You may not have broken your New Year’s resolution yet—but that’s likely because you just haven’t gotten around to it! If you’re like me procrastination is something that plagues everything that I do–from my personal life to my professional life, I somehow find everything in the world to do other than what I am supposed to do.
So in order to get my life together, I decided to find someone who can help me out, someone who gets paid to help you get your life. That’s where stress expert and founder of meQuilibrium, Jan Bruce comes in. Let her get your life together to and show you how to re-direct your energy to stop procrastinating and get on track to meet your goals.
1. Get to the root cause.
First you have to understand what you’re trying to do and what is holding you back. What feelings crop up when you attempt to write the proposal or have a difficult conversation? What do you fear could happen? What’s the worst-case scenario? For many, perfectionism is to blame—because when held to such a high standard, anything you imagine you could do to accomplish the task will surely fall short. So, you don’t do anything at all.
2. Reward instead of avoid.
If your mood plummets at the prospect of taking action, your tendency is to heal your mood first. This is how you end up in the Facebook vortex. Instead, tell yourself that doing something, anything will yield a reward—later. Think of it as procrastinating the fun stuff.
3. Watch for icebergs.
You have a whole bunch of ideas about how the world works and should work that formed in your head when you were very young—but you’re barely aware of them since they’re sunk below the surface of your consciousness. We call them iceberg beliefs, and they can be a problem because you’re likely unaware of how they’re affecting your thinking.One example of an iceberg belief at play with procrastination is “I should get everything perfect” (sound familiar?). This need to have things a certain way before you take any action will stunt your progress and keep you stuck. How to know you’re dealing with an iceberg? It includes words like “I’ll never” or “I should be.”
4. Change your thinking.
The way you perceive a situation will determine how you respond to it—and ultimately, what you do. What happens to many of us is that we get stuck in thinking traps, or ways of thinking that leave us no way out or forward.If you think, “This project is too hard. I’ll never get it done,” you may be a magnifier and minimizer, making the more challenging aspects of a job way worse, and minimizing the benefits, both of which kill your motivation.SAY THIS INSTEAD: “This is a challenge but doable, and the rewards of even getting started are well worth it.”
If you think, “I could never do this on my own,” or “I’m just never good at this kind of thing,” you’re likely a personalizer or overgeneralizer, which points to low self esteem. Because you don’t believe you are capable of doing it, and you tell yourself that, well, you believe it and your fear becomes your reality.
SAY THIS INSTEAD: “What I’m attempting to do wouldn’t be easy for anyone. Who better than me to take it on?”
If you think, “Nothing ever works out for me,” or “This is always what happens,”then you have an explanatory style; you see situations as unchangeable and if you believed that, well, you can see why you wouldn’t bother attempting to do anything!
SAY THIS INSTEAD: “I know what has happened in the past, but I have no way of knowing what will happen in the future. Nothing’s predetermined. There’s no telling what I am capable of!”
5. Reframe it.
The pain of doing a tough thing now pales in comparison to the pain of regret later if you didn’t even try. Ask yourself, what do you stand to lose by not doing it? How will your life, your career, your relationships suffer as a result of inaction? Remind yourself that it’s not just about how hard this or that task is—it’s about putting real effort into a thing you care about. And I promise you, there’s no better reward than that.
Now go…get your life!
Check Out This Gallery Of Powerful Women You Must Follow On Twitter!
1. 15 Powerful Women To Follow On Twitter
Social media has completely taken over our lives. I've always had a personal opposition against social media, often times claiming that it makes us even more unsocial. However, there is a lot of good in social media that one has to learn how to use for their advantage. The best way to take advantage of social media is to cultivate who you follow. Make sure that who you follow is applicable to your life as well as entertaining. Check out this list of 15 powerful women to follow on Twitter.
2. Erykah Badu
There's just something about Erykah that is beyond hypnotizing. Her tweets bring you into her world of being an artist and a doula. Yes, Erykah tweets about the babies she helps deliver. @fatbellybella
3. Gayle King
Besides being Oprah's best friend, Gayle King is known for being a CBS This Morning cohost and Editor-at-Large for O Magazine. Her take on the entertainment industry is often funny and exclusive! @GayleKing
This woman needs no explaining. Just follow her. @oprah
5. Michelle Obama
Obviously, following the first lady is the first thing you should do on Twitter. Under her new account @FLOTUS, not every tweet is hers, but when you see it signed in "mo, you can guarantee that the first lady is reaching out to you directly. @FLOTUS
6. Christiane Amanpour
As one of the most iconic TV journalists, Christiane Amanpour is a powerful Twitter user. She offers breaking news on global conflicts, and provides unique insights and perspectives to political happenings and world events. You don't even need to follow CNN if you're following Christiane. @camanpour
7. Soledad O'Brien
8. Chelsea Clinton
It helps that Chelsea Clinton is the famed offspring of Bill & Hillary Clinton. But she is also a tireless advocate for a healthy and safe world. As an NBC News Special Correspondent and active member of the Clinton Foundation, Chelsea has immeasurable insight of the world to share. @ChelseaClinton
9. Caterina Fake
Caterina Fake tweets about the latest digital news, technology and her own personal views, passions and interests. @Caterina
10. Zainab Salbi
Zainab Salbi is the founder of Women for Women International and served as the organization's CEO from 1993 to 2011. If you want news, stats and opinions on humanitarian crises, follow her. Oh and you can learn how you can contribute in making the world a better place. Who doesn't love that?! @ZainabSalbi
11. Robin Roberts
This "Good Morning America" news anchor is nothing short of amazing. With her inspirational story as a foundation, follow her entertaining tweets as she hobknobs with celebs and shares inspiring anecdotes from other cancer survivors. @RobinRoberts
12. Mary Grove
Mary Grove is the Director of Google for Entrepreneurs. With a passion for building her community, Mary is constantly tweeting about what's next in technology and business. @maryGrove
13. Maya Angelou
There's nothing but reverence in our hearts for Dr. Maya Angelou. Please follow this poet, educator, historian, best-selling author, actress, civil-rights activist, producer and director for tweets that are always worth retweeting. @DrMayaAngelou
14. Gabby Douglas
We've watched her kick major Olympic gymnast butt, but following Gabby Douglas is nothing like following an obnoxious teen who has more gold medals than you. It's just like following your little sister. Check out Gabby's adorable tweets! @gabrielledoug
15. Donna Brazile
You've definitely seen her byline before. Donna Brazile is a political strategist, contributor to CNN and ABC News, educator, author and more. Follow her tweets for absolutely everything a woman of color could ever care about. @donnabrazile
16. Shonda Rhimes
Other than creating one of the biggest shows to his Black Twitter since...well...anything Tyler Perry put out, Shonda Rhimes is one to follow on Twitter and in life! Her tweets are often inspirational and "Scandal"-related. @shondarhimes