why this happened, so I asked and he said, “I am sorry, but I was mesmerized and I could not help myself. I love breasts.”

There are many that believe that if a man was breastfed by his mother, he will love them for the rest of his life. But does this include gay men, too? Even though they have decided that woman aren’t their choice of mate. I was confused, so I did the research and found a story by the Daily Mail in the UK that quoted Sigmund Frued’s assessment on breastfeeding.

Freud believed breastfeeding was central to our adult sexual development. He claimed that sexual desires began in earliest childhood, with the first stage based around the oral stimulation of breastfeeding, which in adults is manifested as kissing.

He wrote: ‘No one who has seen a baby sinking back satiated from the breast and falling asleep with flushed cheeks and a blissful smile can escape the reflection that this picture persists as a prototype of the expression of sexual satisfaction in later life.’

While this is now an unfashionable interpretation, it may have influenced Western society’s view that there is something culturally unsettling about breastfeeding.

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So does this mean my gay boyfriend secretly wants my breasts?

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Have you ever been in the throws of what is shaping up to be a very good night with your guy then all of a sudden something does not feel right: his “manly part” is no longer, “ready!” What are you going to do now? Do you pretend to continue?  Or just play dead?

This may be beyond uncomfortable for you, but try to empathize with your partner, he is probably mortified. So much of a man’s ego is attached to his pants. This is “knowing your man 101″ and that is just how the majority of men feel about sex.  So since your man “Got A Huge Ego” here are some tips, which will help you to preserve it.

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1: Do not turn this into a pity party: Refrain from saying things like, ”it’s okay,” or “this happens to a lot of guys.” Men do not want to be pitied by their significant other. As a matter of fact, they do not want to talk about it at all, so the less you say in this awkward situation– the better. The tone of your voice is very important, so in a very caring and understanding tone try saying: “Okay, I am tired, maybe we can finish this tomorrow.” This will make it seem like it was your idea to end it, not his “wilted french fry.”

2: You may have to take another trip downtown: When all else fails, just revert to oral simulation, which should get that ship sailing again. This is your ace in the hole,  and it  should work 99 percent of the time.  If this does not work: and that “pee-pee” is always having issues, then it could be health related. Now he needs to see the doctor so just make the appointment and tell him it’s the dentist. (Why the dentist? You’re helping him to brace himself, the dentist is equally as intrusive as the urologist.) You will reveal the truth to him the morning before, keeping the conversation brief, he has already taken the day off, therefore he is more than likely to go.

3: Never discuss it with your friends: This is a private matter and it never needs to be shared with others including your girls.  Telling your friends is a complete violation of his trust and it can damage the bond between the two of you.

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While talking to a male friend of mine, he made a statement: “Women like (their stuff) perfectly manicured and freshly washed but as a man, I will say that it has a natural smell that I want to smell.” I sad, what? He explained even more,  ”don’t get me wrong a sticky (stuff) is nasty, but (the stuff) has a smell that most men love; women need to stop shaving it and keep it natural.” My mind started to wonder, so then I did a bit of research:

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72% of women feel self-conscious about their taste and odor according to alternet.org, while it seems that the majority of men love the natural smell. It seems that advertising companies have woman fooled, once again, into thinking that the natural smell of the vagina is offensive to the opposite sex. In the 18th century the vagina’s odor was considered seductive.

Rachel Sobel, an undergraduate at Harvard, now [July 1998] doing research at MUM about the tampon industry for her senior thesis, mentioned that menstrual odor was once considered seductive in the odor-rich 18th century. Ads embarrass Americans into being odor free by buying underarm odor killers, menstrual pads with baking soda, tampons with deodorants, etc

In other words, in the 21st century, we douche it to make it smell like a spring breeze and shave it bold to look like a child’s unmentionable. Now we are hearing that the regular scented, bush is all that a man needs-who knew?

So tell us what you think?

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Spring is around the corner and for ‘all my single ladies’– loneliness may emerge, especially when we hear of  the statistic that 42% of black women have never been married. What’s a single, black female to do? Well, if we assume that it’s true and think of  it through ’the glass is half full’ mantra. It also says that the majority, 58% of black women have been married.

Studies like this do nothing but make women fearful of being alone, and  give men too much power. Men do not have vaginas, so they do not deserve that much power. The well-educated, black man already feels like a hot commodity. He will date then bed as many of us as his heart desires. We need to flip the script. We are single today and now we can guide each other down the dating path that will end not just in marriage, but in a good one.

