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Awww, shucks, ladies. I got a doozy for you. Actually, I got a two-for on the subject of Anal Sex. Yup, there are two questions about the same topic, but from a different perspective. So, check them out below. Also, I want to thank you all for the response and comments on my debut last week. I really appreciate it. So, consider every Friday as, “Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend” Advice Day. If you sent in a question, do know that I have it and will answer it in the upcoming weeks. Also, please continue to send your questions on everything from love, relationships, career, family, or whatever you need answers to.
Now, let’s begin.
Dear Gay Best Friend,
If a man, who claims to be heterosexual, enjoys anal penetration of fingers and hands, could this be an indication that he might be Bi-sexual and not aware of it, or not wanting to admit it? If a man will take a finger or vibrator up his butt, will he also take a penis?
Thanks! – “Do I Put It In Him?”
Dear “Do I Put It In Him,”
I think I just heard a pin drop.
Okay, the noise has resumed. Now, many heterosexual men will tell you that they do not like a woman nowhere near their buttocks, especially playing inside their hole with fingers, hands (Really, a hand?), and definitely not a vibrator. However, for those of you who do not know about male erogenous zones, the prostate gland is a male erogenous zone that may be stimulated through firm pressure through the anus. Yes, you read that correctly. If your man is willing to allow you to gently touch, stick a finger, not a hand, or even lick around that area, his eyes will roll into the back of his head, his toes will curl, and his body will completely relax. He is in a zone. This doesn’t make him bi-sexual, and it doesn’t mean he is gay, or that he’s unaware he may be bi-sexual. You are simply pleasuring a spot he finds irresistible and enjoyable.
However, to answer your question about him taking a vibrator in his anus, well, uhm, if this is something he asks for on the regular, uhm, sweetie, he’s obviously done it with someone else. I wouldn’t be surprised if he has a vibrator under the mattress at his own home and he pleasures himself without you. But, if while you are together, he tells you, “Baby, get your vibrator and lube,” and while you’re excitedly getting your toys ready for insertion, he gets into position by jumping on his hands and knees with his buttocks tooted in the air, or he lies on his back and throws his legs back to his ears, yes, Ms. Do-I-Put-It-In-Him, he has tried, or is willing to try a good stiff penis. Bottoms up, honey! – Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend!
Dear Gay Best Friend,
It’s this guy, I’ll call him “C.D.” He’s from the hood, and one of, if not, the most THUGGISH dudes I know. We dated years ago, actually we were each others first. We were together for a couple of years and I must say we tried a lot of things sexually during that time.
After we broke up, C.D. went to prison for a long time, longer than five years. When he got out we thought we’d try to see if the spark was still there. We had sex a few times (protected of course) and everything seemed to be the same as I remembered. However, there was this one thing. The second time we were together C.D. wanted to have anal sex. YUP! My gay-dar went up quick. I refused and asked him, “Where did that come from?” He was like, “Let’s just try something different.” I thought to myself, OMG! He’s GAY!
I told C.D. that sounds gay to me, and I have never wanted to have anal sex and I’m not willing to try it with him. C.D. then told me that a lot of women like to take it in the butt, and I’m acting like a little girl. I then asked him, “Are you gay?” At first he was angry and said, “Don’t try me like that.” I said, “Well, before you went to prison you never wanted to do anything like that, and now, out of nowhere, you want to have anal sex. I don’t understand.”
C.D. insisted that he just wanted to try something new with me, and that if I didn’t like it, he will stop. He even told me that all he has to do is lubricate himself and everything will be just fine. At that point I was like, “What the hell! He even knows how to lubricate himself?”
I refuse to be involved with C.D. anymore. He still calls from time to time saying I am acting like a little girl because I’m scared to try new things. I think I know the answer, but I would like to hear what you think!
Please help! – “He Wants To Put It In My Butt”
Dear “He Wants To Put It In My Butt,”
Well, damn! I feel like you, why is he pressuring you so hard to do something you clearly are not comfortable with? And, girl, you did the right thing. You asked all the right questions:
1.) “Where did that come from?”
2.) “Are you gay?”
And, 3.) “Before you went to prison you never wanted to do anything like that, and now, out of nowhere, you want to have anal sex.”
Honey, I am so glad you stopped having sex with him because he clearly is the childish one. How dare he try that old school tactic of peer pressure by saying you are acting like a little girl, and that a lot of women like to take it in the butt. What does that have to do with you? You are not “a lot of women.” He needs to go sit his THUGGISH behind in the corner and grow up. I am shaking my damn head right now.
