This is three-year-old Kylie. Adorable, right? Her parents submitted this beautiful photo of her to a popular natural hair site with the hopes of broadcasting their daughter’s beauty, in turn, lifting her self-esteem in a world where Black girls are being called “nappy-headed hoes,” and impressive Black girls like Gabby Douglas set golden records by flipping and flying at the Olympics and we’re focused on her tresses instead of her talent and worse–a little Black girl whose hair grows freely is ridiculed because her star-studded parents, Jay Z and Beyonce allow it to do so.
You can’t deny that this photo of Kylie ignites emotion. She warms my heart. I love seeing a little Black girl who clearly knows she’s cute and poses like a grown woman–hand on hip and a smile on her lips. I could even assume she’s sassy. But one emotion Kylie’s photo doesn’t pull out of me is anger and hatred. But those negative emotions are apparent in many of the internet’s biggest bullies and haters. With comments like: “The is not very pretty to keep it honest. The hair is to [sic] nappy and the style not that flattering… I hope that she gets a perm it would improve the texture of her hair,” one wrote. “Really? Cute? Not so much! Put a pretty little light skin [sic] child on the site showing her hair,” you’ve got to wonder…why? Kylie’s father wondered why too and ended up commenting on the natural hair site, defending his daughter with these poignant words:
“What is this world coming to? I am this child’s father. And now with all this negative comments, I have to explain to her siblings why people in the world today speak negative of a three-year-old. Crazy. We’ve got so much going on in this world. Now as a father I have to raise this child and continue to let her know she is and always will be an African American Beautiful child and one day a beautiful black woman. And not to feed into negative comments from her elder sisterhood. You all should be ashamed. I kept my mouth shut and sat back and listened to all of this. I just couldn’t sit anymore. Oh and by the way, keep in mind my little girl will want to see her picture again. Because she feels she is famous for being on a website. And guess what she will see…. Hate from grown women. I will pray for you all. May God bless you all… I thought this was a site to uplift African American Beauties for being Queens and Princesses. Everybody needs to stop and look in the mirror. We all bleed blue as a human race and as sisters and brothers we are one; DARKSKIN, LIGHTSKIN, YELLOW, we are all Kings and Queens and Princesses and Princes so let’s start acting like that.”
Honestly, I can’t tell you how much back and forth I went through before deciding to share this story with you. I have grown weary of our young Black girls being treated like ugly ducklings. But Kylie’s grandmother’s words on MyBrownBaby.com, shook me:
Don’t let offensive brown girl comments slide, or back away from a conversation about our complexes about our skin color and our hair. It may be painful to hear, but that is the only way we will begin to heal, if we have those painful conversations.
So let’s start having these painful conversations. Why do you think society wants little Black girls to hate themselves by perpetuating negative comments, but they spoon-feed us with images of natural Black women like Lupita Nyong’o, Viola Davis and India.Arie? Let’s talk.
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Whip Your Hair: Natural Hair Dolls You Just Have To Buy!
1. Beautiful Dolls
In addition to being a model and businesswoman, Cynthia Bailey has add doll creator to her title. The beautiful real housewife debuted The Cynthia Bailey Modeling Agency doll with a natural 'fro that's absolutely laaaiiddd. But, Cynthia's isn't the only natural hair doll to hit the scene. Here're a few other natural hair dolls that had us excited this year and a few you can even buy for the holidays!
2. Cynthia Bailey
Cynthia Bailey's new doll is reppin' for The Cynthia Bailey Modeling Agency! Rocking a beautiful afro, glam earrings and a funky faux leather jacket, this doll is sure to add spice and attitude to your baby girl's growing doll collection. (Price: $69.99; http://bit.ly/1hm0vfq)
3. Candice McBride
McBride, who is a member of a black natural hair group, helped make over several Barbies with natural hair before handing them out to young girls at Booker T. Washington apartments in Columbus, GA. (For more info, click here: http://bit.ly/18ziq22)
4. For Real Girl Original: Red Yarn Braids
Rachel is one of the funkiest dolls ever and she has the white faux fur to prove it! Get into those red braids. This doll is perfect for the little girl who loves colorful outfits. (Price: $49.99; http://bit.ly/18ziq22)
5. Custom Ethnic Dolls By Karen Byrd: Top Hair Bun Doll
These beautiful dolls are perfect to play dress up with if your little one is into more formal, lavish tastes. (Price: $64.99; http://bit.ly/1bdNZsX)
6. Carolyn of JIL Creations
Doll hairstylist Carolyn of JIL Creations, also known as The Flying Ewe, created a Flikr group featuring this beauty, and many others, that are rocking custom locks and other natural styles that Carolyn rerooted herself. (For more info, click here: http://bit.ly/1c1M0MM)
7. Custom Ethnic Dolls By Karen Byrd: Kinky-Hair Afro Dolls
Let these big-haired dolls give you life! Karen is selling these beauties with or without the part. (Price: $79.99; http://bit.ly/1cB9JQB)
8. Kristl Smith Tyler
The blog, "Beads, Braids and Beyond," published Tyler's amazingly cute tutorial on how to style natural hair on your little girl's favorite doll. The piece is useful for dolls made with nylon hair. She revealed styles that could be made with pipe cleaners and hot water. (Check out the blog here, http://bit.ly/1fFBICv)
9. Custom Ethnic Dolls By Karen Byrd: Urban Princess Leia
We all love a good bun moment, but when it's inspired by one of the most iconic characters in movie history, we can't help but smile. (Price: $64.99; http://bit.ly/1bdNZsX)
10. Custom Ethnic Dolls By Karen Byrd: Vintage Brandy
It's hard to forget the lovely doll Mattel created for Brandy back in the day. Although the doll hasn't been on shelves in a minute, Byrd has it up for sale. (Price: $52.99; http://bit.ly/1bdNZsX)
11. Journey Girls: Chavonne
Baby dolls are a great alternative for younger girls. Chavonne will be a cutie on your mantle piece with her curly hair and sweet bow. (Price: $27.99; http://bit.ly/1kVXd2r)
12. Custom Ethnic Dolls By Karen Byrd: Elegant Updo
This beautiful doll is the embodiment of fierce! Her updo is complete with earrings, heels and a cute dress to match her attitude. (Price: $64.99; http://bit.ly/1bdNZsX)
13. Custom Ethnic Dolls By Karen Byrd: Curly Bun Up-do doll
This is for any young girl who has prima ballerina dreams. This beauty has a lovely white ballerina outfit that your little girl will fall in love with. (Price: $64.99; http://bit.ly/1bdNZsX)
14. Custom Ethnic Dolls By Karen Byrd: Gorgeous Curly Ponytail
Long chiffon dresses are great, but nothing is quite as memorable as plaid, and when it's in a formal setting? Gorgeous. (Price: $64.99; http://bit.ly/1bdNZsX)
15. Custom Ethnic Dolls By Karen Byrd: Auburn Locs
Not many dolls are out here rocking locs, so we're excited that we found this gem in Karen's collection. (Price: $79.99; http://bit.ly/1cB9JQB)