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In an effort to make the heartache a thing of the past,  I came up with this self-preservation formula. Myself and all of my many girlfriends who have been dating for years have done most of the leg work and complied a new way of thinking when trying to find the man of your dreams. It’s called the RTST formula because relationships always, always, always stem from Real Time Spent Together (RTST).

What Is Real Time: Real Time Spent Together is face-to-face interaction, while talking about goals, dreams or just your day.

What Isn’t Real Time: Spending time together when both of you are not talking, or you’re doing all the talking, or when he’s preoccupied, or when you’re both preoccupied (movies and TV watching are a good example of being preoccupied, and remember kissing and sex are too).

The RTST formula: It is like the Pythagorean theorem of dating! The RTST formula can not fail, if you pay attention. In my assessment, 50 hours of RTST is the minimum amount of time that needs to pass before a woman should get emotionally invested and physically involved with a man.

Some Exceptions to Calculating RTST:

1) Every hour of phone convo is worth only 15 minutes of RTST: Face time is of a premium because that can lead to true intimacy, therefore it is more valuable because on the phone you only share thoughts. It will take a  four-hour-long conversations to equal one hour of RTST.

2) Rich man: Double the time: If a wealthy man takes you away for the weekend, you must insist on your own room. He might also want you there while he works, so you will have to deduct all that work time from RTST. Wealthy men are more in demand, so you have to set yourself apart from all of the other girls.

3) Broke man: Double the time: The broke ones have nothing but time, so you must also increase the RTST.

Here’s How To Calculate RTST: If the first date lasted about four hours, and then the both of you talked on the phone for about eight hours, keep the non face-to-face time to only a week, then you have 6 hours of RTST.

(4 hours date + 2 hours phone (8 hours/4)= 6 hours RTST)

Once you get to that 50 hour minimum, you can evaluate your relationship. Is he is still interested? Still attentive? Still respectful? If the answer to these questions is yes, then the RTST formula allows you to take the relationship to the physical level.

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You may think that RTST sounds absurd, but this is about your heart! As always, know thyself! If you can have sex, like Samantha Jones from Sex and the City, with no strings attached then more power to you! But if you get all soft and fuzzy on the inside after the first date with visions of the perfect wedding day dancing in your head like Charlotte York Goldenblatt, then you need to know who you are before you start down the sex road. And all it takes is one time of wanting a real relationship when all he wants is a quickie in the backseat, for you to finally get it: men want sex always, relationships not as often. That is a fact. So now we will date, date, and then date some more. But sex? That’s reserved for serious relationships only.

You must also remember to get a life, because it’s always better to be too busy to see him, at least twice in that initial RTST period. Men are hunters, as my married auntie says. If you do not have anything to do, no matter how cute you are, then you will stay single. They need a chase!  So get a life, quick!

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In this month’s issue of Cosmopolitan magazine there was a story about inter-racial dating which features three couples who gave their take on dating outside of ones race.

It was very interesting that in 2010 we are still exploring this issue, but this is America which was founded on slavery. Therefore racism is still a disease, which we can all hope that one day will disappear. But today it is still an issue…just last week John Mayer was labeled a racist because of a quote that he gave to Playboy magazine when he called his “Penis A White Supremacist” and he also used the “N” word.

All of the recent controversy with Tiger Woods and his affairs with multiple white women which made some black women feel shunned by the golfer. I say, who cares if they do not like black women there are tones of man and yes-even white men, who do not have a penis that discriminates. Keeping in mind that every person is different and dating is not a one size fits type of thing, however here are a couple of tips when dating a white man.

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1) A bad hair day means nothing to him:People from the same background can be harder on each other, because they feel a sense on camaraderie. Men from another racial background, especially white men, seem to be more accepting of a bad hair day.  However, on the other hand, black men will be more forgiving if you happen to gain a little weight. The money that you save on the weekly trips to the salon will just have to be re-purposed for a trainer because slim and trim is the desired look.

2) Be prepared for the dirty looks:The same way some black girls see a black man with a white girl and give the couple a dirty look, white woman feel the same way when they see a white man with a woman of another race. I was shocked, when a white friend of mine told me that all of the good white guys were being taken by the Asian girls. If you’re going to be in an inter-racial relationship– do not take the reactions of strangers personal. A thick skin is mandatory–this is your man and you need to hold your head up high and ignore all negativity.

