Growing up one thing that was always reiterated to me was that everyone would not like me, plain and simple. Not because there was anything wrong with me but simply because everyone just doesn’t mesh. My mother laid another foundation in me as well that in order have good friends you must also show yourself friendly. Based on the constant argument that Nene has with Porsha it is clear neither of these girls got those lessons as a young lady.
In this week’s episode friendship was a theme and the ladies may need to answer the age old TLC question, “What about your friends? Will they let you down, will they be around or will they turn their backs on you?”
Last week after Porsha decided that she was going to step out on her own and move out of her mother’s place into her own she failed to mention to her new neighbor, Nene that she was coming. During the trip in Savannah she had already been confronted by Ms. Leakes and accused of being a bad friend what better way to confirm the notion by moving in around the corner from her and not dropping a text or giving her a call to let her know. Truth be told Porsha is a wee bit self-absorbed right now and rightfully so. After being dumped via Twitter and put out of her home she probably isn’t too focused on calling Nene to see what her and Greg’s ashy feet are up to.
Let’s be honest as fun as Nene is, Porsha is trying to still figure out if the Underground Railroad had a station in Savannah and if her grandfather knew the conductor. Nene needs to let the former Mrs. Stewart off the hook a little bit on being the best little sister ever, instead she should give her some sisterly advice to move out of that big house where her and her echo live.
Who truly should learn what it means to be a friend is Kenya, clearly she’s a bit mixed up on the rules. Her first infraction was butting into the business of Cynthia, Malorie and the surprise visit. While she wasn’t wrong in her line of questioning the problem with Kenya is that she feels entitled to asking questions regardless if her interrogation is appropriate or not. Sure we all want to know why Cynthia thought it would be acceptable for her sister to stay at her house for two months without consulting her husband but I would hope we’d all know not to bring it up at said sister’s jewelry truck show. To make matters worse Kenya jumps at the first opportunity to confirm Phaedra’s slip up about Porsha living in Nene’s neighborhood. As much as she talks about Porsha being a child and needing to grow up she should learn to take her own advice and stop being so quick to throw someone under the bus for the first inkling of gossip.
As the two most winning women on this show I expect a little more business advice from Kandi and Phaedra to the other ladies. For them to have gone to visit Porsha in her new home means that they failed as friends to keep her from making a poor decision. Porsha has no job, no husband, and is barely holding onto sense but she has eight bedrooms! Mama she made it!
Nene goes on and on about Porsha being a bad friend but the truth is if she was more concerned about helping Porsha get through her difficult time then perhaps she could have convinced her to get a small condo instead of moving across the golf course to play rich. In the end these ladies could all use a lesson in what it means to show oneself friendly because if T-Boz and Chilli want to know anything about these friends the answer is yes they may let you down, who knows if they’ll be around and they may or may not turn their back on you.
Hit me up on Twitter @Hautemommie to discuss your friends – are you a Porsha or a Nene? Let me know! Until we meet again.
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1. Best Reality Show Catch Phrases
As we come to the end of 2013, let's take a look back at some of the best catch phrases we've learned throughout the year from some of our favorite (and least favorite) reality stars! We've even thrown in a few of our favorite catch phrases of all time!
2. "Have several seats."
There's nothing more satisfying that hearing Tamar tell someone to sit down in the flowery way that only she's mastered.
3. "Who gon' check me boo?"
Sheree wins for this phrase, maybe not in life, but certainly for this phrase.
4. "I truly am the HBIC."
As the godmother of ratchet reality, New York will always and forever go down in history as the HBIC!
Momma Dee's misspelling of the word, "B*tch," has got to be one of the best mistakes in the history of mistakes. Bad grammar never looked so good...or...funny.
NeNe is the queen of the catch phrase and everything she says turns into one. "Bloop" has got to be one of the funniest and most versatile phrases of all time.
7. "You better work."
Starting as one of the best lines from his cult classic hit, "Work," RuPaul created a mantra and self-esteem booster in this catch phrase.
8. "I wanna put dem paws on 'em."
Scrappy may have had his own language, but sometimes he used English. Well...sort of. And when he did, we'd get gems like this.
9. "Listen... I Don't Talk To The Help"
"Listen, I don't talk to the help," had to be one of Joseline Hernandez's best one liners from "Love & Hip Hop Atlanta." When she said this phrase to her arch nemesis, Che Mac, implying that she was about as unimportant as the help, I cried from laughing so hard!
10. "You Tried It!"
