Back when I was in junior high school, my friends and I would sit in the yard during lunch time and discuss (don’t tell me mom) sex! We were 13, some of us 14, sharing overheard stories we ear hustled from our older sisters who actually did the dirty deed and lived to talk about it. We didn’t know much, just rumors. Ya know, if you ride a bike you could break your hymen types of things. And we all know that girl who knows someone it happened to. So it had to be real.
Then I actually had sex (sorry mom) and realized those school yard conversations were actually just rumors and speculation. My first time wasn’t in a big bed, with slow music serenading the room. I wasn’t wearing matching panties and bra or fully oiled. There was no foreplay besides sloppy kissing and boob fondles.
Let’s take a trip down memory lane. Shall we?
Using a tampon will take your virginity!
“Everyone believed this. I remember this. Everyone had discussions about this. Everyone would try to find the smallest one, so it wouldn’t take your value away. Oh the stupidness.” -Oretha Winston, 30+