3) Just in case you were thinking it: Penis size is not an issue: I know that there is the myth of the big, black  penis but that is an urban legend. A small penis can exist with a black man or a white one. The problem could be that your new white boyfriend might believe that rumor and feel a bit insecure–which can really work in your favor when it comes to foreplay, if you know what I mean! Just use reassuring lines like “Give me that big…” (you fill in the rest)while making love, to restore his wondering mind and sooth his ego.

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So you just broke up with the man who you thought of as the love of your life, the two of you had an unhealthy relationship complete with the ‘break-up to make-up’s,’ which included plenty of screaming matches and hot love-making.  Now, it is over for good and you are an emotional hot mess, who feels like you will never love again.

If this relationship ended because he cheated or belatedly disrespected you, which can make even the most confident girl think, “what did I do wrong?” Or, why wasn’t I enough? Take a note from Mary J, who has spoken openly about never feeling pretty enough, until she met her husband, Kendu. He constantly informed her that she was in fact beautiful. He is the man who was there to help her realize, what we all saw from the outside looking in, how gorgeous Mary J. Blige is.

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In a perfect world, no one would be insecure, yet we are human beings; therefore we need validation from others. And as women, we are constantly comparing and contrasting ourselves to friends, family and even the picture perfect super models on magazine covers. In our head, we know that no one person should complete us so as we strive for inner love and peace there are those people who can speed up the process. And once you have been treated like a queen by a man, you will never go back to being treated like a peasant again, even if the relationship does not last long.

Here are the two ways that you may know if you know the man who can help restore our sense of self.

1) He is genuinely trying to get to know you as a person, like Mary J. said “we didn’t build nothing overnight ‘cuz, a love like this takes sometime”

2) When you are irrational and down right crazy, he has a way of calming you and making you think Zen moments.

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There comes a time in every relationship, whether it be sooner or later, when it’s time to get down to sex. The first time that you have sex with a new partner can be exciting, as well as filled with anxiety. Bethany Hitman has written a story in this month’s Cosmopolitan magazine on four simple rules to make your first time with a new guy more memorable and less stressful.

Rule 1: Don’t jump the gun: Sometimes the prospect of taking the shiny new car out for a ride can make even the most seasoned gal want to skip the foreplay and get right to putting the ‘frank in the bun.’  But that’s a rookie’s move, slow it down says sex educator Jamya Waxman, author of Getting Off, ”The goal should be to pay attention to what works and what doesn’t for the other partner.”

Rule 2: Acknowledge awkward moments: Just like he is new to you, you are new to him, too. If you acknowledge those awkward moments because they will happen, in a playful way it can help ease the “new sex” tension in the air.

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Rule 3: Say Something Nice: Most men do care about pleasing their partners so just throw him a bone. Even if he is messing it up find one thing to praise, that will build confidence for the next time.

Rule 4: Hold Back From getting Crazy Acrobatic: It’s new to both of you so those crazy tricks will be held for a later date. No need for tricks now, because the fact that he is a novice to your body is “trick” enough.

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When your name is Beautifulpeople.com, I guess that you have a standard to uphold, therefore we should not be shocked because this site’s members voted to kick 5,000 people off because they gained weight during the holiday season. OMG, as if big girls don’t have it hard enough when trying to date!

The dating site describes itself as being for the ‘exclusively beautiful community’ while selling the image of being an elite social networking site according to the Free Press.com

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The founder, Robert Hintze released a statement “as a business we mourn the loss of any member, but the fact reminds that our members demand that a high standard of beauty be upheld. Letting fatties roam the site is a direct threat to our business model and the very concept to which BeautifulPeople.com was founded according to The New York Daily News.

Apparently he’s not familiar with the term, “big and beautiful.” Is that fair? Let us know what you think.

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There are those times when we want to kick, scream and basically act like a toddler but that irrational behavior never serves anyone. As women, especially black women, we must follow a rule said by Douglas Wilder, the first black governor of Virginia, he said “We can not do what others do and get away with it.” Even when someone has pushed all of your buttons, always try to take the high road. Just think, if you indulge in that behavior you will be feeding into all of the negative stereotypes about the goose-necking, black woman with the bad attitude. So when you feel yourself about to jump off of an irrational cliff with your man, at work or when out in public– try these tactics to help pull you back.

Take a breath: That will help you to clear your head and think. If you just start to breathe then the air will bring rational thoughts back into your brain and ability to make good decisions is sure to follow.

