Even with the ease of a swipe on Tinder or the slew of selections on Grindr, the online dating world can be intimidating for woman, specifically lesbians, who want to find potential mates or fun flings.
“Dattch,” a UK-based online dating app for lesbians looking for love has just been released in the U.S. The app is said to be the first one designed specifically for women, unlike other online dating services like male-focused Tinder and gay male-oriented Grindr. Instead of relying heavily on user’s pictures and awkward 400-word bios, “Dattch” users create Pinterest-like boards that let them show off activities, people and ideas they like (Tyra GIFs, anyone?). CEO Robyn Exton says this model caters to the way women naturally respond to engaging with someone else online.
“Guys will see a picture, send a girl a message and see what happens. Whereas girls will look at a picture two or three times before deciding to send a message,” she says.
When the app started out, profiles consisted of a big picture and a bit of text for a bio. “The conversations that started were terrible,” says Exton. “They were opening with, ‘You look nice’, ‘You have nice eyes,’ etc. And who thinks that’s an exciting thing to reply to?” In response, the app took a much more visual turn.
Exton even says that the app has a similar approach to an Instagram feed, in which you “get a sense of who they are really quickly.” An added bonus is that Exton and her team seem to take user safety seriously, making them validate their Facebook accounts when they join.
It’s refreshing that on online dating service finally allows women to mingle with others based on their interests, not just their looks. Online dating can already be awkward with weird “What-Are-You-Up-To?” and “What-Do-You-Do”? messages, it helps that we could connect on our love for Lucky Charms instead. Let’s keep this going with other online dating apps, please. Death to the creepy exchanges.
'Martin' Taught Me Everything I Need To Know About Love
1. Damnnnn Gina!
As I watched countless reruns of the greatest sitcom of all times, "Martin," I realized that these two lovebirds were the perfect couple. Sure they had their fair share of drama, but the one thing that was constant was their undying and unconditional love for one another. Watching this show as a kid was entertaining, but watching it as an adult opened my eyes to what true love looks like. Here's what I learned.
2. Don't Pretend That Everything Is Fine When You're Losing It
Your significant other is also your support system. If you notice that something's off or just not right with them, support them. Don't let them walk away from you if you can tell they need you.
3. Wait For The Ring If He's Worth It
If you have been with your lover for some time and you feel he or she is the one, wait. Don't rush them into commitment, but also don't have them thinking that you're willing to keep giving them your best years without the ring.
4. Prioritize Your Mate's Wellness
Unless it's an emergency, your mate should not be calling you at work to come and nurse them back to health. But if you value your love's health and they sincerely need you, be there for them.
5. Never Ever Take Off Your Ring To See If You've Still Got It
If you're married, consider that jewelry a permanent part of your left ring finger. There's no reason to take it off to hit on singles to see if you're still hot. None. Leave it on and keep your marriage together.
6. Practice For Better Of For Worse While You're Dating
Those wedding vows should not only be a part of your marriage, they should be a part of your relationship as well. Martin lost his job, needed Gina and she was there for him, even when he was poised to pawn her engagement ring.
7. Keep You Boo's Secrets
Pillow talk is usually where all the secrets come out. Talking to your mate about the things and the people in your life is typical, but you should always make sure your lover understands that those secrets should be kept between you two.
8. Contribute To Your Man's Mental Health
Instead of making your man go crazy, try something different. Try making sure that his sanity is solid and that if he does have a breakdown, you're right there with him, nursing him back to health.
9. A Couple Who Works Out Together, Usually Works Out
Want a dynamic way to spend time together, all while increasing your health and wellness? Try working out together. Let's not forget the endorphins that rush your system after working out. These little guys make you feel good and what's better than feeling good with your boo? Support your boo if they have a lot of fitness. Encourage them by cooking healthy meals or giving fit gifts! http://bit.ly/1finXKZ
10. Stand By Your Man, Even If A Mystery Kid Comes Out Of The Woodworks
Martin's alleged illegitimate son came out of nowhere and Gina immediately decided that she would stay by her man, no matter how it worked out. Even with her mother urging her to leave Martin, she stayed, confronted the baby's mother and even supported Martin when he found out that "Marvin" wasn't his.
11. Be Your Lover's Best Friend
You should always be friends with your significant other first. That means trying some of the things they're interested in and vice versa. Discovering one another's hobbies is a fun way to bond.
12. Make Sure Your Relationship Isn't Based On Just Sex
Sexual chemistry is a component of a healthy relationship, but it's not the only thing. Your lover should be your best friend and the cherry on top is that you get to sleep with them. Get to know your lover beyond the sheets; it makes for more fun in the relationship.
13. Don't Let It Bother You If She Makes More
Martin couldn't stand it when he found out Gina made more money than him. These days, women are setting a different tone by breaking barriers in the workplace, often making equal, if not more pay than men. This shouldn't be a make or break in your relationship. Look beyond the paycheck and celebrate your boo for being a boss!
14. Defend Your Woman's Honor
Gina might have come into the high school reunion looking like who did it and why, but even though Martin was embarrassed about her appearance, he realized that the discombobulated Gina was the love of his life and he wasn't treating her with respect and wasn't letting his classmates clown her. Take notes--always treat your boo with the utmost respect and be ready to have their back, no matter what.
15. Let Your Man, Be A Man
No matter how crazy his ideas get, support him on it and let him learn his lesson the hard way. Sometimes a man just gotta be a man and that might mean that their ideas will get them hurt. Don't laugh at them. Support them. And in case their head gets swollen from their bad ideas, be there to ice it.
16. Meeting The Parents
Always be yourself when you're meeting your significant other's parents. Putting on a forced representation of yourself doesn't help. If you plan on being around for the long haul, you may as well let them get to know the real you without being outwardly rude or crass. And like Martin, you should never let your significant other's parents belittle you. Stand up for yourself, but keep it cute.
17. Don't Try To Change Your Significant Other
Gina was known for being the most "cultured" in the relationship. When she gifted Martin with an sculpture of a booty, she was trying to get him to appreciate art. Martin only saw the joke in it and his belittling of Gina's gift--dividing them. You need to love your lover for who they are and not try to change them. You can grow together, but leave the changing to them...if that's what they want to do.
18. Fight For Your Man, When He's Right
Gina did not like Martin talking to his old, hot teacher, Miss Trinidad. She knew that something was going on and didn't trust him, but once she took some time to think it over, she realized Miss Trinidad wanted Martin and then came to his side and took her aggression out on Miss Trinidad. She admitted her faults and let Martin know that she would always fight for her man.
19. Never Make Your Lover Feel Less Than
No one is asking you to be blind, but there should be no reason that when your lover is in the room, that you notice someone else and obsess over their looks. Do not over-admire when your love is in your presence.