Stephen A. Smith has once again drawn the ire of the public by saying women shouldn’t provoke domestic violence in his defense of Ray Rice.
Many people are shocked that the NFL is only making Ray sit out of two games and pay a fine after video of him beating his then-girlfriend at an Atlantic City casino came out.
In a now infamous speech on ESPN’s “First Take,” Stephen shared his opinion that it takes two to tango. Apparently, women should accept some responsibility in their own beatings.
“We keep talking about the guys. We know you have no business putting your hands on a woman. I don’t know how many times I got to reiterate that,” said Stephen, who shared some advice that he’s given women in his family over the years. “Let’s make sure we don’t do anything to provoke wrong actions.”
Simply holding attackers accountable for their actions, is only half of the problem, according to Stephen.
“I think that just talking about what guys shouldn’t do [is wrong]. We got to also make sure that you can do your part to do whatever you can do to try to make sure it doesn’t happen,” Stephen said, addressing women watching the show. “I don’t think that’s broached enough, is all I’m saying. No point of blame.”
Women and victims of abuse collectively cringed at Stephen’s statements, but his co-worker Michelle Beadle refused to hold her tongue. She let him know exactly how she felt about his advice that women be more careful in how they interact with men.
So I was just forced to watch this morning’s First Take. A) I’ll never feel clean again B) I’m now aware that I can provoke my own beating.
— Michelle Beadle (@MichelleDBeadle) July 25, 2014
I was in an abusive relationship once. I’m aware that men & women can both be the abuser. To spread a message that we not ‘provoke’ is wrong
— Michelle Beadle (@MichelleDBeadle) July 25, 2014
Meanwhile actress Pia Glenn pointed to Stephen that not even taking his advice is enough to keep some men from beating their women.
If only Stephen A. understood that for some of us, every move we make is a “preventative measure.” And yet violence still happens. So….
— Pia Glenn (@PiaGlenn) July 25, 2014
Sadly, Stephen is not the only man to harbor this opinion. In our #YouOKSis conversation with News One, many men exhibited the same attitude that women need to prevent their own abuse and harassment. The concepts of personal accountability and solidarity have been lost on so many.
Not going to entertain a group who wear their lack of respect of their men on their sleeves and pander to racist White feminist. #YouOKSis
— Floyd Waybetter (@JusKeem) July 21, 2014
Just been told if women don’t like being harassed, they should stay at home. This is in a real life, face-to-face convo. #YouOKSis 😔
— Nimo (@ZuriNomad) July 20, 2014
Even outside of the #YouOKSis conversation, some men have even gotten a laugh out of domestic violence, as Feminista Jones highlighted in a post on her Twitter page earlier today.
Fantasies of beating Black women… http://t.co/9mdo0HHudb
— #RememberRenisha (@FeministaJones) July 26, 2014
Also On HelloBeautiful:
Celebs Tweet Their Thoughts About #JusticeForSandraBland
1. Jesse Williams
#SandraBland's treatment while attempting to travel freely on HER public roadways has been acknowledged as unlawful. She is already dead.
2. Taraji P. Henson
"SAY HER NAME #SandraBland"
3. Ava DuVernay
"'Why are you arresting me?' Because you know your rights. Because I can. Because no one'll believe you. #SandraBland"
4. Kim Kardashian
#WhatHappenedToSandraBland We need answers!!!! This is NOT ok! This is all shady! They need to own up to this & tell the truth!
5. Jussie Smollet
"A loss 4 words. #SandraBlandMatters #BlackLivesMatter 👈🏿tell me this should change once the nation shows that we do. "
6. Snoop Dogg
🙏🌹. Sandra. Rip. 🌹🌹
7. K. Michelle
R.I.P to this queen. This could've been any of us. My prayers go out to her family. #sandrabland https://instagram.com/p/5fvlO_AhCf/
8. Gabrielle Union
SAY HER NAME!!! #SandraBland #SandraBland #SandraBland #SayHerName
"We must get to the cause of #sandrabland death because this CANNOT happen again #deathorfreedom"
10. David Banner
"When will we fight back. A man's duty on earth is to protect women and children. Where are the gangsters? Preachers? We need you. Please."
11. Nicki Minaj
"Rest In Peace #SandraBland"
12. Talib Kweli
"We the people ask @LorettaLynch to investigate #SandraBland #KimberleeRandleKing RETWEET "
Signs. Signs. Signs all around us. The Message is Here. #SandraBland
14. Missy Elliot
"When I look at the #SandraBland traffic video it brings so many emotions😳😢😡😡😤!"
15. Jessie J
"God bless your soul Sandra | #sandrabland | Change needs to come |Justice needs to be served | Heart… https://instagram.com/p/5fV79mQ0aw/ "
16. Jackee Harry
"It's time y'all, it's time.." #SandraBland #BlackLivesMatter
"In memory of #SandraBland these things don't make no kinda sense "
18. Holly Robinson Peete
I really don't look forward to having ANOTHER difficult conversation w my kids tonight...but here we go again😧💔 #SandraBland #SayHerName 😢
19. Jeffrey White
Sadly, doesn't matter by whose hand she died. Unjustified arrested set the outcome in motion. The state murdered her. #JusticeForSandraBland
Sandra could have been your mother, sister, aunt, friend or if she wasn't killed the community outreach advisor A&M. #SandraBland
21. Joan Smalls
"My heart is broken. Sending my deepest condolence to her family and friends. May you find Strength, Peace and Justice. When will this stop? #EqualityForAll #RIP #Why #SayHerName
22. Gladys Knight
Sandra Bland.... #SayHerName #SandraBland
23. Cara Delevigne
Things need to change NOW #SANDRABLAND #Justice #Equality
24. Meek Mill
"Rip to that young lady that lost her life about a traffic stop! 🙏 ima make sure I pray for her and her family! 🙏😄😄😄"