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Excuse yourself: Walk away and keep walking until you calm down. Removing yourself from the situation will help you to get a grasp on your emotions.

Call a friend: Everyone should have someone in their life that can bring them down, this should be the most rational person that you know. He/she will help you gain perspective to pull yourself together.

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Okay so, you have not started any of your Christmas shopping and there’s only one day left. There is very little time, but if you are a bite creative then you can figure out the perfect gift for the people in your life. There are plenty of things that can be gifted with little to no cash –remember, it’s the thought that counts.

According to parenting.ivilliage.com there are plenty of last minute gifts out there that won’t break the bank.

The Gift of food: Food is another thoughtful gift that will be appreciated and won’t contribute to the after-holiday clutter. Restaurant gift certificates are popular. Parents of young children often can’t afford to pay for dinner, tickets to an event and babysitting. Covering the meal might get them out of the house. And, of course, you can cook for someone. One advantage of cooking ahead and freezing is that you always have a meal in the freezer that you could share with someone else. Or, include all the ingredients for a favorite dish, the recipe and any special utensils in a pan or baking dish. Baked goodies are always a popular gift.

The Gift of your time: You might choose tickets to a concert, a sporting event, movies or a play and then go together. You can also make a coupon book. Use your imagination. Coupons for babysitting are perfect in homes with young children. Coupons for hugs are welcome everywhere! Or, why not write a letter or poem to a special person to let them know just how special they are to you? You don’t have to be Shakespeare to put words together that describe your feelings. Sometimes it’s a simple note from the heart that is most precious.

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Give a gift of remembrance. Gifts that help us to remember this holiday — and the people we are sharing it with — don’t have to be big and extravagant to be appreciated. Special ornaments make good gifts, and you don’t have to choose the most expensive. If you can sign and date the back of the ornament with a sharp-tipped permanent marker it will bring up happy memories every year. Or, you can make a donation in someone’s honor. A gift that keeps on giving. It could be to their favorite charity, a donation to a zoo, where they could be a “foster parent” to an animal they can visit and enjoy. You can even plant a tree for your loved one.

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While watching the “Notorious” film on HBO, I was intrigued by not only the story which, I thought that I knew already like so many others of my generation, but also by how clear his relationships were with the women in his life. The Faith Evans and Lil Kim storyline was extremely telling. Kim and B.I.G seemed to have had a connection, she knew him before he was famous yet he choose to marry Faith Evans after only knowing her for a short time. When Kim said “Why her and not me?” I felt her pain.

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There are many theories on why men commit to marriage, but the way that these differences were illustrated made it crystal clear. Paying attention to how they both solidified the terms of their relationship early, will show the lessons for all single women. Here are top 5 relationship don’ts that I noticed:

1) Make him work for it: When you meet a man on a Tuesday afternoon then have sex with him by Tuesday evening; you should really check yourself.  Again, if you make it too easy he will never respect, cherish and adore you. Ex: When they met and he was standing on the corner; they have sex that day and then she asked him after, “Are you seeing anyone?” That’s just clearly, being too easy 101!

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2) Have your own: There has to be something said for having your own career. Ex: Faith did not need B.I.G to put her on, she had a record deal before him. 

3) Curb your mouth: You can not say whatever you want in the heat of an argument and think it’s okay. Yeah, Kim was sassy and that’s cute to a certain point. Ladies we have to stop taking pride in being able to bring a man to his knees with our words. Ex: When she was in the recording booth and announced that they had oral sex, in front of all of his friends and colleagues– not a good look. Respect him and yourself.

4) Never let a man keep you in limbo: They decide nothing; if he has not committed to you the way that you need him to be then walk away, dignity in tack. Ex: Faith stopped while saying their wedding vows and said “don’t say it if you don’t mean it,” when the preacher got to part about being faithful. She let him know that monogamy was important to her.

5) Be Consistent: Faith made him commit but then she was not consistent, as evident in her book. Ex: she describes how he cheated and they went back and forth in their marriage.       

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There are some men that have so much sensual energy, it transcends time. When I think of my list of old guys ‘that can get it,’ there is one man that is always at the top of the list, Billy Dee Williams. He is and always will be my old boyfriend — in my head.  “Old” is a relative term, so for the purpose of this story, we will say that anyone that is 20 years your senior is old. Of course we are talking about consenting adults only and, as always, know thy self and use condoms.

It’s No Judegment Friday so here are the 3 Rules For Having Sex With An Old Guy.

