How We Met: Joy Adaeze
I was a freshman at Rutgers University and had signed up to be on the dance troupe for an African organization called Twese. On the first day of rehearsal, I met Obi. My first impression of him was that he was cute, with a nice smile and body. We crossed paths again a year later when we were both models for the Twese fashion show. Since Rutgers was such a big school, we didn’t run into each other much but when we did, it was always cool chatting. We hung out a couple times just as friends, since we were both in other relationships at the time.
A year after we graduated, in the Summer of 2008, we ran into each other at a mutual friend’s BBQ. It was the craziest thing. I wasn’t even going to go since I didn’t have a ride. I ended up catching a ride with a friend last minute. At the BBQ, I ran into a bunch of people from Rutgers. It was like a mini reunion! I noticed Obi glancing in my direction from across the room and then he walked over. We talked and I gave him my number — just as friends. We hung out that summer: went to church together, brunch, movies — it was all really fun and cool. Obi and I had so much in common: we shared similar goals and thoughts on success. We would talk on the phone almost every day and share personal development books we were reading. We were in similar paths in life — I had studied pre-med in school and wanted to go into fashion styling. He studied engineering and wanted to be a life coach. Six months passed, and we fell in love!
Obi is my best friend and he truly knows me better than anyone. We share a very special bond. He has all the qualities I ever wanted in a man and he has the most beautiful heart. Plus, he’s Nigerian, just like me! We were both born in the US. I truly believe God brought us together.
We’d been dating for 5 years. I can’t even believe how the time has flown! Last year, our conversations about marriage got more serious and we both decided this year would be a great time to get engaged.
On Valentine’s Day, I was busy with work — I styled a client and updated my style blog, JoyLovesFashion.com. The week before, Obi mentioned he had made reservations at The Sea Grill in Rockefeller Center. He got home and surprised me with a dozen pink roses, a cute card and my favorite chocolate: Ferrero Rocher. So sweet! We headed out to dinner, which was great and we had a wonderful time. Afterwards, we left and went outside near the skate rink. Obi said he wanted to take a picture by the gold statue. I was like, “Sure, sounds fun”. Still not thinking anything! We took a pic and then all of a sudden, he said, “I got you another card.” He handed me a silver envelope. The card read: “To My Wife”. I was in awe! Then I opened it and he had written: “Will You Marry, Me?”. I was soo happy and tears just started streaming down my face. Obi got on one knee and popped the question. I said “YES”! I will never forget that moment : ).
NEXT: Check out his story and the ring!
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Celebs Tweet Their Thoughts About #JusticeForSandraBland
1. Jesse Williams
#SandraBland's treatment while attempting to travel freely on HER public roadways has been acknowledged as unlawful. She is already dead.
2. Taraji P. Henson
"SAY HER NAME #SandraBland"
3. Ava DuVernay
"'Why are you arresting me?' Because you know your rights. Because I can. Because no one'll believe you. #SandraBland"
4. Kim Kardashian
#WhatHappenedToSandraBland We need answers!!!! This is NOT ok! This is all shady! They need to own up to this & tell the truth!
5. Jussie Smollet
"A loss 4 words. #SandraBlandMatters #BlackLivesMatter 👈🏿tell me this should change once the nation shows that we do. "
6. Snoop Dogg
🙏🌹. Sandra. Rip. 🌹🌹
7. K. Michelle
R.I.P to this queen. This could've been any of us. My prayers go out to her family. #sandrabland https://instagram.com/p/5fvlO_AhCf/
8. Gabrielle Union
SAY HER NAME!!! #SandraBland #SandraBland #SandraBland #SayHerName
"We must get to the cause of #sandrabland death because this CANNOT happen again #deathorfreedom"
10. David Banner
"When will we fight back. A man's duty on earth is to protect women and children. Where are the gangsters? Preachers? We need you. Please."
11. Nicki Minaj
"Rest In Peace #SandraBland"
12. Talib Kweli
"We the people ask @LorettaLynch to investigate #SandraBland #KimberleeRandleKing RETWEET "
Signs. Signs. Signs all around us. The Message is Here. #SandraBland
14. Missy Elliot
"When I look at the #SandraBland traffic video it brings so many emotions😳😢😡😡😤!"
15. Jessie J
"God bless your soul Sandra | #sandrabland | Change needs to come |Justice needs to be served | Heart… https://instagram.com/p/5fV79mQ0aw/ "
16. Jackee Harry
"It's time y'all, it's time.." #SandraBland #BlackLivesMatter
"In memory of #SandraBland these things don't make no kinda sense "
18. Holly Robinson Peete
I really don't look forward to having ANOTHER difficult conversation w my kids tonight...but here we go again😧💔 #SandraBland #SayHerName 😢
19. Jeffrey White
Sadly, doesn't matter by whose hand she died. Unjustified arrested set the outcome in motion. The state murdered her. #JusticeForSandraBland
Sandra could have been your mother, sister, aunt, friend or if she wasn't killed the community outreach advisor A&M. #SandraBland
21. Joan Smalls
"My heart is broken. Sending my deepest condolence to her family and friends. May you find Strength, Peace and Justice. When will this stop? #EqualityForAll #RIP #Why #SayHerName
22. Gladys Knight
Sandra Bland.... #SayHerName #SandraBland
23. Cara Delevigne
Things need to change NOW #SANDRABLAND #Justice #Equality
24. Meek Mill
"Rip to that young lady that lost her life about a traffic stop! 🙏 ima make sure I pray for her and her family! 🙏😄😄😄"