Listen up, ladies. In prison it is not uncommon for men to engage in sex with other men. But let me be clear before every man who is in prison, or has been to prison starts writing me letters. NOT EVERY MAN WHO HAS BEEN TO PRISON, OR EVERY MAN IN PRISON ENGAGES IN HOMOSEXUAL SEX. However, I will repeat, it is not uncommon for it to occur. There is this term called, “Gay for Stay.” It means a man will only engage in sex with another man while in prison, however, after he leaves prison he will not have sex with another man. He will resume his “heterosexual” life with his girl, or wife, as if nothing ever happened.
Also, some men like anal sex with women because the entrance is tighter and they find it more pleasurable. But, if that is all he wants to do with you, then girl, drop him and run. His anal desires are a clear sign of his sexuality.
So, Ms. He-Wants-To-Put-It-In-My-Butt, first, let me say I am proud that you used protection. Every woman reading this, please use protection at all times. I don’t care how long you’ve known him. It’s your body, and your temple. Protect it. Now, back to you, missy, the fact that he didn’t answer your questions with a concise answer, yes, girl, I think he may be hiding something. He is clearly not being forthright with you about some things. So, until then, keep him right where you got him, on the other end of the phone. – Straight, From Your Gay Best Friend!
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Celebs Tweet Their Thoughts About #JusticeForSandraBland
1. Jesse Williams
#SandraBland's treatment while attempting to travel freely on HER public roadways has been acknowledged as unlawful. She is already dead.
2. Taraji P. Henson
"SAY HER NAME #SandraBland"
3. Ava DuVernay
"'Why are you arresting me?' Because you know your rights. Because I can. Because no one'll believe you. #SandraBland"
4. Kim Kardashian
#WhatHappenedToSandraBland We need answers!!!! This is NOT ok! This is all shady! They need to own up to this & tell the truth!
5. Jussie Smollet
"A loss 4 words. #SandraBlandMatters #BlackLivesMatter 👈🏿tell me this should change once the nation shows that we do. "
6. Snoop Dogg
🙏🌹. Sandra. Rip. 🌹🌹
7. K. Michelle
R.I.P to this queen. This could've been any of us. My prayers go out to her family. #sandrabland https://instagram.com/p/5fvlO_AhCf/
8. Gabrielle Union
SAY HER NAME!!! #SandraBland #SandraBland #SandraBland #SayHerName
"We must get to the cause of #sandrabland death because this CANNOT happen again #deathorfreedom"
10. David Banner
"When will we fight back. A man's duty on earth is to protect women and children. Where are the gangsters? Preachers? We need you. Please."
11. Nicki Minaj
"Rest In Peace #SandraBland"
12. Talib Kweli
"We the people ask @LorettaLynch to investigate #SandraBland #KimberleeRandleKing RETWEET "
Signs. Signs. Signs all around us. The Message is Here. #SandraBland
14. Missy Elliot
"When I look at the #SandraBland traffic video it brings so many emotions😳😢😡😡😤!"
15. Jessie J
"God bless your soul Sandra | #sandrabland | Change needs to come |Justice needs to be served | Heart… https://instagram.com/p/5fV79mQ0aw/ "
16. Jackee Harry
"It's time y'all, it's time.." #SandraBland #BlackLivesMatter
"In memory of #SandraBland these things don't make no kinda sense "
18. Holly Robinson Peete
I really don't look forward to having ANOTHER difficult conversation w my kids tonight...but here we go again😧💔 #SandraBland #SayHerName 😢
19. Jeffrey White
Sadly, doesn't matter by whose hand she died. Unjustified arrested set the outcome in motion. The state murdered her. #JusticeForSandraBland
Sandra could have been your mother, sister, aunt, friend or if she wasn't killed the community outreach advisor A&M. #SandraBland
21. Joan Smalls
"My heart is broken. Sending my deepest condolence to her family and friends. May you find Strength, Peace and Justice. When will this stop? #EqualityForAll #RIP #Why #SayHerName
22. Gladys Knight
Sandra Bland.... #SayHerName #SandraBland
23. Cara Delevigne
Things need to change NOW #SANDRABLAND #Justice #Equality
24. Meek Mill
"Rip to that young lady that lost her life about a traffic stop! 🙏 ima make sure I pray for her and her family! 🙏😄😄😄"