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1) Don’t ask too many questions: Old people have no patience, so keep the questions to a minimum. This is your chance to learn, take notes so that you can instruct future lovers. He will help you figure out what makes you truly happy.

2) Prepare to be turned out: And turned out to the 10th degree, this is such a good lesson that it bares repeating–you will get turned out! Just be ready to climb the walls, but you won’t be able to come back for more right away. He may not be able to give you as many rounds as a youngster, but when he does step up to bat it will be a great game.

3) Follow his lead: You know the older generation cannot take too much back talk– you will have tons of fun!

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There is something about the way these people talk, we have met one–a liar! They have the best stories and most of them could be novelist the way that they carefully craft the details of their life in an effort to, I guess be more interesting. You are intrigued by the lifestyle and taken in by the interesting and exciting, new person in your world. But do not allow yourself to be pulled into their universe because that road only leads to disappointment.

A pathological liar is usually defined as someone who lies incessantly to get their way and does so with little concern for others. Pathological lying is often viewed as coping mechanism developed in early childhood and it is often associated with some other type of mental health disorder. A compulsive liar is defined as someone who lies out of habit. Lying is their normal and reflexive way of responding to questions. Compulsive liars bend the truth about everything, large and small. For a compulsive liar, telling the truth is very awkward and uncomfortable while lying feels right , according to truthaboutdeception.com

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There were signs that this was not an honest person but you weren’t paying attention so here is a recap.

1. No stories are too elaborate: Look, most people have elaborate things happen to them occasional, but no one but ‘Sasha Fierce’ has a fabulous life all of the time. These people never really connect the dots and/or introduce you to “key players” in their skims because all of this is a figment of their imagination.

2. They get annoyed if you ask questions: When people volunteer information, then you ask questions to clarify and they seem bothered– that’s a red flag. When someone is telling the truth they will answer questions willingly.

3. There is no one who can verify this “truth”: If a person never has an alibi for whatever story they have made up. Just walk away because a liar will never stop!

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There are many, many people who will be expecting holiday gifts from you this season and that list may also include co-workers. According to Mahalo.com there is proper etiquette for workplace gifts, here are the top 5 rules.

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1. Set a spending limit. You don’t need to break the bank buying gifts for your co-workers. You want to give a “token” of your appreciation. Expensive gifts can also make your co-workers feel uncomfortable as their meaning can be misconstrued by the recipient and other co-workers.
2. Do not give items that are too personal. Don’t give clothes, toiletries or perfume. Even if you’ve got a massive crush on your cubicle neighbor, now is not the time to express it. Don’t make anyone feel uncomfortable. Keep your gifts professional.
3. Don’t give the boss anything expensive. You don’t want to give your boss anything that will look like you’re trying to curry his or her favor. Your boss also knows how much you make. He or she isn’t expecting a bottle of Cristal. A nice note, a book or a gourmet food item will suffice.
4. Don’t disobey organizational rules. Some larger corporations actually have rules about gift-giving. They either set limits on the amount that can be spent on gifts or disallow it altogether. If you’re not sure whether your offices has rules about gift-giving, consult your HR department.
5. Give gifts to close friends outside of the office. If you have a special bond with a co-worker and want to give him or her a more personal gift, do it outside of the office. Keep your personal relationships and feelings in a personal space.

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As women we all want to “preserve the sexy,” at all cost. One day, you will have to become “a human being” in your relationship with bodily functions and all; I know it sucks–right! If not, there will be a time when the lights are low and sex is in the air then, BAM, something creeps out –literally. There is no where to hide, so you envision being caught in a bear trap and gnawing off your left ankle, which has to be less painful than the embarrassment you feel at that very moment. You need to escape with a mad dash, anywhere –away from there, while your boyfriend is probably pretending not to smell anything because the mystery is gone in a big way.

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Every woman has to decide what she is comfortable with in her relationship, although some say that your relationship is not legitimate until the bodily function flood-gates open. I say that timing is everything so here is a chart to help you  try and roll those “unfortunates” out slowly:

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We all have a list of people to buy gifts for, but there are those people that are relatively new to your world. You do not want to leave them out because they are important to you and also you do not want to spend a ton of money either. Check out these gift ideas:

1. The new Co-Worker that you go to lunch with everyday.

• If the two of you frequent Starbucks, or Subway then get them a gift card from any of those places and next time lunch is on you.
• If they love a smoothie from the popular juice bar, get them a mini blender and ice pop maker from: Jamba Juice Smoothie Maker ($19.99)

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2. Your new man that has not gotten the “good stuff” yet.

