22-year-old Elliot Rodger went on a killing spree in Isla Vista, California over the holiday weekend. By now, you’ve heard about this mass murdering where Rodger killed six people. Rodger’s murderous rampage was fueled by his disdain for the women who have rejected him sexually since puberty. I wish this wasn’t true, but Rodger claimed he couldn’t handle rejection and decided to “annihilate” the women who he claimed denied him of a happy life.
Obviously Rodger was a violent misogynist. Several of his cryptic videos detail his hate for women, especially beautiful ones who are either hanging out with someone of a different race or those who have given their attention and affection to men who aren’t him. The videos and 147-page manifesto are not only creepy, but they’re telling. Although Rodger is obviously an extreme case, his sense of male sexual entitlement resonated widely with women.
Social media erupted around this tragedy, including several tweets explaining that “not all men” behave or take rejection in the same way that Rodger did. These tweets sparked a #YesAllWomen hashtag at the capable fingertips of @gilgedspine. Through this powerful hashtag, women shared everything from stories of inappropriate workplace behavior to reports of rape.
As expected, some men didn’t like women speaking their minds in such a vulnerable and open way, and ended up threatening @gildedspine, who ended up locking her account as a result of their hateful tweets. Well doesn’t that prove the point of the hashtag.
In a video Rodger recorded and posted on before he set out to open fire, he said, “Girls, all I ever wanted was to love you, be loved by you. I wanted a girlfriend. I wanted sex, love, affection, adoration.” While many people may dismiss Rodger as crazy, his actions prove that laughing or shrugging the seriousness of misogyny and violence against women is the wrong thing to do. “Dismissing violent misogynists as ‘crazy’ is a neat way of saying that violent misogyny is an individual problem, not a cultural one,” feminist blogger Melissa McEwan tweeted.
Journalist, Britni Danielle said it best, “Whenever conversations about misogyny, violence, and sexism come up women are often told that while some men may be abusive, ‘not all men’ are. And while this is true, women are still harassed, murdered, and attacked–around the world—by men every single day.” The sickest and saddest part of this entire tragedy? Rodger thought that his happiness was worth the slaughter of multiple people. He complained heavily about other people’s happiness in relationships and how women were to blame for him being a virgin. He actually thought that this was the world’s problem too!
Rodger was known to post on a site called PuaHate and one of his messages displayed his desire to eradicate feminism and he eerily wrote, “Start envisioning a world where WOMEN FEAR YOU.” Now after his death, Rodger’s guaranteed that girls all over America will think twice before rejecting an admirer now. In a sick way, Rodger’s mission was accomplished.
However, we are powerful creatures and the #YesAllWomen is a strong start to combating violent misogyny. I am in love with these tweets. Please do yourself a favor and read up and share. A conversation is fertile breeding ground for an issue that surrounds women and cultivates fear and anxiety. Let’s keep it going! @Rhapsodani Let’s find the breakthrough in this breakdown.
An excerpt from Rodger’s last video:
“For the last eight years of my life, since I hit puberty, I’ve been forced to endure an existence of loneliness, rejection and unfulfilled desires, all because girls have never been attracted to me. Girls gave their affection and sex and love to other men, never to me.
“I’m 22 years old and still a virgin, never even kissed a girl. And through college, 2 1/2 years, more than that actually, I’m still a virgin. It has been very torturous.
You girls have never been attracted to me. I don’t know why you girls aren’t attracted to me but I will punish you all for it. It’s an injustice, a crime because I don’t know what you don’t see in me, I’m the perfect guy and yet you throw yourselves at all these obnoxious men instead of me, the supreme gentleman. I will punish all of you for it. [laughs]
“On the day of retribution, I am going to enter the hottest sorority house at UCSB and I will slaughter every single spoiled, stuck-up, blond slut I see inside there. All those girls I’ve desired so much. They have all rejected me and looked down on me as an inferior man if I ever made a sexual advance toward them, while they throw themselves at these obnoxious brutes.
“I take great pleasure in slaughtering all of you., You will finally see that I am, in truth, the superior one, the true alpha male. [laughs] Yes, after I have annihilated every single girl in the sorority house, I’ll take to the streets of Isla Vista and slay every single person I see there.”
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1. 1. Play With A Puppy
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2. 2. Get Less Sleep
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3. 3. Play Peekaboo With A Kitten
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4. 4. Become A Drummer
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5. 5. Walk It Out
Taking a walk is often used to relieve stress, but little do you know, fresh air does wonders for the brain. It energizes and uplifts!
6. 6. Smile
Turn that frown, upside down! We all know it takes more muscles in your face to frown than it does to smile. Research proves that the physiology of smiling actually makes you happy. Go ahead. Try to smile and see if notice a change in your mood.
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8. 8. Listen To Music
Music has a way of creating a cocoon of positivity around you. Tune out and tune into some of your favorite songs. Get lost in the melody, lyrics and soothing tunes and you'll feel better in no time.
9. 9. Volunteer
Taking yourself out of the picture and focusing on helping someone else keeps your own stress down to a minimum. Nine times out of 10, you realize that people have it worse than you, and that allows you to put your own troubles into perspective. It could always be worse.
10. 10. Get You Some
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11. 11. Laugh A Little
Nothing says good mood like a healthy and hearty laugh! Making sure giggles are inserted into your day is a bonafide way of just letting it go.
12. 12. Get A Massage
By adding therapeutic massage to your routine now, you'll feel, look and simply be healthier. In fact, stress relief alone can improve your vitality and state of mind.
13. 13. Take A Deep Breath
When you're feeling frantic, you should stop, close your eyes and refocus your breathing pattern. Shift your breathing and take longer breaths. This will soothe your nerves, send oxygen to your brain and refresh your mind.
14. 14. Press Your Palms
In case you can't afford massages, give yourself one! Start with your hands, focusing on pressing the thumb from your opposite hand on the fleshiest part of your palm and firmly kneading in tiny circles and repeat.
15. 15. Let Them Eat Chocolate
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16. 16. Beautify Your Surroundings
Nothing says happy like looking around and catching all the beauty that's around you. Taking pride in your personal space and keeping it beautiful, makes your mood beautiful. And if that fails, surround yourself with Idris Elba.
17. 17. Stretch
Stretching a few times throughout the day stand up stretch out your arms, your back, your legs, and your neck. Be gentle and don’t over do it. Stretching should feel great and renew your energy.