Comments on: Can The Independent Woman And The Gentleman Coexist?

By: Rose712

Rose712 — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 19:03:16 +0000

Great article.

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By: prfctgntlmn

prfctgntlmn — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 12:28:52 +0000

On the contrary Babytonnie and Doing_me74…
What the author points out is something that takes alot of educated career driven couples time to iron out…Submission is a hard dance to learn for both people. Men come into the relationship expecting subservience, women expect passive authority and think submission equates loss of respect, power, and control…
The truth is, submission is a two way street and requires compliance from both sides…Yes, a woman should submit to her man…as long as that man submits to her feelings (pay attention fellas unless you want that early insurance policy taken out on you, lol).

It’s a system of check and balance. Yes let the man take the lead provide the image of he’s the head of the relationship…but people aren’t dumb…they know that if he’s a good man, he won’t make decisions without your input, approval, or compromise. if he doesn’t then he fails you as the man…

So really you have no loss of power or autonomy…but rather you share it to benefit the both of you…

and although the author tells women not to compete…Same goes for men…no need to prove yourself to her…you have her already…However, if you feel the need to pound your chest…be mindful of her feelings and don’t go overboard…(again unless you want that policy taken out on you)…

By: jazzpast

jazzpast — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:45:38 +0000

Co-exist, YES!

Be together in a loving relationship that will lead up to marriage and family, NO!

Read my blog on my page if you want my explanation.

By: jazzwatch

jazzwatch — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 03:51:14 +0000

With great tips like that, maybe there will be more relationships, marriages and kids and not all this hate, drama and unhappiness…..

By: WindChimes

WindChimes — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 01:15:29 +0000

Yes, they can coexist. I know of couples who are on the fast track or are building a future together as a unit. In my opinion, the key is respect, compromise, and to remember a mature woman wants a man, not a boy, and a true gentleman wants a woman who is ladylike, not a competitor as a life partner. Pretty good tips that were listed; even though, some are optional.

By: Eolufemi

Eolufemi — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 01:04:09 +0000

Great topic, unfortunately, the two can co-exist as independent women and gentlemen are defined today.

By: babytonnie

babytonnie — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 00:05:58 +0000

whoever wrote this article seems to have had good intentions but is completely confused about the roles that different people play in their relationships. I don’t think a woman has to be docile and subservient to be able to enjoy a good relationship. All the advice to women seemed to be geared towards her not being competitive or aggressive. We can strive to be the best at what we do together. I can appreciate my man and what he does without my having to be submissive. Personally I don’t run around preaching about my independence because I believe that if a woman is truly independent it shows without her having to proclaim it every five minutes. We need some better writers for these articles.

By: DaintyJen

DaintyJen — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 19:59:17 +0000

of course they can coexist. It isn’t a matter of “bowing down”. All of that bs is just games if your mind works like that, sucks 4 u. Sometimes us females just need to know when to sit down & shut up and let our man be THE man. Let his ego get stroked lol. You ain’t gotta “be a slave” just appreciate him. Same goes for men…

yawn, can we get a better topic?

By: doing_me74

doing_me74 — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 19:48:39 +0000

all of that is bull crap to me all the way. I cant agree with none of this at all that’s I personally well not ceded my power to no one wither man or women.