Women needing to submit to their husbands has always been a hot topic. Recently, pro volleyball player, model and author Gabrielle Reece received a lot of criticism for claiming that women need to learn what it is to submit to their husbands. Gabrielle’s been married for 17 years and credited her success to the simple and old-fashioned tactic of submitting to her husband. I know, I know! Gasp! I realize it’s 2013 and women are very much so independent, but there’s a certain dynamic that needs to happen within a relationship between a man and a woman to make it strong. Not both people in the relationship need to be the head. Someone has to be the neck.
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#TeamBeautiful recently hosted an intimate conversation with “Love & Hip Hop” creator, Mona Scott-Young and she shared with the crowd why it’s so important for her to submit to her husband. In fact, Mona claimed her hubby taught her to surrender.
“It just means to understand that there’s someone else who can contribute to you and it’s ok to let go. It’s ok to trust and open yourself up and allow yourself to feel whatever that experience is, love, pain, happiness. Just allow yourself to go through that emotion. That, to me is submission.” Mona’s idea of submitting to your husband is an eye-opening one. Strong-willed women are quick to shun the idea of submission because it makes them feel like they’re giving up some of their power and that’s not true.
I’m actually in the midst of learning this lesson for myself. I am in no way married. Hell, I’m not even in a consistent or successful relationship. And while that may be by choice, I know that I’m flawed in the submissions department.
But that’s because I have the definition of submission screwed up. A man will always want to be a man and the man. In a relationship or marriage, if a wife is serving her man and her family, i.e. doing whatever her family needs to be happy, then the man can then be the man of the house. Reece says, “to truly be feminine means being soft, receptive, and –- look out, here it comes –- submissive. I think because women have the ability to set the tone, that the ultimate strength and showing real power, I believe, is creating that environment. I think it’s a sign of strength.’’ See, submission is strength! All these years, I’ve had it twisted!
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Celebs Tweet Their Thoughts About #JusticeForSandraBland
1. Jesse Williams
#SandraBland's treatment while attempting to travel freely on HER public roadways has been acknowledged as unlawful. She is already dead.
2. Taraji P. Henson
"SAY HER NAME #SandraBland"
3. Ava DuVernay
"'Why are you arresting me?' Because you know your rights. Because I can. Because no one'll believe you. #SandraBland"
4. Kim Kardashian
#WhatHappenedToSandraBland We need answers!!!! This is NOT ok! This is all shady! They need to own up to this & tell the truth!
5. Jussie Smollet
"A loss 4 words. #SandraBlandMatters #BlackLivesMatter 👈🏿tell me this should change once the nation shows that we do. "
6. Snoop Dogg
🙏🌹. Sandra. Rip. 🌹🌹
7. K. Michelle
R.I.P to this queen. This could've been any of us. My prayers go out to her family. #sandrabland https://instagram.com/p/5fvlO_AhCf/
8. Gabrielle Union
SAY HER NAME!!! #SandraBland #SandraBland #SandraBland #SayHerName
"We must get to the cause of #sandrabland death because this CANNOT happen again #deathorfreedom"
10. David Banner
"When will we fight back. A man's duty on earth is to protect women and children. Where are the gangsters? Preachers? We need you. Please."
11. Nicki Minaj
"Rest In Peace #SandraBland"
12. Talib Kweli
"We the people ask @LorettaLynch to investigate #SandraBland #KimberleeRandleKing RETWEET "
Signs. Signs. Signs all around us. The Message is Here. #SandraBland
14. Missy Elliot
"When I look at the #SandraBland traffic video it brings so many emotions😳😢😡😡😤!"
15. Jessie J
"God bless your soul Sandra | #sandrabland | Change needs to come |Justice needs to be served | Heart… https://instagram.com/p/5fV79mQ0aw/ "
16. Jackee Harry
"It's time y'all, it's time.." #SandraBland #BlackLivesMatter
"In memory of #SandraBland these things don't make no kinda sense "
18. Holly Robinson Peete
I really don't look forward to having ANOTHER difficult conversation w my kids tonight...but here we go again😧💔 #SandraBland #SayHerName 😢
19. Jeffrey White
Sadly, doesn't matter by whose hand she died. Unjustified arrested set the outcome in motion. The state murdered her. #JusticeForSandraBland
Sandra could have been your mother, sister, aunt, friend or if she wasn't killed the community outreach advisor A&M. #SandraBland
21. Joan Smalls
"My heart is broken. Sending my deepest condolence to her family and friends. May you find Strength, Peace and Justice. When will this stop? #EqualityForAll #RIP #Why #SayHerName
22. Gladys Knight
Sandra Bland.... #SayHerName #SandraBland
23. Cara Delevigne
Things need to change NOW #SANDRABLAND #Justice #Equality
24. Meek Mill
"Rip to that young lady that lost her life about a traffic stop! 🙏 ima make sure I pray for her and her family! 🙏😄😄😄"