Online dating is no longer one of those scary and foreign things that people avoid like the plague. These days, 33 percent of couples have met online and that number is steadily increasing. Sometimes it can be as easy as physical attraction, then the attraction grows over time from communicating online and boom, you’re meeting, ready to get married and start a family.
However, it’s not always that easy. Some people can’t even get any prospects. Why? Mostly because their profile photos suck! You never get a second chance to make a first impression and if you’re online, that impression lives on forever. In case you’re in need of some assistance in regards to taking the perfect profile photo, we’ve got you covered.
Here’s a brief rundown of some of the most top most disastrous mistakes people make when selecting their profile shot:
- Distractions: Does your photo look photoshopped? If it’s clear that your photo has been doctored or a companion cropped out, it’s an immediate turnoff. Online dating demands some semblance of technological capability, so having a badly-edited photo means that you’re either digitally incompetent or that you’re just lazy. Either way, there is a low no one is clicking through to that profile. Same goes for the tiny photo of you next to the Leaning Tower of Pisa. You probably think that it makes you seem worldly and well-traveled, but it doesn’t matter because nobody can see you.
INSTEAD: Try a free photo editing/sharing app like Instagram or Photostream to enhance photos on your mobile devices before you upload them to your profile. If you like scenery in your photos, take a more candid selfie-style photo (See: Selfie Screw-ups below for safety tips) and make sure your head is the primary object of focus, with the scenery in the background. Don’t use the world’s beauty to overwhelm your image; use it to enhance/complement it.
- Selfie Screw-ups: I always wonder why people are so set on the selfie. To me, it is a very high-risk/low-reward photo option. The benefit – getting a decent photo of yourself at your own convenience – is understandable, but when it comes to profile photos, there are few things worse than a bad selfie. Our survey data suggest some of the worst selfie mistakes include:
- Shirtless Guy: This macho strategy backfires more often than you think. This photo style implies that your best quality is your body or that you are full of yourself, and if that’s true, why should anyone read any further? The shirtless photo basically says “this is it.” (Even worse if you are shirtless and wearing a hat)
- Bathroom scene: Selfies in the bathroom is overdone. It communicates a narcissistic superficial. (Even worse if your phone is in the picture because you took the shot in the mirror, or if you left the toilet in the background – not classy.)
- Sunglasses: Take them off for your profile picture. You may look great in shades, but it’s deceptive and feels as though you’re hiding something. Seeing someone’s eyes gives them a greater feeling of trustworthiness.
- Details Count: As always, be sure to choose a photo that emphasizes your positive qualities, and downplays anything you’re not thrilled about. Just be yourself, smile, and treat your skin well, without caking on the makeup.
- Photos with Others: Your profile picture should really just be you, but if you have to include someone else, be careful that you’re not arm-in-arm with someone else. No one should have to wonder whether you’re truly single before they even meet you – this type of photo reduces the number of potential suitors and increases skepticism. And group photos run the risk of capturing someone’s attention in the hopes of meeting a particularly attractive friend of yours rather than you.
A very special thanks to Eric Schiffer of ReputationManagementConsultants.com for the tips!
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Computer Love: A Single Girl's Guide To Flirting Online
1. We Found Love In A Digital Place
Online dating is now the second-most common way couples meet! 30 to 40 percent of singles are out here in these streets trying out 1,500 + dating sites and apps. So if you're single and don't want to be, stop shunning digital dating! But to avoid spending all your time clicking aimlessly, you need a game plan. And guess who's got your back? I do!
2. Keep Things Light
Flirting or dating, you're not getting married. Keep things light and not-so-serious. Don’t talk about anything that could lead to a serious discussion, unless you’re willing to curb your flirting to talk about the debt ceiling, rape culture or the new #BeBossy campaign. Flirt and have fun.
3. Be The Prize
If a guy posts pics of himself that are obviously trying to turn you on, do the opposite of every thirst bucket that tells them they're hot and bust his chops, but in a cute way. Say something like, "So I guess you're hoping to get a few more emails to boost your ego from that new pic, huh?" Oh and use a smiley. You're automatically in a different category, you're witty and interesting. Winning!
4. Don't Be Lovey Dovey
We all know you're online looking for love. You don't have to broadcast it. This could end flirting pretty quickly if the other person thinks you're moving too fast into love-filled language. Avoid blurting out "I love you" on the basis of several emails and one profile pic. Keep your warm fuzzies in check. It's okay to tell them you think they're lovely, fascinating and beautiful, but avoid the "L" word.
5. Be Yourself
Flirting isn’t any fun when you’re struggling to maintain a made-up persona, so do yourself a favor and just be yourself! The whole purpose is to take this relationship offline and into the real world. Flirting online grants you the time to be able to plan your responses--don't do that. You don't want the other person to fall in love with an idea of you.
6. Avoid M-Words Like...
"Motherhood," "Marriage" and "Monogamy." Listen, while all these things are wonderful, you don't want to scare your potential mate away by bringing up subjects that require a greater level of commitment than online dating and flirting requires. These are flirt-killing words! Remember you're online--you still have to find out if he's a "Catfish" or nah!
7. Stand Out From The Crowd
Look for ways to set yourself apart from every other person looking for love online. Think carefully about how you summarize yourself in the profile and with your photos. Pull out the most interesting and true things about yourself to put on your profile. I love seeing lists of random things people like: 1. I skip on Saturdays 2. I only eat the cream in Oreos 3. I never miss an episode of "Scandal." Try that!
8. Don't Snap
Men will be men and they will take things way too far. It's ok to be upset with them when they do so, but don't go off on the poor fool. You may want to tell him that he's crossed the line, but avoid cursing him out, using every profanity you've ever learned, caps and exclamation points.