It's hard to pinpoint exactly when Tamar Braxton gave birth to the phrase, "You tried it," since she uses it in just about every conversation. But let's all thank Tay Tay for introducing us to one of the most useful phrases of this entire year!
11. "I'm his WIFE"
Last but not least, when Amina broke the news to Tara that she was married to Peter Gunz and threw her license on the table for proof!
12. "The time has come, for you to lip sync for your life."
Can I get a big yassssss for Muva RuPaul's infamous warning to the drag queens who didn't quite make the cut. Proving they have what it takes to be in the competition, RuPaul would challenge her "girls" to perform in a battle.
13. "Get out! Guards, guards!"
Another Momma-Deeism! When Mama Dee had enough of Erica, she called her imaginary guards to have Erica and Erica's mother escorted out of her palace.
14. "We're So Close, We're Like Siamese Cats"
You can't help but to love Porsha! Since she was moving out of Kordell's house on "RHOA," she was spending a lot of time with her sister, Lauren. And according to Porsha, her and Lauren are so close that they're like Siamese cats! Oh yes, Porsha, we totally get it!
15. "Shut Up Ugly"
As juvenile as Joseline might have been when she said, "Shut up, ugly," on the "LAHHATL" reunion, it was pure comedic gold!
16. "Change Is A Comin'"
Remember when Momma Dee was so over Scrappy and Erica's relationship and would do anything to sabotage it? She definitely foreshadowed Scrappy and Erica's breakup when she said, "Change is a comin'" because before we knew it, things changed!
17. "Molly The Maid."
"Molly the maid" is probably Joseline's best catch phrase of all time. When Joseline referred to Mimi as Molly the Maid after catching Mimi in her "maid" outfit on "LAHHATL," we knew that Joseline was the queen of witty comebacks and would be a problem this season!
18. "Ain't Nobody Got Time For That"
Tamar can give credit to the hilarious YouTube sensation, Sweet Brown, for introducing her to the phrase "Ain't nobody got time for that!" She certainly made it fab!
19. "I'm Gone With The Wind Fabulous!"
Oh, Kenya Moore. Don't let the Miss USA (or Miss America?) title fool you, because this chick can get down and dirty! On an episode of "RHOA" earlier this year, Kenya debuted this famous phrase accompanied with a twirl before exiting stage left and leaving her cast members quite confused. Congratulations Kenya. You will now always be remembered for being "gone with the wind fabulous."
20. "Twirl On That"
In a quite appropriate response to Kenya's twirl, Phaedra threw the utmost shade in Kenya's direction at the "RHOA" reunion special. After Kenya twirled a couple times around the room, Phaedra checked her for texting her husband, Apollo, and ended her read with "twirl on that."
21. "Read, honey."
Remember the time that Nene taught us the difference between reading and "reeeading"? Oh because, there's a difference!
22. "Baby, You're Not Worth It."
Remember when Mimi finally got tired of Stevie J's mess and decided to move on with her life? Yes, Mimi! Say it again!
23. "There's nothing like a good cup of tea."
"RHOA's" NeNe knows the importance of getting a good cup of tea with your girlfriends. And no, we don't mean an actual cup of tea but a good dose of juicy gossip! Spill the tea hunty!
24. "Sashay Away"
When queens don't make the cut, RuPaul urges them to, "Sashay away."
25. "I'ma Show You.. I Can Take Your Man... Again"
Oh Joseline. She promised us that she could take Mimi's man and I guess she proved herself right, since she's MARRIED to Stevie J now.
26. "Don't Come For Me Unless I Send For You"
Probably my favorite Kenya Moore moments! During the RHOA reunion special, Kenya let Phaedra know to never come for her again, unless she is sent for! Kenya can thank Funky Dineva for this gem.
27. "So, boop!"
When Evelyn and Tami were going at it on an episode of "Basketball Wives," she politely dismissed Tami with a quick hand gesture and a high pitched, "Boop!"
Thank you Benzino for making even the word "exactly" amusing!
29. "She Wins."
Tamar Braxton is the guru of the one liners! Her famous, "Ding ding ding, she wins!" is definitely one of the highlights of "Tamar & Vince" and "Braxton Family Values"!
30. "It is Beyonce's world and we're just living in it."
There's nothing "realer" than the news and these words from Anderson's Cooper's lips. Nothing.
The southern belle of all southern belles--Miss Phaedra. She's got a way of saying everything without saying a word. "Mmmhmm."