I came across a video from one of favorite video bloggers Africano Boi. If you are not used to his videos, you will think he’s crazy. Every facial expression exaggerated, dialogue twangy live and in color, the drag with a mustache and misplaced wig swag- madness.
I happen to like crazy; I take crazy for breakfast, lunch and dinner. The thing I like about his videos is that he often does parodies on real life down the block personalities. His latest video was mocking a woman who was wilin’ about chicks on her man’s Facebook page trying to get at him. She wasn’t havin’ that, she got the ring, she is the one he chose! Best believe she was ready and willing to throw down wherever whenever- Y’all ain’t about that life!
I kept pressing repeat, it was hilarious, but then I got to thinking- this is not far from the truth, not far at all. I know quite a few women, more than I’d like to admit that have 110% access to their mate’s private property. I guess it’s because I’m a private person, (scorpioooo) but I could care less about having access to all that noise. I have enough online passwords to remember, to take on managing my man’s social media accounts-sir and madam NO!
I don’t necessarily think that women who have access to a man’s online property are insecure. Some women just manage the upkeep of a social media account, uploading pictures or other innocent things…right?…right….
I always say that if you go looking for trouble you will find it, but on the other hand denial is easier to deal with than the truth.
*sigh* Where does this leave us? If someone is going to stray they will find a way to do it. It’s easy to create social media accounts, set privacy restrictions, buy another phone, and other sneaky spy stuff.
However everyone has a right to know if their partner is straying so that they can decide what to do next. I recently interviewed author Sheryl Mallory-Johnson for HB, in the article she gives readers her take on infidelity and betrayal.
Her new book “Love & Regrets” touches on these topics and if you’ve read the book then you know the mess the book’s characters get into are not far from real life, not far off at all.
Next Monday I will be hosting Pillow Talk an exclusive LIVE chat hosted on my personal site, Goddess Intellect featuring Sheryl Mallory-Johnson. We will discuss ways to handle suspicions, betrayal and other issues surrounding commitment. As always, any discussions I host are judgment free. I invite everyone to tune in live March 26st at 8pm Eastern Standard Time for our live video chat via Spreecast. All you need to do is visit the link, sit back and enjoy. If you choose to you can log in using Facebook or Twitter to chat and ask questions.
I hope to see everyone there!
Oh and ummm…How do you feel about mates having access to each other’s social media accounts? Does this help or hinder a relationship?
About the author: Telisha Ng is a freelance writer and author of the Goddess Intellect blog from Toronto, Canada. Connect with her on twitter @goddess_I or send her an email email@example.com.
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Celebs Tweet Their Thoughts About #JusticeForSandraBland
1. Jesse Williams
#SandraBland's treatment while attempting to travel freely on HER public roadways has been acknowledged as unlawful. She is already dead.
2. Taraji P. Henson
"SAY HER NAME #SandraBland"
3. Ava DuVernay
"'Why are you arresting me?' Because you know your rights. Because I can. Because no one'll believe you. #SandraBland"
4. Kim Kardashian
#WhatHappenedToSandraBland We need answers!!!! This is NOT ok! This is all shady! They need to own up to this & tell the truth!
5. Jussie Smollet
"A loss 4 words. #SandraBlandMatters #BlackLivesMatter 👈🏿tell me this should change once the nation shows that we do. "
6. Snoop Dogg
🙏🌹. Sandra. Rip. 🌹🌹
7. K. Michelle
R.I.P to this queen. This could've been any of us. My prayers go out to her family. #sandrabland https://instagram.com/p/5fvlO_AhCf/
8. Gabrielle Union
SAY HER NAME!!! #SandraBland #SandraBland #SandraBland #SayHerName
"We must get to the cause of #sandrabland death because this CANNOT happen again #deathorfreedom"
10. David Banner
"When will we fight back. A man's duty on earth is to protect women and children. Where are the gangsters? Preachers? We need you. Please."
11. Nicki Minaj
"Rest In Peace #SandraBland"
12. Talib Kweli
"We the people ask @LorettaLynch to investigate #SandraBland #KimberleeRandleKing RETWEET "
Signs. Signs. Signs all around us. The Message is Here. #SandraBland
14. Missy Elliot
"When I look at the #SandraBland traffic video it brings so many emotions😳😢😡😡😤!"
15. Jessie J
"God bless your soul Sandra | #sandrabland | Change needs to come |Justice needs to be served | Heart… https://instagram.com/p/5fV79mQ0aw/ "
16. Jackee Harry
"It's time y'all, it's time.." #SandraBland #BlackLivesMatter
"In memory of #SandraBland these things don't make no kinda sense "
18. Holly Robinson Peete
I really don't look forward to having ANOTHER difficult conversation w my kids tonight...but here we go again😧💔 #SandraBland #SayHerName 😢
19. Jeffrey White
Sadly, doesn't matter by whose hand she died. Unjustified arrested set the outcome in motion. The state murdered her. #JusticeForSandraBland
Sandra could have been your mother, sister, aunt, friend or if she wasn't killed the community outreach advisor A&M. #SandraBland
21. Joan Smalls
"My heart is broken. Sending my deepest condolence to her family and friends. May you find Strength, Peace and Justice. When will this stop? #EqualityForAll #RIP #Why #SayHerName
22. Gladys Knight
Sandra Bland.... #SayHerName #SandraBland
23. Cara Delevigne
Things need to change NOW #SANDRABLAND #Justice #Equality
24. Meek Mill
"Rip to that young lady that lost her life about a traffic stop! 🙏 ima make sure I pray for her and her family! 🙏😄😄😄"