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Dear Gay Best Friend,
Ok, so, I’m talking to a guy, “Syd,” who I knew for about two years at work. We have always been attracted to each other physically. For some reason nothing ever developed because we were dating other people.
So, now we’ve been “talking” for about two months, and of course we’re having sex. We work in different departments but during the night shift Syd’s department always comes to our floor. I am very close to his co-workers, they constantly brag about how they “cuff girls” and how many girls they had. I never hear Syd talk that way even before we started talking. His co-workers say Syd has “Swag” and, yes, he does have a swag. A couple of people have told me that “Swag” is a smooth player.
I’m so falling for Syd because we get along so great. My friends tell me not to catch feelings for him because I might get my feelings hurt. I know this, but for some reason I am willing to take that risk. Even when I go out with other guys, it’s not the same. All I do is think about Syd. The only thing is we have this tradition where we only see each other either Monday’s or Tuesday’s. I don’t know if I should ask him where this is going because I don’t want to hear an answer that’s not acceptable. I don’t want to lose the friend relationship as well. I don’t know if Syd’s playing games with my heart. I know he has feelings for me, but not as strong as mines. HELP ME!!!. Will it last? Am I wasting my time? Should I bring up the conversation? – Sleeping With My Co-Worker
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Dear Sleeping With My Co-Worker,
Have you ever heard of the phrase, “Don’t s**t where you eat?” If you haven’t, then look it up.
And, as his co-workers, with whom you are close to, have already told you about their name for women they sleep with, honey, you have been “CUFFED.”
Just because you never heard Syd talking this way around you, what makes you think he doesn’t do it when he isn’t around you? Let me tell you something, men do not, and will not let you in on the side talk they have with their boys. Why? Because it’s shop talk. You are not privy to this conversation. As a matter of fact, you are the intended target! And, BAM, you’ve been got.
And, oh, LAWD, why oh why, don’t you pay attention to when people tell you who they are? His co-workers told you he has “Swag.” And, what is the definition you discovered Swag meant – a smooth player. Honey, you’ve been played!
I am even going to go out on a limb as to say, and as R&B singer, Monica, sings so eloquently, “You’s a hoe, you’s a hoe, a sideline hoe.”
I am falling out laughing because of the line you wrote, “We have a tradition where we only see each other Monday’s or Tuesday’s.”
Again, as R&B singer, Monica, sings so eloquently, “You’s a hoe, you’s a hoe, a sideline hoe.”
Girl, what relationship do you have with this man? Seriously? Are you really being serious?
I am going to sum this up, Ms. Sleeping With My Co-Worker, as your co-workers call it, you’ve been cuffed. Syd is playing you, and, no, it will last. Yes, you are wasting your time. You’ve caught feelings and want to turn your booty call into a relationship. I’m sorry, but honestly, it’s not going anywhere. You’re just the chick he’s getting it in with until he meets his new girlfriend. I hope you are using protection while you’re casually sleeping with this man. You don’t know him like you think you do. Stop sleeping with him before you become the stalker at work. YIKES! – Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend
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