Being cheated on, we all have been done that way. Here are the reasons they gave you that you may agreed with. All of them are lies. They are showing their narcissist behavior. When someone cheats, it’s because they are selfish, weak minded, self centered individual. Here are their excuses
A We had problems. The problem is the person who cheats. The problem was before you two meet. They were looking for someone to boost their self esteem, so they let you give them your love , spend time with them, and show them affection. When they are over their hurt and regain self esteem they see you as a problem but, the problem is their behavior towards you and the bigger problem is you really love them.So the answer is cheat that makes the problem better for them until they are caught..Then they wonder will you snap and hurt them, or worse. THE PERSON WHO CHEAT IS THE PROBLEM..NO MATTER THE PROBLEM THE PROBLEM IS THE PERSON WHO CHEATS!!!
B It just happened. It NEVER just happens. It’s a planned DECEPTION. They were making calls , sneaking around , late night texting while you sleep and making plans to meet up. Remember it never just happens. They put themself in a position to make it happen. Going to clubs…yes when they go to the club they are planning to cheat. They wait for the right cheat, with the right approach and the right setting to make it happen. So it NEVER just happens.
C .You made me do it. Never let someone tell you that!!!! YOU CAN NOT MAKE SOMEONE CHEAT!!!! YOU CAN NOT MAKE SOMEONE BE WITH YOU EITHER!!! Both are individual choices. They say, you have forced them because you “fussed”. You were fussing because your inner self was telling you the truth about what they were doing and you were catching them in lies. How did you force them to cheat by wanting to spend time? They wanted less time with you so they could cheat. You didn’t trust them and now you see why you shouldn’t had. They wanted your trust to cheat and wanted you to not be suspicious.
D I didn’t know how to tell you it was over. They knew how to ask for sex. Ask you to do their daughter’s hair, ask you to carry on like you been doing. They knew how to ask for money for their childrens’ party, gas money , car note before and after school care etc…. You watch their children, bring them lunch and other things. They knew how to ask you to do what you do, but they didn’t know how to sit down and talk with you about their selfish behavior. They grew apart from you, you didn’t grow apart from them. The knew how to ask you to do what they wanted you to do, but they couldn’t tell you it was over. People who cheat are just selfish individuals who care for nothing but themselves. They never cared for you, ever. They didn’t love you as much as they loved cheating. Its not an accident its not like they tripped over something and they fell into someone or the person feel into them. To cheaters it’s all about them. Things are good when they find it for their own selfish needs. The only way to break a cheater is to leave them. When they realize that they have lost a good woman or man usually they change for the better. Now if you’re out doing the same thing or considering to creep do not complain. This is for those of us that do not cheat. If you cheat when someone cheats on you first instead of leaving you are still just as sorry as they are. When a person cheats leave, that’s what can break them so when they are with the next person they have learned their lesson,if and only if you are a good person. If you take that person back it is a 80% chance they will do it again. They just learned how not to get caught. That’s how you break a cheater you move on with you life do not cheat back on them. You just leave and do not come back. That should be sufficient closure for you. You only need closure from a person when you want them back. Let the cheater go, but do not give up on love because its people who want the love you’re giving. NEVER GIVE UP ON LOVE, just be more observant of the new individual, because those with nothing to hide, will let you see all.
REMEMBER: You can not turn a hoe in to a house wife. She must change on her on and the only way for her to change is when good men leave her to the dogs that she deserves. That woman didn’t become a BITCH! until that sorry dog slept with her.

REMEMBER: You can chain, build a fence, and watch, a dog all you want, he still will find a way to get lose. He must want to stop being that way. That man didn’t become a dog until he was dogged by that sorry BITCH!

At the same time, once you experience being cheated on, you run the risk of becoming conditioned to it. Again, the first time is tough to take, but then you become used to it. Before you realize it, you expect it to happen and you become a doormat to that person, and others after that one. Don’t allow youself to become used to it and don’t allow someone to mistreat.

While it’s true that some cheaters are sorry and do change, most of them don’t. Wish the person well and move on, but don’t be a part of some experiment to find out if the cheater has changed his/her ways. The odds are against you and the person is NEVER worth it.

I know this from firsthand experience. I know how it feels to be cheated on, and how it can regress into an unhealthy situation. LEAVE THE FIRST TIME!!