• If he is a guy’s guy and loves an action movie then get him: 300 Graphic Novel ($24)
• If he is a junk food junkie that can eat a hot dog any time of the day then get him: Pop-Up Hot Dog Toaster ($16.98)
• If he is a hip-hop head that cannot get enough base: Noise Reduction Headphones ($39.95)

3. Your friend’s new born baby.

• Your friend is no longer sleeping, if they try bouncing the baby to put them to sleep so get them: Bounce-A-Bye Baby (59.95)
• They have no time for anything, even thank you notes so you go over there and do it for them using: Blue Baby Diaper & Bottle Thank You Postage stamps ($19-$21)

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Sometimes the ones that we love most are far away whether it is due to military service, school or work. When your man is not there, you miss him and the need to reconnect on a sexual level grows. Worry no more, try a sexy e-mail. How many times have we heard the phrase men are visual? That is a true statement, so here are some steps from eHow.com to craft your own sultry email that will leave your man wanting you even more:

Step 1: Let go of any inhibitions about expressing your sensual side through writing. Try not to over think your email. Sexy isn’t about sounding a certain way. You want to avoid clichés and make the email sound natural.

Step 2: Think about a specific romantic time in your relationship. Describe your feelings at that time. Re-create the date so your partner remembers the mood and emotions.

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Step 3: Write about what you want to do with your partner. Tell your lover that you can’t wait to meet up and then depict your next meeting. Talk about the physicality of your relationship and what you love about being intimate.

Step 4: Include romantic messages about your love for your partner. Be specific and illustrate all the things that make you happy and crazy for your lover. The better the recipient feels when they read the sexy email, the better they feel when they see you again.

Step 5: Reflect upon what your partner finds romantic. You want to appeal to emotions, sexual desires and visually stimulate their sensual side. Use poetry or explicit language depending upon what your lover desires.

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Not every woman needs to climb her way to the top, for some women success is so desired that they will do whatever it takes. They have no shame; and their mama did raise a hoe with lessons like “you gotta use what you got, to get what you want.” Besides, sex is used every hour of every day to exchange value and get things done. Sex is a commodity, like it or not.

If we are talking about two consenting adults that are upfront and honest about their intentions, and both parties are aware of the exchange, then live and let live.  Some will say that these shameless women make us all look bad but I say as long as she makes no apologies, and like Jay-Z said “What you eat don’t make me sh**” As always, know thyself and use condoms.

It’s No Judgment Friday, so here are 3 tips on how to sleep your way up the career ladder?

1) Be able to identify the gatekeepers: These are the people that can get you access to the powers that make the decisions. A true opportunist can size up the work place quickly then she will befriend and/or figure out how to get herself to someone that can get her that raise.

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2) You cannot discriminate when it comes to “the loving”: Your career is your number one priority, not being attracted to your “potential sex partner,” whether he is fat, old, has a hairy back and/or butty is irrelevant. None of these factors should be a deterrent for a true career gal, with few morals who is ready to advance. Just keep your eyes closed, while dreaming of your new corner office.

3) Train and save money: When you get to the position which took you so many hours on your back and/or knees to obtain you can show all (because word will get around– so having thick skin will serve you) that although you “spread it” to get there–you are also intelligent. Yet, if you do not have the job skills, save your money because if that person who “put you on” gets fired then you will be the first to go.  And who knows when your next opportunity will arise?

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As little girls, we all dreamed of our wedding day and the very first step down the marriage path is engagement. To some love is love and it should never be about superficial gestures; Love should be about what is in the heart. That is true but in this society, we like gestures however small or big. The engagement ring is the ultimate gesture and symbol of the love that two people share. It sends a signal to the world that she is spoken for so all other men should fall back.

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The tradition of engagement rings as we currently know it arose in the medieval era, when, in 1215, Pope Innocent III instituted a mandatory waiting period from engagement to marriage. For the first few hundred years in the tradition of engagement rings, only the wealthiest nobles could afford precious stones for their rings, and most engagement rings were simple metal bands. When a larger portion of the population became able to afford rings with precious stones, engagement rings became highly symbolic, many including sets of stones with personal meanings. One popular model featured the birth stones of the engaged couple and each of their parents according to the wise geek.com.

So we are asking, if there is no ring, is there an engagement? Engagement is a symbol to the world of an intent to get married, I say without the symbol the intent is gone. So like Bey said, “if you liked it then you shoulda put a ring.” What do you think?

