There is something about the infamous “ride or die” chick that men love. They love the fact that she is loyal, and trustworthy. Oh, and the idea that she will never leave – no matter what he does. Every man has some idea in his mind of the characteristics of his personal ride or die chick. I can understand why a man would want one by his side but there should always be a limitation to this. No matter how much a woman loves her man she should exercise some type of restraint at some point. “Ride or die” does not equate to accepting all or nothing. Keep in mind that these rules are for women who are unmarried.
1. Giving a man that is not your husband your last dollar
Never give a man your very last dollar. I do not care if he insists that he will pay you back or how much he needs it. A single woman should always have her own stash of money. If you absolutely feel the need to give him your very last dollar for whatever reason then make sure you set the precedent that this should not be a reoccurring action.
2. Waiting during a jail stint
I do not feel that a woman should stop her life in any fashion while her man is in jail. Especially if he put himself in the position to be locked up with his actions. I’m not suggesting that you are not there for him or never visit him. I am suggesting that you continue on with your life. Even if that means dating someone else while he is away. Hopefully not that many readers have to experience this.
3. Accepting disrespect, public humiliation, etc.
Never accept any form of public humiliation. Whether it be from him flirting with another woman, being caught cheating in public, etc. There should always be lines of respect drawn in which he knows are a big no-no to cross. Respect should always be one of the first components of love.
4. Putting his needs before yours consistently
Sometimes you may want to be selfless and give of yourself. You may want to place his needs before your own. I am not saying that you should never do these things. However, if it happens consistently and especially if he requests that you do it often, then that is the time that you need to STOP. Regain your position and the control over yourself. Loving someone unconditionally does not equate to putting yourself on the back burner.
You do not have to accept cheating to be a “down” girlfriend. All it means is that you are an accepting girlfriend and have little value for yourself. It also means that you will tolerate any mess that comes your way and roll with the punches no matter how hard the blows are for you. Refuse to be someone’s rag doll.
Feel free to add on your own advice…
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Celebs Tweet Their Thoughts About #JusticeForSandraBland
1. Jesse Williams
#SandraBland's treatment while attempting to travel freely on HER public roadways has been acknowledged as unlawful. She is already dead.
2. Taraji P. Henson
"SAY HER NAME #SandraBland"
3. Ava DuVernay
"'Why are you arresting me?' Because you know your rights. Because I can. Because no one'll believe you. #SandraBland"
4. Kim Kardashian
#WhatHappenedToSandraBland We need answers!!!! This is NOT ok! This is all shady! They need to own up to this & tell the truth!
5. Jussie Smollet
"A loss 4 words. #SandraBlandMatters #BlackLivesMatter 👈🏿tell me this should change once the nation shows that we do. "
6. Snoop Dogg
🙏🌹. Sandra. Rip. 🌹🌹
7. K. Michelle
R.I.P to this queen. This could've been any of us. My prayers go out to her family. #sandrabland https://instagram.com/p/5fvlO_AhCf/
8. Gabrielle Union
SAY HER NAME!!! #SandraBland #SandraBland #SandraBland #SayHerName
"We must get to the cause of #sandrabland death because this CANNOT happen again #deathorfreedom"
10. David Banner
"When will we fight back. A man's duty on earth is to protect women and children. Where are the gangsters? Preachers? We need you. Please."
11. Nicki Minaj
"Rest In Peace #SandraBland"
12. Talib Kweli
"We the people ask @LorettaLynch to investigate #SandraBland #KimberleeRandleKing RETWEET "
Signs. Signs. Signs all around us. The Message is Here. #SandraBland
14. Missy Elliot
"When I look at the #SandraBland traffic video it brings so many emotions😳😢😡😡😤!"
15. Jessie J
"God bless your soul Sandra | #sandrabland | Change needs to come |Justice needs to be served | Heart… https://instagram.com/p/5fV79mQ0aw/ "
16. Jackee Harry
"It's time y'all, it's time.." #SandraBland #BlackLivesMatter
"In memory of #SandraBland these things don't make no kinda sense "
18. Holly Robinson Peete
I really don't look forward to having ANOTHER difficult conversation w my kids tonight...but here we go again😧💔 #SandraBland #SayHerName 😢
19. Jeffrey White
Sadly, doesn't matter by whose hand she died. Unjustified arrested set the outcome in motion. The state murdered her. #JusticeForSandraBland
Sandra could have been your mother, sister, aunt, friend or if she wasn't killed the community outreach advisor A&M. #SandraBland
21. Joan Smalls
"My heart is broken. Sending my deepest condolence to her family and friends. May you find Strength, Peace and Justice. When will this stop? #EqualityForAll #RIP #Why #SayHerName
22. Gladys Knight
Sandra Bland.... #SayHerName #SandraBland
23. Cara Delevigne
Things need to change NOW #SANDRABLAND #Justice #Equality
24. Meek Mill
"Rip to that young lady that lost her life about a traffic stop! 🙏 ima make sure I pray for her and her family! 🙏😄😄😄"