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It’s the most wonderful time of the year…and the most hectic time of the year. There is just not enough time in a day when it comes to the holiday season, especially when figuring in our everyday schedule and responsibilities. Now we have to remember who to buy gifts for, while trying to stay in budget. There is help out there for the frantic moms and single gal with tons of friends, and events to attend.

1. Walletpop.com: Check personal finance, news and advice on retirement planning, taxes, mortgages, investing and more. Try the Economizer tool, which will help you cut costs, and the Personal Finance tool that will help you save for retirement and stay on that all too important holiday budget.

2. Localendar.com: Here, you can create a personal or group web calendar. You can also publish it in a different language, so everyone can stay on schedule for holiday parties and events.

3. Plasticjungle.com: Here, you can sell unwanted gift cards and also buy gift cards at up to %40 off of the retail price.

4. If you shop online, then when you get to the check-out, you’ve seen the words ‘coupon code.’ How many of us have gotten to the end of our purchase and felt like there was a discount we were missing because of the lack of a coupon code? If you know the name of the item, then type it into Google with the word “coupon.” Or try sites like Ebates.com.

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The holiday season is a time when family and friends get together but if you are living in another state or country away from your family, then this can prove to be difficult because no one wants to be alone for Christmas. Traveling this season has proven to be especially challenging due to the financial climate, so plan ahead. Booking early is key and if you have not done so by today’s date, most of those deals are coming to an end but there is still a bit of hope.

Travel by train: Train fares do not change much based on need but the fares will vary based on the date. Go to Amtrak.com where you can view the weekly deals sections.

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Travel by bus: Bus fares do not change much based on need or time of travel like airline flights.

• If you book on-line a day, in advance on greyhound.com you can get a fare for up to %50 off.
• If you look at local bus services in your area that provide deals, like Chinatown bus in the Northeast or California shuttle in California for local frequently traveled routes.

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Travel by plane: Plane fares are the hardest to get a discounts on because the holiday season is when the airline industry makes the most money. The industry has even added a $10 fee for holiday travel in addition to the $20 per bag fee for more than one piece of luggage therefore, make sure that you travel light.

• If you travel early on Christmas morning then you will see a considerable discount.
• Call and speak to an actual live person on the phone, as long as you are not assessed a fee for the operator, that person can really help guide you toward the best deal that fits your needs, try sites like Expedia.com.
• If you pay luggage fees on-line then most airlines offer a discount of up to $5 off.
• When your luggage is being weighed if it’s over, ask to use another scale because an investigation found that 1/8 scales at the airports were wrong.

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Studies show that as we get older our priorities change, those hot guys that have nothing to offer but hot sex on a platter, we see through them right to the core of a big ball of mess. Security equals happiness, so uncertainty in your future partner is a turn off.

We all remember our grandmother saying that relationships work better when the man likes the woman more. The theory behind this school of thought is that women take the relationship with us everywhere that we go and men do not. A common example: When a woman sees a man wearing a shirt that she likes she thinks, ‘I wonder if my boyfriend will look good in that?’ When a man sees a woman wearing a shirt that he likes he thinks, “Nice rack.” If you subscribe to this theory then here are the three guys you may want to take another look at, while heading down the dating path trying to end at a relationship:

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The Short Guy:He is smaller then you and hopefully he knows it so he will work harder to win your affections. You will brush him off a couple of times making him work even harder, and the good thing is, men love a chase. Height used to be a deal-breaker but if his Napoleon complex is not too huge, then he could really be a great catch.

Geeky: As long as he has come to grips with the fact that someone finally wants him. Hopefully, he is not in the ”late bloomer stage,” still trying to bed as many women as possible to make up for all of the lost time. The geeks of world can almost always turn into a good relationship if the two of you have similar interests. He may not be into the chase that much because he probably got rejected a lot– so try not to play “The Rules” on your geek–he will run.   

Different Culture/Race: This guy can be so different and so fun. The two of you already are from different backgrounds, so he will almost always be accepting of you for who you are. Once you get over the differences, you can discover how much the two of you have in common.

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The holiday season is the worst time of the year to be single second to Valentine’s Day. It is typically known as a time for family and when you are not attached to another, the feeling of despair and loneliness is magnified. There are many people who choose this time to drown themselves in their sorrows and others who choose to be proactive. All hope is not lost and I say that this is the prefect time to get –Mister Right now. Here are three guys that will cover all of your needs this holiday season:

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Winter boyfriend: Everyone needs someone to snuggle with, this is where having a winter boyfriend handy will help. He just needs to be hot, hot and more hot. Also he must love to cuddle, and know how to make you “happy” while laying down. He does not need to be smart or interesting; this is just a seasonal position.

Resume Boyfriend- He looks good on paper and knows all of the right things to say and when to say them, while at your office holiday party. He is intelligent and polished and the two of you look like a great couple on paper. Your relationship could have potential if his ego did not fill up the room. He does not need to be hot or cute; he’s just for events.

Gay Boyfriend:  The main stay for any and every single girl. This is the guy that will get you out of the house,  help you find a sexy outfit– always. The only problem is he will drop you instantly if his boyfriend calls.

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There are some that choose not to discriminate when it comes to “the loving” and that reaches across all lines– even size. Some women say that they love a chubby belly, and once you go fat you can’t go back. Let’s explore: this is a man that is most definitely aware of his size, so he will caress your body like a delicate flower. If you do not mind a little extra sweat, then I am sure that the love making can be pleasurable, just keep a hand towel near by because you are going to need it; and as always, use condoms and know thy self.

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Today is No Judgment Friday so here are some tips on how to make love to a Chubby-Belly man:

Step 1: Love and accept the belly because clothes tend to make men look smaller, so when the clothes come off –brace yourself, there may be even more belly there than you originally thought.  Just breathe and rub the belly, but if you cannot embrace it then move on.

Step 2: Missionary is not an option: The larger party must be on the bottom or the side, whatever your pleasure. The “love parts” can get lost in the blubber so keep positioning in the forefront of your mind.

Step 3: Learn how to cook: He is obviously a foodie, so if you want to keep that man happy and coming back for more, you have to burn those pots too.

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There are many different ways to meet a man and some people are of the belief that men are everywhere. If men are everywhere then the term “it’s hard to meet a good man,” should be over and done with because we can meet them in all places.  Which reminds me of another cliche’ “the good ones are always taken” for now– we will deal with one cliche at a time. If a woman is single it is because of her own doing according to Helpguide.org or maybe she does not realize what signals are being sent out.

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Legs and arms crossed: This says that you are closed off. Always Be Conscience of Your Body: Try to feel sexy instead, wear something that makes you feel sensual, maybe your favorite bra or panty. Sexiness is in the head.

Unpleasant look on your face: This says that you are upset and/or have a bad attitude. Nobody wants to deal with an ice queen and you look unapproachable. Always Try To Be Pleasant: When you are out in public try to look happy, maybe not bubbling over with joy, but friendly.

Always With Friends: This is down right intimidating, if men are expected to make the first move it will be easier to meet someone if you are by yourself. Go Out Alone: Every once in a while take yourself out for a night in the town; you will see how many more people you encounter.

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We are at the beginning of the holiday season and that means spending time with family and friends at events and parties. For some people the holiday season is a reminder of the loneliness, anxiety and sadness.  These symptoms can lead to depression, which an estimated 33 to 35 million U.S. adults are likely to experience at some point in their lives.  The disease effects men and women of all ages, races and economic levels. However, women are at a significantly greater risk than men to develop major depression.

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Many women say that  not attending parties, decorating, shopping or giving presents due to their depression. They also report that drinking too much and said stress and anxiety – not family, gifts or holiday cheer — were the first terms that came to mind when thinking about the holiday season according to the website depression-guide.com

The site featured a survey that “shows that there are many women who unnecessarily suffer from depression during the holidays,” says Amy Niles, president of the NWHRC.” The good news is that there are things you can do to help prevent feeling this way:

• Careful Planning: Trying to be super mom especially when doing things at the last minute is sure to drive anyone to drink. So learn to say ‘No’ when necessary, plan days and events accordingly also learning the art of delegating responsibilities will be extremely helpful.
• Regular Exercise: Exercise releases endorphins which can naturally make an individual feel better.
• Volunteering: When we help others it can take the focus of off our own lives and it gives a greater sense of purpose.
• Seek Help: Support from loved ones and treatment by a health-care professional can help individuals overcome depression and enjoy the holidays.

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By now we have all heard about the couple that crashed the first State dinner at the White House. The problem is not that they crashed the State dinner, the problem is that they could not keep it to themselves so they had to post the photos on Facebook. Here are five tips on how to crash a party according to WikiHow.com:

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